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Q: what are some nice things you can say or tell to ur bestfriend im a girl shes a girl


and my 2nd ques is : What are some things you can tell ABOUTT your best friend?

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Well, nice things could be about a particular characteristic of her. Maybe she's very equanimous. Perhaps she is very helpful and does great things for others. She could be devoted and loyal, outgoing and confident, sensitive and compassionate, the life of any party, wicked intelligent and wise, or something else. Or it could be something more superficial -- maybe she has gorgeous eyes or perfect hair, a great complexion or a killer body.

And things I can say about my best friend... Well, my best friend is incredibly intelligent. She's witty and at times reminds me of Loralei Gilmore (from Gilmore Girls), which is a trait I'd love to possess. She is a loyal friend and can read me better than almost anyone else.

Q: whats a pep rally?

ok forget that umm what things can i do to avoid DRAMA in high school?

i had some drama in my middle schoold years and i want to avoid it so uhh i need advicce

i want answers from people with experience and people with no experience because they did the advice theyre about to tell me.




thankss
A pep rally is an assembly of sorts before fall/winter/spring homecoming games. It's a great way to encourage school spirit and go crazy. Cheerleaders may do routines and stunts, the school band may play music, and the sports teams are introduced. It's a lot of fun!

As far as avoiding drama ... Well, I'd like to think I live a pretty drama-free life. I've experienced bouts of drama and stress, but overall my life tends to be calm.

Know who you are and who your friends are. This is key -- true friends won't create unnecessary drama. Don't abandon these friends for the popular group. If you hear gossip, stop it. Tell the person that you do not care and that if they truly cared, they would confront the gossipee. Avoid fights and arguments. They're a major cause of drama. It's okay to tell someone you have had enough and just walk off. Really, don't lie. And don't tell your secrets to people you don't trust. This seems obvious enough, but it's a mistake people make. Your true friends won't spill these secrets, but fake friends will.

Also, be positive. Negative people let drama get to them. And write down your feelings. If you keep them to yourself, they'll just continue to bother you. Unfortunately life isn't drama-free. But if you stay true to yourself and confront your feelings, high school will be great.

Q: I recently found out that my ex-boyfriend is gay. I'm not saying this is a bad thing at all. I could care less what sexual preference people have. I have three lesbian friends and it doesn't bother me. It's just that when I met my ex, he wasn't gay. When I met my lesbian friends, they'd already come out and everything. It's just such a shock to me. It just feels weird. He only just realized that he was gay a few months ago, and he came out last week. (We broke up in March, and he realized this apparently in the beginning of May.)
I'm not prejudiced at all against gay people, it's just a weird feeling that someone I was dating turned out to be gay. There's nothing wrong with that as a person, just the idea is sort of uncomfortable you know?
Him and I are still friends and everything...it wasn't a messy break-up. I don't have a problem being around him even though he's gay, in fact it makes things a little easier. Just the idea is hard to get used to.
-15/f
That's definitely a difficult thing to get used to. After all, he seemed to be romantically interested in you, and then after you broke up you found out he wasn't interested in the opposite sex at all. It sounds like the two of you still have a pretty good relationship, since he did tell you he's gay. All you can really do is continue to be his friend. Luckily the hurdle of accepting homosexually isn't there -- since you do have friends who are homosexual. Could you imagine it if you were closed minded and didn't accept anything except heterosexuality? Keep that in mind. Yes it will take some time getting used to, but eventually that time will come.

By the way, I dated a guy for a few months when I was a 7th grader and he came out two years later. He didn't tell me this himself, but I do understand what you must be feeling.

Q: Im 16 and for about 2 years now ive been feeling really down. I think its because ive had a bad childhood: fostercare, dad left, mom in jail and has mental problems.. About 4 months ago it started to get really bad and ive started becoming so angry. Little things will make me so upset and it feels like my head is crushing in and i just want to beat something. This summer i started to cut, the relief it made me feel was so amazing. I have about 20 cuts on my thigh and no body knows or even suspects anything. I know i need help and the thing is i dont know how to break it to the people im living with now. We're pretty poor so they cant afford the medical bills and ill feel even worse. What should i do?
The way you're feeling is completely understandable. You've had to deal with so much, more than anyone should have to endure. It would be ideal for you to visit a therapist. Since you're short of funds, why not consider your school counselor? Also, look into your insurance cover plan if possible. It may cover psychiatric care, even if it doesn't cover the medication.

