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“My music will go on forever. Maybe it's a fool say that, but when me know facts me can say facts. My music will go on forever.”
what song is that from by Bob Marley? (link)
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I'm not sure thats even from a lyric from a song, I am under the impression that its simply a Marley quote. I could be wrong though /shrug. Possibly from "Bob Marley: Talking".
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I am almost positive that one of my professors is changing our answers on tests so that we get better grades. Let me start from the beginning....
After the class took the midterm exam, I was looking over my answers and I noticed that some of the writing was kind of funny. I thought, geez I must have been really tired when I took this test, and I let it go. Then, some of the other people in the class started whispering about it. Apparently someone had changed some of our answers to the correct answers before the tests had been graded! We all assumed that a student aid or graduate student had done it.
What's the problem then you might ask. I got a better grade so I shouldn't complain, right? Well, I try my best to be a good person and the fact that that had happened made me feel sooo guilty. It stressed me out to no end. I don't need to get a great grade in the class. With the corrections my score had been boosed from about a 70 to a 90. I didn't need the extra points. All I have to do is pass the course.
I didn't want to be the tattle tale and ruin everyone's day by possibly making the entire class take the midterm over again, but I couldn't deal with the dishonesty I was feeling. Later in that day I went to talk to the professor about what had happened. I liked her and I thought that telling her was the right thing to do. She seemed very understanding and told me to just keep working hard and that she would take care of it. I felt so good after I did it and knew that it had been the right choice. Well, nothing was done about it and I began to wonder.
We took another test and when I was handed my test back I got a "Great job!". When I noticed that the same thing had happened I almost cried. Nobody else in the class seems to mind, but it is tearing me apart. Now everyone is almost positive that it is the professor that is doing it. It's almost the end of the semester and I worry now that we'll all have to take the whole course over again. I can't afford to do that! I have just enough time to fit all the classes in that I need to graduate.
I think I know the reason why she does it (if she does). She isn't allowed to make her own tests or assignments for us. It has to be the same for everyone that is taking the class. The head of her department makes everything and she is often confused on what to teach us and what to tell us to study. I think that this is terrible and that a professor should be able to teach the way they want. Boosting our grades like she does (or allowing it to happen) is her way of giving us a curve.
It makes sense and it seems like a good thing, but if it's supposed to be the same for everyone taking the class, then my class is getting a very unfair advantage! Yeah, there needs to be some change, but it should be done in an honest way! There are so many better ways to have handled that. I believe that the professor is retiring after this semester so I don't think it would affect much in her life if she was found out.
Should I tell? I think I probably will anyway. I don't want to have to live with this for the rest of my life. If I do, who should I go through? The head of the department or someone higher in the college? She doesn't let us keep the tests and I have a feeling that if she were being investigaed for this that they would mysteriously go missing. With no proof, can anything really be done?
I give a lot of advice, but now I need some myself. I have no idea how I would answer this question if it were asked by someone else. Am I doing the right thing? I doubt anyone has gone through something similar to this and can offer an experience based answer. I shouldn't have to deal with this, I'm a student! I should be the one that's cheating if anybody! HELP!!
~sizzlinmandolin, (20/f) (link)
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This might be specifically uncommon, but the situation in 'higher education' that likely prompted her actions is not. I wouldn't tell, and let me tell you why:
With state/community colleges (I'm assuming thats what you are in) there is a money/business component. This has been happening all over for some time; schools don't want to raise the bar too high, otherwise the fear is that students will go somewhere easier, somewhere they can just take their classes and get their degree. Instructors are discouraged from failing too many people across the board; in fact, if an instructor were to have an incredibly bad grade average for their students, they might be shown the door. Tough grading and high expectations becomes "bad", and instructors are forced to back off of their own expectations of what their students should aspire to. I had several instructors that told us that straight out, it wasn't even a secret lol. It was more or less "If I had my way, I'd fail half of you, you obviously didn't study. Consider yourselves lucky I value my job".
She might resent being in the position she is in. Picture yourself in her shoes - you cannot choose material, your syllabi is not your own, if you fail too many students using someone elses material you might be fired. Unfortunately, in many schools, there is an invisible line to toe. Fail too many or grade too hard, and the front office gives you your walking papers.
If she is retiring, maybe talk to her about it? Mention to her "Hey, theres this odd thing I noticed about the tests...". Maybe she'll volunteer some info, I dont know.
