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My friend's family invited me to go to Florida with them this summer. It was rude to say no and they kept insisting, so of course, I agreed.
The problem is that my friend is getting so annoying and mean to me. She always yells at me and makes me feel very insecure and low. I am going to be with her 24/7 for 3 weeks! I don't know what to do now because her family already payed for the tickets and I can't get out of it. She always makes me cry..her family always yells at me and laughs at me behind my back. What can I do to prevent this or prevent myelf from crying? Thanks for answering.
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well,all i can say is stay strong, if they do anything tell them to stop, if they don't stop do stuff right back to them like the same things they do to you then do to them, when they look back at you and laugh or something point at them and laugh like hahhahahahaha....no then stop laughing, get on their nerves
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Your friend sounds like a brat and so do her parents. I think they don't like her rude behavior either, so they want you along so they can stick her with you. Even though they yell at you and laught at you behind your back, you must be a very nice person or they wouldn't ask you. They knew that you would be too polite to refuse. They are taking advantage of you. But like you said, you can't get out of it. Here is what adults do in situations like this, and this situation calls for some adult behavior, and you may be the only one. SO you have to rely on yourself. And start now, so that things will be changed for the better for the trip starts.
When your friend is mean to you say,( and ALWAYS USE "I" sentences) I would not talk to a person that way, or to my friend that way. That would hurt their feelings and then they might not be my friend anymore. And she'll respond with, That wasn't mean. or I wasn't being mean. And you say, well, it hurt my feelings, and so I thought it was mean. And she may never take responsibility for it, but I'll bet she will stop. When people have "light" shined on their bad behavior. it usually stops. BY that I mean, when you call them on their bad behavior. Bring it out into the open and make them look at it for what it is, even if they don't agree, deep inside, they know it is true, and they stop. The problem is that people who are nice and polite like you and me, don't speak up enough for ourselves. And it is important that YOU be NICE about calling attention to their bad behavior. Don't copy them by being mean back, that solves nothing. Try this before you go away, and see if their behavior doesn't change for the better, and then maybe you will have a nice trip. I hope ths helps. Write again if you have more questions.
Michele
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Since they alrady paid for the tickets, you are right, you can't get out of it. the only thing you can do is tell your friend how mean she is being to you. She may think you are crazy but that way she knows how you feel and it will make her think after all is said and done.
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Tell your parents that you really dont feel comfortable going, they wont MAKE you go. Tell her and her fam. now so they can return anything they need to and you can just say you dont feel comfortable being gone for 3 weeks. You shoundt go on a vacation with someone you dont like and someone who doesnt like you....hope this helps!
EDIT: wow no wonder yall ended up being friends...your both BITCHES!!!!!!!!!!!
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dont go, tell her ASAP so she can give the ticket to another person or offer to pay for the unused ticket, you should tell your parents that you dont want to go, maybe they can help you out.. good luck
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