Telling those you live with can be the most difficult thing to do. You may feel like a disappointment, or you may feel ashamed. Look past this. Realize that they care about and love you -- why else would you be living with them? Sit them down one night and explain that you love them, but you have some major hurts from the past. Unfortunately, they haven't subsided, and you feel like you would benefit from seeing a professional. You don't need to tell them about the cutting right away if you don't feel comfortable.

There are a few things you could do in the meantime.
1) Keep a journal if you don't already. It can just be on MS Word with a password lock. There's a free program I use called "My Simple Friend" located here: (http://www.ingeletek.com/sfriend.html). Writing out your thoughts will be a form of therapy. Every time you cut, write it down. Talk through your feelings. Ask yourself how you felt before you cut, if you tried to stop yourself, how long you waited, how you felt during and after cutting. And about the anger, write down every episode.
2) When you become angry or feel the need to cut yourself, distract yourself. Write your feelings down, communicate your feelings to someone you trust, remove anything sharp that you could use to cut yourself with, and identify your trigger -- what exactly caused you to become angry or want to cut just now? You may consider becoming another person during an episode. If you feel the urge, become your alter-ego, and try to counsel yourself.
3) If you are struggling, find a high-impact activity. Go running, kickboxing, etc. You'll find that you feel a minor pain due to muscle usage. This may or may not be your fix for self-harm. But in this case, you're making yourself fit!

Lastly, I am a psychology student, but I am by no means a professional yet. What I have told you comes from the training I have received and research I have done/experienced (a close friend of mine used to cut). I hope you can see someone who will help you, because what you're going through isn't something that you or your body deserves. Let me know how you do!

Q: I got a Facebook like three or four months ago just to look at other ppl's profiles, but I did put my full name in. I don't have a picture or anything on it and I haven't added any friends, however.

I just learned that on Facebook, it is announced to everyone in your school's network that you have joined. But as of right now, I have only one friend request! And it's from my best friend! I mean, I haven't tried to add anyone, and I haven't even added my BFF but that's because I don't want a Facebook anyway, but... I'm feeling kind of bad because nobody has even bothered to add me on Facebook even though they knew I had joined the network like 3 months ago. Should I feel bad? Other people I know have Facebooks and I would assume that they would want to add me...?

Sorry if that was poorly described.
People don't necessarily see that you've joined. Those with a lot of active friends will often have so many status updates in their feeds that they won't even bother to check them all out. And since it's been 3 months, that notice is long gone.

Instead of feeling bad, try adding people. Add friends you hang out with, people you eat lunch with, classmates you've clicked with.

When I started with the whole social networking scene I wasn't sure what to do. I was self-conscious about adding people because I didn't want to be rejected. But you know what? I found that I wasn't rejected by people and that as time went on and my friend list grew, I became more confident as a person. It helped me see just how connected I am to other people. Plus, receiving comments from friends from time to time is a sort of reassurance that people care.

So like I said, don't feel bad. I doubt many people if anyone realize that you have an account. Once you start adding people, your appearances in feeds will increase. And THEN people will see you have a facebook and I'm sure you'll start receiving friend requests too!

Q: Hello,
You recently answered my question about lying on my college application and what I should do. I wanted to ask you, what if I made up for my lie by actually repairing over 50 homes before I start school? Will that make up for it?

thank you for answering my question.
Technically you still lied. However, I think that repairing over 50 homes before school would be a great step. In fact, that's probably the best step you could make at this point. Admitting to what you did would be very honest and arguably the right thing. However, at most only one person could gain something out of that opotion (the person who takes your place with the scholarship). By making up for the lie by repairing 50 homes, you'll help, well, 50 families. Plus, as a fringe benefit, you'll still be able to get the education you desire.

