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Q: I recently got my belly button repierced, and it was pierced with a standard implant grade surgical stainless steel barbell. I was wondering if there was a differece between a belly button ring you would buy somewhere, and the particular barbells you get pierced with. I tried to take the top ball off the change only the ball, but couldnt get it off..I wasnt sure if there was something different about the starter barbell..thank you!

This happened to me. I thought i had lost my mind. I twisted it to the left one day the bottom part and it cam a part. Its weird. Because the ones they pierce it with twists backwards.

Q: hi,
i need help with my project
its catholic schools week
and i need to find a quote from someone who went to catholic school. ex matin luther king jr..but he wasn't catholic =] haha. so if you know anyone who went to a catholic school that is now "famous" please tell me!
thank you!!

http://www.aboutfamouspeople.com/article1031.html
Jefferson davis went to catholic school...

Supremme court justice was catholic....
Clarence Thomas

OOOOOOOOO Here is a page of famous catholics. You should be able to search them and find a quote.

http://www.adherents.com/largecom/fam_catholic.html

your welcome!!

Q: I have a bf, and is kinda serous. last week, i though id spend the rest of my life with him, and he was the only boy id ever love. well, this week i went on vacation and met this gorgeous boy. hes such a gentleman(sp), and hes so funny! i love to be around him. so now i realize my bf isnt who i want to be eith forever. i dont know why i should stay with him, if i like somone better. but the boy i like, hes a year older, and we live far away. it could never work between us, and i dont want it to anyways. i just love to be around him. so is there a point breaking up with my bf if i dont want to be with the other guy? and if yes, how do i do that? we were in LOVE, i mean he was my whole life. but now im realizing i didnt like him, i liked that he liked me. i dont want to break his heart, i still like him but as a friend. Also, i told the new guy's cousin that i liked him ( i didnt know it was his cousin!) and now i dont want him to find out because that could make things so awkward between us. how do i make him not find out? and if he does, how can i make it not awkward! thanx so much!

If that is his cousin im sure he will find out. But if you dont want to be with this guy anymore tell him dont keep leading him on.

HOW you ask?
Tell him what you just told us: im realizing i didnt like YOU, AS MUCH AS U liked me. i dont want to break YOUR heart, i still like YOU but as a friend. And if he cant handle that then oh well. You tried your best. Sometimes you cant help but to break a heart.

Q: Hey guys if you can quickly at my picture on my column (Krazy) and suggest what kind of bangs i should get? Im getting a haircut tomorrow and im not sure what to do! Thanks guys!

Side bangs look like they would be cute on you.

Q: ok
if we have been dating a month...
& valentines day comes up...what are so ideas of some things i could possibly get him?

i rate
& any advice wil be appreciated

THANKS IN ADVANCED

Its only been a month, so dont get all worked up. Get him like a shirt or some jeans. Maybe some shoes.

Q: okay i love my boyfriend of 9 months more than anything in the entire world. theres just one problem, he gets high all the time. he says its impossible for him to stop and i shouldnt make him choose. i know he might sound like an asshole but other than that he's perfect for me. but constantly worrying about him is really starting to upset me.

I had a boyfriend like this, and i really liked him. So I asked him to stop doing it around me. We ended up breaking up because he acted like his weed was more important.
You might love this guy but its up to you to make this decision. Weed is addictive. But try to see if you can get him to smoke less and less.

Q: 15/f

When a guy asks you to see a movie, does that necessarily mean it is a date? What if he is bringing one of his friends but doesn't care if you bring someone?

I suppose I am going to get different answers, but I'm sure there must be a way to figure it out.

Thanks! =)

Definately not a date. But he does indeed like you. He just dont want to get intimate yet.

Q: well ok i have 2 wuestions if i cut my hair in september how long my hair will be in march? and also is it true when your hair grows out it starts to thin? because mines is starting to a little bit... can anyone help me please?

It depends on your grade of hair. Thick or thin, if it grows fast or slow. How ofthen you wash it. Some of my friends hair will grow like an inch or so every month. But it takes mine forever!

Other Question. I dont know about the thinning but i know it sheds alot more when it is longer.

Q: Um I caan't wear high heels for this wedding I'm attending and I have really ugly feet so I guess I'm gonna have to go with platform shoes. Anyone suggests anything? Is there a way to make my feet look more pretty? It's clean but it's just an ugly feet. Like everyone in my family all were high heels and have really pretty feet but I can't and my family keeps saying I have ugly feet which makes me sad =(

Every got a pedicure? Try one of those, and if you still dont like your feet, Were closed toe high heels with some stockings.

