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ok... so i've liked this guy for like 2 years. he is one of my bff's and his sister is too. I don't know if I like him anymore, but i think i might like this guy in my class. We talk alot and anyway... the other night.. our youth leader was giving us a devotion on waiting for the right guy/ knowing he's the one and i know im too young, but which one do I love? That night I had a dream about i got married to My bffs brother and then the guy in my class was all "I love you" after I married the one guy and I started to cry because i felt bad... what does this mean? Which one do I like?

i think you like the guy in your class, because you had a dream about you 2 getting married (no surprise there!) then you saw him come chasing after you saying he loves you and all that and then you get all excited, it's obviously the guy in your class

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My friend's family invited me to go to Florida with them this summer. It was rude to say no and they kept insisting, so of course, I agreed.

The problem is that my friend is getting so annoying and mean to me. She always yells at me and makes me feel very insecure and low. I am going to be with her 24/7 for 3 weeks! I don't know what to do now because her family already payed for the tickets and I can't get out of it. She always makes me cry..her family always yells at me and laughs at me behind my back. What can I do to prevent this or prevent myelf from crying? Thanks for answering.

well,all i can say is stay strong, if they do anything tell them to stop, if they don't stop do stuff right back to them like the same things they do to you then do to them, when they look back at you and laugh or something point at them and laugh like hahhahahahaha....no then stop laughing, get on their nerves

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my doyfriend aways as started to leave me at his hose while he goes out wit his boys every weekend.He tells me he is only going to the store and he'll be back in 10.When is friends come around he waya treat me like im not nothin to him.He talks to me like im some kind of an animal or something.My mom tells me i should leave him and come back home.I really don't know what to do because i love him.What shold i do?

you should try and get more romantic or something with him when his friends aren't around, try and be sexy to him, if nothing works then leave him.

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(13/f) I live in Rhode Island and want to become an actress. Does anyone know of anywhere where I could go to get started? Please dont say my school because I need something for the summer! I'll rate 1's for people who say do something at my school and for "i dont know" and any other stupid remarks. I'll give 5's for anyone with a real answer and put effort into it.

*Stadium Threater is putting on one but you have to be 16+

ok try john robert powers if that doesn't work then try your search negine and type in "casting calls" or "free auditions" hope this helps

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I have this gigantic crush on this guy named bob, and i think he likes me too. But, theres also this other gut named billy who i also like.Now, i know for sure that billy likes me, he's even said so!I mean both guys are smart, funny, cute and nice, so who should i pick?

if you don't know for sure if bob likesyou then find out, also you could ry sitting down, losing all thought, then think of them and whoeverss face comes into your mind first is most likely the one you hould choose

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About a month ago, my boyfriend came over. My parents loved him and approved of him. He was basically family. Well we were on the couch one night and he was feeling me up nd my dad walked in and saw it. He got mad and took my boyfriend straight home and made me, him, nd my mom sit down and talk. I mean i've never done anything like that before and I was totally clean. Now my parents trust me again but when I asked them if they would ever trust him again, they said he’ll have to come over and me and him can talk it out *meaning my boyfriend and my dad) my boyfriend wants to talk it out with him so that’s not a big deal. But how can I get things normal again between my parents and my boyfriend? My dad can be EXTREMELY stubborn sometimes so I don’t think a “little talk” will patch things up. And im afraid that my dad will say something to him and my boyfriend will feel awkward around me and my family even if my parents DO forgive him.

i just went through the same thing today but it was his dad. well, i just try and be nice as possible, tell your boyfriend to come over and talk to him but not to look so nervousw because if he does look nervous then your dad will suspect something, you shouldn't look nervous either. hope things work out.

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well ive had a fwb for awhile and its been going pretty good up until now .. hes my best friends ex from a while ago and she doesnt have a problem with it .. but me and him dont really get along anymore so weve decided to stop. the problem is now i like my other best friends ex boyfriend and i dont know if i should tell her or not because im afraid she'll be mad. She told me she thought it was wrong of me to hook up with our other friends ex so im scared shell think its wrong to go out with her ex. i really like him and she told me she noticed me flirting with him lately but i dont know if she cares because she doesnt like him anymore .. i don't know if i should just ignore my feelings or let her know the truth? does anyone know what i should do?

well, definitely do not do anything to this guy until you find out for SURE she is ok with it, try hinting like saying "what would you do if i asked blah blah out?" and if she says why then just say something like "just want to know" try not to make it to obvious that you like him. it usually depends on who broke up with who, like if he broke up with her there's more of a chnace she won't let you. do you get what i am saying? if not leave me a message on my inbox. good luck

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I'm doing a report...does anyone know how Edgar Allen Poe died or where I can find some information on how people think he died?Thanks!

oooohhhhhh i did a report on him but i dodn't find anything, all i found was he died on like 1849. i think he either died by cancer or gun shot

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How bad is it that I hate my husband's parents and they hate me? Will this ruin my marriage?

you're not expected to like everyone, you should try and give them a chance though, go out on a weekend trip with them, do something to get to know them if your husband doesn't know you should try and tell him because if he finds out later or almost to late then he will be mad at youu because you never told him the truth

*good luck*

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this guy has liked me for practically two years now, but hes so shy and he never did anything except tell me he liked me. well now we've got this big dance coming up and i think hes gonna ask me. the only thing is that he is kinda weird and listens to all those really sick songs by sublime..no offense to the fans out there..but he is still really cute and mysterious..and really nice..do you think i should give him a chance? i rate...

i think if e's liked you that long give him a chance and have fun. also, just because he listens to sublime doesn't mean he's different, he's got his own style and so do you, give him a try.

