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Q: does anyone know any good sites on myspace that have :
really cute picture captions,default layouts,layouts with gradient,headers,graphics.
btw, Im looking for a site that has ALL of these. But other ones will do (:
thanks

www.codemylayout.com has some pretty good defult layouts. and stuff and same with whateverlife.com

Q: why do people like to have unprotected sex when they're not trying to get pregnant?? does it feel better...or give you more pleasure doing it without a condom???

well i dont think people do it because there lazy.. it feels a lot better without the condom but there are risk, and sometimes the pull out method doesnt work and other times it does, but its usually just because it feels better without the condom.

Q: im 13. i love scary movies its mainly what i watch. i saw the scariest movie of the year just now. im so fuckin paranoid im shaking so badly i cant even see straight i dont wana be alone i think ill die tonight by rape or torture HOPEING NOT!. what can i do!?!

well when i watch a scary movie after i turn all the lights on, and just keep telling myself its only a movie and it didnt really happen.

Q: how long do you get your period for? like is it 4 days or a week? i get mine for only 3 days and it gets ligter every day. is that normal?

its normal to have your period anywhere from 3-7 days long, personally mine is only 4, but its normal dont worry about it.

Q: what is it?

Queef is: A fart from a girl's vagina, usually a result of air being inserted into the vaginal area during sex.

Q: i have a problem with finding my g-spot, and i dont even know if i have one. ive had sex with my boyfriend pleanty of times, and i've never orgasmed. It could be because he needs to get used to my body, but ive tried and i cant even find my g-spot. i've never orgasmed and it really sucks for my boyfriend when i have to tell him that i didnt. when i think i've found it, i feel like i have to pee or even do a little bit. how do i find it? how did you find it?

go to this web site it might help.

http://sexuality.about.com/od/anatomyresponse/ht/findyourgspot.htm

Q: its me shannon AGAIN lol.
the other day i was planning on making out with my boyfriend and i thought about it.
idk how to makeout.
and i feel really weird for asking this
so dont give me crap pleaseee

well the first time i made out with someone i didnt think i knew how, but it kinda just comes to you when it happends, and you can just fallow what the guys doing.

Q: Do long distance relationships work?
Or what are your views on them?
I'm not thinking of starting one, but a friend is and I was just wondering what others thought about them.

well it depends on your age.
like i had a long distance relationship with this guy when i was 14 and it was kinda pointless because the only way i could talk to him was phone or internet, but if you can drive then its a little different because you can see them.
personally i think there pointless and a lot of trouble considering your partner could be cheating on you and you wouldnt even know it.

Q: hi, i am 14 and haven't started my period is this a problem and i want to start it all my friends have except me

well im pretty much with everyone else, you just have to wait, and you willl get it.

but to the person who said "And you should be happy that you don't have it.
Because then you can go swimming at anytime"

you can go swimming when you have your period its called a tampon hah.

Q: 15/f.my ex bf and i are like best friends. we ended up hooking up [making out] this past weekend. and then we just kinda talked about it [on AIM] and, well, i just dont know what i want. or how i feel about him anymore. even though it's kinda slutty && unlike me, i wanna keep hooking up with him ! but i dont really think i want a realtionship with him again. because obviously, we broke up for a reason. there was a lot of problems when we were dating so we mutually decided that we should be friends. then...we hooked up. so now i think we're both confused. but hes pretty much made it clear that he doesnt really want to go on dates with me or be my ''boyfriend'' anymore. personally, i dont really want to go out with him either. but i just cant stop thinking about him lately. i dont know what to do. i care about him, but i think it's only as a friend. and i'm pretty sure thats all he feels for me too now. is having a friends - with - benefits really that bad, as in slutty? it IS summer...but idk. is it bad to hook up with him when there's no... feeling behind it? ugh idk =/

well im 15/f to and my ex boyfriend and i had the same problem, we didnt want a relation ship but we hooked up alot. i personal think theres nothing wrong with friends with benifits as long as each person is fine with it and when you do find someone else the other person has to know to back off.

hope i helped.

Q: girls when your making out what are you supposed to do with your hands?
put them around the guys neck i need help im going to makeout tommorow at a party with a really cute guy.

well i know when i make out with my boyfriend i put arms around him or i sometimes put one hand on his neck and he says he enjoys that, so hope i helped.

Q: okay this is kinda weird, but... my little sister doesnt know about masturbation. well i think she kinda knows that guys do it, but she doesnt know that girls can do it too. i feel like she should know about it, but theres no way i could even mention it to her. but she likes to read, so i was thinking i could get her a book that would talk about it. does anyone know of any books that cover that topic? not one of those "all about your body" kind of books (she wouldnt read that), but like a story/novel for teenage girls that just happens to have that in there somewhere. so she could read about it and get the idea for herself.