In the end though, what you learn is largely determined by you, and grades do not always reflect that. I would just study as hard as you can and try to not let this bother you. Also, if you report it, nothing might happen, other than if word gets out and other instructors decide to be more careful around you. Sadly, it is often in a schools best interest to NOT go after teachers that teach the material, and go out of their way to give 'good' grades. This way, more people shell out cash for classes and the school makes money.
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my boyfriend always checks other girls out on the street, it really bugs me and am scared its cuz he's lookin for someone better? should i be worried? please let me know and do all guys do this , he tells me he loves me but im not so sure cuz it bothers me :( help~ (link)
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Lots of people do this, I know men and women that are always rubbernecking when someone walks by. I try to keep myself somewhat in check, but even I have to admit that on occasion someone walks by and I cannot help but thinking "Wow, she's really cute".
That doesn't mean I want to go hook up, all it means is...well...she's cute - it doesn't mean there is a sexual component to it. There's tons of cute women out there, and I hope you won't be stressing every time your man looks or you'll be stressing out a lot. However, if this bothers you, then feel free to tell him that it does. He can either try to stop, or at least try to not be so obvious about it. I myself don't when I'm with a woman, thats a bit rude imo, and just asking to either get slapped, or left at the dinner table alone. Hell, even when I'm with friends I try not to do it (staring that is), a glance is enough - my feeling is that many women get creeped out when men leer at them, and I try not to be a dirtbag lol. Just talk to your BF, and try to work something out. If he's worth keeping, he'll try for your sake at least.
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recently I've gotten a new atatude(sp?) on life due to the fact i've joined the army and lost 37 pounds, now if that isn't a confidence booster I don't know what is. but anyway i've liked one of my friends for quiet a long time about 2 years now come to think of it, and two days ago I asked her out... unfortunately(sp?) she is going out with someone that she knew in high school and he is off at college but she's back here and quite frankly stuck at home till the spring semester starts. The reason i'm asking this question is that i don't know my chances of he actually calling it of with the guy, btw they have broken up before and their relationship is patchy at best... and going with me. when I left her house two days ago she was really pondering the thought of did she actually like her current bf... and when we hugged and said our goodbyes to eachother I told her that even if she didn't choose to go out with me I was happy I told her and she responded "I'm glad too"*she smiles* the only thing is that i haven't heard from her in two days so i'm a little nervous about the whole thing... exp since we are supposed to hang out today at noon or so... if anyone is still up at this time it'd be a great help to know your thoughts on my stiuation
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Well I would try not to worry about it all that much. She might be confused, or feel that she can't do anything with you due to her on again/off again relationship with this other guy. I'd just take it as a friendship with her, and leave the ball in her court. If she changes her mind, she'll let you know if she's interested.
Besides, if you are in the Army now, I'd avoid relationships with people 'back home', unless there is enough of a connection that if something were to develop relationship-wise the woman would be willing to chase you around the world everytime you come up on orders. Otherwise, it'll be an awkward long-distance relationship /shrug. In my 4 years in the Army, I only saw this kind of thing work once or twice, and that was between high-school sweethearts who got married. Every other time, things fell apart.
Your 18, single, and in the military - do what everyone else does. Go out locally where you are stationed and meet single people you dont have to fly or take a bus to see. You dont have to write this girl off, but I wouldnt get your hopes up for anything more than being friends.
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If I get broadband, will it run on my phoneline or does it run via satellite or soemthing else? I'm asking this because I don't have a phone socket in my bedroom, and thus to be connected to the internet (I'm on dialup) I have to use a cord that stretches from downstairs where the phone is connected to upstairs. Quite annoying. I've already signed up for broadband, and they're connecting it in a few days. However to get a phone socket in my room I have to pay 300 bucks and I don't have this kind of money! So can someone explain to me how broadband works? I'm hoping it won't mean I'll have tog et a phone socket.
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While I am not sure what you are getting exactly, or through whom, it sounds like you are getting cable internet. All it is, really, is internet run on cable for higher bandwidth.
The $300 dollars for the phone jack on the second floor is either what it would cost to have someone "fish" a cable up a wall from the basement to the second floor (and thats a horrible pain), or there is an easier way - you can simply run a cable/line up the outside of your house and drill a hole from the outside, and stick it straight in.
