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I don't think I could handle hearing "I only like you as a friend." So what do I do about this?
17/f
This is extremely long, I'm so sorry.
I like this guy, he's one of my good friends. I'll call him David.
Heres the thing, my best guy friend, who I'll call Robert, is best friends with David. So we all hang out on weekends and stuff.
Like a month ago they were trying to guess who I liked. My best friend Robert said he'd tell me who he liked if I told him who I liked. Well eventually he found out that I liked David and a few days later Robert admitted to liking me.
I don't like Robert like that and he knows that but we're cool so it's not a problem or awkward or anything.
So I don't know if David likes me, but we text everyday and hang out alot, he'll offer to give me rides home and all that.
Last month I kinda told him that I liked him. He was texting me asking who I liked and I wouldn't tell him and he said he wanted to guess but he'd feel awkward. I told him he probably already knew. He said, "Does his name start with a D, he's taller than you, and can sometimes be a big meanie?" I said yeah so I kinda assumed he knows. Then we hung out later that day with no awkwardness.
But nothing ever came up after that so I kinda assumed he doesn't like me like that.
He's never had a girlfriend so maybe he just didn't know what to say? That's my hopeful side.
When we all hang out they all poke me and I'll punch them back and he does it so much. He's also started giving me massages. So I'm just confused about how he feels. And he took me out to eat today so I don't know.
I don't want to ask him how he feels because I don't want to hear, "I only like you as a friend." Long story to that and I can't take that yet. Plus it'd be awkward to hang out with him alone again.
Robert was looking through my phone so I took his and was reading some of his messages. He was talking to his friend, telling her about how he felt awkward because he's hanging out with potential couples. He named the two other people that liked each other and then named me and David. He said that if me and David ended up going out that he's gonna feel awkward because his best guy friend and his best girl friend were going out and if the break up ends badly then it's just gonna ruin our group.
Anyway, he was expressing that he didn't want me and David to be together.
I was deciding to just give up on the idea but then I realized what other people think shouldn't matter. Because I'm usually so careful about peoples feelings and I'd rather have them happy than myself. But I was thinking, if there is a chance for me and him, I might want to take it. Bad idea?
But Robert messaged me a couple weeks ago saying, "I have good news for you." I said what and he said, "me and David were hanging out and he asked me if I liked you and I said idk then I turned the question on him and he said idk the same way I did."
My brother is friends with them too so one night a couple days ago he was asking me if I liked David. I said, "What? No, where'd you hear that?" He said, "I was asking who he liked and I pointed to each of the girls at lunch and he said no to each of them but when I pointed to you he said I don't know"
That's why I'm confused. Maybe he does like me or maybe he really just doesn't know how he feels.
Should I ask him or should I just let it be and see if something does happen?
Thank you so much and I'm sorry for how long it was.
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ok let me tell you 1 thing i like love stories like this. I think what you should do is figure out if he actually likes you David. Ask some questions and if he does actually likes you then don't do anything. Be more attractive and i am pretty sure he will come on his own to ask you out good luck girl. :D
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There is always the potential for a bad break up. But there is also the potential for a great relationship. It seems like he might like you but is not sure how to let you know or not sure how to make the first move, Because you said you don't know if you like him to him,. He is probably wondering if he should even try because of the chance that you might not like him. so i would definetly make the first move or at elast give him some signs,. showing that you do really like him.
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