So, yes, I think that you should take the route that you described above. And learn from this -- next time take the actions you describe BEFORE you talk about them. =]

Q:

Can someone give me a list of songs used on there?
I've looked on websites and stuff, haven't found anything.
So don't tell me to google. =]
Wikipedia lists the songs used on America's Best Dance Crew on the pages of each season.
The main page: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/America%27s_Best_Dance_Crew

Click on the main articles "America's Best Dance Crew (Season 1)" and "America's Best Dance Crew (Season 2)". On those pages, scroll down to the "Performances" heading and you'll start to see all the songs listed.

I hope this is what you wanted!


Q: i am making my boyfriend a picture online
its going to be a photograph with a bunch of sayings photoshopped onto it

the only thing is, i dont have a picture

i need a romantic picture that i can put words on
and it has to be like big so i can fit alot on it
does anyone know any?
I agree with the suggestion to use a picture of the two of you, or of just you. If that's not a possibility, there are a bunch of images on the Google Image Search. I simply searched "romantic picture" and found some great ones. Below is the link to the search results for your convenience:
http://images.google.com/images?q=romantic%20picture&ie=UTF-8&oe=utf-8&rls=org.mozilla:en-US:official&client=firefox-a&um=1&sa=N&tab=wi

Another idea would be to search for a picture of a romantic symbol. Some objects with a romantic connotation include the Eiffel Tower, roses, love birds and doves, hearts, and so on.

Q: I am best friends with a guy (we'll call him Bob) and recently he got a girlfriend and I find myself being outrageously jealous at times.

Well nowadays I tend to get angry very easily at Bob. For instance, if I text him and he doesn't text me back, I get mad and send him an even angrier text. If I'm having a problem, and go to him for comfort and advice, a lot of times he will brush me off and say that he can't possibly fix anything.

Before he got his girlfriend, I felt like he was always there for me and we talked pretty much non stop. Now, if I'm not the one texting him, I'll be lucky to hear from him once a week.

Do I have a right to be angry? How can I tell him that I'm feeling very hurt without sounding nasty?
I think that you have a right to be angry. After all, he's your best friend and is abandoning you for someone else. While I don't think it would be normal for him to continue speaking to you as much as he did pre-girlfriend (because a girlfriend is a major commitment), going from 24/7 to once a week at best is a huge step down.

You should ask him if he wants to hang out. Let him pick the day, time, and place. And when you're together mention that you miss hanging out so often. Chances are he's so wrapped up in the moment with his girlfriend that he hasn't had the chance to realize just how little time he has spent with you.

One of my best friends started dating her current boyfriend over three years ago. It was difficult for me to deal with not having her constantly with me anymore. But when I told her I missed hanging out, she said she felt the same. So we decided to devote a specific time twice a week when we would go out to dinner, hang out, etc. just the two of us.

Basically, now that he has a girlfriend things will be different. But that doesn't mean that he should ignore you. Talk to him. I wish you the best. (and I'm sorry if this sounds like I'm babbling!)

Q: about how much should a tune up cost?

i dont know anything about this stuff so any help is good
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I did a little "googling" (using the term "tune up cost") and discovered that the price of a tune up can very greatly.

The lowest I encountered was $30, and the highest was $250. This is due to several factors, to include the extent of the tune up and what exactly is done during it.

I found a few websites that should help you figure out your cost:
http://www.trustmymechanic.com/htmlmessage4.html
http://www.costhelper.com/cost/cars/tune-up.html
http://www.waynesgarage.com/docs/tuneup.htm

Q: so i have this summer assignment that says i have to pick FIVE IMPORTANT current issues, and describe them and give my oppinion. i've thought of issues such as the economy and gas prices, but i need 3 more and of course there all those issues out there such as abortion, alchohol, drugs, animal rights, global warming, etc etc...these issues have always been around and im not sure if they can be described as important CURRENT issues...so my question is what are some important issues to discuss that are happening right now. oh and please anything but the 2008 election because weve been told not to use it...
THANKS =]
You could look into ...
1) U.S. Trade with Colombia - McCain supports this trade and was going to go there to express this support.
2) Health Care - This along with social security are probably always going to be current issues
3) What about some recent Congress bills? For example:
- The Higher Education Act of '65 programs have been temporarily extended
- More here: http://projects.washingtonpost.com/congress/110/
4) You could also look at the democrat and republican platforms. See what issues seem to be "hot topics" and build from there.

