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heyy, im Rachel and im 15 w/ blonde hair & blue eyes. im a sophmore at RMHS [soon to be junior!].
i LOVE meeting new people & helping people w/ problems, so ask away!!



xo ♥

advice

if your are really athletic, are you less likely to get you period? or is it the exact opposite?

hey! being athletic doesnt really have to do w/ if you get your period or not...its pretty much neither. you will probably have a much healthier lifestyle when u are on your period b/c you wont get as much (if any) cramps and whatnot. but i really dont think it'll make it come later or sooner. i hope i helped!

love always,
*rachel*

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hey .. okay i have this friend and i like him alot .. i've felt ways for him that i have NEVERRR felt for ANYONE before .. i have dreams about him .. and there good dreams .... he knows i like him but i dont know if he likes me .. he like leads me on making me think he likes me ... but i dont know .. any suggestions !? and could it be l0ve ? -- i rate g0od ..

hey! thats awesomeeeeee!!!! well, hopefully he's not leading you on..b/c sometimes guys can be assholes like that =( well i think u should ask him if he likes you! there's no reason why he should be leading you on and putting you through a broken heart in the end...so ask him for an honest answer. i hope i helped! and good luck =) i'm sure things will be soo awesome!!! and also...i don't think teenagers can be in love ..at least not really the intense kind of love. but perhaps =) later...let me know how things go if u get a chance!


love always,
*rachel*

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There is this boy that I'm like totally in love with. I have never felt this way with a guy before so I'm pretty sure it's love...well I live in Maryland and he now lives in North Carolina so I'm afraid I might never see him again. I have his sn, but he is never on...atleast I don't see him on whenever I'm on. I don't have his address or phone number either. We are really close...we even did stuff together, but I love him and miss him soooo much. I won't be able to drive for another 2 years and even then I don't think my parents will let me take a road trip to North Carolina. Besides, I really can't wait 2 years to see him, I'm desparate to see him now...What do I do?

hey! wow..long distance always sucks...well what i think you should do is ask a friend that knew him if they know his # or his address, and then wait to be able to drive b/c im sure that when he learns to drive that you guys can meet halfway and visit each other! and if one of his friends doesnt have his # or address, then email him if you know that..and just keep in touch. if you dont have his email, then wait a little while until he gets online. he's probably really busy w/ the move and all ..i hope i helped!!! good luck! =)

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okay....soo I'm 14 and this guy that I really like is 13...he is a year and 15 days younger than me. My friends make fun of me for it and I feel like I shouldn't be liking him since he's so much younger than me, but as I told you, I really like him. Please help!

hey! well i don't think its that big of a deal. if he was wayyy younger or way older, like 12 or 17 or something, then yeah that'd be a problem. but i don't think its so bad at all. if you really feel it's a problem and you don't want your friends to make fun of you or something like that, then thats up to you. but if you really like him a lot then you shouldnt care what your friends think. like i said, it's not a humongous age difference. hope i helped! good luck =)

love always,
*rachel*

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I'm bisexual, but my boyfriend doesn't know it and he is like against people like that. Should I tell him or what?

hey! well...thats a toughie. my question is, why didn't you tell him before? well its all good...anyway, i think that you should bring it up somehow like if you guys are on the phone, or in person..not in a letter or anything though. and just explain to him how you feel about not being able to tell him and if he's a really good friend, then he'll forgive you and still be friends w/ you. the best way to bring something like this up is that if you guys have an aqward silence or something in person or on the phone, then just go for it..and hopefully he'll understand. if he breaks up w/ you just b/c of that, then that's his choice...but dont break up w/ him first and then tell him, just tell him when you're ready and it's a good time...and then work from there. i hope i helped! good luck!!! =)


love always,
rachel

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i know its stupid .. but i need help!! i have never been french kissed before and i htink im ready, but i dont know how to do it! do both yo uadn your boyfriend put your tounges in each others mouth or does one just put theirs in the others mouth? and how do you know whos tounge goes on top or bottom? I REALLY NEED HELP!!

hey! well you cant plan where both your tongues end up going..so just go for it! and dont feel stupid just going into it and not knowing what to do b/c you cant really mess it up. just dont bite..lol b/c im sure that really hurts...and the worst thing that could happen is that its all slobbery...lol well like i said you cant really plan on where both of your tongues go but dont worry ..i'm sure it'll be fine =)

love always,
rachel

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my friend likes me (hes a guy)an today my frend (grl) told me that he wants to go out with me. said ok and now changed my mind. i feel like if i go out with him we wouldnt be frends and if i say no hell hate me. it would just be weird to go out with a frend ya know? please please help i need to know by 8:00 tonight.thanks.

