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Okay, so I'm in love with this guy named ross, and im not sure if i should hook up with other people to see if it makes him jealous or just hook up with nobody because i only want him. it makes me feel bad when i hook up with other guys bc it makes me want ross more but i figured he might want me more if i did hook up with other guys, and ive tried to before adn it didnt seem to work but idk i think should keep trying.

-- Danielle (on kellys username)

Don't try and make him jealous. He will just be like, "She doesn't like me." & move on. Just freaking ask him out if you like him. That's usually but most people DO. How old are you anyways, I mean, most people figure, 'I like a guy, I flirt and maybe ask him out.' But they DEFINITLY don't think, 'Hmm. Maybe I'll go out with other guys. Maybe then he will like me.' It'll probably just make him think your slutty. Which isn't good. Future advice - don't ask stupid questions on advicenators. It makes people angry
--Shelby

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well im not going to do it now but for like future comings, like well i wouldnt know rite but do you shave down stairs for girls like if you did that wouldnt the guy hate that? like whats better? what do you do?

Shave if you want to. It does make it easier for him to give you oral sex without flossing his teeth with pubic hair. Shave if you feel comfortable doing so. Most guys do like it
♥Shelby

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When I go to college, I want to be like the girls on girls gone wild. How can i?

Be a slut. Flash random people. Show up to bars drunkk & act in ways that would ashame all that know you. Hook up with girls and guys both and get it on. Drink until you don't know who you are, much less what your doing. What a great reason to go to college. Why dont you just skip college and go right into the pornography business. This is one of the stupidest questions ever posted, but I believe it deserves an opinion.
Have fun in college.. -eyeroll-
--Shelby.

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i think i like a gay guy. i would ask him out if only he wasn't gay. hes cute but wears the same tight jeans that look like he got them out of the womens department everyday. i have no idea why he would wear that in the summer anyway. also with that outfit, he would wear a black shirt, black sneakers, volcom cap, and checkered belt. also only on one day he wore a different outfit. it was a marun (however you spell it, and if u don't no what i put, its that dark red and purplish color) shirt, plaid shorts, same belt and hat, and green sneakers. it looks like he took a pair of shorts out of my dad's closet. i don't know if hes gay or if he just doesn't have style. what do u think? and also i would like him if he wasn't "gay" and had better style. what should i do? thanks-♥

He's not gay.
He thinks he's emo/scene.
Thats how "scene" people dress. Its not very uncommon where i live, and alot of my friends find it rather attractive :P haha. The way a guy dresses doesn't determine his sexuality. If he is wearing the same clothes everyday, he might have a hygeine problem. Ask him out :] You'll find out preeeety quick whether or not he's as "gay" as you think or not :]
♥Shelby

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okay my friends mom called me a slut and everything one day because my thong was showing . i dont get it . my friend sleeps around with guys all the time and pretty much wears nothiong to school && we are in 9th grade . hello!!! i dont know what her problem is and she lets her daughter dress like that . she buys her like push up bras , water bras and all that but im the slut who shows off my boobs? wow well yeah

She is probably trying to be like, "Oh this girl shows her thong, she is more slutty than my daughter." Shes just trying to make her daughter look better probably. Anyyyway, dont let it bother you, you know its not true & you know who the real slut is. Maybe just try to stay away from her. At any rate, ignore it. She is being wayy too judgmental of you, for someone whos daughter is obviously a slut.
♥Shelby

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i have blue eyes and brown hair well how can i make my eyes look bigger .. everyone is always saying how pretty my eyes are ... but i want the to stand out more what can i do ? and how can i wear my hair to compliment my eyes && i have really gross eyebrows i hate them they like curl and there wayy long.. HELP PLEASE

Kay, wear eyeliner, a dark brown shade or black but dont put it tooo thick and dont go for the raccoon look. Pull your hair back, dont wear it in your eyes. side ponytail, pigtails, braids, and you can go online to look for more cute styles :] Eyebrows, go get them waxed. It does hurt but not for a long time and you dont have to pluck them for a long time. Plucking, in my experience hurts worse. My friend has blue eyes too and she wears eyeliner with gray eyeshadow kind of smoky-eyed and it looks good on her but it might not on you with brown hair, but who knows? Give it a try.
♥Shelby

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I DON'T KNOW REALLY. iT'S JUST SMALL THINGS. Like when I WAS CRYING ONCE BECAUSE I WAS REALLY UPSET ABOUT SOMETHING and she wasn't even hugging me or trying to help me out by talking about it.

