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Q: hey my gf has quite a growth down there, and i dunno is that wierd? should she shave it? would that hurt her? i dunno...do most guys like that? do most girls have that?

well i actually think thats dicusting...no offense to your girlfriend...i dont know what you can say to her without hurting her feelings...maybe have one of her friends talk to her about it? Of all the girls i know they all shave because hair is just nasty! i mean what the hell does she do in the summer when she wears a bathing suit!!!

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Q: i know it's still possible to get pregnant when you have your period, but say someone has sex during her period, preferably near the END (and still wears a condom) will that lessen her chance of conceiving? or is there a certain day where you are highly likely to get pregnant?

you can almost always only get preganant when you are ovulating. when you are having your period that has already happened for that cycle. And yes, you can have sex while you are having your period, as long as your partner doesn't mind the extra umm lumbrication.
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Q: is it safe to have sex with my wife when she is pregnant?

yes it is perfectly safe

Q: Hey everyone. I have an embarrassing problem that's really taking over my life.. it might seems small to some, but it's not at all. I have bad stretch marks, and they're making me majorly self conscious... around everyone. I have them all over, but they're especially bad on my stomache and sides. They're taking hold of me and my boyfriends relationship. Does anyone have any home remedies or in-expensive products I can use?? I'm using palmers cocoa butter right now. Should I use it every day?? Please give me advice, i'll rate high. Thanks so much

dont listen to carl.....stretch marks appear AFTER youve lost the weight,...so thats a good thing....a ton of people have them including myself so dont worry about it...ive talked to my mom about it and i use cocoa butter cream also...it was a god decision on your part to purchase it....yes, you should use it everyday or even more often that that...and if you put it on and then shower....put it on again...i suggest putting it on in the morning and at night before you go to sleep then it will be part of your routine and you will never forget!

i hope this helps...and im sorry you have the stretch marks...i know it sucks!

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Q: hey um.....i tried to use a tampon b4 and it hurt....BAD. I need help am i doing it right??? HELP!!

hey...
alright the same thing happenes to everyone.
its a good idea to read the directions. um aright ... you sit down and open your legs...then you hold the rimmed part of the tampon....you push it in at an angle kindof until your fingers touch your body.then you push the end piece of the tampon upwith the same hand or the other hand. the most important thing to remember is to relax. if you dont get it the first time, take it out and keep trying. good luck sweetie

Q: gah just got my period and im supposed to be seeing my guy this weekend what can i do to make it go away faster?

there is no way to make it go away faster....why do you need it to go away for him

are you guys gonna do anything>?

Q: omg jacqui.... i mean marta i am deeply in love with you and i don't kno wut to do! kno any good places to get a coffee besides starbucks?

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Q: Hi people! I am on a high school varsity cheerleading squad. And the thing is, there are 15 of us and we are 600.00 in debt cause the last year's coach bought the team new uniforms and never paid for them, and now we need fundraising ideas. We already got the basics like the car wash, bake sale, candy sales, and things like that. So if anyone has any other ideas rather than the one's above, IT WOULD HELP US OUT ALOT! We also have to buy new uniforms as well! Thankz for your time! ;)

this is gonna sound dumb but have a chili sale on a cold day.
chili or hot soup sells really well.
or have a bake sale.
do either of these at school and advertise with posters and itll be a hit!!

also go to local buissinesses with a note stating that it really is for your school and ask them for money!:)

hope this helped

Q: Ok im a cheer leader im 14 and our uniforms are like really ugly and supposadly we cant get new 1's but we can get stuff like matchin shoes, socks, and jackets but we cant get new uniforms so we needa raise money to get these thigns and maybe convince them to let use get new uniforms so wat are some good fun raising ideas?????

~Cheer grl~

Q: nun of mi friendz r cheeleaders and i wanna b 1. idk if i should try out wut if they make fun of me or say its not like hott n stuff. wut do i do?? nd plz dont say dont care wut they think. my friendz r very open nd honest.

i understand. this is gonna sound dumb but if they are your friends, they should understand. just dont ditch them for new cheerleading friends and most of all dont change who you are because of being a cheerleader.dont be superficial.

Q: how do you put someone into a mount, like what do you do. And what do the back and front spotters have to do?

by a mount do you mean a prep/half?

alright the flyer can eiher jump in to the stunt/ bases hands 2 feet at a time. or start with one foot in and bouce up. you dont really need a front spot for this kind of stunt but if you have one, they help pull up on the ankles.
the back spot pushes the flyer's butt up and pulls up on the ankles, helping the bases lift the stunt.

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Q: I need help getting my toe touch. I just can't get it high enough. I stretch everyday and still not progress. People tell me to "roll my hips" but I dont know what they mean. Help!

hey

alright my toe touches usedd to suck and this is really good advice

alright when they say roll your hips, (this is gonna sound retarted) but try to push your crotch to the ceiling and your toes to the wall behind you.

practice doing a toetouch and pushing your hips up like i told you and landing on your bed or another squishy thing.

and...ALWAYS KEEP YOUR CHEST UP...YOU WONT BEND YOUR KNEES THAT WAY AND YOU JUMP WILL BE HIGHER.