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can you swim when you are on your period?

sometimes you can depends on how heavy the blood is but if it is light blood then you still have to use a tampon

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Does anyone know of any good quotes that I can put into my AIM away messages. I'm intested in some about love and friendship!!

here's some cool qoute type things,
you can let a fool kiss you, you can kiss a fool, but never let a kiss fool you,

don't cry over a guy who won't cry over you,

the only guys worth crying over are the ones who won't make you cry at all

i know a whole bunch more just mail me on my inbox and i will be happy to tell you more. i dont have any about friendship though. p.s. i didn't make these qoutes i found them.

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Ok so ive really liked a female friend of mine for a while now (im 18/m), but shes had a boyfriend for about the past 6 months, and ive all but given up on pursuing her. she has a friend thats pretty cute and seems really nice that im thinking of asking out at some point down the line but heres the thing, im worried it might destroy what litle chance i have with my friend if her and her bf ever break up. so onto my question in readers digest form, do girls have a problem with dating a guy thats dated one of their best friends?

sometimes, but mostly girls do have a problem like me and my best friend we made a promis we would never date eachothers ex boyfriend unless we asked. which no matter what they'll feel uncomfortable. maybe you shouldn't ask your friends friend out. they might have made that same promise me and my friend have.

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Ok here’s the situation, I’ve been seeing this girl for awhile now (over 2 years) Indeed I’m very happy and I’d say very much so in love. She makes me happy and I want to be with her, but recently I’ve met this other girl, I wouldn’t say she’s perfect for me but she’s someone I could see myself dating. Being around her makes me “funny” inside, and I think about her a lot as well as my own girlfriend. I know there is nothing wrong with my relationship now and I don’t want to cheat on her, but I don’t know. I feel a connection to this other girl, I enjoy being around her and even get a bit jealous when she’s talking about dating other guys… I haven’t known her really long; I’ve spent time with her as friend’s one on one to get away from other people. I’d never dream to cheat on my angle but these feelings make me feel so torn and confused I just wanted to know if I’ll get past these feelings or will I have to detach myself from this other girl to get rid of them and just return to complete certainty with my love. Do I really have feelings for this other girl? Or is it more or less a fad were we get along but I’m more so in love with the feelings I get with her attention? Does this mean there will be problems with me and my current girlfriend in the future? There have never been in the past… I’m so confused!

ok, well don't dump your girlfriend and don't go out with th other girl, you would be very messed up dumping your girlfriend for nothing then go out with a girl you don't know that well. what you're feeling is just a phase and will definitely pass through. get away from the new girl and do something with your girlfriend like amusement park or something. do domething dun so you realize that you're girlfriend is fun and that you still like her more then the ther girl. hope you don't dump her.

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i am 13, and i got a boyfreind about a month ago. he was fun 2 talk to. lately, all he wants to do is kiss...and he is a bad kisser! he goes to private school, and is a year younger. i still like him, but it's sorta getting awkward for me. plz give me advice. i rate 5's if u give good advice.
-thanks

if you feel uncomfortable around him then dump him, he might be using you for kisses. i went out with a guy like that and it wasn't good, only lasted 3 days. anyways, just dump him because he might only be using you. don't be used.

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I have this really close guy friend and we tell each other everything. I started liking him a while ago and he felt the same way. He asked me out and I said yes. We haven;t been going out that long, but for some reason it's so weird for me and I almost feel annoyed with him. He's such a sweetheart and hasn't done anything wrong. I am just feeling weird about the whole thing. What do you think is wrong? Should we just be friends since its really weird, or should I give the relationship a chance?Thx.

give it a chance, try doing something fun with him like amusemnt park, or since you are kind of annoyed by him try to get away from him for a while and spend sometime with friends. don't make him feel abandoned though, just get out and away.

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I've been trying to view my feedback on advicenators, but everytime that I clicked feedback from my column it says that it cannot find that user. Can someone please tell me the site to go to where it will show me my feedback? I think it is doing this b/c I have a space in my columnist name. Thanks!

what's your username?

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(15/F) I have two best friends, and I'm either with one or the other. I don't have any other 'good friends' in school. Everyone is already settled with their own group of friends and I feel so alone when I'm not with my best friends. I think girls view me as a snob though, because I do have more guy friends and honestly I'm attractive. How do I get more friends and find people my age that I have stuff in common with? I don't want to come off as desperate or dorky but I do need more girl friends to hang out with.

just i met all the friends i have in common with was by one friend that i had a lot in common with and had her introduce me to her friends (the ones i didn't know) and since they had a lot in common with her they did with me. hope that helps

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ok..i need to save up about 350 dollars... i am old enought to babysit..but the problem with that is that i dont know anyone that i could babysit for...i am not old enought to get a real job like at a store or something...so does anyone have any siggestions on how to earn money??? thanks! i'll rate high for good answers!!

when i needed to earn money i got flyers and went putting up flyers everywhere and i handed them to the people at the grocery store as well. i did this with my friend so i wasn't all alone and soon enough i got a call.

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how do i ask this guy if he wants to hang out

i will give some simple obvious ones first:
"What are you doing this friday?"
"i'm going to be bored this weekend what about you?"
"want to hang out sometime?"
these ones are the worst though the most obvious, easy, unfearful way to ask him is......"want to hang out/go on a date with me thgis weekend?
if you do that last one that will show your courage.

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