This is what I've seen done for both phone and cable. Short of hiring an electrician and paying some $$$, no one wants to spends hours trying to run wiring inside a finished wall (the electricians dont either, and thats why they charge by the hour usually for that). I'm sure the installer has seen, and done, this before - you can just have him/her run it up the side of your house and in through a wall (unless they are completely lazy). Or you can do what you do for you phone and have it come in downstairs and run more cable/rg6 or cat5 upstairs. If you dont want a hole drilled willy-nilly in an upstairs wall from outside and you dont want to run wiring up the stairs again, you could have the internet installed downstairs, and get a wireless router.
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There's this boy in my P.E. class(I'm in the 7th grade, and I just turned 13 last month), and he's constantly annoying me. At first, he just snuck up on me from behind and poked me on either side of my rib cage. Later that day he poked me once more and tried to two more times, but I dodged him. He kept calling out my name randomly in wierd voices, and I just gave him wierd looks.
Then, when out class was in the gym the next day, he kept on calling "lauren sucks!" during class. I just ignored him.
The the next day, he's friends with my best friend, Jenna. At break I'm hanging out with her and my other friend, karly, and he's standing with his friends near by. He turns around and says hi to Karly and Jenna, the turns to me, points, and says, "Look it's Lauren!"
I just raise my eye brows and he turns to his and nudges him, saying, "Hey! Look it's lauren!" I roll my eyes and say sarcastically, "No really? Where?"
Later that day, at P.E. (which is our last class) he poked me once more, and tried to throw pebbles at me. At first I didn't know he was aiming at me, but once he said 'ah, I missed!' I knew he was aiming at me. I turned at looked at him, and he threw another pebble then asked, "Did it hit you?" and I said no. He threw a couple more and none of them hit me.
When I was walking back to the number I'm supposed to stand on, he passes me and tries to steal my headband. I smiled and say playfully, "Oh! You like that ninja reflexes!" he shakes his head and says, "Ninja? Please..." He smiles and walks away.
Jenna says he likes me. But does he like me or is he just being immature. Another thing, I noticed he started to notice me when I go my new hair cut and started straightening my hair everyday. (link)
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Mel beat to what I was going to say. At 13, this boy isn't going to be suave and refined. IMO he likes you on a level he doesn't even realize yet, and likely he doesnt even know how to put it into words or actions. I doubt he's in the full-on throes of puberty just yet, and he still hasn't figured out just where girls/women fit in, in the big picture.
I'd assume its just a harmless, pre-pubescent adolation/infatuation at this point, and boys that age simply do not know how to act when put in this situation. Probably all he knows is how to act with other boys his age, girls are something he has no clue about (other than the usual pulling of pig-tails type things) and he is going to have to learn through trial and error, which is possibly what a lot of his actions are atm. Think "being a boy and rough-housing", and then trying to merge with how to behave with girls/women (something he might know nothing about).
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I just found out that my hubsand is cheating on me and he told me that it is over between him and the other woman I don't know if i should beleive him or just file for a divorce
i've been with my hubsand for 29 years and he just cheated on me with another woman 3 years ago and moved with her and i took him back after 8 months and now all over again
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While 29 years is something I can only hope to equal at some point in the future, I'm not sure that its important enough to stay together for.
Having happened twice now, this could easily become a pattern, and I doubt you would want to dance this dance ever again.
In the end though its your call, it could be that you love him enough to give him another chance. But, to be honest, I hope you wouldn't simply be putting yourself into a position for more of the same.
Myself, as a man, I don't understand this kind of behaviour. I am of the mind that if I am so disinterested in my current relationship that I would be tempted to cheat, then it is a relationship I need to end before moving on. My fear for you would be that given what I just said, I cannot deny the possibility that your husband is actually finished with your marriage and is simply trying to play both sides.
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Ok, so I have been doing Taebo every Monday, Wednesday and Friday for the last few weeks. I am a 16/f and I am just wondering how long it takes for the results to start showing?? I am 5'6" and weigh 210, does the Taebo actually take away the weight or does it just tone the body?? Thanks so much for your help, Need answers as soon as possible!!!! (link)
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Its possible that you might not lose any weight overall, if you are gaining muscle mass at the same time.
This could take awhile, and might require more than a few weeks - it might require an entire change of lifestyle, with exercise as an integral part of your routine.
For some people results can be hard, hence all the disclaimers on the adds that say "Results not typical" when they show someone with a model body and 5% body fat (I know the % isn't realistic).