Q: I did bad on my midterms so far and Ive only gotten 3 out of 7 back. On my english exam, I got a 93. But on my math exam I got a 59% and my french exam was a 68%. My grades have been good all year..Im just not good at testing. How do I tell my parents? Im really scared to tell them because theyre already worried and they dont want me to go back to my old ways (failing) like I did last year. Any ideas on how to break it to them?

Wait for your average and if you arent failing tell them you made a 68 on your midterm, but you are still passing the class. That will make them feel better. But if you are failing, be honest and tell them you really tried and you still couldnt do it. But its midterms and you are sure that you can pull it up and pass.

Q: what is a 'cash money hustla'?

Are you seriuos?
Its a person who gets/has money by hustling.
Hustling is working in the streets. Selling drugs etc. Or anything like that.

Some people classify themselves as hustlers if they are just doing what they gotta do to make money.

Q: hi. i had sex for the 1st time on the night of january 20th. it is january 22nd and i am still randomly bleeding. its not blood like period blood, its thinner and lighter in color.like a wound. i know the 1st time you have sex you bleed and it hurt a lot so i was expecting it. has it been too long though, for me to have been bleeding? my boyriend used a condom and he did not cum. he said that there was absolutely no sperm. We waited until the condom was on to do anything. however, i have read about conceptional bleeding and im worried. im so stressed and nervous that i may be pregnant. what should i be thinking right now?

Doubt that your pregnant if your bleeding. It takes 7 days for a sperm to reach an egg, and only happens between 5 and 14 days after your period. So im sure your fine. You may still be bleeding because your stressed. Try to lighten up.

Q: somtimes I eat too much. Like.. mostly when Im watching TV, I get hungry for some reason.. maybe because the kitchen is right next to the living room where the TV is. I end up eating all this stuff.. like 1 or 2 sandwiches (with cheese, peanut butter, jelly, etc.) sometimes with wheat bread, wheat bread with no grain-thingies, or white bread (which we have now.. ugh my dad said the others were sold out) also, i have stuff with lots of sugar. i'll end up making tea just so i can pack sugar in it, and either pour out the tea right after the teabag leaves its taste, or drink it, then at the bottom, eat all the extra sugar. I know.. its a weird thing to do, but sometimes im addicted to sugar! like sometimes if im bored (TV again) I'll take spoons and eat sugar from them (white and sometimes brown sugar). or, like now I take some of my baby bro's baby cereal (it tastes kinda good) and put alot of sugar and milk in a cup, and just eat it all together. i dont wanna finish his cereal... and i really dont wanna get diabetes!! Im not that fat or anything.. I'm 5'4 and weigh like 155 pounds, which is heavy, but I dont look heavy which is weird. I checked my BMI and I'm like 1 point above overweight!! OMG THATS CRAZY!!! IM NOT SUPPOSED TO BE FAT! Im not the skinniest chick ever, but I do sports. I think this little overreating thing (also sometimes i have 2 bowls of cereal, a whole costco muffin, 2 servings of food..etc. i cant resist good food, sometimes.) is part of why I'm not as light as I used to be. Well.. I was never really that light, but in 4th or 5th grade I weighed like 125 pounds. I gained 30 pounds in that little time! (I'm a 13 year old girl) maybe its just hormones.. but I dont like it! I wont compare myself to other girls.. who like dont really gain much but eat whatever they like, so I wanna find out ways I can get rid of my habit (where I eat just because I like the food, not necessarily because I'm hungry) and get back in shape (so I can look hotter for the summer! haha). also, how many meals should you eat a day? or is it determined by how much you exercise? post a whole chart if it will help me.. and thanks a lot! who knows, you may actually save my life from going obese! lol

First, Drink lots of water!! It fills you up. Fruit is sweet eat that!! I over eat too but the difference is i weigh 112!!!! You have to fight the temptation. That's all i can say.

Q: I'm gunna start to volunteer, but I don't know how many volunteer hours look good to colleges..1..20..100? What's the standard number of community service hours that colleges like?

Just the fact that you even volunteer will impress the colleges.

Q: well..im a junior in high school. im a horrible public speaker and found out that almost every college requires a speech class. how exciting. so i did some research and found a community college in my state that offers an online speech class where you tape your speeches and send the tapes to the teacher.

two questions about this. one, i wanna take this class during my last high school semester. i'll be taking an english class and 2 really easy electives. do you think taking the online class would be too much?

two, how do i approach my mom with this? she always makes me face my fears..but i have social anxiety disorder and facing my fears only intensifies them. so how do i get her to approve and help me?

