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Q: im a freshy in high school and its the 5th week and im just so depressed and tired im already tired n its 6:00 pm n i still got 3 pages of homework and i have E's om almost every freakin class and idk what to do this h.s shit sucks! im so tired all the time and wore out. what should i do? and another thing in my school if you get like 3 E's or something i guess you have to be switched to the alternative high school and trust me i got more than 3 E's...its almost the 1st marking perioud but do you think they make you switch when its the marking period or semester )in jan.)????? conferences are this thursday and my moms gonna fuckin FLIP OUT...i have bad grades in every class except like 2...she knows my situation lately though ive been really depressed with some things that im dealing with but shes gonna be so mad idk what to do! my counselor told me to just kinda tell her ahead of time. should i? can someone tell me what to say? sorry this is so long! thanks.
You should definetely tell your mother ahead of time, otherwise she'll come home from the conferance and totally flip out. It will help a little if you tell her early. Also you should start staying after school for extra help (if possible). When you talk to your mother, ask her about getting a tutor to help you raise your grades!! I hope your mom isn't too hard on you!! Good luck.
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Q: Hey Im Kristen. I just wanted to say that you give some GREAT advice ;) lol Anyways, I also hava ?. My mom has been REALI rude lately..I mean shes NOT actin like a mom..She is acting like a frickin RUDE teenager!! lol I know this sounds Crazi, but its def. tru! I tri ta talk to her, but she just says mean things bak to me, or she ignors me ..I dunno wat ta do..She was never like this before!! :( Shes always down grading me and saying that i look fat n stuff..I know im not SKINNY, SKINNY. lol But im not FAT! >:( Does your mom ever act like that?? PLEASE answer this..I dunno if its jus me, or it reali is HER.lol THANKS SO MUCH..ILL RATE YAll GOOD! ;)**
HI...
I'm not sure why you mom is acting the way she is. There is probably something bothering her. Sit her down and talk to her, do it in a nice way. Ask her why she is asking theway she is and make sure you tell her how you feeel!!!!If you don't wanna talk to your mom talk to another family member or friend that could help. If shes only acting this way towards you then ask that other person to speak to her for you!?! If you have any questions just leave them in my inbox!!Good luck!! xoxo happy.advice

Q: thank you for your advice... my boyfriend, lets call him "jeff", is terrified to tell his parents beause it's totally out of his character. and i still haven't found out how to tell my parents. you gave me advice about something to this sort yesterday. i'm so scared :(
Well, this is really tough. If I was in your situation I would be totally scared too!! If your not ready to talk to your parents, talk to another adult you really trust and ask them their advice about your problem. When yourfinally ready to talk to your parents, sit them down, and tell them. Be very calm and kind about it, let them know that you are okay because they only want what is best for you!! Maybe your parents and Jeff's parents can discuss the problem. I really hope everything works out and that my advice helps!! Good Luck
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Q: Alright I'm 15 and my boyfriend is 17. A while back, we were hanging out; and I guess you could say things got a little out of hand. Well, I recently found out that I was pregnant. Today, my friend Amber (who is also pregnant, but not from my boyfriend) pushed me into telling my boyfriend. He didn't freak out, but he was upset. He told me that it'd be too much of a burden to have a baby now, and so he told me he wanted me to get an abortion. I'm very against abortion. I told him this, and he respected my opinion, but still tried to push me in that direction. He also suggested this "safe baby" thing. I don't really want to put my kid up for adoption either, because I can just imagine how much it hurts knowing your parents gave you up. My boyfriend doesn't want to tell his parents either, but he said he will, but you can tell how reluctant he is. He told me he loved me no matter what, but it was too much of a burden. I know he's not going to dump me, but he is afraid to keep it because he's going to college next year nad still trying to figure out his own life. Someone please tell me what I should do.
Your best option is adoption (haha that rhymes), but really I'm trying to be serious here. Talk it over with your family and bf's family. Having a baby is going to have a huge impact on your life, ecspecially at such a young age. I have plenty of friends that were adopted because their mothers were very young. They are perfectly happy children. Some children will probably be upset about it but you need to make sure they are recieving responsible, kind parents. You should also tlak it over with your doctor and ask them what they think is the best decision. I hope you end up making the right decision, whatever that may be. Good Luck, and congradulations (on being a mother!!) I hope this helps.
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Q: ok im like really white all my friends are way darker then me. anyways you know those different lotions that give you a tan what one works the best and doesnt turn you orange and really dark but gives you a beach tan. i dont want to go to a tanning bed because that can give you skin cancer or something. thanks.
There are SOOOOOOOOOOOO many different lotions that you can use but our right, they turn you yellow. here are 3 good ones to try:

-Loreal sublime bronze tinted self tanning lotion: streak free!! $9

-Neutrogena build a tan sunless tanning lotion: darker with each layer!! $10

-Clinique quick body tinted self tanner mousse: quick drying and tropical scented!! $17

I HOPE THIS HELPS YOU

go to target, walmart or CVS to buy them!!