It could take several months for you to see change, everyone is different. Your body has to adjust to the exercise and hopefully you will end up burning calories at a higher rate and see results soon...but how soon is anyones guess really.
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My friend is such a copy cat. she won't stop copying me! lik eyesterday i changed my myspace to a christmas theme and she did do and got like the same layout as me but mine had strips and hers didn't. then, me and this guy(mike) have been talking for awhile and she is purposly trying to lead him on and now shes ahead of me on his top eight and she thinks its all cool to lead him on. he is kind of a pervert so if he says something gross to me i say ew or that won't happen but she will go along with the pervish stuff. what should i do about her copying and her stealing everything i have? (she has stolen more then just a guy or attempted to) should i talk to the guy about her and shoul di talk to her? or just stay out of it? (link)
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Imitation is the sincerist form of flattery.
I wouldn't let it bother me. At most, its ammunitoin for friendly jabs and pokes. of course, your friend could deny everything so I wouldn't press home the thought too much.
If this guy is a pervert, I'm not sure I would care too awfully much about her leading him on. It might be less that she is stealing him, and more that she is willing to deal with him as a pervert, if you arent. If you are interested in him, than make a move /shrug. If not, then just watch the impending train wreck.
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I'm doing a small progect on Comte de Rochambeau, and every time I search on him I get a name way longer, with his name in it. To be specific, i get Jean-Baptiste Donatien de Vimeur, comte de Rochambeau. Is that his full name? Should I search for information using this full name? Will I obtain more results that way, because using Comte de Rochambeau doesnt help me get anything. THANKS!
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As far as I know Comte de Rochambeau is a title, but he is often referred to by this, rather than the rest of his name. I couldn't find anything to back this up however, though I am fairly sure its a title along the lines of 'duc'.
http://xenophongroup.com/mcjoynt/rochamb.htm is probably the best reference I found online, you would probably do better hitting the libraries or jstor rather than the internet though.
But anyways, yeah , you'll probably find more looking for "Comte de Rochambeau" or simply "Rochambeau" than "Jean-Baptiste Donatien de Vimeur".
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if i have a very addictive personality [cutting 3 years,ect.] how do i overcome this..and theres not more behind this story. doctors never diagnosed it as anything. also can anyone explain what an addictive personality is really. (link)
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Realize that you might very well not be 'addicted', but simply have underlying problems and cutting is needed as an outlet.
The term "Addictive Personality" isn't universally accepted, not everyone in the medical field believes it even exists. Being that it is neurological, and that we know so little about the brain actually, a lot of this is guess-work. Some draw the line at your personality, others feel it is deeper than that.
My belief is that any predisposition towards addiction is a melange of various factors such as mental state, emotional happiness/unhappiness, personality, possible social position and various other factors. Short of seeing a doctor or other mental health professional, I would be hesitant to classify you in any way, other than to perhaps suggest going to see someone as cutting really isn't anything good. Often its a cry for help, or a phyusical manifestation of emotional turmoil. Sometimes its a way to fit in or to define yourself socially in a world that doesnt seem to make a whole lot of sense.
If you've never seen a doctor over it, I'd suggest going.
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I'm a 21 year old woman and I live alone. My next-door neighbor is a middle-aged man, and I feel that he gives me excess attention. Since I moved here last year, he's left several gifts on my doorstep, including t-shirts, candies, home-grown vegetables, and long letters about how people come into your life for a reason. He often offers to fix up my car or cook for me. Last year, I contacted my property managment and, without naming names, let them know that a neighbor was being too friendly. What scares me is that they knew it was him, and he laid low for a bit. Eventually he confronted me, jokingly asking if I really thought he meant me harm. At one point, a policeman knocked and asked me if I knew my "older, African-American neighbor" but wouldn't tell me why. I feel somewhat guilty of racism and snobbery, but, more importantly, I don't feel entirely secure. He might be spying on me. He knows if I've been napping or on my computer. Tonight I was dozing off on the couch, having a little alone time, when he knocked. I have blinds, but I noticed they were a bit tilted. When I opened, he asked if I were "daydreaming" and then asked my boyfriend's name, claiming he might have received a package for him. I've had all kinds of weid encounters with him in the past--he told me I was hot once, and once my boyfriend and I forgot the window was open, and I when we left my apartment, we saw he had hung a bag of candy from my doorknob. Truth be told, he gives me the creeps. Am I a racist or a snob, or do I really have something to worry about? Contacting the management didn't work, so what should I do?