Plus if she is with someone else (a specific person) she wont really speak to me.

But then i can speak to her about anything and vice versa but sometimes she just does things that i wouldn't really expect someone to do if they were a true friend .

Maybe she is just, not really sure how to handle someone crying, maybe her household isnt very, open about that stuff or somthing. If you can talk to her easily and viceversa then she probably is a pretty good friend just talk to her about how you feel and maybe you can get through to her
♥ Shelby

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okay well I baby sit my neighbors and I love there kids and they are 8 and 7 but ehy pay me like 30 dollars i think it is like way too much but i dont want to say because i like just started baby sitting and they are my only clients being 13 and all i know i started a little late but what ever please help me with the pay problem do you thikn 30 dollars is too much should i set a number of dollars an hour? help me

That sounds about right. I babysit and me and my clients agree on a rate per hour most of the time. Sit them down and tell them "Do you think my wages are fair? I'm new to this and I am wondering if you think i deserve it" They will tell you why and maybe you could ask if you could get paid by the hour and maybe come upon $11-$15 a hour. But honestly, $30 sounds about right, but if they for some reason come home way early one night, and your only there maybe 45 minutes or so then tell them that you cant accept full wage. Hope I helped!
♥Shelby

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How do you know if someone is a true friend?

They are always there for you when you need someone and they don't talk about you and they don't ditch you and you can be yourself in front of them, completely. Why do you ask? Friend problems? :] Just curiouuuuus :P
♥Shelby

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ok so in 3 1/2 weeks it will be me and my bf 1 year anniversery. so i was wondering.. what can i get him.. i got a couple ideas but not so sure about them any idea?

1) besides a gift i was thinking of sendin him like a love letter to his house. is that good or bad? how much be4 time do i have to send it to him in order for it be recieved on the exact date. he lives 45 minutes away from me.

2) i was also thinking about like a hat and a brecelt. what do you think?

any idea will get a 5

Hmm, well I don't know when you would have to send the letter it just depends on your mail system and such. Ask your parents or go to the post office and find out. About what to get him, guys often like, sunglasses (like from sunglass hut or whatever.) puka shell necklaces, giftcards to their favorite stores (AE, Hot Topic, whatever he's into) and also, video games. So if maybe you've noticed he has an Xbox or Gamecube and heard him ranting to his friend about this KILLER game he HAS to have, maybe get him that. Boxers, DVDs, and CDs are good ideas too. Drop me a line & let me know what you end up getting him :]
♥ Shelby

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well im one of those girls who care about there weight 24-7! im so sick of feeling i have to be pretty,smart,athletic,and more improtanly SKINNY. sometimes when i see junk food its just there so why not eat it rite? ik its bad to eat it but it taste so good and i like it. then i do the worst thing ever look in the mirror and go gross im fat! it like duh you were just eating junk. so everytime i go to a party i go its just food think of it as garbage. doesnt work im also one of those people who like starve themselves and my friends know it because one time in school we were watching this movie that talked about crap like that and i looked so sad but i didnt care so they know! and well im 5'5 and like wiegh god who knows now probally still 123 and i dont like that if i ever get to 130 i will kill myself no like so what im trying to do is like l00se the pounds b4 november my next checkup so if i see a 130 something i will really no lie kill myself i dont like that so if you guys would help me any sugestions that would be great!!

Oh I'm afraid of the rating i'll get..You're not fat. Chill out. Your perfectly normal. If you weighed 130 you would still be normal. I know girls 5'8" that weigh 175 that arent fat because they have LOADS of muscle, yeah they might be overweight but there's nothing wrong with that just chill out dont go all suicidal. killing yourself over that is the stupidest thing i have heard in a long time. Do you come on here to get compliments off these types of questions? Because 5'5" & 130 isn't fat. Duh.
♥Shelby

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This is long so be prepared...

