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Q: ok so im sorry if this is a stupid question but does putting on sunscreen before you go outside to tan prevent you from getting tan? im using SPF 30 and it doesn't seem like im getting tan. im pretty white so i burn easily so what kind of sunscreen should i use if i do want to get a tan?

Make sure you put on sunscreen about 15-20 minutes before you go outside, so you won't get burned. Also, getting too much of a tan can also be bad for your skin.

Q: Okay, I was at a party and my friend Sara was acting like a slut. She was wearing really short shorts and flirting with everyone (until her boyfriend got there) all the guys were all over her and she was showing off. And, she flirts with the guy I like. What should I do it annoys me so much, and I need to win the guy I like so he won't start to like Sara.

I don't think you have to worry about your friend Sara stealing the guy you like. If she has a boyfriend, then she probably won't be doing anything with the guy you like. I think that you should also get to know the guy you like better also.

Q: i do 100-200 pushups a day and theyre not getting rid of the flab under my arm any ideas how i rly need help i dont wanna wear sweatshirts forever. ill rate 5's

Push-Ups are a good form of exercise, but you need to do much more than just one form of excercise. First of all eating a balanced diet is essential. Next, you might want to consider going to workout at some place with weights every weekend or so. In fact, you should probably buy some weights, not heavy maybe 5-10 pounds depending on what you think is right for you. Do a couple of reps on each arm and it will help. Also...very important!! Make sure you stretch out before you do any exercising. You can really hurt yourself if you don't.
-am3

Q: where can i find a picture to put in my column. but it says it has to be 15k or less.
i'll rate 5's to all that help

You can also go to www.imageshack.us and just change the image size from there. It is very quick and extremely easy.

Q: whats the best way to get rid of acne? more than just wash it everday..... any ideas or websites.x0x0 thanks

If it is a really bad case of acne then go to a dermatoligist, but if it is just mild then try putting some lotion on it.
Even though it seems like it won't do much, washing your face with a hot towel rubbed with soap on it every morning and night will really help. Just don't get lazy and do it every once and a while.

Q: (15/f) ive been dating this guy for about two weeks now. and im used to guys who are trying to make out with me or atleast kiss me on the first date. my boyfriend and i just had our first kiss on the lips last night. and i had to like pull him over to me to do it. its not like im his first girlfriend or anything.
arnt guys supposed to be nnot shy at all.
isnt the girl supposed to be the shy one?
and its not like im a slut either..
why is he so shy? and how can i make him not"?

It's just his personality. He just might be prude. If you really want a bf who isn't then the guy you're going out with right now is wrong for you and you should go out with someone who isn't as shy as him.

Q: Do you know anything i can wear (besides strips) that can make me look taller??

Besides the shoes, you can stand around people that are short too, and also posture is very important. Like, I'd be about 3 inches taller if my backpack didn't kill me every day. Standing up straight really makes a difference.

Q: I am writing this letter to you because I don't know what to do. I am really scared that my use of Codeine is out of control. I feel pressured by my friends to be part of the drug scene. I see people in the media using drugs for pleasure. When I'm high on drugs, I forget all my problems and school is unimportant. I've dropped out of sports and I do whatever I can to get money for my drugs.
(This isn't actually me, it's posted for a friend.)

Thanks,
Skentelbery

Since you posted this for a friend, you could actually help him/her. For example, don't let him be peer presured so easily into doing stuff. Your his friend, defend him and help him make the right choices. Try to get your friend doing another activity other than drugs. Seriously, once your friend gets "REALLY" addicted then it will be so much harder. You can take him/her to a rehabilitation clinic if necessary. You stated "I see people in the media using drugs for pleasure." That is why they have ratings on movies and drug infulence is listed. When movie stars do drugs, it might make them seem cool, but they are very misleading. Just because you see someone else smoking doesn't make it right. In fact, later in their life, they will experience health problems, not to mention a ton of other problems.
--Bottom Line, Nothing good comes from drugs.

Q: Okay so i know this was asked..twice i believe but i've looked and looked and i just CANT find the question anywhere so could someone tell me the names of the sites that let you get around the block at school and let you get on myspace..thanks alot!

I posted it earlier, but here they are again if you need them...(Just so you know, I only provided two. There are many you can use though.)
http://sneakyproxy.com
http://daveproxy.co.uk/

Q: I don't have any excersise equipment..what are some excersises you can do to tone your thighs?[sp?]