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"I'll take 'Creepy' for 800, Alex."
He might be odd, or crazy, its hard to tell where the line is drawn. Its important for you to take precautions though - keep yourself safe and secure. If you do that, this becomes for the most part "Oh there goes our crazy neighbor again". I'd get some mace, just in case. Keep your house locked. If you and your BF are close, have him stay at your place sometimes (though, be careful not to let your BF get riled up and start a confrontation). And remember your windows.
Its not about racism, its about him making you uncomfortable.
If all he is does is say odd things, and do things like leave candy, then you really dont have anything you can do beyond taking precautions. The guy could simply be odd, and lonely, which while it isn't a crime, his actions aren't anything more than...well as you said, creepy. IMO most of the things could be interpreted diffrently by different people, with the exception of the letters. Save those, photocopy them. If the police come by again, or if something else happens that forces you to go to the police, the letters stand as proof of where his mind has been.
If you leave out the letters he wrote, and the fact that he is 'middle-aged', I would have guessed that he was one of those senior-citizens that is a little nosey (watches through windows) and dotes on their neighbors (gifts, help, etc). Though, I do wonder how you can be sure that HE wrote them, I doubt he signed them...have you seen him leave them there? The police will ask you that, and other questions as well.
He could just find you attractive /shrug.
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I don't understand this. Many people are beginning to say X-mas. Well, the whole point of Christmas is because it is the birth of Christ. Isn't calling Christmas X-mas taking the whole point of Christmas away? (link)
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I'm sure that there is going to be a gazillion more questions asking this exact same thing between now and Christmas.
No, the whole point of Christmas ISN'T to celebrate the birth of Christ. It is for Christians, but not for the billions of Atheists, Agnostics, and people of other faiths who really, really, couldn't possibly care less. For you and your church, your family and your fellow Christians it is, but please don't just assume that you have sole rights to the holiday because the Church took the name of Christ and put it on the date of a pagan holiday to suit their own religious agenda.
Billions of people around the world who dont share your views, simply see it as it has been for generations: a chance to celebrate the holidays.
The current Christian tradition, including X-mas, is a direct result of the Christian Church moving their own holidays onto pagan dates (All Saints, Easter, Christmas, etc) as well as adopting traditions from those pagan festivals. Especially since that for centuries Christmas wasn't a celebrated holiday among Christians, the Church was simply trying to stop the Pagan celebrations during that time. It was after their failure to stop the paganism ouright, that the Christian church changed their strategy to one of absorbing pagan traditions into a celebration that would befit the 'birth' of Jesus Christ, thereby changing the pagan worship into Jesus worship. Without the adoption of pagan traditions (christmas tree, yule log, gifts, decorations, etc etc) Christians still might possibly not even celebrate Christmas at all, or if they did, it would be in a much more restrained manner. As it is, Christianity embraced many of the facets of the holiday that the pagans had created, now the Christians can't get rid of them. It was the early Christian church that encouraged this kind of celebration, and its ironic that today many Christians feel that it is the fault of the non-christians that Christmas is how it is.
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Ok so a lot of people tell me i am too thin. I've done those online calculators and they say i am, but you can't really trust those things because they don't take in to consideration a lot of important factors, you know. So, I thought if people could look at my pic site and give me their honest opinion? Thanks. http://www.picturetrail.com/photos/blondina75 (link)
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If you aren't sucking your stomach in (it doesnt look like it but I could be wrong) then I have to agree with most everyone else. Its possible to be naturally thin, but you do indeed look, possibly, too much so.
I'd go see a doctor and be TOTALLY honest. Remember if you lie to a doctor, or omit importntt facts, you'll make it much harder for them to diagnose you correctly. If you eat very little, exercise a lot, anythign even remotely important, you would need to mention. Answer whatever is asked with complete honesty. That way the doctor will be able to take into everything into consideration and tell you if you are simply naturally very thin, or if you need to change your calorie intake, etc etc. I have to admit I've known people this thin /shrug. But I cannot tell from pictures if this is normal for you or not.
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ok well my friend max is an athiest. he doesnt belive in any kind of god. hes like a science nerd so that probably has something to do with it. well i really want him to belive in God but i dont know how i can talk to him about it. we arent close enough to talk about that stuff. what should i do? (link)
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1. Pray for him. Thats all you can do.
