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Hey I'm Jodie. I'm pretty awesome at giving advice to everyone.
I dont beat around the bush though. I am blunt and sarcastic, and I'll tell you exactly what I think. Get used to it. If you rate me low, it doesn't break my heart.
I haven't had the best life. Its had its stressful times. But I use that to my advantage now. Its made me a wiser person.
I'm funny, and outgoing. I'm generally a pretty happy person. And I'll try my best to answer any question that you throw on the table.
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If you are 16 years old and live in New York and get pregnant, what are your options of getting rid of the baby with out your parents knowing? Any help is greatly appreciated.
The best thing is abortion. But if i was you I would tell your parents. I dont know if you can even go through with it without a parent knowing.
But go to a clinic and see what they say.
15/f
I have a 5 month year old son with my boyfriend. I considered adoption from the start, but it was too hard to say goodbye so I pulled out at the last minute. (Which made my boyfriend happy, surprisingly.) My mom (my dad isn't a part of my life) gave in and said she'd raise him for me if I helped. Now that school's in, it's becoming harder. We have to pay the babysitter, pick him up, etc. Plus, I made the cheerleading squad. Neither of us have time for him and my boyfriend's family can't take him. Mom wants me to reconsider adoption, but I can't give up my baby now! But I also don't want to give up being a cheerleading and all the other fun stuff in high school. Mom's afraid my grades will slip. So am I. But my bf and I have grown so attached to ourson. We plan on getting married and raising him together once we're out of high school. But what can I do until then? It's too stessful! HELP!!! Please!
Well first off..a 5 month year old son ehh?
anywho..
dont get your hopes up on getting married to your boyfriend. I know many many situations were the guy backs out because it gets so stressful, because..well..they can.
I'm not saying this is going to happen to you, I'm just saying that plans change really easily..especially when your this young. So dont expect that you will have a husband to help with the baby at 15 yrs old.
Now about the adoption thing.
I cant tell you what to do.
No one can.
But its really unfair for your mom when she has to raise your child..even though you would be helping, she stopped having kids for a reason.
I also know of a person who had to raise their daughters baby for about 6 or 7 months until the mother of the baby finally got her head on straight. It was hard for the baby, because she thought her grandma was her mother, it was hard for the grandma and it was hard for the mother. So if you feel like you wont be able to handle this..I'm sorry but adoption is probably the best thing.
You have to make sacrfices. Especially when you have a baby. Sorry, but your high school life is going to be way different than anyone elses, because you are a mother. I would think and hope that your own child would come before cheerleading.
Its going to be extra hard to keep your grades up with having a baby around. You should know that, you've probably been told many times.. but it is possible to keep up your grades AND have a baby. Its hard..but if you work hard enough you can do it.
Just stay in school. You need an education so you can get a good career to help support yourself and your child. This child is going to be your responsibility for a good 18 years..you need to have a good job to support everything.
Well, good luck with everything.
i found out a while ago that my parents are going to africa in december and they want to take me aswell, now as im too young by law to stay home by myself they are making me come(i cannot stay at a reletives house due to other problems) ive told my parents and theyre not budgeing so heres my question.....how do i get out of going to africa?
WHY WHY WHY would you want to get out of going to AFRCIA? How many times do you think an opportunity would come up for you to go again???
Go there and have fun. Stop complaining and trying to get out of things that some people would give ANYTHING to do..
Okay,here it goes I think that I am ugly and i have acne and sometimes i think that guys dont like me becoz i am ugly how do i feel better bout myself how do i make myself feel good and how do i feel comfartable around hot guys im always so nevrs bout pimples and i have proactive but it doesnt work that good so how do i make myself feel pretty????????
Next time you feel self concious about your acne..take a look around you. Look at how many people have acne. There are tons of people with it, and you might not've even noticed it on some people.
Just be confident about your self. Stand up straight, walk with your shoulders back, head up, and make eye contact. Acne is very normal in teens. But if you really really want to improve it, maybe see a dermatologist. They will know more of what to do.
Just be confident though, even if you dont feel confident, act like you are.
ok so her it is.
i have this boyfriend and we have been going out for almost 10 months.
i just recently moved to hawaii.
i dont know if he wants to stay in a long distance relationship, and when i ask him he says yes, but i dont know if he is telling the truth because he always sounds kindof shakey or something.
I'm not sure how i can ask him to not make him feel nervous or something.
What should i like ask him?
Well, you didnt say where you lived before, but Hawaii is pretty far away from everything so..
I honestly wouldnt have a long distance relationship. It makes things hard because you cant see each other every day, just talk.
And it might be fine to just talk to each other for the first couple weeks or so..but then you dont know if he is off with another girl on the weekends, because your all the way over in hawaii.
You might've trusted him before, but trust me..its alot easier for guys to cheat when their girlfriend is 1000 miles away.
It will be hard to break up with him, and it will break your heart, but your heart will heal.
okay so how do you make an icon at iconators.com thankx.
I tried to go to it but it says its not a real website.
ummmm yea how do u know if u have ADD without going to a doctor?????? cause people have told me i may have ADD but i dont know yet
Lots and I mean LOTS of people think/say they have ADD. I dont know why, but they do.
You cant be positive on having it unless you go to a doctor, so if you feel for some reason that you dont want to go to a doctor, you probably dont have it.
Lots of teenagers get sidetracked VERY easily. ADD is pretty serious so you probably dont have it. If you did, you would probably WANT to go to a doctor to get it checked out and try to help it.
My boyfriend has another girlfriend and I known this from the start it piss`s me off but I love him to much to leave him and stuff but his bestfriend/cousin said I have to make him like me more then her. But I just don`t know how to do that. What should I wear, what should I say and do. got any advise please help me out :[
You know about your boyfriend having another girlfriend???
