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Q: I am stuck between my family and my love.
He is very nice guy but with poor background.
My parents are not allowing me to marry with him.
I love both alot but nervous regarding my family's opinion.

Ok this is not your family choice to make its yours. Look at it this way your family cant tell you whos the right one for you. They are not going to feel the way you feel for a gut ever. This is you choice if you love him then you should stay with him because family is going to always be there but not holding you at night, saying they love as they kiss you, claiming your children and leting them hold there last name. Tell them this if they love you they would except who you love in life but i see if your mans not making a change but if he is and your the only one who see it thats just because others dont want to notice they rather see him as a bad person and thats how they will always see him. Prove them wrong and good luck

Q: In a few weeks my girlfriend will be 30. We live 3 hours away from each other and wth work not sure if we will get to spend it together. She isnt into flowers so what could I do to really wow her?

best thing to probly do for he would be maybe just you and her have time alone and get her somthing that she has but better like ear rings or something in that sort im sure she will love it

Q: -Female
Me and my intimate other have had sex twice and he was first and only so far. The last time we made love he wanted me to go on top and I wanted to but I was nervous because I did not know how to move my body and did'nt know if he would like it. I did alright and we had a rythm for about 2 minutes but I lost it and then we both just kinda laughed and did something else. But I want to know how to pleasure him by riding on top but make me feel great at the same time(which I know how it works just dont know how to do it. If I lean back it will hit my g-spot more efficiently). So any tips what men like and how to make him feel good and give him a good show?
Thanks :)

ok well most of the times guys what you to get on top is because they get tired. so when your going at it just get on and move your body in a slow rotation and i think they realy like it when you bounce on it. if you get tired just come lower and kiss on his neck and they realy like when you bite on them or suck on ther ear. that should do it gurl. have fun and rap it up

Q: Hi I'm 15f looking for a job next summer so I will be 16. I was wondering where's a good place for me to work I'm kinda looking for more of a food or a grocery store job. What places would be good ive been on job search websites but there not helpful to me. Does giant eagle hire at age 16?

well first off no jobs really hire teens at the age 15 your better off looking for a job at 16. once you hit that age you could look for jobs in malls and fast food places like taco bell and other in that sort good luck

Q: When I run I lose my breath, If I keep running will I be be able to run without losing my breath?

I want to to be able to run around my park without losing my breath

if you keep running you will get more use to it and you wont lose it as much just breath in through your nose and out your mouth

Q: I am a 26yr old Female and my baby sister is 21yrs old and this is her second time living with me and i am fed up, she has no visible goals and i now have a 4month old son and my fiance' is ready to move in.She has been back and forth between my house n a friends house and recently got a job but quit after a week.....what do i do ,because when i try to talk to her she always accuses me of not caring about her or not being there for her. i dont want to hurt her so can u please tell me how to handle this????

just tell her shes npw a grown women and its time for her to start to live on here own instead of living off of other people and if she needs help looking for a home then tell her you will be there to help her out with whatever. plus make her know that staying with people once or twice is ok but she cant keep continuing to do that because when you stay with someone so so that you could get back on your feet and when you do its time to be on your own.. well good luck

Q: ok, so i wanna know if this guy likes me (i like him too) here is how we "flirt"
~we put our hands on each others thighs and we dont mind
~we always hug like were going out (he comes up from behind me and hugs my waist)
~i told my friends (he was also there) that if you make a little heart with another person (with your fingers) and it comes out cute, then your meant to be! then, he did it with me and everyone said it was cute!
~Tons of people asked us if we were dating.
~he ALWAYS insists on sitting next to me
~ i had to go somewhere and he was leaving so i grabbed his arm so he could stay with me and he laced our fingers together and we held hands for like 2 min and it wasnt ackward or anything!
So yea, hope you guys can answer this ASAP! lol thnx(:

I think its only clear that yew both liike eachother so why dont you just ask them if yew guys could kick it off or just ask one of your friends to ask him how he feel about yew... not much to say but g2g good luck

Q: i'm 14 and i've been going out with my boyfriend since december. we don't go to the same school, and he lives about 20-30 away if i'm walking and he has a dad who rarely lets him out. i haven't seen him in a month and we haven't really talked since a conversation about breaking up. i'm scared to lose him..even if he says we'll still be friends, i'm afraid things won't be the same.
how do i make things better? what do i say to him in person since he avoids me on facebook?