Q: oK: so i was just watching real world extreme and they were doing that sweating mission (sick!) LoL and there was this song on there: girl u make me wanna sweat... haha somethin like that and those were the only lyrics i could rememeber... does ne1 kno the song name/artist!
i rate every1! THANKS!
everybody told you already!! but its probably

Artist: 112 f/ Ludacris, P. Diddy
Album: Hot and Wet
Song: Hot and Wet

from now on if you don't the name of the song then type in the lyrics you already know into a search engine. It should help you find out what the song is!!
hOpE tHiS hElPeD
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Q: ok i injured my elbow badly a few days ago. im not sure whats wrong. my arm was purple and freezing a few minutes ago, so i moved it (it hurt really bad) but i got circulation back in it. theres a deepish cut on my elbow from my fall and it was scabbed. the scab fell off so i put bactine on it. i dunno whats wrong. i looked up some of my symptoms (tingling arm, tight feeling, etc.)n it said it could be nerve damage. like whenever i turn my elbow it cracks but the other doesnt. it hurts so bad to move it. i dont know what to do right now im scared. tomorrow is school but im not sure if i need to go to the doctor. please help me out. if you need any other info i'll add it in the additional info thing. thank u soo much
Hello, my sister had a simalar injury. You need to go to a doctors and have it checked out!! Its probably broken!! Tell your parents and have them do something about it!

Q: how do u start like a lil webstie thingy ???? where do u go ?? i sjtu want a lil website we i can write stuff and put dollz on and everyone can view it . . . ..help me please ..
I KNOW THIS IS REALLY LATE BUT.......
you can go to www.expage.com

then go to www.lissaexplains.com or www.make-a-web-site.com

good luck!!!!!!!

Q: ok so my 2 best friends are on the country team along with the rest of our "group" well i wasnt bcuz i got hurt so i couldnt, well now im better and the coach asked me why i was runnin and i told him that i wanted to but i was hurt so i couldnt, well now i really wanna, but i would feel bad that if i did join, not only would i be terrible, but i would be joining about 1/2 way through the season...so i dont know if i shoud join or not...help me plz!
If this is somehing you really want to do then ask the coach if you can join, then explain tohim that you will need a little time to get better. ?Practice extra so you will be ready and won't hold the team back. Just don't hurt urself again!! I'm sure the coach and teanm will understand if you explain your situtaion to them. If it doesn't work out practice EXTRA hard for next year!! good luck

Q: What's the best fall style's this year? I've been shopping at American Eagle, and Maurices. I heard Gadzooks is a good place. What else?

I'm also trying to impress my crush. xD
This year it looks like their are alot of cute clothes at AMerican Eagle, Abercrombie and fitch, Aeropostale, Gadzooks, the GAP and Pacsun((pacific sunwear)).... but if you want less expensive clothes go to OLdnavy and DEB, all of the others are really expensive. Gadzooks and DEB are very trendy clothing, i don't know what you like. Pac Sun if really beachy, boyish clothes, such as surfing shorts/shirts, sweatshirts Ect. But the cl;othes are cute, though they are very expensive. Abercrombie and american eagle are simalar, very cute, preppy clothes. Aeropostale is not as popular and wellliked. I personally they use the monkey picture to much, and its sort of childish if your trying to impress a guy. Old navy is cheaper and is a lot like the Gap. I hope this helps!!!

Q: does anyone know how to do the perfect messy bun??? when i try, i always screw it up. thanks!!
1- Brush your hair: Brushing your hair gives your hair the fluffy look, and lets your hair feather out, creating an awesome funky look. Not brushing is big mistake for most girls trying to obtain the "cute" look. If your just pulling your hair back to go jogging or something it isn't as important, but if your going to prom, skipping this step can ruin the look.


2- Use any type of elastic band (avoid rubber bands, they cause hair breakage, knots, and split ends if not carefully removed.) My favorite are the Goody bands with no metal clasp. If desparate you can use anything really (I'm using a plastic zip tie at the moment, and I've been known to use Chop Sticks, Pens, Shoe Laces & Soft plastic bracelets.)


Short hair:

3- You will need to pull your hair through the band at least three times, On the first time, pull hair through like a normal pony tail, then, pull it back through half way, creating a small loop. (here you can get creative, pulling loose ends throught the loop and what not, but thats for you to create and personalize if you wish, not necessary.) Finally, double the loop over and secure with the band. To give your hair the funky loose ends, you have to double the loop so the loose ends stick out 1-2 inches. You may have to practic a bit, but its easy to catch on and personalize. No two messy buns are alike really.