It shouldnt be too much if you arent a very active person. I mean if you have free time. Just tell your mom straight out that you want to do it. Telll her that you just arent ready to jump right into it. BUT here is the thing, some teachers in college make you stand in front of the whole class and introduce yourself and tell a little bit about yourself. So your screwed either way.

Q: Hee hee, sorry about the title =)
Anyway, my ipod froze today. It's one of those 5th generation ipods (it has 60GB, it's the one you can put movies in). It came with a booklet when we bought it but I kind of lost it (I'm responsible) sso I don't know what to do. I want to turn it off/restart it so the battery won't waste anymore. How can I turn it off/restart it? What am I supposed to press?
P.S. I tried pressing the play button for a long time but nothing happened =(
Thank you for your time.

Your ipod has a year warranty. If you still have the box, call the nummber on the back and they will send you a box so you can send it to them. If they cant fix it they will give you a new one.

Q: How do i get rid of them? Quickly?

Some one told me that you put toothpaste on them. I tried it once. It helped a little.

Q: Ok well I wanan look perfect for my grad so those who went to a grad who answered this (please tell me if you did go) would be great help!.
Could you tell me which kinds of dress most girls wore? Like simple or the sparkle and sorta poofy thing? When I mean sparkle and poofy I mean like these dresses http://i143.photobucket.com/albums/r155/wind_miko/normal_taipei2210057f1a8pp.jpg

What colour most of them were (and tell me if it's all this colour or it was the colours blah and blah).

And can you tell me if most had their hair down or up and curled or not? What kind of hair?
And did they wear platform shoes or high heels?

And last thing, do you think my hair would look good with this hair style but like curled at the bottom? Becuase I'm not sure if it'd fit with my head shape. My head is bigger than hers and her round. http://i143.photobucket.com/albums/r155/wind_miko/wang1.jpg

And now that you know about my head and that I'm skinney, you can recommend me something even if not a lot of girls in your grad wore it. Thanks in advance!

Im sure your school is going to prep you but, my school:
Your dress had to be shorter than your gown.
You have to wear heels.
Most of the girls wore their hair down or curly. You gotta think about the hat.
At the end of the cermony we got to take off our gowns and there was every color there. Low cuts, Strapless, Every thing.
Shoes Have to be black.
And that hair is pretty. What color is yours? That looks like a hairstyle for dark hair.

Q: My friends and i are going to a concert in NYC and we wanted to get a limo to take us there and back (we live about 35 minutes outside of the city), does anyone know about how much it would cost for the night??

Thanks in advanced!

I dont know because i stay at the bottom of the map, but I googlled it. Call one of these numbers and ask.

http://www.google.com/search?sourceid=navclient&ie=UTF-8&rlz=1T4DBUS_en___US206&q=costs+of+limos+a+night+in+new+york

Q: I have a question about seepage since me and my girlfriend are worried about her getting pregnant. At the point of orgasm I have a fetish in which I have my girlfriend spread her labia and I ejaculate right on her vaginal area. She says she can get pregnant this way, but I dont believe she can seeing as its not ejaculated inside her. How likely is it?

O yes. She can Indeed get pregnant. Sperm is alive. It moves. It takes 7 days to die. Use VCFs. It kills the sperm on contact. Its a thin sheet contraceptive that you stick dep in the vagina, and it melts. No problems.

bio

Its A brand new year!! And I havent really been giving advice lately so now IM BACK!! If you have something to ask dont hesitate to ask. DONT BE SHY!! I've been there! Or I know someone who has!

I am a black albino female whose been through alot!!! I have a lot advice to give. Im a very knowledgeable person, and i look at things from many different views. Im very blunt, so if you dont want to hear it straight dont ask me!! any thing else you wanna know get at me!

LET ME REINTRODUCE MYSELF REAL FAST, REAL QUICK!
iM A BLUNT PERSON, IF YOU ASK A GROWN UP QUESTION, IMA GIVE A GROWN UP ANSWER. RECENTLY A GIRL ASKED HOW TO GIVE A BLOWJOB AND I WAS VERY BLUNT AND UPFRONT WITH HER. I GOT SHUNNED FOR MY ACTIONS SO, BASICALLY. IM GOING TO TRY TO AVOID ANSWERING QUESTIONS LIKE THIS. BECAUSE ALL THOUGH THESE KIDS ASKING THESE QUESTIONS ARE YOUNG, THEY OBVIOUSLY BEEN DOING SOMETHING THEY AINT GOT NO BUSINESS DOING BECAUSE THE WOULDNT BE ASKING THOSE TYPES OF QUESTIONS.