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I'm always jealous of other girls because I I know that their so much prettier than me. I'm even jealous of my friends. One of my friends is like so perfect: shes pretty, all the boys are like in love with her.. her life is just perfect all together. and i am SOO jealous! I reallly want to get over it but i dont know how. I'm constantly comparing myself to other people .. and i think that brings down my self-esteem.
i just want to stop being jealous because it just makes me feel worse about myself..

how do i stop being jealous? and is there anyone else out there who feels the same way ?

hey i know how you feel..ive felt that way before..its all normal. stop comparing yourself to others..we all have something to offer, ya know? looks are nice, but its not the whole 'package.' Its not enough to have someone like you because of looks..although your friend has a lot of guys liking her..i bet a lot of them just like her for looks. so she probably has some trouble deciphering whether they truly like her or iff its jus because of looks. I dont have the looks ,..but i have other things. to get over jealousy focus on what you do have. like personality..i bet you have a great personality. ive been told im extremely sexy when it comes to personality lol..which is awesome! so just look at what youu have ..and keep in mind the guys will come to you also..you have to be patient.. I get jealous of the really pretty girls..but then i thgink of how it must be to have guys liking them just because of looks and how it must be to have to go through the whole thing where guys like them just for looks.

there will always be someone out there with nice eyes..or a better body..or something..you gota just keep in mind we are all special and unique
-melissa

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Hey Guys, This Has Really been bothering me and I don't know what to do. I Knew what sex was when I was about 6 years old. I'm 13 Now. But I'm Worried that I wasn't Raised Right. I mean Most Kids don't even know what Making Out is When their like 7!! But I Knew! Was I or Am I Normal??? No SmartAzz's About This....Thanks

hey its not a big deal..it doesnt mean your a slut just because you found out stuff earlier than others. its all good.dont worry

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Okay, my mom has a friend who has a son. They came over one night and this was the first time I have met him before, he kept on staring at me or just looking at me in the eyes a lot. That night he asked his mom for my e-mail adress and I got an e-mail from him saying " you looked amazing the other night and I think ur really cool, I want to get to know you better," or "do you have a boyfriend" or "what are you most like? Calm and collective, or wild and crazy?"
and stuff like that and I just dont know... is he interested in me?? He's a senior in High School and I am a freshman. What should I do?!?!

hes definately interested..it doesnt get more obvious than that! so reply to the email and answer the questions honestly..and if you want, make plans to hang out with him. :)
-meliss

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ok so i like this girl. how do i tell her?

ask her if she sees you being more than just friends. let her know you see her being more than just a friend. you can email her or leave her a myspace message..say this on AIM , write her a letter,call her, or say it in person. first figure out which one you want to do..and just tell her your getting feelings for her and you like her more than just a friend. if she doesnt feel the same way dont worry..i know people always say things will be weird but thats not always true. in fact, it might bring you closer. thats what happened to me. instead of things being weird and awkward, we became closer friends..i didnt let the fact that i told him how i felt and he didnt feel the same way interfere with our friendship..so it wasnt weird for us. and what do ya know...2 months later, we are going out . it just goes to show ya...you never know unless you take a gamble
--melissa--

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Do guys like it hairy or shaved?

i dont know one guy who has told me he prefers it hairy..and i have had this convo with a few guys ..my close guy friends. so if your not going to shave it, trim it at least

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how can i hide a hicky from my parents..i dont have really long hair so that wont work and i dont wear turtlenecks so yeah i need help

zipperr ur coat up ..some winter coats bundle you up so your neck is hidden, stay in bed all day with the blankets pulled up so its covered, scarfs, coverup,

lol i had a hickey one time and i said it was from me and some girl getting in a fight. i dont know if tha would work for you but you can try it.

