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In the beginning of the year one of my ex-boyfriends got put into jail and whenever he came back he asked me. Well I told him I would go out with him if he swore he wouldnt do drugs anymore and he wouldnt cheat on me. Last week he went to his friends house and got high and drunk and told a girl he would go out with her well he call me that same night and was crying and told me all about it and then I called his older brother and his brother told me that he had made out with another girl at the movies that sunday. Well i got really upset with him and we broke up. That friday he was at the skatin ring with the girl and he was cryin because he missed me and I was cryin because I missed him. He told me that he would try to stop doin drugs and that he really loved me and that he would never do anything to intentionally hurt me, but I dont know if I should give him another chance. Should I give him another chance? I am a girl and im 15 years old.

I would dump him for now, because it sounds like he's NOT changing. If he shapes up, you always have the option of getting back together.

xo .

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any body have any good ideas on wat to get my bf for his birthday? hes turning 16 n by then we'd be together for 6 months:-) thanks*

Money, video games, cd's, cologne, watch .. you could throw him a party or organize something for that night .. that always works.

xo .

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i dont no what to get my boyfriend for our 6 month anniversary! its not until october but i know we will still be together by then. i want it to be something really special because i love him so much but i have NO ideas! what should i do?!

I guess it depends on what he likes. You could get him video games or cologne or a nice watch or something .. I don't know, it all depends on what he's into + how much you want to spend.

xo .

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hey i have this problem with one of my friends because whenever i ask her to sleepover she says ya i can and then like 30 minutes later shes like i cant go anymore my dad said that we have to do family things and then the next day i find out that she is at someone elses house and she always almost always does this to me and she ditched me on my birthday and she always makes up an excuse and it always sounds so convincing so i just say ok but inside it bugs me and i dont really know what to do should i stay friends with her and see how it goes or should i not be friends with her anymore?
thanx!

Try talking to her about it + telling her that you're not dumb and you know she's been lying and such. If she keeps doing it, that's *not* being a good friend, and I'd stop trying to make plans with her if they never work out. Good luck!

xo .

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Hi. I wanted to know. If my boobs are too small and I wanted to get boob pills! How could I get them if im not 18 and I dont have a credit card?
Sigened.
Flat Chested!

There is no 'magic pill' that'll make your boobs grow. You're still young + have time to grow, so stop worrying about it!

xo .

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Me and my boyfriend are so close. He comes over almost everyday but the problem is we cant make out because it seems like my mom is always right there. what should i do before he dumps me for someone else?

First of all, if your boyfriend dumps you because you can't make out, he's not exactly a great guy .. but anyways, you could try having a talk with your mom about how you guys need some time 'alone' .. or I guess you could try to sneak him up to your room ;o) If nothing works out, you could try hanging out at his house or at the movies or somewhere.

xo .

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i wont have sex unless im on the pill and im thinking about having sex but idk how to ask my mom...shes not the understanding type you know? im soo skared to ask her please help me i dont know wat to do:-(shed probly be really pissed if i asked her

You could tell her you want to go on it to help your cramps or whatever. I don't know how old you are or anything, but wouldn't your mom rather have you on the pill then winding up pregnant or something? Or I think you can get it on your own at like, planned parenthood, but I'm not sure. Good luck! :o)

xo .

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Im not sure if this belongs here...but i think i am underweight. Everyone says i look anerexic and i cant help it. my parents were both skinny. I am 5 feet exactly and weigh 97 pounds. Can somebody give me advice...am i underweight?

Technically, you're at a healthy weight :o). It sounds like it's a genetic // metabolism thing. I wouldn't worry about it.

xo .

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me n my bf were layin on eachother w/ no pants or underwear on but we didnt have sex bc i wasnt on the pill n we didnt have a condom but he was like rubbing his dick on me and after we were done i was like wet from his cum and someone on the hellz angelz board told me theres a big chance i could be pregnant is it true? bc i dont understand how i could be pregnat if im still a virgin? plz help im rilly nervous now im only 14:-/

There is still a chance you could be pregnant .. it's not huge, but it's there. One of my health teachers once knew someone who got pregnant without having sex at all, so .. yeah. Good luck! :o)

xo .

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o0k well i'm kinda new here...and im wondering....what does it mean to be a "moderator"?