Only thing you could do is write him an inbox and just tell him how you felt he just left you without comferming your relationship as ended or not. make sure you include how you wannt things to be better and ask him to explain why he think you and him should end. hif he dont write back then that just means hes done with you and thats your go to find another guy thats realy right for you. dont write him much becuz he will think you nuthin without him... good luck and keep your head up your still young

Q: missionary doggy and cowgirl.

K some ov those are wrong.. missionary is anal sex.... to correct that doggy is when your bent over and so far on and cowgirl is when the girl is on top of the male.....

Q: I feel like i am ugly most of the time, sometimes i feel pretty but that's only when i take my time on my make-up or hair. All my friends say i am really pretty but obviously i am not since i have never had a boyfriend. i also have a big nose i hate it and i told my mom and she said i could get surgery if i wanted to when i get older but i don't want to. but anyway i feel really ugly because no one likes me and i have never had a boyfriend and my sister always says she is prettier than me and i know that she is joking but that really makes me feel really ugly because my sister is always really pretty even without make-up and when she says that kind of stuff it make me feel like she doesn't approve of me as her sister.

no one should ever feel that way. dont think that you are a ugly person every one has some type of beauty. i sometimes feel the same way to but then you have to think its not the way the way you look its the way you look its the way you act... sit up straight talk to your friends dont feel like your pretty act like it. people may not like the way you hold yourself like being shy or not trying to talk to guys... make your self feel more notice-abllle to others and even if you dont or never had a boyfriend doesnt mean its too late to get one.. but most of all dont never ever ever say "i think im ugly" becuz that juss the satrt of becoming what you think you are.. good luck

Q: I did great my freshman year, mediocre for the first half of sophomore year and great for the 2nd half, but this year.. has pretty much been hell actually. Just with dealing with a lot of personal problems that have been developed throughout my life.. it's a long story. and it's caused me to fail 5 out of 8 of my classes.. it's embarassing to post this here with all the people worried with having low As.. but I used to consider myself an overachiever but I don't know, I just cracked and continue to be feeling overwhelmed and trying to sort out my problems. I think I need to see a therapist, cause I've never done this bad at school ever.

I go to public school, so I was thinking on whether I should repeat junior year at a local private school. I know it sounds crazy to say with failing more than half of my classes, but I'm smart.. and when I fully commit I get nearly perfect, if not perfect scores. but maybe cause im such a perfectionist that it takes me longer to do things.. and then i fall behind and then its just a mess that starts

Anyways, I was wondering if I can fix my act up what colleges would think about it? and how would repeating junior year affect my GPA? would colleges see it in my transcript and automatically write me off no matter what, even if I also do really well on the SAT, have strong extracurriculars, and can prove to them that I have really changed for the better? or should I just give up at getting anything more than community college. this is making me depressed now.. and its my fault but blegh.. i don't want a bad future for myself, but I keep being so self destructive.

well most colleges will most likely understand if you messed up your freshman year but for jr that means your moving backwards but its not the end just keep on trying and get better some colleges might not approve but im sure if you get more focus a college will see your recovery and how you got back on track

Q: Hi. So I'm just about sixteen and I've been depressed since I was nine years. I was physically, sexually, and verbally abused, and I was also neglected until about eight months ago by my parents. I'm in foster care now, but I still have horrible flashbacks, panic attacks, and am extremely paranoid. I'm still really depressed and want to kill myself. I've been cutting since I was nine years old. I feel like everyone would be much better off if I was dead. I feel like no one gives a damn about me. I just need to know what to do. I really do want to be happy, but I don't know how! help!

im so sorry to hear that but you have to look at that in the way of how those people are going to feel as them knowing that they did that to a human bean and they have to live with that tittle all there life. im not saying you should but i will be sorry for them because they are the ones who will suffer. why put your self in the place of choosing life or death, thats just going to give them something to feed off of... knowing that they accomplished what they wanted.. to hurt you. feel more up about it your in a better place now, forget about the pass... and if this story is true pleas dont hurt yourself because what went on your 16 and believe it or not im also 16 and just hearing that some one would do such thing to their own child makes me sick. just focus on your life dont care about what people think about you. and get back to me for anything.....