Long hair:

3- Personally I think long hair makes better messy buns, just because it makes a fuller bun, and gives you more to work with. You follow the same basic steps as the short hair, but on the first pull, don't pull your hair through the whole way. When you pull your hair through the second time, twist it around some, pulling it through half way again (not the full length, half of the second length.) repeat these steps until you get your full lenght into the bun. Don't make the bun as tight as possible, because then you lose the messy-ness of a loose bun.



You can add accessories if you like. If you are going to a luau or summer party you can wrap a lei around your bun, or you can stick flowers into it by the stems. It's all about you & your style, you gotta personalize it!


this is from....blueoases.diaryland.com/messybun.html

i hope it helped!!!!

Q: I recently had sex with my boyfriend of 2 years and I haven't been feeling well since. Maybe I'm just paranoid, but I think I may be pregnant. What should I do?
Well, you should definatly tell somebody. I don't know how old you are but if you are old enogh to drive yourself to the doctors you should go. if not definatly tell an adult you trust. Its a very serious thing and you should definatly get help!! I hope i helped!!

Q: Well I have two "friends" and i known them my whole life, we even went to church togather but now it seems like there not my best friends any more because when they get around certin people they start acting like the other people but I stay the same and now we don't talk as much. But sometimes when my friend octavia is around me she starts to talk about my other friend ashely and when ashely comes around shes acts like she didn't say nothing her and when they get togather they leave me out what should I do?
I know exactly how you feel because the same thing happened tome. You need to talk to them about how you feel. Thats whatI did. Tell them your feeling left out. If you can't bring yourself to do it ask another friend, or person who you know to talk to them, without lettinf them know how you feel, they would say something like"are you mad at________" not "____ thinks your mad at her" Hopefully you and your friends can work somethingf out!! I hope your friendship continues!! Hope this helped!.bye

Q: Does anyone know where I can download the Bittorrent file for the original TV series of Mega Man, the episode called: Mega X?
search on www.google.com:):) its a good site!!

Q: What does 143 mean ? im a little slow.
143 means I LOVE YOU
but girls will often use it for their friends...EXAMPLE./..
katy:bffe 143
any more questions on internet language just ask me!@!!@

Q: whats that band that there nickname is A7X??
Avenged Sevenfold a Goth-metal band

Q: well...i am a cutter. i have been cutting for about a year now. by the way i am 13 and female. i want to know why i feel so great after i do cut. its like nothing is wrong after i cut. i have tried to stop....but it has never worked.

also... do u know where i could find other people that are self addmitted cutters?
Cutting does not help. Its all in your mind, you are leading yourself to believe that physical pain takes away emmotional pain when really you are just committing suicide over a long period of time. If you ever try to go near a knife or sharp object again, just stop yourself, tell yourself that it will ruin your life, because it will. It you believe it isn;'t going to help you, it won't help you. Talk to your parents tell them to hidfe knifes and stuff, give them yours so they can hide them. Or you can talk to a guidence conselor or phyciatrice and see if they can help. Goodluck!!

Q: ok i really like this one guy but hes popular and im not exactly the most popular kid in school! but i really like him! wut could i do to make him notice me?
If you really like this guy you shouldn't chaznge yourself to make him like you. Try talking to him while he's not around all of his friends, like after school or before classes. But if he turns outto be a real jerk and doesn't like you because of your social status than don't waste your time. Find somebody who likes you for who you are.

Q: Hi my name is Jess i have this really really close guy friend who has been my friend since 1st grade now he has a g/f and i dont like him but for some reason i feel jealous. Could anyone tell me y im jealous?
You are probably jelous because you have known him for so long and you can't picture him with a girl friend. Also, you probably don't want him to get hurt. Its okay to try to protect him, but you have to let him make his own desicions like he would with you.

Q: heyyy every time i straigten my hair in the morning it takes like an hour and its like sooo perfectly straight every morning...but then at school its humid andd it gets all curly and looks bad. do you know why it does this? is it cuz my hair kind of has a natural wave to it or cuz my straigtener is not good enough?? if you know anything thatll help this or why this is happeninng lemme know thanks
Hi
First of all, if you straighten your hair all the time you should be using a ceramic straightner. Not only does it workl better than a flat iron, but it is also much better for your hair. The reson your hair gets curly is because of the humidity. Usually people who have naturally curly hair have really bad luck with humidity. If you want straight hair you could try japanese straighting. It permenently straighens curly/frizzy hair(ofcourse, hair will still grow in curly) But the =bad part is that it is VERY expensive, 300 dollars and up!!
Finally, there are many hair products, such as straightening spray or gel to keep your hair straight. Good Luck with your hair. Remember curly hair is pretty too.

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