Hi my names is Samantha and i am here to do what i do best-Give advice. Ive done alot in my short lifetime so far and i hope that the mistakes i made or even the good things that ive done could make an impact on some peoples decisions. When I was 13 I was deeply in love with a 16 year old and went out with him for 2 years-through that relationship i found out what love wasnt and it was not him .After he dumped me I went to an all time low and i attempted suicide-I failed and im here now and i am happier then i ever have been..And through my 10 day visit to the hospital, I have realized what my life is about, and what I would like to accomplish in my short lifetime.Hopefully you will trust in me to give u the most honest and trustworthy advice that I can give and at the same time have a friend that you can come to when you just need someone to talk to, I am always here, and am eager to help. So why dont You Holla at me and I will do what I can to help.
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i want to paint my room black, and then splat paint it with bright pink. i thin kit would look awsome!!it would really reflect my wild, punk personality..im sure it would. but my mom says she will never paint my room black. i get soooooo pissed off!!!! nop matter what i do she always says no. i want the theme to be pink and black no matter what. please tell me what to do or how to get my mom to consider it!!!
please help!!
-britski- (link)
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Hey why dont you take a piece of cardboard and paint it black and then splatter pink on it and see if you actually like it if you do consider showing it to your mom and tell her that you really like it and its not just a fad that your going through u might want to try pink with black splatters and see if that looks better then the black on pink ya know what I mean dont get mad cus black is black ya kno so just experiment with it on the cardboard and see how you like it!!! Goodluck*Sam
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I just moved into my new house and I want my room to be really cute! Do you have any ideas on decorating it? ThAnKs! (link)
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You should do like a hot pink wall with a leapord border going around the room that would look so cute!!! Also do the bedding in Leopard-Another idea would be to do a tropical theme that is really hott right now find atropical fabric and paint the walls with an accent color on the fabric and accesorise with palm tree lamps n stuff it would be really cute!
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Hi...ok i just got 2 baby turtles and i have read a lot of aticles (like be4 i got them and everything so i would know what 2 do) and stuff but i was wondering if anyone with turtles would reply 2 me when they got there turtles and how big there tank was and how they took care of them and how long u have had them and anything else...ok thnxxxx!!!!! :) (link)
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Hey i have 2 full grown red eared sliders and a Map turtle...I started with a 10 gallon but soon realized they grow really fast!! lol so i got a 30 gallon and they outgrew that too my turtles grow from 8-12 inches long so now i have a 90 gallon tank...they love it also i have a clamp light with a 150 watt full spectrum light and a custom made ramp because believe me they outgrow the ones you buy at the pet store-they also have a big piece of driftwood in the center to hold on too so they can breath, the tank is full of water b/c they love to swim in deep water. i recomend getting a filter that is atleast 20 gallons over what your tank is and feeding them in a seperate area to cut down on waste materials..I love turtles and if u need any help let me know ive kept turtles and these ones since i was 5 years old so if i can help let me know!!!
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2 of my best friends live right near me, and if i got out with one of my other friends they can c. usually when i am with them we sit around, and i like to exersise, so i try to balance it out but sometimes i dont feel like just walking around or w.e (btw dont say to get them to exersise with me, they wont. long story but they cant or wont). so they c if i go to her house or anything and they get so mad! i dont even really care, becuz ik it is for a dumb reason but they say to tell them if i am going with her or call them or w.e then when i talked to them they said i am becoming her best freiend and they "never" see me. ahhh help (link)
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Well you made a new friend So what they are just jealous because if i am right you were hangin out with them before you met this other person. So if thats the case you just need to learn how to balance different friendships out like for example if you exercise with one girl mainly then u go to the movies and the mall with the other 2 or maybe vice versa-just tell your friends that u still are friends with them and they dont have to get so mad. And when you make plans with them keep them!!! That will make them more assured in your friendship ..also why dont you hang out with all of them
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What are some good sex website that show you like positions and ways to spice it up? (link)
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a good website is kamasutra.com or cosmopolitan.com i recomend cosmo to really help because the describe in details what to do and theres also this thing called getsex tips from a guy and they give u loads of information and things to try to kink things up a bit and believe me it works..hope i helped let me know!!