Q: this is a stupid yet important question. my friend says that it's bad to do arm vibrato cuz it doesnt come naturally and is forced. i personally do hand vibrato but i wanna try arm. so tell me: is what my friend said true?
thank you!! and ask me for advice sometime!!

advisorprincess (lori) 16/f
That's not true. There are several types of vibrato: arm, hand, and finger. Professional musicians play using any of the three, and many utilize all three, depending on what they feel is necessary. For example, finger can used in higher positions when there's not much room to move the wrist or arm. I tend to use hand vibrato mostly, but I will break out the arm vibrato when I have long, sustained notes.

Keep in mind that none of the types of vibrato are "natural" though, and for many strings players it takes months to feel fully comfortable doing vibrato of any type. So really, do what you feel is best. I think it's great you want to try another type of vibrato.

I hope this gives you some insight and helps!

Q: 13/f

me and a friend, we'll call her T. T is bi. I am supposed to be straight, but I'm confused now. Well, T and I went to a friends house and when my other frined fell asleep, we played truth or dare. I couldn't thing of one, so I said
'i dare you to do the first thing that comes to your mind when I say sexy.' She kissed me! She grabbed my face and kissed me! it was surprising and it scared me. but that wasn't the scary part. the scary part was... it was a nice kiss. well, then I was quiet and obviously, thinking about very stupid things. my friend said, i dare you to kiss me back. i don't turn down dares, but this one was a little creepy, but for some reason, i kissed her back. unfortunately, things got a little out of hand. she dared me to get on top of her in the bed, so i did... then, i think we made out then just... uh humped each other for a while. it was okay, but when i didn't feel that weird urge anymore, i felt so stupid. i cursed myself and i still do! the same thing happened again a couple weeks after school let out. only this time, we got a bit undressed, not all the way. again, i don't get how it happened. i don't want to be bisexual or lesbian. i want to be straight and straight all the time. what do i do about this?! I couldn't be considered bi could i? I get angry afterwards, then don't get turned on by any other girls. just guys... and then when T does the dares, then i get... yea. so, what do i do?!
Candy
It's perfectly natural to experiment. You're at that age where your hormones are developing. So it's normal to be sexually interested in the same gender. This doesn't necessarily mean you're bisexual or lesbian, though it definitely could.

Also, I've heard and read about people who are such close friends that they do have an attraction to each other, despite the fact that they are not normally attracted to that sex. This is referred to as a "girl crush" of sorts, and could be the case with you.

My advice is to not write off any sexual orientation as "bad." Eventually you'll know if you're lesbian, bisexual, straight, etc. Keep in mind, too, that if you wouldn't engage in sexual activity with a guy, then it's perfectly fine to say "no" to a girl.

Best wishes! I hope this helped.

Q: i am 14 (i turn 15 next month) and i just got my period this year. i always used pads but recently i have been using tampax pearl regular tampons. i have three questions:

1. is it normal to feel discomfort while inserting a tampon? i.e. a tiny bit of dull pain.

2. is it normal to feel discomfort while removing a tampon?

3. would it hurt if i used super plus tampons since i just started (and have only used) regular sized tampons?

any help would be greatly appreciated! thank you so much!
1) It is normal to feel discomfort until you get used to it. Sometimes people misjudge where to put it in so instead of naturally gliding it in, they'll push against a wall.

2) I never felt discomfort while removing a tampon, but I suppose perhaps you could feel the friction while removing it if it's too big for you or too dry.

3) If the super plus is too big for your hymen, then yes it might hurt. But I'll tell you that I started my period a week before my 17th birthday. And it was HEAVY! I needed a super absorbent plus tampon along with the thickest pad I could find, and that's with changing the tampon every two hours! (It lighted up thankfully) But what I mean to say is that I was able to somewhat comfortably wear a super plus during my first cycle. I think you just have to get used to it!

I hope this helps!