2. Realize that free will is a pisser, sometimes. Even God respects free will; I myself do too, to an extent.
3. Talking to him will likely anger him, and make him feel like you are pressuring/preaching to him. He could come to resent you for it. Preach, and you may drive him further away.
4. Be there for him, support him - if he is ever to become Christian, it needs to be in his own way and in his own time.
5. Accept him how he is. If he changes, he changes.
6. Be aware of how Evangelism and Proselytism is viewed by non-Christians. If your Church is big on this, you'll need to think further on how to approach him w/o offending him (which is often impossible or nearly so)
"The world has more winnable people than ever before but it is possible to come out of a ripe field empty-handed." - Donald H. McGannon
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My wife and I own a business where travel is necessary. I have a valued employee that would be very difficult to replace - and he is a close friend, and I do not want to replace him - even if keeping him would pose difficulties.
My wife is involved in our travels, as is our employee. Since we are sometimes away on business for as much as 2 weeks or more at a time, we have structured our travel so that his wife can accompany him. We have given her some light duties and some limited employment, and we pay both her travel expenses, as well as his, including meals and lodging. This is an accomodation for him, and for their well-being.
However, she takes advantage of us at every opportunity. We enter a restaurant, suggesting a price range for the meal we are willing to obtain, and she often exceeds this amount by almost double. When trying to deal with it, our employee lets us know that he wants her left alone by us - but he does not correct her. He appears to be afraid of her.
She refuses to be accountable to us or to him - and has caused several problems on our last trip. She insinuated herself and her agenda into a meeting that she was in attendeance at, though she had no business doing so.
At a restaurant with people with whom we had just done business (and where they picked up the tab), I was horrified to see her take a handful of butter in her hand (and palm) and then butter corn on the cob by rubbing it with her butter drenched hand. It was disgusting, and I had to leave the table for a bit.
When trying to correct the situations, both she and her hiusband say that I am treating them like children, and he will not allow me to correct the situation - nor will he.
An association we all belong to has had some complaints brought against her for her prima-donna actions - and they are being dealt with separately by that organization for her attitude and actions.
Our business is in the area of fine arts, and he is very gifted in this area - and very hard to replace. Replacing him would, in all likelihood, cause us to have to cease operations in our business for 3 to 6 months - and would hinder our business for up to a year. He knows this and, he seems to be aware that they have us over a barrel.
He has been a good friend and is highly valued by us. Letting him go would cripple us, and we have contemplated actually closing our business rather than allowing this to continue as is - or to operate in a crippled manner with his departure. The problem is her - not him - but he refuses to travel unless she accompanies us.
Perhaps the weight of comments from those on this site as to the outrageousness and unreasonableness of her behaviour will convince them that they need to change.
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Unfortunately, it is your business - and unless you want to allow them to drive it into the ground, its your way or the highway. Of course I'm not advocating heavy-handedness here, in fact I would advise against it (and I suspect from what you have written, that you know this as well).
I myself would simply tell him that she is causing an unacceptable level of stress and that if he does nothing to reel her in, that your hand will be forced. Indeed, if this continues and gets worse, it may be. You seem to be going out of your way to be fair to them, I would suggest reminding him of this and telling him that you are fast approaching the point where you will have to put your foot down.
I wouldn't draw the line at her coming along on the trips - I would forbid her from being there for business activities however. I would suggest telling this man that since she has caused such negative feedback, that you feel that it would be best if she were simply 'along for the ride' and not there for "light duties and limited employment". As far as I would be concerned, I (being far less attached to them than you are obviously) would drop a hint that if she cannot control herself or let others rein her in, then she would be welcome to stay in the hotel room for the duration of the business activities.
If it seems that he still won't budge, I'd actively start looking for a replacement (even if that means looking for someone with little/no experience and grooming them). It's up to you whether or not to tell him this, you could simply tell him that you'd love to keep him, but that you can no longer put up with the drama and you are out of options. I'd also consider mentioning to him that this has gone so far as to prompt you to consider closing your business, as a measure of how far it has gone. Hopefully he will see the writing on the wall and grudgingly try to do something with his wife.
Though I myself am somewhat educated, I come from a rural background - and I have NEVER seen or heard that method of buttering corn. Even when in the Army, where etiquette was somewhere between "wipe the mud off, its ok" and "you have 60 seconds to eat what is on your plate", people would have raised an eyebrow. My gut instinct is that she is well aware that you (and her beau) are reluctant to say anything, and is deriving no small amount of pleasure in making you squirm. In essence, it is like some sort of a power-trip she is on, and she is daring you (and/or her husband) to stand up to her, where she will probably fight back when confronted. But I dont think letting it go and avoiding conflict will help in the long run, I would imagine she would become more and more uncontrollable.