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If (without knowing) you sleep on sheets that may have semen on them, could you get pregnant? Like, if your brother was jacking off in your bed, and you never knew, is it...like, possible?????????PLZ PLZ tell me!! (link)
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No its not possible once semen hits the air it is inactive but i would recomend washing your sheets if u know your brother is doing that cus thats icky lol
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Ok guys, here's ,y question! I'm turning 18 soon so I can legally pierce anything I want. When I was 16 I got my belly button pierced on the top. For some reason something went wrong and i got very infected and I had to go to the docotrs n take it out. Now I have a scar there. When I squeeze the scar tissue it hurts. And my doctor said yesterday that it would be difficult to repierce through it. Anyways I guess my question is do u think it would look dumb or hurt if i got it pierced from the bottom??? I heard people say it hurts more but maybe thats just a rumor? Thank You guys so much for your help!!! (link)
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Hey i did the same thing that you did but i was 14 when i did it and now i re pierced it and i had scar tissue and believe me it did hurt when i would like put pressure on it and such-well when i got it repierced (through the whole thing) it was a little bit more painful but nothing serious...i dont think it would look stupid but maybe you should consider piercing the whole belly button it might blend in with the scar better...your welcome for the advice and i hope i helped someway
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Recently me and my boyfriend broke up. He broke up with me for another girl, because we were in a long distance relationship for 2 years and it was really hard. Its been really hard for me, but ive managed to survive without him, even though I still love him and miss him alot. But now I am ready for a relationship with someone who I know really cares for me and who I can be happy with. The only problem is, I dont know where or how to meet guys. Can anyone help? (link)
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Hey girl Ive been there totally i was with a guy ina long distance relationship for 2 years too and i know how you feel now like what do you do and whow do you go about doing it? Well I met my boyfriend of now almost 2 years through mutual friends, another way is through like teen clubs or pool halls or a sporting event(guys love sports) lol if u didnt already know. Go to a baseball game or a football game even if it isnt professional cute guys r sure to be there, also if u live near the water go to the beach or the lake...Just be confident and walk up to a guy that u think u would like to get to know better and talk about what he likes and ask lots of questions-if he seems like a guy u would date ask him if he wants to go get a burger or something like that hope i help let me know how ur hottie search goes-i know theres a great guy out there 4 u!!
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Hey Samantha my names is Mary and I just wanted to ask you a quick question-I am 16 years old and I am 5'4 and i weigh 170 lbs am i overweight?? (link)
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I looked on a popular website and entered your configurations and the average weight for you should be around 135 lbs at the most so clinically you are overweight but if you are active and have alot of muscle then your a physically healthy
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Hi im Anna 17/F/AZ n i was wondering what to do about my boyfriend-he keeps watching porn behind my back and i dont know what to do i told him already how i feel about it n he said hed stop but he hasnt and i feel so bad about things i just want him to love me for me can u help?? (link)
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Hi anna, well guys and there porn will they ever get away from it?? WEll on a more serious note your boyfriend could A. Either have a problem or B. Gets off on it or C. Both!!! U need to really sit down and ask him y he likes it and if there is something that you could do to make him want to be with you instead of glued in front of the computer or the TV If u are a virgin then the problem might just be that he has a need that you cant fulfill but if he is disrespecting you and your calues hes not worth it. If u arent a virgin, the problem may be ur not inticing him the right way or you dont have a good technique(read cosmo for ideas it always worked for me) Sit down with him and if he cant stop then he is not worth your time or your energy...goodluck
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Ok I'm 14 years old and in the 8th grade I wear a 32A. My mom said her boobs stoped growing in the 8th grade so do u think mine will grow anymore? (link)
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Yes sweety you are still growing so dont worry... You may get bigger and you may not depending on your genes the best advice i can give you is to look at your grandmas boobs your moms and your dads moms boobs and if they are bigger in size then thats what your boobs will most likely be..
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I had sex for the first time last night and I didnt bleed at all. Doesnt every girl bleed? That kinda makes me wonder.. Also, we didnt do it very long or hard so I think thats why? Just making sure Im not strange or messed up.. (link)
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Well for the first time having sex its not supposed to be for a very long time or so hard and believe me you arent messed up because most girls dont bleed @ all when they have sex for the first time nor do they during there entire sex life.
