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Name: Laura
Age: 14
Single or taken: Hem, single...
Height: 5'7 and a half
Weight: A three digit number
Eyes: Green
Hair: Reddish Brownish blondeish? lol
Grade: 9th.
Schooled at: Home
Race: Umm, I'm German, Irish, French and Italian...?
Religion: Christian (Baptist to be exact)

Don't fall for someone who won't be there to catch you.

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Ok well so far in school im failing ALL my classes except 1. Im in 10th grade and I just switched school. You have to turn in a PERFECT PAPER. And if you get 1 thing wrong you have a F. And if you miss 3 things you get a F. Its hard. So I feel like im going to fail this year. I miss school on the days I have tests on accident. Like i know im going to have tests but I get sick. I like taking tests because it keeps my grade up. And my friends arnt helpng they keep saying Im going to fail. Like im missing 14 assignments in math. So of course I have a F! I just cant handle all of this stuff. Its too hard and It gets me thinking of how I passed 9th grade at my old school. What should I do? How can I keep up my grades and do all my work?

Talk to your principle or guidance councelor. Maybe get a tutor. If you are doing any after school activities, or are on a sports team, stop. It's a distraction. Once you get your grades back up, start again. Good luck.

~Laura~

WEll.. im 15 i live in chicago and i want 2 get my tongue pierced SOO if ne one knows a nice good clean place that will let younger people like 15 year olds with out parent consent.. PLEASE tell me thanks..

You can't, like the other person said, until your 16. Even WITH parental permission. My friend did her own with a safety pin. Just buy a new one and throw it away when you're done. Viola.

~Laura~

okay well i have a step brother he is 18 and he is so nice and cool.I have a real brother that he is 17 and my real brother i've know him ever sence birth.Well my real brother is mean sometimes disrespectful and he abuses me physicly and emotionaly.But when he does he hits me real hard and we have a 3 yr difference he is physicly bigger then me and if i hit him back he will hurt me even more.Well yea im so use to having him beat me.my step brother that is so nice and stuff i feel wrong being around him i feel uncomfortable and he hasn't dont anything to me and i feel bad.but i dont really know him i just knew he was my brother but i never really knew him.and now he is here and i feel so wrong around him.I'm not use to someone being nice to me and wutever and i guess i feel uncomfortable i mean i can talk to one of my guy friends better then him.and i feel guilty.Plz help i dunno what to think rite now.

Your (real) brother has serious problems and he needs help. Everybody needs someone to be nice to them, I wouldn't feel guilty hanging around your step-brother because he's nice to you, that's great that he is! But seriously get your brother some help.

~Laura~

how often should u dye ur roots if u dye ur hair like blonde and ur hair is naturally black:?

When you start seeing them.

~Laura~

I am 33 years old indian citizen now working in kuwait.I had a problem with the right leg and occationally with the left leg also.After resting/Sleeping I can not able to tough my right leg on the floor because too much paining on the heel. After some times walk the pain will be reduced/dissapperd.Please advice what will be the problem.What kind of medicine is needed for this.Pleaseeeee

Yep, probably heal spurs. My grandpa has/had them. They give you shots in your heal I think and that dulls the pain for awhile, until you get a new shot. See the doctor and have him x-ray (take pictures of) your foot. Good luck!

~Laura~

Have any of you heard of this new diet that's come out? Something about it you only take 85 bites of food per day, you'll lose weight. If you've heard about it or tried it, let me know what you think!

Yeah, seriously, MFS is right. So if I sit on my ass and eat 85 bites of bacon and drink four tablespoons of lard, I'll loose weight? It sounds ridiculious.

~Laura~

well, i know its strange, but sometimes i wonder if my parents were virgins before they got married. because they both married late in there lives )38 39ish) so i kind of wonder. is this strange to think? i mean im not going to go up to my mom one day and say hey mom how are ya doing? so btw were you a virgin before dad?

Uh, why do you want to know? I don't want to know a thing about my parent's sex life. *shudder* But I don't know, I doubt they were. Even religious people have trouble keeping the zippers zipped. I know a guy at church whose parents conceived him and then got married a month or so afterwards, so really it doesn't matter what type of people they are, they still might not be. But if you really want to know, take the age of your oldest sibling. Now subtract that from your parent's age. How old were they when they had that child? If it's really close, like 40, then go back nine months from their birthdate, which will give you like yeah, the approximate date they were conceived. But again, why would you want to do that? I have way too much time on my hands.