They can rate // delete questions and suspend accounts and things like that.

xo .

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i think i am fat.. (i weigh 130 and i'm 5'6"). i have tried to diet by eating healty and i still do but it isn't working. also, i excercise all the time by playing baseball, running, working out, and playing with my neighbors. i keep trying but i just can't lose weight! does anyone have any suggestions?

You're already at a healthy weight :o) .. Keep exercising, because it's really healthy + stuff, but I think you can stop trying to lose weight. If you want, you can cut down on the amount of soda you drink + if you eat a lot of junk food, you can cut down on that too, and you'll probably lose a few pounds just from that.

xo .

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Alright Well I dont want to waste your time but this is kinda complicated! Im 16 and I was going out with a 21 year old. Everything was perfect! He introduced me to ALL his family and friends, he told everyone I was his girlfriend (even to pretty girls he knew) It was totally perfect and I felt so special! He complimented me all the time and told me I was "the one" and had even told me that I was a freak in bed and I was the best he'd ever had! Well after all this he started to act shady. He wouldnt call me or come around for a whole week and when he finally did it would only be for a small amount of time..I also heard from different people that he was flirting with this one SLUT tasha!! Whom already has a boyfriend. Well to cut it short, We broke up and I really dont even know what the deal was..We kinda just agreed to not being together!? Im heartbroken and if you have ANY advice as to why you think he did this or what I should do, It would be greatly appreciated. *Thanks*

What a jerk! Just try to remember that you're better off without him + his little games .. feel better :o)

xo .

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ok u see i love my b/f i will do nething in the world for him but right now hes at his moms which is 2 hours south from me ok there was this party n u know no girl is gonna turn down a party my boyfriend wasnt supposed to be home till the next morning. at the girl boy party we were playing spin the bottle it was my turn so i spined it then it landed on my ex n i wasnt gonna turn it down so i went 4 the cheek then he turn his head n stuck his tounge in my mouth every1 thinks i did it to him then at the same moment in time in comes my b/f!!!!?!?!?! wat do i do??

All you can really do is make sure that everyone knows what *really* happened. Your boyfriend knows that it was just a game, right? Aaand that you were just trying to kiss him on the cheek? Just make sure that everyone [[ especially your boyfriend ]] knows the real story.

xo .

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hey, can you tell me how to get those stars listed above your name when you click on columnists? they tell your average rating, you know? thankz a bunch!!

If people rate you when you give them advice, and you have 5 or more ratings, I think it is, they average them all up at the end of the day, and that's how many stars you get.

xo .

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I would have to say people these days are very IMMATURE.

Um alright?

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ok im not sure how to use tampons iv only used pads so can someone give me instrustions

I'd suggest getting junior size or those "specially made for teens" ones .. I forget what they are. Try tampax pearl [[ or whatever other brand you want to try, that's just *my* preference ]] in the smallest size at first, because they'll be easier to use .. they come with instructions in the box, and from what I remember, they're usually pretty easy to follow :o) ..

xo .

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I really just want to meet some new people and hang out with a new "clique or crowd" Where do you meet people?

Join some sports // clubs // other activities at your school! I guess that'd be the most common place to meet new people. Um .. you can also join sports + organizations outside of school. Good luck :o)

xo .

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me n my friend here are looking for something to do.. we can't go anywhere cuz we can't drive, do any of you know something that we could do.

please respond IMMEDIATLY

signed --- bored

You coulddddd ..

- watch a movie
- talk on the phone
- call someone who can drive and see if they want to do something
- chat
- look for random things to do online
- try out new hair / makeup stuff
- walk somewhere fun
- just go out and take a walk .. bring your dog if you have one :o)

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I'm 15 and I want a job sooo bad! Does anyone know where I can get one?

Um .. fast food =/, or you could look around at resturants, they usually will hire 14-15 year olds to wash dishes or bus tables. Most grocery stores hire people your age, too. Babysitting is always a good option. Just go out and look around, ask if places are hiring, and if so, ask for an application. Good luck!

xo .

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im tryin to get my picture on my site.. and it says its too big.. how do i get it on there?
thanks:)

Upload it onto a site like www.photobucket.com or www.snapfish.com, and then use the link instead of trying to upload it directly onto here!

xo .

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