17/f
This is extremely long, I'm so sorry.
I like this guy, he's one of my good friends. I'll call him David.
Heres the thing, my best guy friend, who I'll call Robert, is best friends with David. So we all hang out on weekends and stuff.
Like a month ago they were trying to guess who I liked. My best friend Robert said he'd tell me who he liked if I told him who I liked. Well eventually he found out that I liked David and a few days later Robert admitted to liking me.
I don't like Robert like that and he knows that but we're cool so it's not a problem or awkward or anything.
So I don't know if David likes me, but we text everyday and hang out alot, he'll offer to give me rides home and all that.
Last month I kinda told him that I liked him. He was texting me asking who I liked and I wouldn't tell him and he said he wanted to guess but he'd feel awkward. I told him he probably already knew. He said, "Does his name start with a D, he's taller than you, and can sometimes be a big meanie?" I said yeah so I kinda assumed he knows. Then we hung out later that day with no awkwardness.
But nothing ever came up after that so I kinda assumed he doesn't like me like that.
He's never had a girlfriend so maybe he just didn't know what to say? That's my hopeful side.
When we all hang out they all poke me and I'll punch them back and he does it so much. He's also started giving me massages. So I'm just confused about how he feels. And he took me out to eat today so I don't know.
I don't want to ask him how he feels because I don't want to hear, "I only like you as a friend." Long story to that and I can't take that yet. Plus it'd be awkward to hang out with him alone again.
Robert was looking through my phone so I took his and was reading some of his messages. He was talking to his friend, telling her about how he felt awkward because he's hanging out with potential couples. He named the two other people that liked each other and then named me and David. He said that if me and David ended up going out that he's gonna feel awkward because his best guy friend and his best girl friend were going out and if the break up ends badly then it's just gonna ruin our group.
Anyway, he was expressing that he didn't want me and David to be together.
I was deciding to just give up on the idea but then I realized what other people think shouldn't matter. Because I'm usually so careful about peoples feelings and I'd rather have them happy than myself. But I was thinking, if there is a chance for me and him, I might want to take it. Bad idea?
But Robert messaged me a couple weeks ago saying, "I have good news for you." I said what and he said, "me and David were hanging out and he asked me if I liked you and I said idk then I turned the question on him and he said idk the same way I did."
My brother is friends with them too so one night a couple days ago he was asking me if I liked David. I said, "What? No, where'd you hear that?" He said, "I was asking who he liked and I pointed to each of the girls at lunch and he said no to each of them but when I pointed to you he said I don't know"
That's why I'm confused. Maybe he does like me or maybe he really just doesn't know how he feels.
Should I ask him or should I just let it be and see if something does happen?
Thank you so much and I'm sorry for how long it was.
ok let me tell you 1 thing i like love stories like this. I think what you should do is figure out if he actually likes you David. Ask some questions and if he does actually likes you then don't do anything. Be more attractive and i am pretty sure he will come on his own to ask you out good luck girl. :D
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well both my grandparents died last week and i missed five days of school... im a freshman and im 15.ive made good grades most of my life without tryin much but now im in advanced and im flunking like 3 classes and handing in blank papers. it seems since then i just go and fuck everything up now.i cant study, cant drum anymore, cant write songs, can barelt tlk to people without pissing them off or saying something stupid. i just dont care anymore and ive lost all confidence and self esteem.. i just all out hate myself. i went to my dad to get a pep talk but all he did was call me lazy and told me i suck so that didnt help any. i cant even look in the mirror without hating what i see look back at me. please help me , if i keep this up i could ruin my life or something. i just want to feel whole again
I don't believe this would happen for no reason. There must have been something you stopped doing or something happened and you don't want to do nothing anymore. Think what you might have done go somewhere relaxing and where you can think in peace and try to remember and if you cant then look for something that inspires you. I think you lost something and you cant find it. dig deep :D
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i just broke up with my boyfriend last week and he's going around to all of my ex best friends that he broke up with me? im really confused and apparently he is making things up about me? does anyone have an idea of why hes doing this?
I think he just doesn't like to be dumped. I think you dumped him and now he is trying to get revenge seriously what kind of a guy would do that!
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there is a guy at my school who wont quit annoying me. Does he LIKE like me, or is he just bored and making a sport out of it?
I think he LIKE like you but i might be wrong. If you want to know if he actual does just ask him straight maybe when your alone because he might not tell the truth around other people, or just observe and ask his friends if they can find it out for you. He might actually hate you no offence but there are people like that. i have some at my school 2. GL!
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18/f
my past relationships have ended suddenly because i have a nasty habit when it comes to getting close to someone. i'm very depression-prone. and usually when i'm with someone for awhile and i get depressed (for one reason or another) i start to push them away. press the right buttons, don't care about their feelings, act extremely distant and obviously sad, etc. i don't know why i do it, but i do. and i don't want to anymore. i'm with someone now and i really really love her. this is my first girlfriend. she's been my friend for years and so theres a lot of history there. anyways, lately i've been really down because of stress at work and with my friends. i took it out on her today and she started crying in front of me, and i immediately snapped out of my "fuck everything" mood and felt horrible. now, i know how girls work. i know you're not supposed to shut them out because they obviously think they did something wrong. she hasn't done anything wrong and it took me forever to explain that to her. i ended up buying her a balloon saying "i love you" along with a stuffed animal.
i don't want to make her cry anymore. she doesn't deserve that. we both have decent amounts of stress in our life and i don't want to add to hers. how can i fix the way i act in relationships? i don't want to chase her away like i did everyone else, since she's still my best friend and the only person i don't want to lose.
the best thing you can do if you do that again is say "i'm sorry" and tell the person y you did it. I am pretty sure they will understand. If you want to stop then its going to take some time think of something else you can take your anger on not a person. Find a relaxing place that keeps you relaxed trust me that helps a lot i have anger issues 2. Be alone for a while until the anger goes away. That's pretty much what i can help you with.