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Q: alright, if it helps, im tara and im 14.

i've been cutting myself for some time now. always on my wrist and always in the same general area. whenever its a cold day i wear a jacket, and whenever its hot out i just wear bracelets. nobody has ever noticed or said anything. so last night i was laying in bed and i forgot to put on a jacket. my mom came in and saw my arm and said something like 'what's that?' .. i freaked out and pulled it away and said i was drawing.. and she asked why and i said i couldnt find any paper. she asked me if i wanted to talk about anything so i just yelled no and she left. i dont think she has even heard of people cutting themselves. so this morning i covered my wrist with coverup and a few braclets so that she'd think it really was drawings that had washed off. it was very akward and i tried to pretend nothing happened. all she said was 'is body art a new trend or something?' i dont know if she believes my excuse or not.. what do you guys think? and do you have any ideas of how i can cover these darn cuts up? mucho thanks in advance.

PS: oh and please dont tell me to stop cutting. im working on it, i promise. but its like cigarettes or drugs, you cant just stop. it takes time and effort.. =)

i know it takes time and effort.
its great that you're trying to stop.
and maybe you should try drawing or painting or writing to get out what ur feeling. or put a rubber band on ur wrist and slap it everytime you feel like cutting.

put something on the cuts like neosporin or any other scar regimen, they usually take care of preventing scars and healing them quickly.
i guess thats the only thing i can think of

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Q: I cut myself. I've been cutting for about half a year. I've never had a problem hiding it or anything. Just recently I've been trying to stop. I know its bad. My problem is that I have P.E. starting 2nd semester (in January) and I don't know how to hide the scars (I'm going to have it 2nd period if it helps). My parents don't know, and I don't want them to know either. We have to wear uniforms so I don't know how I'm gonna pull this off. Also, bracelets and jewelry aren't allowed. Any ideas? Thank you.

hey...
alright first of all stop doing it all together if you havent already...there are better ways to feel better.....get something like neosporin or a different kind of scar regimen.

or is there a sweatshirt with the uniform??
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Q: i hurt my arm the other day and it's broken... i don't want to go to a doctor.. what can i do to get it healed

hey
the best thing to do would be to see a docter....is there any particullar reason that you dont want to??

Q: does proactive realli work cus i use differin gell n it seems 2 not b workin enmroe n iw as thinkin of buyin proactive but i didnt wanna waste my money n have it nto even work so all i realli wanna kno is if it works n like does it clear only a lil bit up or all of it? Thanx!

it clears up all of it...it takes like 3 weeks for everything to go away....but in like 3 days you can see a difference

Q: i have been feeling bad for a while.. i think i have the disease depression... im almost 16 years old and until recently i havent told anyone except my best friend... i want to tell my mom and go to the doctor to find out for real but im scared... im afraid she wont understand or not take me seriously or get mad... some of my symptoms are: alot of insecurities with myself, feeling empty, trapped, i always wanna stay home and sleep, i hate myself, im sick of my life, and i have alot of regrets.... im not so bad that im thinking of suicide though.. i would NEVER do that.... the thing is i think i have a pretty good life and im lucky for the things i have and that makes me feel really guilty about feeling bad..... i have a good house, im healthy, i have a family who loves me, my parents are together, and i have alot of stuff but i still feel depressed....... i no there are people who have it so much worse than me and all that makes me feel so much worse about how i have been feeling.... my questions are do u think i am really depressed like.. do u think i have the disease or do u think im just a moody teenager? and do u think i should tell my mother? please please time one million answer my questions!!!! i reallyyyyyyy need help!

i think maybe you do have depression.....you should see a docter to know for sure...tell your mom exactly what you put in ur post....i think shelll understand...and if she doesnt tell your docter at ur next physical

Q: We Just Moved Into A New House And We Bought It. So My Mom Said I Can Paint And Decorate My Room However I want. I Dont Know What I Should Paint It Though. My Favorite Colors Are Pink And Purple. And I Love The Playboy bunny. Does Anyone Know Where I Could Get Playboy bunny stuff? Or Pink Stuff For Your Room? Thanks.

look online for playboy bunny stuff and the victoria secret magazine has pink stuff foryour room....so does macy's filene's marshalls, kmart, walmart
...places like that

Q: Hey..my room is kind of big, but it's so boring! The walls aren't white, thankfully, but there's no where for my friends to sit when we hang out and it's not a really fun enviorment. Does anyone have any ideas on making my room more upbeat, inviting, or cool? Thanks!

hi....i suggest getting some inexpensive pillows and pillow cases. then you can put them on the floor for them to sit on...put a small coffee table in the middle also ...you guys can eat or play a board game or talk or do homework there....

hope this helps...

Q: My room is always messy and when I clean it up it just gets messy again! Im try to keep organized but it just never seems to work! What are some tips or things I can put in my room that will help me?

clean your room a little bit everynight. it will keep it clean all the time and get you in the habit of organization

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Hey. Come to me with all your problems i have great answers.ummm i guess thats it....o yeah...heres some advice...dont run on a sprained ankle!!! baddd experience!:):):):)

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