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I know that if you crack your fingers a lot, that you're bound to get Arthritis, but I also hear cracking you back is good. I tend to crack my neck a lot, will that somehow cause Arthritis? (link)
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Usually, no - popping joints wont cause arthritis. I would advise against you popping joints 24/7 though like some people do. Overdo it and you can cause inflammation and swelling, which is about the closest anyone can get to linking joint popping with arthritis, as many believe that eventually excessive abuse of joints can contribute to arthritis, or hasten its onset. But that is mostly speculation, and studies of joint cracking have been mainly inconclusive. If you pop a joint and it continues to hurt beyond the split-second that the popping lasts (such as it being somewhat sore for extended periods of time afterwards), you might want to stop and go see a doctor or a chiro. You stand a good chance of having some other damage that whas incidentally aggravated (though possibly not caused) by the popping. For example, I've had ligament/tendon problems that popping would have caused pain with, but popping didn't cause them by a long shot.
I used to crack my neck all the time - hard. I'd start out by snapping my head left and then right as hard as I possiby could in a fast motion, it wasn't gentle at all. Eventually I would grab my head and twist. My chiro has told me it was likely that over time this behavior, along with an auto accident I had, contributed to my having chronic neck/head/shoulder pain (sometimes with tingling and numbness in my left arm, so I'm pretty sure there is nerve damage). In my case this was more than just 'popping' my neck, I potentially put so much stress on my neck that it did indeed cause damage.
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I have to write an essay on what the press' role is on the executive branch-and for my introduction, I have to include concession views. Does anyone know what that is--?? I have to include three and then identify reasons to be explored..such as?? I've tried looking it up. All I got was this one answer on yahoo or w/e that really didn't help me at all. Can anyoneee here help? Thanks (link)
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Theymos is correct, though let me go a little further. More or less, while making an argument/statement/pov etc, you often want to mention opposing views, especially if you intend to disprove them.
For example, if you were a media type and wanted to go Bush-bashing, you could just say "Bush is bad, blah blah blah". There are a few problems here - for one, you'll seem (obviously) biased as you only presented one viewpoint...and though media has some bias, most media usually tries to avoid making too large of waves (unless maybe talk radio, and lets not argue that here lol). This also makes it easier for others who disagree with you to simply ignore what you present as total rubbish and they'll just keep their own arguments to refute yours. When dealing with political, legal or religious arguments, for example, you will want to consider using concession views unless what you are discussing/proposing is widely agreed upon.
A concession view is, more or less, a clever device used in debate, arguing and the like. In a sense, you kind of get "a foot in the door" so to speak, particularly when dealing with a hostile group of recipients or are dealing with devisive issues. You simply concede a point or points that may run counter to the one you are trying to make. So instead of saying "green beans are good" and having those who disagree ignore the rest of what you have to say, you could say "Though there are those who disagree, green beans are good" or "Many people like green beans; however there are those who disagree". Now you concede that you arent speaking an absolute, you are conceding that there is more than one point of view. Those who disagree with your overall argument may be satisfied enough that you actually recognized their opinion (which might run counter to yours, or your articles) that they wont simply throw what you wrote in the trash. For your essay this is very important - media needs to be careful of how they present articles - they need to be fair as they can. Especially in the current political climate.
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why is ephedrine bad for you? Is it illegal? my aunt takes diet pills with ephedrine in it and I don't see the harm in taking them but everyone says it's bad for you. (link)
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Ephedrine is similar to amphetamines in some regards, though not nearly as powerful. It can affect your heart-rate and blood pressure, and there have been reports of heart problems amongst users - such as tachycardia. Note that Ephedrine is used as a precursor in meth, which is why in some states sales are controlled and recorded.
Ephedrine has indeed never been illegal, at least not altogether. For the most part, the FDA wanted to ban Ephedra and Ephedrine alkaloids in herbal supplements, which the dietary supplement makers argued could not be regulated as a drug, but only as a food. What followed was a legal battle over what was a safe dose, and as to what guidelines the FDA should or shouldn't use. Without getting into the bare bones of the argument, suffice to say that there was a debate over whether the FDA could regulate ephedra and its ilk as a food, or a drug (this led to a burden of proof argument somewhat).
