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Why are some people against interracial relationships?
From a 'black' person's POV
I don't get it. You can't blame someone for something their ancestors did in the past. And not every white person is even the descendant of slave owners, and not every black person is the descendant of slaves (w/ the whole American slave trade). Everyone has ancestors that did stupid sh** in the past. That is no excuse. Heck, everyone does stupid sh** anyways, cause humans aren't perfect.
Whenever the topic is brought up when I'm talking to my mom, she humphs. And it bugs me because I'm open to dating any race. I'm 16 and haven't had a boyfriend yet, but I wonder what my mom would think if the person isn't black, or even African (I'm Cameroonian). The only reasoning I've heard from her is that the people's are are too different, so they wouldn't get along. Which is silly because if people can be friends with people of different races and ethnicity, why can't they be lovers? Clearly they're able to have things in common with each other.
I find it silly that people expect others to treat them like equals and individuals when they scorn those who are more open-minded with their romantic relationships. Being in an interracial relationship doesn't mean you are selling out, or you hate being black. I think you're selling out if you confine yourselves to what society says. Black is just a skin color.. it doesn't come with coding telling you to act a certain way. And if someone doesn't follow this coding they hate the way they look, and want to have a different skin color. FYI, I love being black, and I love my Cameroonian heritage. Why do I have to listen to hiphop or date only black people to prove that to some people?
And I wouldn't marry someone that's not black just to get a bi-racial baby. I honestly feel thats really tacky. People should marry out of love, and with whoever its with the baby will be beautiful
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I think many of the people who are opposed to interracian couples are of older generations. Not long after the civil rights act took place, whites tended to be OK with blacks, trusted them, respected them, befriended them, but because blacks had been kept on the back burner for so long, blacks in general did not have the education or social ettiquite (due to lack of opportunity!!) that would allow them to advance financially and socially. Therefore, if, lets say a white girl fell in love with a black man, she was likely to have a hard life financially speaking because her husband would not have been able to support her as her white father had been able to do.
Today, as hard as it is to hear and believe, statistics show that black men, for a number of reasons are not around to take care of their families. This could lead a white family to have concerns about their white daughters.
All of this being said- This is a class issue. All of the negative things felt about black men not making as much money, not being around for their kids... this is statistically accurate about lower class african-american men. The number of higher educated black me (in the U.S) is not nearly as high as higher educated white men. Those african-american men who DO go on to get a high school diploma and college degrees are at LEAST as reliable as their white counterparts.
From the black community... they may still hear and still feel the effects of generations of suppression!
Your mom may have what she feels are good reasons for prefering a certain mate for you. You should ask her!!! If she has reasons "A" and "B" but you meet a white boy who doesn't fit int A and B... she might like him and approve. But as your mother I am sure she has your best interest in mind.
I can't speak for your mother and I don't know what her life situations have been or what generation she is from... but I am in my 30's. I am white. I tend to be liberal from a political standpoint but from a personal standpoint I am very old fashioned and conservative. What I want for my daughter is a man who has a good education, ambition, has high morals... etc. I don't care if he is black or white. I want my daughter to have a high quality man and while I feel that in ANY race they are few and far between... they are out there... and they exist in every color. Just have to be picky about his inner core!
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I completely understand what you're saying. I am a white female and my boyfriend of almost a year is black. I love him with all my heart and I don't even pay attention to the race difference between us. people are very ignorant and can be so mean and hateful. my parents are fine with it ( my mom is actually married to a black man) but some of my other family doesn't approve and I hate it. I say if you can find a nice guy or girl that treats you right and has similar morals and beliefs as you than you shouldn't care about race. I have dealt with so much hate from people in both races about my relationship but the sad truth is that if you are going to be in an interracial relationship then you might have to deal with the hate and critisizems of other people but if that person is who you are supposes to be with then it's worth it :)
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