~Laura~

can a 18 year old get in trouble for dating a 13 year old?

Yes. And if you have sex with her you could go to prison. You're an adult, and she isn't, making her a child which is like making you...a pedophile. Yeah. Don't do it.

~Laura~

hey well i went tanning last week and on the 3rd day afterwards i would have an itchy like heat rash on my stomache and on the 5th day it was really bad. It was exactly like and alergic reaction. i had to take benadryl to stop the itching. Ive been tanning b4 this during the summer and this never happened to me. I did use a different lotion during the summer tho. Why am i getting this reaction? and its not because they dont clean the beds because i see them clean it and i lay on my back the whole time. What is this from??

Thanx!!

Probably the new lotion you used. Call the doc and have him look at it. You might complain to the tanning booth, too.

~Laura~

k i told one of my friends i liked this guy..lets call him Nate. Nate n i were friends but i wanted it more and we werent like best pals and like every day hed give me a hug and stuff so today the girl i told lets call her Taylor goes up to him and hugs him, she goes "u wanna go out" n gives me this awful look then later i find out theyre goin out but he doesnt like her he just said yes cuz shes easy so should i be mad at her, or what or what do i do to not feel so crummy and get the guy i like to b mine?

I RATE!!

Yeah, totally, you don't want this guy if he only wants you for what's in your pants. Seriously, if he only goes out with "easy" girls, then he's not worth it. And while it wasn't nice of your friend to do that, you don't want this guy.

~Laura~

my nails dont grow, how can i make them grow fast?

Mine don't either. Sally Hansen makes a nail polish called "Maximum growth". You paint it on your nails and it helps them stay healthy and grow. I use it. Tip: Get it in clear. You can wear it over/under your regular polish. Good luck!

~Laura~

Does anyone know of a website to post pics on. Like either a photo album one or an actual website one. I don't want Picture Trail, EasyDesigner, Xanga, or Xprofile. If you know of any others that are user friendly, let me know! Thanks! -Free2bMe :)

Photobucket is awesome. Everyone I know uses it.

~Laura~

does anyone know where i can go to find some hairstyles to look at because i have to get it cut soon.. & also does anyone know some places i can go to get cheap and affordable clothes & what kin dof clothes to look for

thnx

You can search google.com for hairstyles. Like http://www.1001hairstyles.com is a really good one. When you get it cut, ask the receptionist for a book. They have lots of books with hairstyles in them.

As for clothes, Khol's is awesome, so is Marshall's, and JCPenny's.

~Laura~

I'v always kinda knew that i was a lil distured inside cuz im usually always sad and never happy. I juss try to put on a happy face when im not home juss when im out or around my friends cuz no1 wants 2 hang around sum1 who's depressed all the time. But im so tired of being sad and feeling this way. I finally knew that i had sum serious issues today. There was a football game at my school but me and my two friends left during it cuz it was boring so we went to the mall. My mom picked me up 20 minutes late so i was standing there by myself but we got the exits confused. But when i was standing there i had a breakdown i juss wanted to cry. So instead i started punching the granet pillars infront of the mall to hold in my tears. Kinda self mutilation i guess. I dont wanna go to a therapist cuz every1 will think im crazy and i wanna kill myslef. Im juss tired of being so sad all the time. It juss seems lyk god put me on this earth to be miserable and to see how much i could take. Im tired of it...what should i do?

No, He didn't put you here to see how much you could take. My youth leader always says that God will never make you go through something you can't get through. But even if you can't get through it with Him, you can get through it with many other people. your friends, your family, your teachers, anybody. Find someone to talk to. You can't hold it inside forever, it's not good for you. If you can't talk to God, find someone else. Drop one by my inbox if you want more help on any of this, I'll gladly talk to you.

~Laura~

Hey im going to my first football game wut should i wear got any ideas or how i should do my hair?

Seriously, it's a football game. But ponchos are REALLY in right now. Like the cotton kind with the fringe around them. I'd wear jeans, a black sleeveless t-shirt, and a poncho. It will keep you cool and looks cute. Good luck! And Wal-Mart has those ponchos I was talking about, if you wanna look.

~Laura~

How do you take a pregnancy test like at home? No im not pregnant im just wondering.