hey! ive had the same problem..its normal. if he would get mad at you and "hate you" then he's not the right one for you. b/c he should be able to understand how you feel, and when you say no..then explain to him that you think your friendship will get ruined. and if he doesnt understand, then like i said..he's obviously he's not worth it...and you shouldnt feel like you're forced to do anything, and i hope he understands. if he doesnt, then thats his loss =\ if he does, then great! and maybe later on when you both feel good about going out w/ each other..then go for it! when you truly like someone, you don't even think about ruining a friendship b/c if you really do like them and they like you a lot back...then surely the friendship wont be ruined if you like each other that much!

i hope i helped! good luck =)

~rachel

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ok so theres this guy... we'll call him jeff and then theres this other guy we'll call him michael! um well michael and i were dating in the past and everybody ahs told me that jeff likes me and thinks im "the hottest girl in school" i dunno! jeff is really popular and has already had sex ive heard. he told evrybody he wanted to f*** me... im not shure y?!... in our school i guess people say hes screwed more than one chick... i dunno but hes aka a man slut! lol well okay me and michael were talkin and jeff came up adn was like "hey jeff can i have you hott gf" and jeff said "shes not my gf shes single" well michael said "well can i have my hott gf" well im confused what on earth does that mean?

hey! well it seems that he really just wants to have sex w/ you...you should try and stay away from him b/c if thats all he wants to do w/ you..then he's obviously not worth it. just stick w/ "michael" b/c it sounds like he would be better off w/ you instead of "jeff"

hope i helped!

rachel

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What do you do when all of your friends are replacing you with other people? When you feel so worthless that you just want to crawl into a corner and kill yourself?

What do you do when your parents care more about their personal pleasure than you? When you get so fed up with them you want to kill yourself just to make them feel some guilt?

hey...i know who this is so it'll be easier to answer.
i'll break it down in parts, copying your questions and answering them part by part..here goes:
*What do you do when all of your friends are replacing you with other people? -well obviously, if they're going to do that..then they're DEFINITELY not good friends. people who do things like that are ignorant people, and obviously very selfish. i don't see why they would do such a thing b/c i know you are a great person and totally awesome. so if they're going to be so ignorant like that, then find real friends...not people who are going to let you down.

*When you feel so worthless that you just want to crawl into a corner and kill yourself? -we've all felt like that i'm sure, at least some point in our life...but that's not the solution. you have to keep going, keep pushing yourself to find answers...and peace for that matter. but i TOTALLY know how you feel, and i'm sure everyone has felt like that at some point in their life..but like i said, that's not the answer. walking away from problems, trying to ignore them..won't help anything. it'll just make things worse, so you have to fight on, keep going..and dont give up.

*What do you do when your parents care more about their personal pleasure than you? -i'm sure soo many people have gone through this as well. it's not the easiest thing in the world to get through, or try to understand either. you should talk to them about it- dont be afraid to question things that your parents are doing and you want to know about it.

*When you get so fed up with them you want to kill yourself just to make them feel some guilt? -once again, that's NOT the right things to do. you have to ask them, instead of going into things blindly and sometimes assuming things. don't be afraid to ask them things that you're confused about or have questions on. it's their business to know how you're feeling about things like that.



i hope i helped, and good luck...i love you muchoness


*rachie*

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Hey Rachel...
Okay I need your advice yet again. I'm starting to fall in love with my friend... but I dont really want to. There's nothing wrong with her at all. She's an awesome friend... but that's how I wanted to keep our relationship; as friends. She really likes me aswell so she's okay with my stupidity of getting closer to her... I just dont want to hurt her, that is my main reason to not fall in love with her. I didnt want to hurt her if something tore us apart. I dont know if I even know what real love is... I would do anything, including giving my life to save any of my friends... so what makes love more powerful? I'm lost and confused Rach... please help me out... guide me along. You're always around for me :-)

hey! well...let her know this...you can't go forever not telling her..and pretending its all okay..b/c its probably not- if she likes you as much as she says, then she's going to be sooo hurt in the end...and of course you both don't want that. so to prevent it, tell her ahead of time..but let her know that you really like her. then maybe later on...you guys can hook up, when of course, you both are ready...=D


hope i helped, good luck! =D




*rachel*

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Okay soOoOo...I've known this boy for like 9 years, we're really close and all...but like i'm afraid if we went out that our relationship would be ruined. Oh and Plus I really like him:/Thanks for anything you think of..:)

hey! well i've had the same thing, and i'm sure many other people have too. what i would do, is that you wait a while...until you both are ready to take that chance, and meanwhile..you guys can decide if you really want to make that choice and take the chance of ruining the friendship. and also, if he's the right one for you...then if you guys were to ever go out and then eventually you break up, if he's a good enough guy then things wont be messed up because you both would have made good choices and he would still want to be as close friends.