Q: I have to go swimming soon but I'm on my period. My teacher gets mad if u don't have a note. I don't want to write the reason cause he's a guy and my dad has to write it. What can I get him To write ?

well if you didnt know when your on that and you go in water the blood dosent go out or come out so you will be fine or you know just get that note in time

Q: I just bought this skirt and I really like it...I want to wear it to this banquet I have to go to this weekend...would a plain black long sleeve shirt look ok with it? like tucked in? Is it ok if the black shirt and the black of the band on the waist dont match perfectly?

http://www.forever21.com/product.asp?catalog%5Fname=FOREVER21&category%5Fname=btms%5Fskirts&product%5Fid=2082032271&Page=all&pgcount=25

it depends how your trying to look if you want to look sexy you should try wearing a strap shirt but it depends on your style

Q: i need to know how to get on face book at school. but the system has it blocked so i can not. so can you tel me how to get on. i need to know something that will help me get passed the block at school.

try going to hellopancake.com it always works in middle schools but im not sure in high schools but try it and see how it gozz

Q: Hello,
my left and right lung hurt that i'm rarely bieng able to walk because every move i make my both lungs hurt so bad that they produce irresistable pain!
So any ideas for what's the reason for all this pain ??

Thank you ;

one of the reasons could be asthma that cause lung pain. just ask your self do you run a lot out of breath easy or do anything that you might think cause those pains but if i was you ill check with an expert like a doctor just to be safe.. hope all is well for u

Q: do bananas really help cramps go away?

well some people say that food with light colors help but i think its all in your mide.. well when im on i drink cold milke and it seems to help a lil but some people are different then others right so maybe or maybe not hope i justed helped alil bye

Q: Okay somy cheerleading team needs an amazing basket toss. We have a toe touch basket and a twist basket. (no kick twists or doubles please) this is for pep rally. We NEED amazing things to do in a basket toss for the flyers to do. Please help!!! ASAP!!!
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another cheer question....:
we need some awesome stunts. We can ony put up three stunts and for this particular pyramid thing only in halfs. We have 2 hitched libertys and a scorpion what are some really cool things you can do in a half or a half lib? (other people call halfs: elevators, preps, etc.) help ideas help ASAP!!! Pleasee I'm desparate!!! :)

you ill need three flyers.. the two on the outside facing eachother and the on in the middel facing the back. the flyer in the middel will need a front and the flyer in the middle will cross her arms to wher her left hand go to the flyer on the right and her right hand conects with the flyer on the left . then the basses wll toss heer up into a craddel bu er hands will till bconetd as she wss aroond turnig the front back to a fr adthe back to a back tjen you will rod hr up to a full wth her left hand conetd still and her right foot at a hitch te base on her right s huld be holdin an if udont get this text me n ill say better 5624120518 sry hard to understand i can text it better

Q: I'll try and make a long story short...
Basically a co worker of mine started acting interested in me but i knew he had a girlfriend so I kind of backed off and assumed he'd back off eventually too. We got more serious and i started to really like him. We hangout all the time, he tells me he cares about me , he buys me flowers, takes me out to eat,and is just a guy I really want to be with. He kept breaking up with his girlfriend for me ,but getting back together with her because he's been with her for 4 years... and doesn't want to let her go to waste because he thinks that I may let him down. At first,that was true but now I'm really falling for him and he says he's starting to really have feelings for me too. He tried breaking things off with me ,and later that same night he ended up at my house because we love being together. He says he loves his girlfriend too though and he doesn't lie to me about it,he basically says he wishes she'd mess up so he could have a reason to break up with her to make things less complicated.I know for a fact he hangs out with me a lot more than her and it's getting to the point where I won't just let go,especially knowing that he feels the same way about me. Fortunately, I've never had to go through what he's going through,but I understand how hard it could be having her and then falling for me at the same time. Even when he'd come over ,he'd leave and 5 minutes later tell me he already misses me. I just don't know whether I should keep hanging out with him and let his feelings get stronger for me (because he pretty much told me that would happen if we kept up how we are ) or if I should let him go and see if he chases after me ,and risk my feelings being hurt. We have hooked up lots of times, (not sex) and he's basically treated me like his "other girlfriend" but obviously i don't like this situation. I feel like he wouldn't have cheated on her if he really loved her, but i'm just very confused and I don't want to let him go because he's the best guy I've ever liked and I also work with him...please help!

ok now first i want to make noticed that iv been through this same thing sweety and the first thing you dont want to happen is you being left alone because a guy you thought realy had feelings for you. dont get me wrong some guys arnt the m but um jus want to feel like have it all what i think you shud do is wait untill he say its over with them. cuz he can be goin home sayin different to her and and have you as the girl on the side . man lie all of them dont juss be carefull and safe good luck

Q: My boyfriend keeps saying his wheels are rolling. What does it mean when you say my wheels are rolling?

Well it depends on how he say it like " my wheels r rolling with you " thats like its something that your doing and he's not likeing the way your doing it so he's takeing time and he's welling to stop. So is there something your doing, are you guys getting in fights when he say that and if so then I belive this is the answer to your question so hope I helped bye and good luck

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