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Q: I have this ex-girlfriend, ok? And see what happened is she just broke up with the guy that she broke up with me for. And I'm kinda worried that she might try to go back out with me just because I'm their and I'm familiar. Plus we also were lightly flirting last time we were together, which was about a month ago so I think I'm safe. What should I do to let her know, without a doubt, that I won't get back with her now, but do it lightly so it's not really noticeable?

The best thiong to do? Back off. Don't get involved with her as much and don't like make an effort to see her. Like if she calls you say you're busy. If you want it to be the most down to earth way to make sure she understands. Tell her straight.
Hope i've helped,
Anthony

Q: ew this think is so gay! everytime i answer a question this thing called "chatspeak" comes up and it says that i cant use "lol" or "cuz" ... because it isnt proper english? like wtf is that?! does anyone know lol!

Proper english.. It just means dont abbreviate words. i cant do it now because this will not be displayed. But dont shorten words and you'll be fine!
Anthony

Q: EEk I have alot of blackheads and the facewash im currently using isnt working! DO u know anything that works beter? Like gets rid of the blackheads? Please! THanks

Yes fingernails!!! It works every time lol or you could use a deep cleanser.
Hope i helped,
anthony

Q: please read this and help me..i'll rate 5s..just please i desperately need help more than anything

i fell in love with a guy named harrison about 2 years ago, and we have been unseperable ever since then. we'd always have the occasional fights between us, and i was crazy about him, and he was about me too. i loved him more than anything in the world, and this was not just puppy love, this was the real thing. he was my first and possibly final love, and i lost my virginity to him. when he moved to iowa last year, we still loved each other and he never even attempted to go out with any other girl. he was the best thing that had ever happened to me, and i loved him..i truly mean it. he was always there for me, he was there when mother died, i lost my best friend, and when i had to have a heart surgery.

recently he died in a car accident. it wasn't his fault at all, it was horrible luck. he was driving on a highway and a drunk driver crashed into his car, killing him. i cried myself to sleep for months, and i just didn't care about anything but him. i was obsessing yes, but i loved him, and i know he loved me too. he was the only one for me, and i know he's gone now and i should move on and look for other guys, but i don't think i'll ever find anyone else like harrison. i will still of course try, but i cannot help but feel horrible. sometimes i feel i should kill myself so i can join harrison up in heaven, but i have never succeeded. i am hurt beyond words, and i don't know what to do anymore. please help me, anything will help right now. thank you so much for reading all of this.. love, lauren

Well thats is a tradgedy beyond my comprehension lauren. I can say that i am truelly sorry you lost the love of your life my heart bleeds for you i really mean it. U say you where obsessing but no you weren't you where moarning and taking it the way you felt right. You dont need to move on to new guys unless you want too. As for killing yourself to join him( i won't say i understand there's no possible way i could)but jus think. Would Harrison want you to do that? I mean you loved the guy and all and he loved you too. He still does. Every day he watches over you and gaurds you like im sure he did way back when! He's there watching over you. No-one expects you to move on like nothing has happened life don't work like that. But my suggestion is you speak to peiople. Or maybe only some-one. A famly member a close friend. And explain hor you're feeling. I think that (and i am not bein callous) you should try and go out and have fun and do things to keep your mind active. Because although you still mourn him and you still love him. Ypu have to do something to stop thinking of him as much. For if you do it will tear you apart worse than befor. I really don't know what more i can say too help as i've never been in a situation like that. I am only tryin g to tell you what i would do and i sincerely hope it helps.
Deepest of regards and respect.
Anthony xXx

Q: wut does it mean to "eat a girl out" ?

it means to give them oral pleasure
anthony

Q: last night i had sex for the third time. he didnt use a condom and im not sure if he came in me. i was due for my period anyways and now i have it. my friend said that i could be pregnant. and im really scared. i cant talk to my mom about that kinda of stuff either. how can i tell or what should i do? please help me.

Well if you had sex without protection it is possible. And it is very irresponsible isn't it? Im not critising!! But if you where due a period and youre now having it or on it then i doubt you can be pregnant. The best thing to do if youre still unsure is go and see your gp.. They will help you out and assess your situation and they will tell you f oyu are or not. And they won't tell youre mum either!! So you win both ways.
Hope i helped,
anthony

Q: Heyy! I rate high! I was jus wondering if any one will give me any tips to giving good advice!Please and thanks!