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I'm a 10th grader so a sophomore in high school (a private high school) and only 3 or 4 people like me in the whole school (its a VERY small school) I notice that a large group of people (the popular people) whisper to other people about me when they see me. I don't know what ther'ye saying, but i can tell that they're talking about me because they look and me and laugh when they do it. Is this considered bullying or not? How should i handle this? I already have way low self esteem and I know that's bad but I don't know how to get a higher self esteem... It makes me feel really bad and I often go home and cry in my bedroom about it I've told my mom and she just said that I need to ignore it...and I've tried but it seems that there is no way I can ignore it. Please I need help. I don't know if I can confront them i'm also very shy and scared... :(
1 yes You are being bullied i had that last year but you can live through. If you have friends do the same about them. laugh about them and make them actually believe it. or if you don't want to be mean i guess all you have have to do is ignore them there is not much you can do if your nice.
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how do i stop wearing my heart on my sleeve? all my life even when i was little i would try and still befriends with some one that has done me wrong, i always wanted to believe that people just make mistakes and not believe that the ones i care about would be this hate full towards me.
how do i teach my self not to care?
but as far as relationships go. and friend ships how do i stop being a push over? how can i toughen up and stop letting people walk all over me? my dad my mom and sister always tell me im to nice and people treat me the way they do because i allow it. and that nice people finish last, but how can i stop being who i am? my grandma always tough me to treat people the way i want to be treated but that doesn't work. I don't want to start any fights with people so I don't argue and the are usually bigger than me. I'm nice to them and they turn around and talk about me and call me zit face. I even cried when a group of girls started yelling at me calling me pimple face and everyone started laughing. It ruined my whole day. I already have self esteem issues cuz of my acne. People at school always beg and take my school supplies and they beg for my food. These girls in almost all of my classes talk about me for no reason, and I havent done anything wrong. I'm nice to everybody. Every single day there's a kid in all of my classes asking me for paper and pencils. Some people just talk about me to my face for no reason and call me ugly and their friends laugh at it. I always sit in class quiet because I dont want people bothering me. I dont think I can just stop being sensitive, Im one of those people that care about what people say about me. People always talk about me face and I just cant ignore it.Some people even take things out of my pocket, when they don't ask, and I don't say anything. If I dont give them what they want they will be mean and talk about me, it bothers me cuz im sensitive and might cry later on. I don't want people to hate me or try to fight me if I say no or tell an adult. Most of the kids in my first 2 classes cheat off of me, I hate almost all of my classes and I think i'm starting to hate school. Kids at school are just rude to me for no reason and I feel lonely all the time
ok i understand what your going through i went through it 2. If you don't want to end up with mean cheaters and fighters first observe every student in your class and see who is nice and not mean or a cheater. 2 if you don't want to feel like your getting stepped on just toughen up i went through this in 3 grade, i remember what kids did to me in school i cried a lot then i said i wont let this happen again so i observed student in my class if they were mean to me i had hatred in my guts and i looked really mean i speak mean to people who were mean 2 me and nice to people who were nice 2 me. toughen up by remembering what kids did 2 you and feel hatred. say something about them no one is perfect. and don't be afraid to tell the teachers if you are then kids will bully you all the time trust me every time they did something bad to you tell the teachers don't be afraid. if they call you ugly i will give you some tips on how to get better.
1. dress good, don't put 2 many clothing just a simple t-shirt and pants. check in the internet what people dress like and try to look like that.
2. if you can put some make up on if you cant then try to look beautiful, like some people have a good smile or great eyes figure out what is so special about you.
3. fix your hair do some cool styles or check in the internet. this is the best advice i can give you.
this really helped me at school nxt year everyone started to respect me and it was a awesome year.
p.s i am 13 plz still read it :)
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okay, my friend is fourteen and the guy she is with is 17 they are only holding hands and kissin can they still date? or will he get into truoble?
ok 1 i dont think they should date at all. if that doesnt wark then observe what kind of a guy she is dateing if he is a cheater and other stuff then tell your friend about it and proove it to her so she will believe.
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For a very long time, my mom has been trying to live through me. But, now that I'm an adult, almost graduating from college, it's just getting out of control. She has gotten better, I cannot discredit that. But, I'm really worried. About a year ago, I got hair extensions (long story). But basically, I lost hair because I wasn't eating very well and I also bleached it which was really bad. It was fine for a while... but it's been almost two years now (about a year and a half or longer) that I've had these extensions. They are expensive and limit me from being able to wash my own hair or dry it. I can't ever leave it wet. They are very annoying. It's fine that I had them for a while. But, I think they've overextended their stay. I told my mom that I really want them off. All she says is your not ready. If that wasn't enough, she recently saw a friend of mine with fake eyelashes on. She said I HAD to go get them. The problem with the eyelashes is that they require refills (expensive refills!) Like, maybe $75 every time, which is every 2 weeks. My mom doesn't work. Her income comes from a house that she rents out, whose taxes were backed up. She always has to put herself on a payment plans for cell phones (which she is using my credit for because she lost hers). I work and I'm getting money from school because of my scholarships. So, I help her out with certain things. By the extensions and the eyelashes are getting ridiculous. Today, I have an appointment at noon, which I really needed that time to study and work out, because I have to go into work/class at night. I explain this to her... but she doesn't get it!!! Please advise me
Hey u know what i think. I think you mother doesn't understand you. Have you tried talking to her lately about your problem. if not then tell her that your grown up now and can take care of your sell and you dont want her to tell you what to do. Its your life and its your chose. Enjoy it while you can. try to talk to her. good luck i hope this helps.
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