When Nutraceutical originally won its case against the FDA (2005), many believed that would bring about a return to the FDA having to stay out of regulating herbal supplements as much as they had wanted to, and a return to the lagality of Ephedra/Ephedrine derivatives. However, that ruling was overturned in Appeals Court in August of 2006 and more or less supported the FDA's position on Ephedrine alkaloids in dietary supplements. http://www.nutraceutical.com/new/10thcircuitruling.pdf
In the ruling, they refer to this as "Ephedrine Alkaloid Dietary supplement", or EDS. And on P22 of the courts ruling, to sum it all up: "The FDA was not arbitrary or capricious in its Final Rule; the FDA met its statutory burden of justifying a total ban of EDS by a preponderance of the evidence.".
From the FDA site: http://www.fda.gov/oc/initiatives/ephedra/february2004/ (though the page address has 2004, it has been updated)
This of course just happened a smidge over 3 months ago - so for some time it was, indeed in the face of Nutraceuticals victory, un-banned so to speak. Many aren't aware that this was recently overturned however. Note that it is dietary supplements with ephedrine alkaloids, and nothing else! Ephedrine is perfectly legal in other forms and medication - such as OTC medication. You can still get it for asthma (in bronchodilators), cold and allergy medication, as well as traditional Asian medical use.
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About half an hour ago my computer switched itself off and refuses to come back on. I'm reasonably sure it's the power supply that's failed. This is the third power supply that has met it's end in my computer. This one's 720w, which i got to replace the 600w one that was showing signs of failure. I got that to replace the one that came with the computer (less than 600w).
My system specs are as follows:
Pentium 4 3.00ghz
1gb ram
nvidia geforce 7300 with 512mb ram
Windows xp home edition
I have 2 hard drives, a floppy drive and a dvd rewriter.
Does anyone have any idea why I'm needing a new power supply every few months? Any help would be greatly appreciated. (link)
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1. I'd make 100% sure the old supply is indeed bad; I'd try installing it in another case and see whats up if you can. If its another problem (loose wiring/connection for example), you might just be replacing supplies whenever a connection/socket/whatever goes 'wonky'. Kind of like a hot-socket. If you kept the old supplies (long shot I know) I'd try them as well, to make sure they dont work just fine in another case with different wiring, etc.
2. Hopefully you are buying quality supplies. If you are, it is indeed unusual to have this keep happening. I would call the manufacturers of the supplies and pick their brains. If it is something integral to your system (bad cooling, bad position in case, etc) I would think they might be able to point you in the right direction. I'd also be suspicious of the supplies being a problem, if you havent noticed either excessive heat or obvious damage to the supplies (or the particular smell, you'd likely know it if you smelled it).
3. I had the power button go out in a cheap system I had. If you are electrically inclined you can look at it yourself. That, or call the manufacturer of your system and have them help you troubleshoot so hopefully you dont buy a 4th supply if that isnt the problem.
4. Do you have problems with other appliances? Lighting problems? There of course can be external causes too, whether in your house wiring or in the power supplied to your house. As an electrician, I've seen everything from outlet problems (loose/broken/miswired/old/melted) to the wiring itself, and rarely there has been suspected voltage supply problems to the house. If you live in an old house, or an apartment this could be the problem, but thats only a guess. You could try calling your power company and asking if there is any problems but I've only ever gotten denials myself. If there is an intermittent power problem often no one can troubleshoot unless they get lucky and catch it happening ("Looks fine to me" syndrome). You can buy testers for duplex receptacles (like at home depot) that when you plug them into an oulet, they will simply tell you if there is a ground or other problem w/o having to know really what your doing (though you can do this with a multimeter/wiggy if you are experienced). Check to see if the outlet is loose or cracked, replace (or tighten) it if it is.
5. Get a surge protector if you want. Get guality, the ones you get from walmart/target/etc ARE NOT. They are simply glorified outlet extensions, and when they fail, they fail open - they arent usually designed to break the cicuit. I've seen these in houses that have been struck by lightening twice, and everything they were supposed to protect blew out. They just melted. If money isnt an issue, get an electrician to come out. They can look at the circuit to see if there is anything obviously wrong, and either install a surge breaker or a smaller panel to protect multiple circuits. I know Eaton/Cutler-Hammer has surge breakers, but who knows what you have in you basement (or wherever lol).
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