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Q: Okay, I'm so annoyed with my supposed "bff's". I have two of them Josh and Katie. We are all attatched to the hip as most people would say, but latley I've got the sense of otherwise! You see Josh is my cousin, and Katie is just my bff, but since the begging of the year weve been all three friends. But now it's like I'm invisable. They'de rather be together then with me. I feel so depresed, I wanna be with them too! I know that Katie likes Josh but I've got feelings too! I don't know what I Should say or do. HELP!

Yeah Thanks for the advise,
but Cmilner1607 Katie likes Josh. But I know that Josh doesn't like katie. He's in love with his ex. "annabell"

Q: Thanks a lot for your answer but the problem is It's hard to just stop a friendship. I've been trying to not hang out with them more by giving them exuces not to hang out with them but they're not taking the hints. They keep calling me every weekend wanting to do something. Your advice was awsome but I want to talk to you more.

Oh, well I'm glad that you read my advice, sorry that it didn't help, I feel horrible. But I guess when it comes down to your friends it's up to you no matter what I say. It depends on if you want to be there friends or not.

Q: First off sorry if this question is in the worng category
Ok so I think my friend has some type of eating disorder. And i'm really worried. Like a year ago my friends and I noticed that she was too thin and that her clothes weren't fitting her and stuff so we confronted her and she's like yeah i know i have a problem i'm seeing someone about it. And she started getting better.
A few months ago, her father died of cancer. And even before then she started getting skinnier again. She's thinner then sghe was before. she looks like skin and bones. And i know for a fact that her mom is too preoccupied trying to take care of her and her brother by herself to see anything.
What do I do? I don't want her to get mad... all I want is for her to be better again

I think your problem fits this catagory fine!
But back to your problem. I feel bad for you and your friend! For 1. eatind disorders can be deathly seriouse, plus it can cause friction on your friendship. I thinnk you should confront this friend of yours, tell her You love her (as a friend) and that you wouldn't be telling her this if you didn't, but your worried about her weight, ask her if she wants to talk about it, tell her that if she can't confide in you then to atleast tell someone else. Ask her if something is bothering her causeing her to act this way, be there for her. Maybey try talking to a guidence counselor about this they can take actions into there own hands, and save her life. your friendship

Q: Recently I got a minor tooth ache. Its not uncommon for me because I'm 16 and my wisdom teeth are taking their dear sweet time coming in...but I decided to take out a compact mirror and check out my tooth anyway. Well...it looks like I have a cavity. I have a little black spot on TWO of my upper back teeth. I think the pain was my wisdom teeth...but yeah.

I haven't been to the dentist in YEARS. So long I can't even remember how old I was or what I was there for...I'm really scared of getting a tooth pulled.

I don't know how bad a cavity is that you have to have it pulled so I have no idea what to compare what I have to...and I'm sooo freaked out.

Does anyone know how bad a cavity has to be before it gets pulled? I tried looking it up but I can't seem to find anything useful....

Thanks in advance >_

I've had two caveties, but I take care of my teeth. I brush twice a day every day, but one dentist appointment when I just turned 13 changed my No caviety record. The dentist said I had two. I was scared two, they cost a fortune to get filled, but I was just scared it would hurt. I cried even, i hate the dentist. But turns out it's not bad at all. They give you laughing gass (F.Y.I laughing gass DOESN'T make you laugh it just makes you happy, you can't feel anything, your basically dreaming only your awake. Before you know it they're finished! No big deal at all.

Q: 13/f

my best friends boyfriend likes me A LOT.
a couple days ago we were watching softball ***school thing*** and he played me a song. He said "listen to it". It was Far Away by Nickleback. I love that song. I didn't think anything by it. But today at lunch if he really felt that way and he said yes. So the song was in my head and i was listening to it on my ipod. "I dont like him i just really love the song." and my best friend got mad at me because i was listening to the song that explained his feelings. Please help me

Okay first of all remember the saying Friends are forever boyfriends are whatever, it goes somethin like that. BUT anyways: You should be forward with this guy tell him to back off that he's dating my bff and it's not right to flirt with you. But make sure he likes you first. Then tell your friend everything your feelings, and if she's your TRUE friend she'll understand.
-ash