DUMP HIM!!
He doesn't deserve to get away with having 2 girlfriends.
DUMP HIM. You might feel bad, but in the end, broken hearts heal, and he's the loser who thinks he can get away with having 2 girlfriends.
my boyfriend nd I had sex with a condom on june 22nd while I had my period (it was my first time having sex) then I got my period again when I was visiting brazil around july 25. we tried to have sex again last week with a condom but I asked him to stop because it hurt.. last night we had sex again with a condom and we went all the way. this morning I noticed that my period is a few days late. is there any way that I could be pregnant? or what's wrong? oo yea.. nd I am 16 nd imy period has been pretty regular for about 2 years now.
Well its good that you used a condom, it minimizes the chance of you being pregnant.
But condoms arent 100% accurate..they are something like 94 or 95% accurate..i think..
so there is a chance you MIGHT be pregnant..but its pretty common that periods are sometimes late too.
so you could always buy a pregnany test just to be sure.
when you put conditioner on your hair do you put it all over your hair/head or just on the tips of your hair??
I, personally, put it all over my head.
I use it the same way as I use my shampoo.
It works fine for me.
Ok So I'm a guy, who has had many girlfriends, but for some reason I find lots of guys attractive. I also like to watch gay porn....why is this???
Maybe your bi-sexual?
Or maybe just curious?
I was just wondering what do you think would be an appropriate age to start dating?
Whenever you find someone who you like, and likes you back. Just dont rush yourself, and dont do anything you dont wanna do.
You should probably wait til your parents are cool with it too, because its a hassle trying to keep up with all the lies you would have to tell them.
I really like this boy. But he doesn`t trust me because of the guys I wen`t out with and hes afraid that I`m going to go back with them but I tell him all the time I`m not going to. So how do I get him to believe me what are some good advice`s?
If he doesn't trust you, I don't think the relationship would work. A key factor in relationships is trust.
Find someone else who trusts you, they are more worth your time.
what are the signs when someone like a girl especialy isnot telling you the whole truth? is there a way to tell?
All the other answers are good, but if you think that her excuses are getting to be pretty lame, and shes having a hard time covering her ass with lame excuses, she is probably lying about something.
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what are you confused about?
Flight 5191 should not have crashed in Kentucky today. Where was God? And does he not love them?
Shit happens.
We don't even know if there is a god or not.
Accidents happen, its a part of life. We have to grieve, accept it, then let go, and go on with our lives.
You, I or anyone could die tomorrow without knowing a single thing about it.
We could get one single piece of information, that would take someone only 2 seconds to say in the next week, day, or even 2 minutes and it could change our life forever.
We dont know what is going to happen to us.
I wouldn't waste my time beating myself up wondering why God didnt help those people when we dont even know if there is a God to help anyone.
OK there is this girl in my choir class that I cannot deal with. I thought she was gonna be in Concert next year and be out of my hair but she's in both classes! I can't deal with her for another year but I don't want to switch out. HELP!!!!
Life is about choices.
Theres always going to be people who want to make your life hell. You better learn how to deal with it now because I have a feeling this isnt going to be the last person who gives you a hard time.
Ok, so you can choose to run away from your problems and switch out of the class
OR
You can talk to this person and tell her that you cant take her immature shit anymore.
Now choose.
i have been taking the contraceptive pill for 2 years now and am in a serious relationship and am looking to get pregnant how long will it be till i concieve???? i stopped taking it last sunday???
Ok. Firstly, how old are you.
If you arent at least in your 20s you shouldnt be having a baby. I KNOW lots of 16,17,18,19 yr olds have babies but its not like they really wanted it.
Are you ready to be taking care of a baby? Do you think you can afford it? And do you have your life on track to be caring for another person?
It sounds like you are a bit on the young side, because the obvious answer is: you will get pregnant when you get pregnant. stop taking the pill, and keep trying til it happens.
so i really liked this guy and i was pretty sure that he liked me to but he was to shy to say it sooo i made the first move and told him that i liked him he told me that he liked me to i was so exited and i thought that we where gunna go out. But summer came and i soon found out that he had gotten a new gf... I thought everything was fine but aparently not... he doesnt really even talk to me enymore..i was so depressed what should I do? What went wrong?
sorry for such a long question plz help tho!!!
Sometimes people like you, and then they find someone they like more, and then they dont like you. Your heart will break, but it will also heal.
You will find someone else.
Welcome to the wonderful world of being a teen.
I think i have a huge stomach, I'm not pregnant or anything, but I keep doing crunches, situps and pushups everynight but am not seeing much of an improvement. How long will it take to see results if I'm doing it everynight???????
I dont really know exactly how long it will take.
But stop eating junk food. That helps alot.
Look at the amount of fat in everything you consume. If you know how many grams of fat is it in, you will know how much you will be putting in you, and how much your stomach will get fatter.
Keep up with the crunches, go for walks, and cut out junk food...you should see a difference in time.
i'm a junior in high school. i have a class that i talk to absolutely no one in. everyone's sort of divided up into they're little groups & i don't fit in with any of them. there's a group of rednecks, a group of mx'ers, the uber-popular kids, athletes & band nerds. i'm none of those things. i just don't have any friends in that class. i won't have a partner for any group assignments either. i feel like a loser sitting there by myself & talking to no one. i've tried getting my schedule changed, but no luck. any ideas on how to talk to the other kids? i feel like i'm intruding or something. idk. HELP!
This is probably the best thing to happen to you.
Talk to these people; make new friends.
They dont have to be your BEST friends in the world, but at least make a new friend, theres nothing wrong with that. Dont be shy, talk to people you never talk to. Whats the worst that can happen..seriously.