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i'm 13 yrs.old and female

i feel really stupid for askng this but, i don't know, i THINK i feel desperate!!! i don't know. i've LIKED ALOT of people in the past and even now!! i think i'm ugly but some people think i'm "pretty"( i THINK ppl. say that because they just wanna boost my self esteem.) no boy ever thought i was pretty. EVER as far as i know. i'm not popular nor am i nerd. i'm in the middle.i want boyz 2 like me, what do i do? i want 2 look better. but i don't wanna be drastic and use some chemicals,i wanna be ALL natural! what do i do about ALL of this??? boyz never even take a 2nd look at me!! HEEEELLLLLPPPP!

be yourself. the boy who can look deeper than just beauty is the boy worth your time. a lot of really pretty girls are used for their looks..the guy is attracted to the girls looks..and they are like eye candy to them. thats what one girl told me anyway *one of my pretty friends* So look being average and not glamerous has its advantages..you knwo when a guy comes along hes really into you..and isnt using you for your model looks or whatever. your only 13..a lot of people dont have relationships until 15,16,17 and they are good looking people ..so dont get down on yourself..there will be many dating opportunities to come your way

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ok so lately i've been trying really hard to be someone different. someone i'm not. look-wise, i've gotten preppier. but when i get on the computer sometimes, i'm all scene. i like to listen to techno music...a lot. but only my best friend knows about that. if everyone knew i listened to it, they would call me a poser. i've already had people call me a prep. but i'm really not. i hate makeup and hairspray. but then again, i love to feel like i look pretty even though i don't. people still see me as the over weight ugly girl that i really am. and i'm not some skinny girl saying i'm fat. i really am fat. i'm sorry this is so long but if you could please give me some advice, it would be greatly appreciated.
[[the desperate poser]]

alright loook..the only way to live life is to live it being you! so if you like techno, then listen to it! screw what others think because those who judge you arent worth your time anyways. i dont care as much what people will think of me because i see things this way : Either they like me for me..or they dont. if they dont..fine.. because i have true friends and thats all that matters. i dont need to impress anyyyone. im heavy also..not the prettiest..but who cares? we are all beautiful in our own way..Dont go through life living it so others will approve of you..live it being you! the things that matter in life is stuff like true friends, having fun, being you..not impressing people ..your not a poser if your doing what you like and acting real.
-meliss

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You know those movies that show a 12 or 13 year old kid with a girl his same age? They're young and cute and share their first kiss with eachother. Like the one in 8 crazy nigts! Well, I get this feeling that lots of girls my age have had that fantasy childhood, and well, i just haven't! In my town the only oppurtunity for those kind of relationships is with the school boys. The only place you can really get to know them is at school. Not throught sports or clubs and whatnot.They're mostly jerks though. I'm 13 and I really can't accept that i'll never have that fantasy realtionship. I think I'm pretty (as told by some boys at camp), I'm very confident in myself when it comes to my body, I'm pretty friendly, and I have a sense of humor. I do tend to get cranky with boys who try to be funny. HELP MEE!!

dont get so down just because you didnt have that "perfect" relationship yet. a lot of people dont have their first relationship and kiss until 15,16,17+ ..so be patient yuou sound like an awesome person..you will have a great relationship one day. there is nothing wrong with you and you dont need help..just be yourself and be patient..you have your whole life to be getting romantically involved.
-meliiss

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ok...im 13/f and well i had a bf this last summer and he broke up with me but the thing is he was perfect for me . i no everyone says that but he really was everything i could ask for in a guy and i had liked him for about 2 years. when he broke up with me i was devastated and i still haven't gotten over him and he promised we would be friends but whenever i try to talk to him on aim he signs off. and i can't stop thinking about him. he's always on my mind. like when the song we belong together comes on it makes me cry b/c that was the first song that we danced to and im just ready to get over. help

hey give it some time..maybe have a friend talk to him ..he will come around and you guys will be friends again. you might not get back together..but being friends is better than you guys never talking

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I broke up with my boyfriend because his grandma never lets him do anything with me. A friend told me he's taking it really hard and it makes me feel bad. I want to give in and go back out but it's hard. What should I do?

its called scheming and nobody does it better than teenagers lol. go out with him..have him tell grandma hes meeting some friends wherever..when really hes going to meet up with you. try and get around the grandma and make it work. i have confidence you guys can outsmart the oldtimer ;)
-meliss

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Hi, my name is Delores, and I dont knwo what to do! There is this guy who always watches me. Help!! Do I go to the police. He invited me inside his house several times, and once I went with him and he put my hand on his penis. What should I do?

well obviously dont hang around this guy..dont go to his house.maybe get an order of protection out. stalkers arent good ..gota terminate them lol