I'm 13/f and I'm having trouble with my body image. I used to be overweight (about 2 years ago) but then my mom helped me get into a better diet and now I'm not SO overweight and fat. Over the past few months I've been starting to eat sweets here and there but I'm still exercising a lot. The feeling of "Oh my gosh I've gotten so fat" suddenly came on in the past month. I have even gained weight and I'm really, really close to being over weight according to the weight chart. I will admit that I'm one of those girls who says "I'm fat" in front of my friends and especially my mom and expect to hear "oh no you're not." So when I said "I've gained a lot of weight!!! GOSH I'm starting to get so fat again..." to my mom she didn't say anything like "you're over reacting...you look just fine." She simply said "well, you're going to have to work on that." I was shocked =O I couldn't believe that even she had started to notice (and in a way agreed with me) and now I'm starting to wonder if other people notice. So...I got really depressed about it...and said to myself "if I could just be skinny I'd feel so much better about myself..." I hate thinking that the only way to get thin is to just not eat. I also realize I'm putting how I LOOK in front of my HEALTH and it's bothering me that I am ignoring what becoming a semi-anorexic would do to my health. I'm not exactly "huge" but I do have plenty of extra pounds I want to get rid of. At the moment I'm really upset because I don't know what to do. When I talked to my mom she just said "well, you need to get back into eating healthy" but I am and it ISN'T WORKING. She also says "You are also over reacting about becoming anorexic. you're being such a drama queen." HELLO! I'M SERIOUS HERE!! and i don't plan on becoming skin and bones. I really need some advice on what to do...I'm worrying myself by the way I'm thinking! =[

I have expeiriece with this, its actually like, the same story. I was overweight 2 years ago, severly, and lost so much weight and gained HUGE amounts of muscle its not even funny how much muscle i have. Chances are people probably are tired of hearing you complain about yourself, so they dont say "oh your not fat" they say "work on that" people dont like to hear people fishing for compliments. I'm sure your probably very pretty. Don't worry about your weight too much as alot of people actually do grow out of being chubby etc. anorexia = bad idea. NOT a fun way to live, trust me :] If you are continuing to exercise, you are in shape and probably have a fair amount of muscle, so that could contribute to your weight as well. If you are eating relativly healthy and working out there is really not that much to be worried about. You can't be HORRIBLY unhealthy if you excersise regularly. Keep eating what you crave but just don't OVEREAT. Eat what you want when you want it but stop when you are satisfied. its ok to be hungry, so dont eat until you are completely full, eat until hunger subsides. And don't cut out junk completely because then you will want it and all that want will build up and will bust and you will binge (eat excessivly) of the candy or whatever you crave. Just cut back on it. I also suggest you maybe look up a chart of negative calorie foods, which are foods that burn calories as they are digested (Steak is a Negative Calorie food!). Keep working out. Just dont obsess too much, as stress can actually lead to weight-gain :] If the charts say you are normal, just dont stress. Good Luck & Let me Know how it goes. Just drop one in my inbox sometime:] I'd love to hear from you!
♥Shelby

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I need some ideas for a job b/c i need to get some cash for a car and i play volleyball so I need a job thats easy to change stuff something like walking dogs or stuff like that.thanx for any comments!!!

I don't know about you, but where I live they let anyone over 14 ref. volleyball games for younger ages in a rec. league, so maybe you could ask around about that. Other jobs could be dog walking, cleaning houses for older people, house sitting, baby sitting, or anything your good at that you enjoy at least somewhat (yes, working is never ALL fun) :]
♥ Shelby

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do you think getting fingered or giving a handjob is to slutty for a 13 yr old? thanks♥

Honestly I came so close to getting fingered when I was your age a few months ago, but I wasn't ready. It's not slutty, because slutty is being engaged in sexual activity with multiple partners. What you did was just...frowned upon for your age. But it is what you think your ready for and nobody can tell you what your ready for except you. Do what you think is right. Goodluck
♥Shelby

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here at my school we have a table called the popular table and i sit at it .all my friends are popular i guess i am but there is another table its like a blank table and two hispanics sit at it . i try to invite them to sit with us but they always say know and they talk about my friends behind their backs the worst part is they cuss them out when their not around their the only hispanics in our homeroom all of us are white i dont know if their racist or not.we all pray before we eat .i decided to sit with them one day and i asked if they wanted to pray but they just cussed me out it makes us feel bad .they think were all dumb blond\brunettes.but they are teachers pets it kills me please help me.

I'm guessing the question is "What should I do about these girls?' so yeah. There isn't alot to do. You just have to accept the fact that these girls obviously dont respect your friends and you, and they aren't worth your time if they obviously don't accept you, dont go out of your way to get made fun of. These girls obviously need to get over themselves & there isn't a whole lot you can do to change them. They have to change themselves. There are some people in the world like that. They are their own worst enemy.
♥Shelby

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if i started to shave my arms, would the hair grow darker and longer?

ps. my arm hairs are black

Yes it will just grow back longer and coarser (thicker) so just keep it you aren't the only person with black arm hair, and 99% of people don't even notice it :]
♥Shelby

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