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Q: There's this boy that was in all my classes last year (in the 7th grade). Jock. Jerk. Popular. Biggest S.O.B. to walk the earth. Everyone liked him, but I loathed him. He would make fun of how unpopular and "weird" I was, he'd laugh with his scruffy friends during French whenever I made a mistake, he'd even call me bad names sometimes. So I got even with him and stole his baseball hat, and hid it, and laughed and made fun of him whenever he made a fruitless attempt to find it. I didn't even get in trouble! After a while, he found the hat. This year, he suddenly started being nice to me. He gave me compliments, started sending me IMs, etc. I was nice back, and in a suttle way we became friends, but I didn't forget how much of an asshole he was last year. Friday, this guy I barely know told me that he (the boy) said I was really hot and nice. I'm confused. Do you think he likes me or he's just scared I'll steal his hats?

That happened to me..
It could either be a really really cruel joke (but something like that takes a lot of planning to get away with)
or Most likely he likes you.
Even though there's a 99% chance he likes you and changed.. there's this one percent that could actually happen.. so don't get head-over-heels yet because he probably changed.. but just in case he didn't
PEople in the 7th grade are immature.. so if he ends up liking you just forget that that ever happened because he did make an effort to change and he did.
So I'd just wait it out and see what happens.. but let him make the first move just in case of the 1%.
Good luck!

Q: Hey I just bought a pair of Pants from Hollister and they dont fit. When i told my mom hse like im not driving all tht wya to return so is there any way i cna return them online?

She's probably busy at the moment, so wait a few days.. if she spent all that money on hco jeans that you won't wear, she will come around sometime.
My mom's like that too.. but i'm trying to convince her to buy me hco jeans.
Good luck!

Q: I have a crush on a boy. My friends tell me I should leave a rose in his locker. Do boys like stuff like that?

In my expierience, if you write notes, guys think that you're too shy to talk to them..
I'd say get a friend to tell him for you (in a not so public place) or start flirting with him. He'll get the clue.

Good luck!

Q: Ok, Tomarrow Is My little sisters birthday party... She is having a hawian party... Im waering short shorts and a speggetie strap top... My question is how should i do my hair? I can put a lei or somthing in it... I am not sure.. Gimmi some tips and You get a 5.. website with pictures are GREAT also *Thanks In Advance!!*

-Luv, Meg-

messy bun and put a hibiscus flower in your hair (just get a fake one at party city lol)
have fun!

Q: I'm 13 female and i haven't kissed anyone yet...is this normal? Most of my friends have kissed someone but i want to wait until i find someone special. Most girls though have their first kiss when they are 12...am I abnormal? Or just plain 'ol me?

just think of it as this.
Would you like your first kiss to be with a guy, who a day later breaks up with you because he finally got you to kiss him? How bout waiting for a really good bf or a guy that you like, or a guy friend that likes you so it's something you'll want to remember, and everytime you think about it, you won't hurt because the next day he broke up with you.
Get it?
I just think its better to have something good to remember of it.
Good luck and it is perfectly normal!

Q: What are some good ways or products to get rid of blackheads and pimples? And the products couldn't be too expensive.

I use differen and finacea together at night, but you need perscriptions to get them..
I'd use biore pore (sp?) perfect line at target, wallmart, or almost anywhere...
I'm not sure of the price, but you can look online for coupons, and you might not want to use the whole line, just the ones you think you need.
Also use when you wash your face: clearasil face wash (like 3 or 4 dollars at target) it's not medicated or anything, and it works real well.
Also use oil absorbing pads from target (clean and clear.. bout 5 bucks) in the middle of the day. They also work real well.
Rate me please!
Good luck

Q: So my friend graduated high school last year and she invited me to her graduation party. Her boyfriend was there- who is a year behind her so he's a senior this year- and I almost immmediatley liked him from the start of the party. I feel like a horrible person.

This situation only got worse. He's in my Drama class this year and I'm not sure if I flirted with him or not. We did this thing where we brought in what described who we are (I brought in a blank journal) and when I was done I passed by him, and smiled: but no, it gets worse: *he smiled back.*

I feel horrible and I just don't know what to do. Help!

wait it out. if your friend's at college, the relationship might somehow fall through the cracks. id just get to know him and since he's in a really fun class (i really love drama too) then you guys might have a lot of really fun times together that might show how awesome you are...
just be yourself.
Good luck!
Kylie~

Q: is this cute for the frist day of school???..

this shirt in white
http://www.hollisterco.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/ProductDisplay?catalogId=10201&storeId=10251&parentCategoryId=12552&categoryId=12611&productId=241035&langId=-1

and these jeans
http://www.hollisterco.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/ProductDisplay?catalogId=10201&storeId=10251&parentCategoryId=12552&categoryId=12603&productId=211995&langId=-1

please give me your opinions

it looks good, but in the future, you don't have to spend 60 bucks on destroyed jeans.. you can look up how-tos on google and it'll tell you how to make destroyed jeans from a 20 buck pair from kohls or target.

but if you want the brand name, go with hollister.