Q: I saw that someone asked for the same thing i need and cant find.... the music piano notes to Straylight Run's song "Existentialism on Prom Night." did they ever find it?
I don't recall that question. I do, however, know where to find the sheet music for the song. Click the link below:
http://www.pianofiles.com/user/154627

I hope that's what you wanted! If you want the straight-out note names, there's some talk on a form (the link is below) and someone mentions what notes to play.
http://srband.proboards30.com/index.cgi?board=band&action=display&thread=217&page=1#3345

Q: ok soo im thinking about transferring schools this year and i just found out i have like only a week to make my final decision!! im completely stressed and im so scared im gonna make the wrong choice. the reason im thinking of switching is because this year was definately not what i thought it was going to be. everyone but up this reputation of my school and i found it a little dissapointing.(i was even a little skeptical about going to this school in the first place, but in the end i guess i thought it was the best choice) i mean i know your not supposed to love school, but you should enjoy it, right? well i did not. when i woke up in the morning there wasnt anything to look forward to when i went to school and i was so stressed during the year. (theres more reasons too but then it would take forever for me to write this and im sure you guys dont want to read that ahah) soo i just would like some advice and tips on decision making seeing how i hate making decisions since im always afraid ill make the wrong one. and this is such a big decision its making it even harder on me! thanks so much!
I would advise you to make a pro-con list. Think about areas such as sports, clubs, academic programs, school ranking, location (distance from home), and other areas of importance to you.

It sounds like you weren't sure if it was the right place for you from the start. So, if you went into the school with that mindset, do you think there's a chance that it affected your quality of happiness there? That happens with me. If I tell myself "this class is going to suck!" usually, it will suck.

Also think about friends. If you have a solid group of friends at your current school, make sure you're ready to leave them and make a totally new group of friends. Friends can play a large role in your school life.

If you were stressed because of a heavy course load, a good solution would be to just lighten it for the next year. Instead of that extra advanced course, why not just take a basic level one?

In the end it is your decision. Only you know what is best for you. But like I said, I'm a big fan of pro-con lists. They're a great tool to help you prioritize! Best of luck.

Q: sorry if this isn't in the right category, i wasn't really sure where to put it.
what flavor is the yellow and what flavor is the orange-ish yellow?
I'm pretty sure that the yellow is lime and the orange-ish yellow is orange. The link below takes you to a page of freeze pop flavors.

http://www.prairiemoon.biz/poicepopflan.html

I hope that helps!

Q: how do you get different fonts on and iconator.com profile? is there a wesite or something? i find it very VERY confusing....
ps: i also dont know how to get other designs and things on my iconator profile... could you help me with that?
I think that this page should be of use: http://www.freewebs.com/orange-peppers/iconatorprofilecodes.htm ... It provides you with a bunch of different codes to customize your iconator.com profile. All you have to do is replace the capitalized words, such as FONT to the font you want (ie. ariel, tahoma, comic sans ms).

Q: i have an APX independent trading co zip up hoodie and i absolutely love the fit and feel. i want to get a plain white one for tie-dyeing purposes, but i dont know how to order one from ipc. how can i order just one of the APX mens zip up hooded sweatshirts? thanks!
According to their Privacy page (http://www.independenttradingco.com/indywebsite/1privacy.html),

"You may purchase online merchandise by calling 949 366 9911, Monday thru Friday. One of our customer service associates will gladly take your order. "

I think that should help you!

Q: http://support.vzw.com/faqs/Account%20Management/faq_ez_move.html

Are college students moving to a different state eligible for this program? Also, it says you may need to buy new equipment. Does anyone know the situations where you would need to and if you would get discounts or would it be retail price? Thanks!
Hello. I've seen this question for quite a few days now. I don't know the answer, and wouldn't normally answer a question that I didn't know the answer to. But I'm sure you're dying for some information.

I would suggest contacting Verizon personally. If there is a nearby Verizon store, you could go and ask someone at the counter. Otherwise, go to the address you provided. At the bottom where it asks if the info was helpful, click "no." Then you can opt to contact them. I would do this for you, but I don't know what your plan or location are.

I'm sorry I couldn't help you personally! But hopefully this you'll find the answer soon.

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