Usually you buy it, and while you're peeing you put the stick under you so it detects the pregnancy hormone in your pee, and then you let it set for a few minutes and it will tell you if you're prenant or not. Usually it's colors that tell you, for example, red if you are, blue if you aren't. But READ THE INSTRUCTIONS.

~Laura~

I have a (suposivly common) Problem with my ovaries in which pin head size cysts on them cause irregular periods. I havent gotten my period in nearly 6 months. I had several MRI's done, and i saw a OB/GYN. Next week, I am going to a specialist at the hospital to consult about the problem, but I'm scared that they will give me an exam, and if they do, they will find out that I am no longer a virgin like my mom thinks! I'm incredibly scared, especially because my mom would killll mee if she found out. I regularly engage in sexual intercourse, and I'm afriad that if she knows, my trust will be ruined, and all hell wil break loose. Please, any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Don't worry. It's confidential. You could ask your doctor not to share information with your mom, if you're over like 16 or 18, they won't. It's not a big deal.

~Laura~

When I was 17, everything was going great in my life. I had a job, a car, a boyfriend, and family that loved me. But my great life soon turned into a nightmare-I got a phone call, my mom and dad were in the hospital. They were driving when a car had hit them, and they died 3 days later. I'm 20 now, and I take care of my 13 year old sister and 9 year old brother. I have so much stress being a 20 year old parent. Sometimes I just break down and want to die. Of course, that's not an option. I need help, how can I keep up with working full time and taking care of my two siblings. I dont have family that could help me, I'm all on my own! Any advice would be helpful. Thank you.

Wow, major props for taking care of them. If I were you I would hire a babysitter to come once a week and watch both children for a few hours so you can have like a "mommy/sister day out". That way you can shop for groceries, pay the bills, do whatever you want, and not have to worry about it. If you know some people around town, ask them if they would be willing to watch the children for however many dollars per hour. Or have a YOU time where you go and get in bed or do whatever for one hour, drink hot cocoa, read, sleep, watch TV, whatever you want to do because that REALLY helps keep stress down. Good luck.

~Laura~

I know that I might sound a little jealous or over protective but just put yourself in my shoes for a minute.... Ok my boyfriend cheated on me a couple weeks ago and I gave him another chance, but I can't trust him anymore, Well tonite he is goin over to his ex-girlfriends house to help her with her "homework", i am really worried and I am also scared.. I was messing around and asked him if I said it was ok if he would do something with his ex and he said hell ya and I said well im not giving you permission. But do you really think that is going to stop him? Any ways i am really confused.. if you help me I will definetly rate you!! thanks

I wouldn't trust him. I'da dumped him after he cheated and never gotten back together with him.

~Laura~

My husband and I are in our mid-40's with no children and have just completed building a second home (our dream home) on a lake near the mountains. It is a one bedroom house that took almost 4 years of our lives to build and every penny we could scrape together.

My husband has friends from out of the area that want to "freeload" on us...and he thinks it is great! The more the merrier and the bigger the party!

His friends are all married and all have many children. They want to come up in groups and stay with us. This past weekend several families camped at a campground a few miles away, but "stayed" at our place the entire weekend...the only thing they did at the campground was sleep (and thank goodness for that).

When they entere the house to use the bathroom, or whatever, they would go through drawers and look behind closet doors.

I do not want these people in our house, much less there when we are not there.

Please give me advise on how to get my husband to understand my position.

These folks are nice I suppose, but they all drink a lot (even in front of children) and influence my husband to do the same, to miss church and to ignore business calls when they are around. We are professionals, they all have 8 to 5 jobs with little to no responsibilities and not a lot of income.

My husband wants to give them a key and the code to the burgular alarm system.

We are headed straight for a divorce, I am afraid without help...and he refuses to see a counselor, although I did spend several months last year in counseling alone.

Thank you for any advise you can share with me.

He wants to give them access to the house? no way would I allow that. Don't do it. Tell him that you just honestly aren't comofortable with these poeple having keys to your home. Besides, what is the need for it? They wouldn't be coming to visit you, why should they be in your house without you? And giving them the burglar system code is just dangerous. I honestly think you should just sit down with your husband and tell him all this. I'm sure you have, but tell him that things are going downt he drain quickly. He should listen. I like the idea of having them down twice a month. They can visit and you don't have to get any unexpected visitors.

~Laura~

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