Q: help me plzz i cant stop crying. my face just keeps getting worst and worst. PImples are everywhere. i mean it! I try everything. i have very ovily skin. can someone please tell me what i need to do. dont tell me to buy something from clean and clear that shit doenst work. does ayone know any pills that help?? if so tell me what its called. please i cant even go outside
i hid all summer long becuase i feel so ugly!!

they did a study on what causes acne

DIRT, AND JUNK FOOD DO NOT CAUSE ACNE

if it is really bad as you say it is, go see the derm and she/he will give you differin or something like that.

If it worked for my brother, it will probably work for you cuz hes clear now and he doesn't wash his face.

Good luck

Q: I am thirteen and i don't care for guys that much but i have auburn hair, around five foot though alot of people consider me short, skinny (well thats what everyone says) and play alot of sports. Almost like everyone in my grade has either been asked out or has had a boyfriend/girlfriend. I have never been asked out and i am just wondering if i should be concerned about that. I am not interested in having a boyfriend but i just feel.. left out i guess because almost everyone has been asked out but me.

In middle school usually we don't go out on dates.. so if you keep getting asked out and tehre's no more guys left to date, what are you gonna do in high school?
The whole middle school dating thing is big in the 6th grade, and gets less and less important in later middle school grades, and is just regular dating in high school.
You really don't want to waste your time and energy on some loser who you're only gonna date for a week, right?

I don't think there's anything to worry about, but if it's really something that you want to persue, start flirting with some guys, but don't be too obvious. Just enjoy whats left of your boy free life, cuz after that things are gonna get real wierd and complicated.

Good luck!

Q: okay my crush wants to talk on the phone..and i do too but i hate when there are awkward silences! like it kills me and i never have anything to say. what are some topics i could bring up? and like what things can i say to like lead him on and kinda make him realize i really wanna go out with him but not make myself sound
retarded and freaky! please help! FAST!

turn on the tv and when there's a silence look at the tv and ask him "Hey, are you watching INSERT SHOW HERE?!" or talk about your favorite reality tv show. Ask him about his favorites.

Good luck

Q: Would it be possible if a 14 yearold boy would like a 12 year old girl? She's sorta developed for her age. Or is it a waste of time?

Friend wanted to know

I think it could happen.
My best friend is 12 and she likes a 14 year old boy.

Just make sure he's not gay (lol seriously) and just hang out around him.

If you are my best friend that is writing this..
there is a 75% chance he likes you.
Justmake sure he's not gay or bi (lol)

Q: hey this is Jackie 13 years old

there is this boy Ryan, who is my neightbor and I've know him all his life.. we've been friends since before i could talk! We've ALWAYS been best friends!! we even went out when we were 10 years old.. we tell eachother everything and we always help fix ANY problems..

well that's how things used to be. in the past few weeks he's called me a SLUT for going out with a guy i just met.. and he actually meant it.. he wasn;t kidding, usually he asks me about stuff and NEVER judges me, but this time he did! and he likes my twin sis now, which i'm perffectall y ok with because i no that we're jsut friends but she doesn't like him so.. he's been upset sometimes when she gets a new boyfriend and he used to talk to me about it but in the last few weekes he's been telling me nothing's wrong when i KNOW theres something wrong comon i m his BFF i can tell.. and he's been keeping his distance.

why would he act this way is there anything i can do to fix it? PLEASE HELP I RATE WELL!!!

he likes you hes jelous.

Good luck!

Q: im 14 and going into the 10th grade and ive never kissed a guy. and all my friends all have lost it. and i feel like im being left behind. and when my friends talk bout it they ask me hats the most uve done w/ a guy and i cant say anything cuz i havent even kissed 1! what should i do?

you're smart. you're waiting for the right guy instead of blowing everything off on a loser.

Good job.

Who cares. Tell them that you'd rather have a relationship last with a good guy rather than have it last for 2 weeks with a loser.