The best way is to read the question thouraghly and then asess it. Think how you would deal with the situation and tell the person seeking advice this. Be kind and offer friendly advice.
Hope i helped,
anthony

Q: im depressed. i have ALL the signs of teen depression [ i looked them up ]

i dont feel myself lately. i dont like me. i cant sleep. i cry for no reason. im really mean to people around me. this year my grades went from A's and B's...to all F's.

ugh...any ideas on how to tell my mom? i want to tell her i need to see a theripist but im scared of how to bring it up and stuff..

Well the best way is to have a word in youre mums ear saying you need to speak to her. Then sit her down and tell her all that youve said in youre question. Tell her how you feel and what you think it is. Then see what she says and say that you think it would be in you're best interest to see a therapist. Shes your mum she'll understand and shell think of you first.
hope i helped,
anthony

Q: im a 15 year old girl and ive lived with my dad for the past 3 years and its hard to talk to him about girl stuff. how can i talk to him without making both of us unconfortable.
i rate high for good answers. thank you

Well u know thats tough!! Im a guy and i find it hard talking to my dad bout guy stuff!! But the best way to do it. Is jus to sit him down and talk! Trust me it will be nerve-racking at first but after a few times of talkin it will seem natural. I know its different because im a guy and stuff but jus explain how you feel and things. And tell youre dad that you need to talk with him because you need some advice and support.
Im sorry if i havent been of much help, but i hope ive helped,
anthony

Q: ok so, i am only 13 years old. and i think i might be in love! my boyfriend is only 13 too. and i heard that he is like...an intch close to loving me! so now im scared bc i have never been in love before and i really dont want to get hurt. so do i break up with him before i get hurt or do i go with it and get hurt! i really need some help and ill rate high to anyone that gives some good advice.

Well now thats not much of a dilemma... If (as you say) you are both in love then you have nothing to worry about. But through my experience sit and talk with them. Drop hints first and then say. Dont come out of the blue with i think i love you . So speak to him. Drop hints ask him how he feels and then if YOU think( not what other people think) he loves you then you tell him. And dont be silly dont break up with him!! If you both in love thats the worst you could do. Love doesnt always end in hurt trust me! And listen; even if it does go rong( touch wood) it shouldnt if you love one another but no-one can see the future. but say it does jus to give you a piece of advice. Take it as a learning curve for the future. But i gaurantee if you love one another- and mean it! It will work out fine and you wont end up hurt at all!! So yes you talk with him and stuff. And then you stay with him, dont leave him!! And take it from there.
hope i helped,
anthony

Q: 14/f
0k, so I'm going out with this guy, and last night, he fingered me and ate me out.. He fingered me so hard that I bleed a little bit, and I was wondering, if there was any cum on his hand, like from the last time he jacked off, could I get pregnant? What are the chances?
Also, what can happen from being eaten out?

Youre only 14 and already your being intimate. Ok its not my placw to judge. In answer to youre first question. No, straight off no way. From the last time till he done it to you the sperm would have died. And im sure he washes his hands! So there is no chances of you being preganant. And the second well i dont know really.. Nothin can happen because you are not in contact with any come or sperm so there is no worries.
Hope i helped
anthony

Q: ok why the hec are the MAJORITY of these questions about sex related topics????? theres nothing about babysitting, school, sports, pets, gardening, home decortating, theater, etc. i refuse to answer any sex related questions because you dont ask advicenators.com how to get someone in bed w/ u, etc! you ask them "hey im babysitting two 3 year old twins tomorrow. i really dont like them, not that theyre bad kids, i just dont like em! what can i do?" i understand that people need advice on these things and this is an anonymous way to get it! but people, mayb you could ask your friends or something! i dont know. i just want to know why so many people talk about that on here! its kinda of gross! every other question. . .! yick. ok so please answer ill rate VERY high cause u actually continued to read this! :-P

The reason people ask is becasue the feel that it is necassary to get advice. By using this service it becomes anonymous meaning they save themself face. They cant be ridiculled or embarrassed or be given into trouble by parents by using this. By using this they also get a wide variety of varied honest opinions from people who they dont know so that means they dont get embarrassed. Baically its all about embarrassment.. I mean would you tell a friend say tyoud slept with another 3 men( or woman) in 1 night at the same time then caught something? No you most likely wouldnt and thats the way people here feel.Friendly mutual advice!
Amthony

Q: ok does anyone know a good song that is about break ups? or to dance to?

Yes several. The streets- Dry your eyes
New found glory- All downhill from here
The postal service- nothing better
Blink 182- Dammit
Linkin park- Don't stay
Hope ive helped

Q: Where can you get birth control? Only planned parenthood or whatever because i have no clue where that is and i cant go to the doctors because i dont want my mom to know im having sex. Also do u have to be a certain age?