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is it healthy to use dildos and "play" toys in sex and i was wondering..should you give head to guys with condoms on? and is there a female condom? i heard there was but i wasn't sure (link)
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Its healthy to use dildos and sex toys during sex with a man or a woman or yourself (im not calling you a lesbien) and remember this is my advice to you so dont get upset-I personally think that it is fine to use play things during and not during sex. U are supposed to use condoms when giving a guy head but most people dont(i never did) But you and the guy should get tested before you do anything without a condom including giving head because you can get diseases in your mouth from giving head. Yes there is a female condom but its not very common-all it is, is a foam like liquid that you spray into your vagina and it is supposed to act like a condom and stop the sperm from entering.
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does a guy kno when he pops ur cherry or no? iight cuz I wanna have sex wit this guy an he thinks im not a virgin an i am... an i was woundering if he would be able to tell like would it bleed that bad that he would notice or is there some way he would kno cuz i dont wanna make it sound like im lieing i just dont want him to find out someone plzz write back asap..Or e-mail me at Lilfarmerchick75@yahoo.com
*Jess* (link)
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Well when I had sex for the 1st time I didnt bleed at all and most people dont!!! For my boyfriend he didnt even notice that i was a virgin it was just tight for him ...for me the only way he knew was because i was so unexperinced with sex that i didnt know what i was doing lol but its more that a guy knows he devirginized you more then "he popped your cherry."
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Well I know this is kinda sick and all but im gonna ask neways..when I shave down there its gets all red like a rash and then sometimes it bleed and i really dont know what to do.. (link)
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Well you need to shave slower a good tip is if you use a regualar razor is to buy this cream its called bikini touch or something and you can buy it at walgreens or walmart or whatever is close to you but it gets rid of the rash or the irritation...Also you can wax but that hurts really bad lol ive done it another way to get most of it is to get a bikini trimmer (electric one) and it will get most of it and u will have to shave some instead of all of it...
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I've been sexually active for about 6 monthes or so now, and I'm going to the gynocologist sometime this week. Will she be able to tell that I'm not a virgin? I'm only 16. Oh, and if she can find out, are they supposed to tell your parents? PLEASE, PLEASE HELP! (link)
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Take it form somewhere who has been there. A gynecologists job is to look at ur insides and test you for diseases mainly STD's so yes she knows your sexually active-and im sure that they have a confidentiality agreement which means that she cant tell your parents nor anyone your business...
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i like this guy at skool and he really loves me and he asks me out all the time.hes not very popular tho and im afarid that ppl will make fun of me. plz help me!!! thanks (link)
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All i can say is forget about what people think and think about you for a change!!! If you like him and he likes u too give it a try. If you both have similar intrests or whatever do it!! Because you never know you could make a really great friend or you could make him into the boyfriend of your dreams!! goodluck let me know what happends, and if people make fun of you tell them to ahem"fuck off" and stand up for things u believe in.
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ok well ive gone out wit people and made out wit people be4.. but the kind im kinda going out wit hasnt ever had a gf and has never kissed no one so im gonna be his first kiss what can i do to make it sumthing he wont forget! (link)
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The most succesful advice i could give you is to be honest with him first and tell him how you really feel about him to make him comfortable comfort is a really big thing once hes comforable hell want to explore kissing with you set the mood by playing music that you both enjoy and make sure your breath is fresh-if youre gonna eat something before then make sure you bring mints-another thing is if its at your house light candels and use that as lighting. And after your kiss tell him it was great even if it wasnt so it will boost his confidence and hell want to do it more oftern with you!!
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What is Birth control and what are the side affects? (link)
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Birth Control is an oral controceptive-a pill that you take by mouth but not always in the form of a pill it can be a patch or other methods-ask me!! Anyways the most common method of birth control is a pill that you take everyday for 28 day periods. You take 21 "working pills" and the other 7 are just regulator pills which tells u if the birth control is working for you (you'll get your period) What birth control does is make more mucus like fluid in your uterus to block sperm from entering when you have sex so if theres no sperm there is no pregnancy. Some side effects are breakthrough bleeding(bleeding before your period),PMS,cramping,and more serious side effects can include stroke(higher chance for people who are over 35 and who smoke). Hope ive helped and if u need any advice ask me i use birth control myself and have been for 2 years so ask away thanks!!
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