Q: Okay..skool starts on monday and im freakin out..im about to go into highskool and i only know my 1 of my friends that are going to the same skool..and we have 3 classes together plus lunch..okay..my question is..how can i talk to more people?! i dont wanna be the little quiet shy girl..i mean..im really crazy if you get the chance to get to know me..(seriously..) but when i meet knew people my face gets red and i don't really know how to start up a conversation actually..its just that like..i dont like talkin to people i don't know. gahh its soo bad..anndd pleassee!! dont tell me to be more outgoing becuz i am..well mayb not the first day of skool..but..can yall give me sum advice?? tell me what i need to do to start talkin to people..and how to be like..the class clown and stuff in class! PLEASE I`LL RATE HIGH FOR GOOD ANSWERS!!

I've been to 7 schools.
What you do is you could hang around your one friend, meet the friends she meets, and/or you cna talk to people in your classes you don't have with your friend that look like they would fit in with your othe friends. I personally don't think it's smart to have best friends in the nerdcategory, the popular category, and then the goth category.. it gets too complicated because nobody likes each other at your parties. But that's just me.

Good luck!

Q: 16/f. I'm going on vacation tomorrow. What stores sell plain halters, tanks & spaghetti straps for really cheap and in different colors? I just want the plain kind... nothing on them, and I want to buy a few of them. Thanks.

kohls, target

Q: Whenever I have a guy I like or my guy friends over or just any friends in general over, my little brother ALWAYS has to be with us. I can say "Can you go upstairs for a little..just for A LITTLE..please?" and he goes "i can do whatever I want" And it gets so annoying and my mom doesn't care and she lets him annoy us.I can be in my OWN room and he STILL won't get out and my mom lets him stay in there too. I even ask her NICELY to have him go upstairs with her and she goes "he's not annoying just deal with it"..how am I EVER gonna have boys and friends and my boyfriend come over without my brother around us all the time?HELP ME BEFORE I EXPLODED :x

maybe suggest a quick board game or card game as long as he stops bugging you for the rest of the time they're at the house.
Let him play with you, and have fun, and then he'll probably stop bugging you. That's what I've done with my friend's little sister. It usually works. If not that, try to negotiate. Also try to get one of your brothers friends to come over the same time your guy friends come over.

Hope i helped!

Q: I just got my earlobes pierced for the 3rd time. The last two times failed because after a week or so of my newly pierced ears, they would always swell up and get infected. It would hurt and itch! Now, I got them re-done at Claire's and now my ears have formed a rash around the earring. I'm cleaning them everyday but they're still itchy! It's red and gross..I don't know what to do! It's my 3rd time..please help and is this normal?

Best answer:

I got mine done at claires and the earring was on too tight (thanks mom) and this infected wet gross green scab grew over it.

I went to my derm and she looked at it. She perscribed pills that were huge.. but after the bottle was done the infection was gone.

NEVER GET YOUR EARS PIERCED AT CLAIRES!!
They're not as sterile as you think. Get them done at piercing pagoda or a salon. I don't know anybody who's got infections from there.

Good luck!

Q: Okay, what are some turn ons for girls?
WHat does a girl look for in a guy?
what do they like in a conversation??

thanks lots!
I rate high!

K,

for me:
I like guys who like to smile and have fun.

I like guys to make the first move.
If you wanna kiss me, hold my hand, put your arm around me, sure fine. Just know I probably won't do it before you do.
I like guys that are comfortable with just hanging out and being themselves. If I like you how you were a week ago, don't change yourself just because we're going out.
I also like guys who go out of their way to do stuff for me. I also like them to appreciate me, and my intrests. They don't have to go shopping with me, they just have to reckognize that i like shopping and not to dis it or make stereotypes about girls that go shopping..
ALso I LOVE compliments when they mean it.
I don't care what they talk about, as long as they can carry a conversation and don't talk about things that girls wouldn't know too much about ex. sports stats and v8 engines and such..

Good luck!

Q: Can i simply have a yes or no answer to this question:
My brother used to put his hands down the back of my trousers and grab my butt and stuff like that, i told him to stop but he wouldnt. is this abuse?

Yes and No.
It's sexual harrassment.. tell a parent.

If you're a girl.. next time he does it, kick him in the balls.

If you're a guy.. your brother's gay and you should kick him in the balls.

No matter what, kick him in the balls and tell a parent next time he ever does it.

Good luck
Kylie

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I'm Kylie and I'm here to help. My dream is to go to the Naval Academy and be a Navy Shrink. Please ask me whatever you want, because I will try my best to help you to solve your problem.
Kylie:)