hope i helped, and good luck!




much love,
*rachel*

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Is masturbating bad in any way? like can it damage parts of your body?

hey, well it depends on the way you're doing it...if a guy does it to you...and he does it hard, then that could hurt and you could get hurt in some way. but if you're not doing it too hard on yourself, then you're fine..

hope i helped,
*rachel*

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I'm 14 and I wanted to go to the movies with a guy friend. When I told my parents, they didn't believe me so they didn't let me go. They thought he was more than just a friend. I don't know how to get my parents to trust me and besides I think I'm old enough to date guys. I have never done anything that would get my parents to not trust me either. I just don't understand...please help me

hey! well a lot of parents don't trust kids b/c they dont know/want what their kids are getting into...and im sure that you're not the only kid w/ this problem =p ..but for parents being able to trust you and all, it might take a little while..so to prove that they can trust you, you need to show it through your actions, not just your words. and then they'll be able to trust you and you can have more privelages! hope i helped =) good luck! *rachel*

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hey, my friend put me up to this, but here it goes, i love my gf, and i want to have oral sex with her, but iam not sure that shes into that kind of stuff, but i really want it to happen, what should i do??

hey, umm..well first ask her if she is interested in doing all that stuff and then if she says she's not, then hopefully you can respect her thoughts and what she wants and doesn't want.. and if she does want to, then go for it...hope i helped =) *rachel*

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I cut myself a lot and I just can't stop myself. I mean every time I get stressed or something goes wrong I have the urge to grab my knife and cut. I have marks all over me with names and just lines and stuff. I want to stop, but I'm afraid that I won't be able to deal with everything anymore. Please help! Also, I don't talk when it comes to psychiatrists.

hey...well cutting is not the answer...to tell you the truth, i had the same problem..and then i realized that cutting isn't something i should be doing to get my anger out. so then i started something that really helped...i started running (because im a runner, track..) and so whenever i would feel sad or depressed or mad or anything and just needed to break free, i would run...and that would get things off my mind. and another thing i would do is punch pillows, pretend it was the thing/someone i was mad at...and just punch it til i was out of breathe. i know that sounds kinda stupid but it works, and then i would listen to some depressing/emo rock song that i liked that expressed my feelings about things and i would listen to that over and over again. so..maybe you could do something like that...i hope i helped. good luck =)

~rachel

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I have trouble sleeping almost every night and I hate it because I have to get up for school the next day. I usually fall asleep at about one in the morning, sometimes even later than that. Anyway, 5 and a half hours is not enough sleep for me and I end up falling asleep at lunch because I'm so tired. I don't know what's wrong with me...please help!

hey! it sounds like you might have some sort of sleeping disorder...do you have lots of stress? it could be lots of things that could make you worried and then you could have trouble sleeping because of that. there also could be lots of things on your mind that could be conflicting with you being able to sleep. if you are really concerned and it gets worse, then talk to your parents about it and go to see a doctor...i hope i helped! good luck!


~*~rachel*~*

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I have a guy friend who I really like, but I'm not sure if he likes me back. We talk a lot and I sit next to him at lunch so we are very close. Valentine's Day is coming up and I want to invite him to go with me, but I'm afraid he will say no. What should I do?

hey! well it seems to me that you guys could be a little more than friends if you work things out! well, valentines day is coming up pretty close...but wait a little bit, and then watch for certain things like if he flirts and acts a certain way around you that you might take as a sign as him liking you..even liking you a little...and then after a couple days, ask him, and go for it! =D good luck, hope i helped.

rachel

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Hey, I love this girl, okay? And it wont work out between us for a few reasons. We are basically as close as we can possibly be under current circumstances. Yet sometimes I feel like I'm not really wanted by her, like I'm just a burden for her. I don't mean to bother her but she hasnt told me otherwise yet so I assume that everything is okay between us. She talks to me and all but I get a bad feeling.

Any advice?

hey! i think that if you guys are really close and talk and everything, you shouldn't worry about it! sounds like ur a little too worried...just take things as it goes. if she's been talking to you this whole time, then sounds like she doesn't have a problem with you.. but as things go along with your friendship, take every little thing that you and her do and talk about, and see if she flirts in anyway and whatnot...but i don't think you should be worried, just takes things slowly and if you need to..ask her if you seem like a burden on her..

hope i helped =D good luck =)

*~*rachel*~*

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How do i give oral sex?

hey, i'm not an expert at all this stuff because...i've never given an oral before...but i would assume that you suck it..and slide ur lips up and down? ...sorry if i wasnt much help, rachel

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So this thing is really 2000 characters maximum?

umm sure?

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