I dont actually know where you can get it because you havent stated where you live or youyre age!! But i ansay that i would speak to the doctor.. The doctor is legally bound to keep all information you tell him confidential so you should have no worries at all. Dont be afraid the doctor will not eat you!! nor will they tell you're mum so dont be afraid!
Hope i helped, anthony x

Q: Hey guys. Well.. tonight I went to a club for the first time, and met this really great guy. He asked to dance with me, and we did for a while, and attempted to talk a bit (but the music was so loud, so we went and sat down) He introduced me to some of his friends too. Anyway, I had to leave early.. and out of nowhere I asked for his number. This is TOTALLY out of character for me. I'm usually shy around guys, but hey. He gave it to me and then I gave him mine, and then he walked me to the door. I may be being paranoid, but was this coming across a little too eager or forward? I had a feeling he wanted to ask, but I could be wrong. Also, should I contact him first or let him contact me? I'm just totally new to this kinda thing and lost.

Thank you!

No not at all... If it's off characater for you then you musyt have something for this guy. Because you wouldnt break the mould unless it was somtheing reallllly good!!! And to answer your question no u weren't being too forward or eager... how could you be? Ask yourself that, i mean if you really like the guy and stuff then you won't know him if you can't contact him. Annd if it where to eager then he'd not have given you it. So forget about it, you made the right choice. I recon you should contact him. It isn't traditional fot the woman to ask but come on this is the 21st century! You don't want to let this guy slip through the net if you broke who you where to ask him his number. Callhim and ask him on a date to somewhere quite. Not a club; get to know him better. So go where you can sit and talk. Then take it from there. But dont worry bout it. You weren't too forward at all... Go on give him a call.
hope ive helped. anthony x

Q: I love this guys and he loves me too. Hes so incredibly perfect for me and i want to be with him so bad. The only problem is he lives 2000 miles away! I dont really want to go out with anyone at home but i also dont want to be single for the rest of highschool..i dont think hed every get into a relationship with me because of the distance either. i dunno what i should do..and if i decide to have a bf how do i tell him?

Thats always a problem... When you find someone amazing and can't be with them for love nor money!
I myself am in a long distance relationship so i know how it feels. You say you love this guy.... but you say on the same breath you dont want to be single for the rest of high-school. Why? I mean you dont know if you're ever going to actually meet someone as good as this guy; or if you can feel for them the same way. I mean so what if you're single at school? It doesnt make you any less of a person believe me. And you dont know if he would have a relationship but have you asked? I mean the only good way in life is to ask then find out. Then take it from there. You never know; he may feel the same! Dont succum to peer pressure. Be your own. It isnt cool to have sum bf who'll treat you like crap! Follow your heart!
Hope i helped, anthony

Q: ive ever had a boyfriend. and im 16. whats wrong with me?? im not completly ugly, but im not like super pretty.. i think i may be prude. how do i get over that and have some fun??
THANKS SO MUCH!!!!

What do looks matter. And for all you cynics, no it isnt something ugly people say it's something peaople with emotion and respect say! Looks dont matter its who you are insed that should come first. Idf someone cant appreciate you before your looks theyre not worth a damn. All you need to do to have fun is be yourself and mingle with all different crowds. You wil settle with one you like eventually(not long after you start). And then just start going out to different places with mates and all this. It doesnt matter. We all find our special someone someday! Took me 15 years...
Hope i helped, anthony

Q: awhile back i gave my boyfriend head, and i only did it once, but im deathly afraid i have an std. i dont want to tell my parents anything. he told me he didnt cum but im scared. i go to bed crying often because of it. do i have an std?
thanks.

Well if he's honest and is telling you the truth. Then there is no way he can have(well a slim chance) an std. And if he didnt have one to pass on then you don't have one. But if youre anxious then speak to you're GP and ask them. Always the best thing. But you shouldn't have one if he didnt cum and if he has never had penetrative sex.
Hope i helped,
anthony

bio

Well where to start realy? Im a 16 year old fun outgoing guy. Im always up for a laugh and can take a good joke. I like to help people because i dont like when people are sad or unsure and for me to help them is a pleasure. If you want to know me better than the brief insight you have 3-4 ways of contacting me. I will always b on call too help
Peace out... Anthony

btw why dont airplane toilets have windows? And why are high rised buildings with with toilet windows foggy???
Is there an epidemic of the worlds most determined pervert?? Peace!