Ok, here's what I do sometimes that helps my thighs and stomach. You lay on your back and lift your legs about 6 inches from the ground and try to hold it for as long as possible. So it should look something like this...With your arms by your sides
Feet--> \___o

Q: My alarm wakes me up every morning at 6:00; but I usually hit the snooze button until like 6:40. How can I make myself wakeup and kick the urge to press snooze and go back to bed?

Haha I've had the same problem before. What I do is I had to move my alarm clock, so that it forces me to get out of bed.
If you want an extra incentive to not make you hit the snooze, then you should set your alarm so that the radio station it changes to, plays music that you hate. For me, country music.

Q: Someone keeps prank calling our home phone. We have no idea who it is and why this is happening. It happens a good 15 times a day. It's been going on for 4 days now. Prior to these past 4 days (about 4 weeks ago), the same thing was occurring - prank calls a good 15 times a day. Yes, that time those calls did stop on their own, but it went on for weeks on end. We never did anything about it, but we probably should have. My main focus for now is right now. Nothing is said when we answer the phone, and they only stay on the line for maybe 1 second. The number is set 'Private'. Could this be a business? Is it more likely that's the case? What can we do about this? How do we go about reporting them? Do we just dial the police? Is there a certain number we should have? Isn't what's going on here illegal!?! Does anyone have any idea what we should expect if we report them?

Yes there is something you can do.
*57 - It tells you the number of the person that just called you
And there is another phone code that allows you to block a specific number. So what you can do is to find out there number and then block it.

Q: (I'm at my grandmas house)
well my computer got a bad virus,it won't stay on longer than 15min. and internet doesn't work any more and wrer still paying the bill!!???!!!

First you should seek professional help, but for security programs I would reccomend "McAfee SecurityCenter". It has many security procausions including a virus detecter and then you'll be able to quarantine it and delete it off your computer. If you do need a new computer or if you get this one fixed, then you should get this program to prevent future problems.

Q: i m a boy
i have a penos of 5 inchs
i mant to make it more bigger
but without taking any nedicine such as pills,sprays equipment etc
how can i do so naturally?
i want to increase the time during sex.

Edit: Actually I have a different answer...It depends really because of your age. Since you didn't list it I can't give you straight advice, but you might still be going through puberty which in that case means it could still grow.

I don't think there is any way to do it naturally. For a more professional answer you could ask your question at
www.jackinworld.com

Q: How can I get my confidence level higher ?

Any tips?????????????????????????

You can buy one of those "confident" calendars. Each day, there's a new line to boost your confidence.

Q: i'm sooo bored can anyone give me ideas what to do instead of watching TV cause mine is broken =( so what should i do i'm soooo bored...

Invite your friends over and brainstorm

Q: ok wat it ddr and can you tell me a website to do it or watever because i look at all the fitness questions and peole are like oh my god do ddr and i have no clue wat that is

i rate 5s

Also, if you don't intend on spending tons of money. There are some arcades that have DDR or a DDR-like game. (Much Cheaper, like 50 cents.)

Q: When i am at school, that is really the only time i have to do my myspace... (i have an hour in the morning before i acrually start school...) the stupid school blocked myspace with "websense"... this is what it says:

Access to this web page is restricted at this time.

Reason:

The Websense category "Adult Content" is filtered.

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URL:

http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewprofile&friendid=380880 50

any ideas on how to get around this? some one told me that if you used a link or something... i tried to link to my friends myspace but it didnt work... i also tried to use google and click on a link there. I would really like to check my myspace in the mornings... thanks for the suggestions. all are welcome!... i have itunes on this computer if that works. tried linking through the itunes store... didnt work... any suggestions?

Ahh...it's at my school as well. However, there a special websites you can use to get around this called "proxys". Here's a couple. These will also allow you to go into other blocked websites besides myspace.
http://sneakyproxy.com
http://daveproxy.co.uk/

Q: is there a website that i can upload music to put on my myspace without showing the visible player.. i just want background music! help please

Here's the code to put the music on once you have the file...

And as for the song, you can use this site

http://filelodge.bolt.com/index.php?pg=p16

to upload your music to. Then just take the url they give you and insert it into the html code :)

Q: My friend came up to me and said "Party boy unce, unce, unce, unce" and I had no idea what that was so I just laughed. Who is "Party Boy" and is it a song? And what does "unce unce unce" mean? And now alot of people in my school are doing it. Please help.

It's not necessarily from the movie. It's a skit on the show "Jackass" done by Chris Pontius.

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Yo! I'm 15,and I really like answering peoples questions, whether it's tough or easy. If you have a question for me, I'll do my best to get an accurate answer.