Q: okay this is gonna be really long. okay so ive been dating this guy for a year and a half. but 7 months ago he moved to florida and i live in texas. but he is moving back in late summer. but after he moved i became good friends with one of his friends. he is very nice and sweet and i like him. i have also heard from some of his friends that he likes me. part of me feels it is because my boyfriend is so far and he is here. a couple of weeks ago my boyfriend told his ex that he still liked her and she told me this happened. he told me it was because he thought about her but he knew he didnt like her and he wanted to stop thinking about her. i truly do love my boyfriend and i plan to be with him a long time. if i told my friend i liked him would i stop like my boyfriend did? or should i just ignore these feelings until my boyfriend comes back? or should i try to be with him?

Boyfriend??? What Boyfriend tell his ex that he still has feelings for her? That's bologna (baloney)! I think you should dump him, and go out with the guy you truley like. I know it may be hard for you when your current boyfriend moves back next year, but the best thing to do is to still be friends afterwards. This way you can be with a guy who likes you for you, a guy who's close by, a guy who's NOT going to practically cheat on you. Now this is my opinion, But whatever you do NEVER EVER use this new guy to make your curent bf jelous OR the other way around.

Q: Pretty much all of my friends exept for two, are treating my like crap. I am a good friend to all of my friends, even friends that aren't that close to me. Like, I'll give them money, advice, take them places and other kind stuff but I feel like I'm being walked all over now. Most of my friends and treatingme so bad I cry everyday just because of that. I can't even stand being around who I used to call my best friend, I see her in school and at work and she makes me want to scream. And another friend or not even a friend, I have 2 classes with her and thats the only times I talk to her, she really made me mad yesterday, I was talking to her about me shaving my toes and she yelled to the whole class "EWW YOU SHAVE YOUR TOES?!" and everyone heard and I was so embarassed and I didn't talk to her for the rest of the class and the next class I had with her. She is really b*tchy and I am so sick of her right now and everyone is getting on my nerves and I get mad when they make me mad and I just ignore and stop talking to them when I'm mad and then they make me more mad by saying stuff like, "stop being a b*tch" and "ohh, someones PMSing" and it just fuels the flame underneath me. I don't like confrentation and don't say anything to them because of it. I think what I'm going to do is just not talk to those people until I am more calm. Is that good? What else should I do?

First of All those people arn't your true friends. This is like a book a read before, "sweet 16". Your just like the girl in the book, you hang out with all these people who say they're your friend, but when it comes down to it they're just backstabing B****s and that is life for you. But The thing is your shouldn't be they're bff's, aquaintences maybey, but not bffs. Try looking at the less selfish people, they may not be 110 pounds or exactly popular, but if they're nice to you then they'll be a true friend. Because you can't change the way you current "friends" are, trust me I know.
Wish u the best of luck
-ash

Q: Well Im in 8th grade and hes in 6th grade. Im 13. Hes 12. He really cute. Well last night was our last school dance. I thought i should ask him to dance because he wont be at the dances next year because ill be at the high school and i would have to wait for 2 years. Well one of my friends boyfriend is his friend. So my friends ask him to ask the guy i like if he would dance with me. He said yeah and he asked me. He asked if i had a boyfriend and why i didnt have one and stuff like that. Then he asked me out and i said yeah. But now i dont know if he actually likes me or if he felt sorry for me. WHAT DO U GUYS AND GIRLS THINK?
Heres another thing. Im not that good with boys...as boyfriends....i can talk to guys who are my friends easliy but im shy around my boyfriends....usually he has to start a conversation because i dont know what to say...what should i do?

Okay. This is a typical school day thing, and here's how to deal:
If you can answer these with all yes's then He's so deffinatly into you:
1. He seems intrested in you by the way he looks at you, or a certain way he talks.
2. He wants to spend time with you as much as you do with him. Such as dances, calling on the phone, leaving notes in each others lockers, ect.
3. MOST IMPORTANT! You feel that he WANTS to be with you, and he's not presured. Or ...desprate.

I hope this helps. atleast you have a boyfriend. I'm a single 7th grader. :( life sucks.

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