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I just got a new boyfriend and, although I have not had that many boyfriends in the past, I have had my share of seeing a guys "thing". Somtimes my friends and I have fooled around and some guys were flashing us. Anyways, so i have seen a few "things" so I know like about an average size. My new boyfriend however, doesnt have a "thing" as big as the others Ive seen. I am not going to be having sex anytime soon, but still, I dont know what to make of it. I dont know whether I should breakup, or maybe not even make a big deal. My brother always said its not the size, its how you use it. I never really understood that too much, but I just am a little worried. Any advice would be very helpful. Thanks a bunch!
-Melaina
(Age 16) (My bf and I are the same age if you need to know that.)
Thanks again!

the size doesnt matter! dont you really like your bf for the great guy that he is? if you are eveen THINKING of breaking up with him because he doenst have a big enough thing for you...then you need to just be a prostitute ..lol im sorry but its the truth. the size doesnt matter! dont make a big deal out of it..it just doesnt matter and i hope you understand that pene size doesnt matter..what matters is that hes a sweet caring bf..he is right? so its all goood :)
-meliss

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ok well there is this kid named Billy, who I really like! He jokes around with me, he calles me his future wife and stuff. I like it and my friend says its flirting and tat he probably likes me. I'm not sure. I really want him to like me. Also he gets really close to me sometimes and hugs me really close. When he does it is like the best thing in the world! He told me him self that he likes a few people including his exgirlfriend. Should I back off or what? I need help please help

I rate well!

he likes you..but other people also. give it some time..keep up what you got goin with him.. and see what happens...and he met . its the best advice i can offer..patience is a virtue.
good luck!
-meliss

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well i hav this bf, his name is damian, and we have been going out for about 1 month now and i like him and all but he can be very pushy, and always seems to want to kiss me, and i dont mean just a plain kiss (that would be ok), he always wants to make out, in front of everyone, and i dont think that i am ready for that i feel very pressured, but i dont know how to let him know how i feel. i dont know what to do, i feel lost. i feel this is taking a toll on our relationship. help me please. any advice would be great. thanks a bunch!
-gwyneth

gwyneth, its very important to tell your bf how your feeling.either talk to him in person, write a letter, aim,phone, idk just somehow get it across to him how your feeling..tell it like it is, thats the only way to go. Im sure he will respect your feelings and boundaries and back off ..if he doesnt, then there is a problem. Its important to keep communication open and talk to him..im sure he wouldnt want to make you feel pressured. so talk to him..and he should ease up and goes at your pace, whatever that may be...and if he doesnt get it, then he needs to go because i know how it feels to be pressured into moving too quickly..it definately is not good.
-meliss

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okay well there is this guy that asked me out last year && i saw no. but now i regret it..because i guess i like him now..but now he is going out with my friend && everybody is like saying they are PERFECT for each other..&& i heard that he brought her a ring from jared`s && now i can`t stop thinking that it could have been me. but i`m not sure if i tell him he likes me he might reject me && me && my friend may not like me anymore..

in this situation definately stay away. i mean, the girl is your friend! the two of them are happy..i definately would not start drama and try n break them up. its not worth it. be happy for your friend and move on
-meliss

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Me and my boyfriend had sex 3 times today. The first with a condom, and then the second, he started off without a condom (I don't think there was any pre-mature ejaculation) but then finished that with one on. Then the last time we did have a condom. And he only pulled out the first time. I just got finished having my period Saturday. So I was wondering is there a possibility that I could possibly get pregnant?

well yes. there is always a chance..even if a condem is used for the whole time. also.. you cant always feel precum so how do you know there was none? pulling out is not an effective way of preventing pregnency..it might work for the first few times..or many times..but you dont want to take chances do you? yes there is a chance you can be pregnent

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I went out to the movies with my frineds for my birthday. No one really talked to me they just talked to each other and left me out. How do i become more popular to make them want to tlak to me all the time especially on my birthday?

this raises a red flag to me. im very concerned because true friends dont ignire their friends .especially on your bday they shouldnt. analyze WHY your friends with these people. i hope it works out for you

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How does one regain a trust broken!?
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patience and time. dont give the person any reasons to not trust you. open up to them about somethign personal maybe. i hope i helped

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I was just wondering what everyone thinks about love? I don't believe in love and was just wondering what everyone else thought about it.

I beleive in love. I think you might not beleive in it because you have not experienced it yet with a bf..but think for a minute. Don't you love your family and friends? Love isnt just the kind of love you share with your bf or husband , you can also have love for close friends and family.
-meliss

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