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Q: Im 15/f

Ive posted a question about my ex"friend" recently. (she was a "friend" at the time) She was judging all of my friends and always tagged along and was boring and couldnt continue a conversation. well, on wednesday at lunch time one of my friends gave me a note so i was walking and reading it, and then i hear footsteps next to me and someone dragging their feet, it was that "friend" and she was following me around again without talking..when she came up she didnt even say hi. *shrugs*.

Anyways yesterday we had the same class together and she now has made a new friend in that class (whos racist against me and is trash to be honest) So when she had someone else she pretened like i wasnt there and didnt try to talk to me (which is a good thing) so at lunchtime when she usually follows me around she now hangs out with her trashy racist new friend. After school like at night time she IMed me and said "can you do me a favor" so i made up an excuse and said i was busy.

Today i totally ignored her cause i have other people to hang out with because i always talk to random people cause im not shy. She on the other hand had noone so she hung out with a shy quiet girl that she always judged and said bad stuff about. I sit next to that girl in the class we have after lunch so she told me that my ex "friend" was talking about how she doesnt want to be my friend anymore. (which is SUCH a good thing, finally she got the point)

Anyways sorry this was wrong but i need advice on what to do from now on cause she and her racist friend are in my group in one of our classes.

Arrite first off, racist people are just plain ridiculous. And that "friend" seems a little stalker-ish, Now since you have to be in a group with them, either tell the teacher you need to switch groups, or just Do your part of the project, ignore them and just get it over with. In the mean time, IM your "friend" tell her you know what she said and tell her that your glad, because you dont need a friend like her anyways.

Hope it helped!
xOxO

Q: Okay heres the thing. There's this guy I really like. His name is Eugene. I've liked him since 5th grade. Right now I'm in 8th. Well, me and him have been really good friends. We talk alot on the phone, and talk to each other in school. Well, my friend Jamie, she likes Eugene too. In her journal she writes how much she loves him and everything. I get really jealous. I tend to cry. See, what I don't get is why does he hug her, and like kiss her on the cheek. But like yet he's only known her for this whole month. He doesn't do anything with me and we've known eachother for about 3 - 4 years. He flirts with her so much. I asked him if he likes her or anything, and he says no he doesn't.. just as a friend. I really don't know what to do. Right now I'm kinnda' upset, 'cause Jamie asked this girl from my class to come up to Eugene and ask him if he'd go out with her. He said "I'll think about it." God, I felt like crying. I really don't know what to do anymore. Help me please?? Thanks.

Okay... Well 1. Jamie obviously isnt a real friend if she still continues to flirt with him and stuff.. 2. maybe you should go up to Eugene and hug and kiss him? i think that you should have a serious conversation with him... tell him how you feel.. he should understand.. and if he doesnt .. then he isnt worth it.. you seem to good for him anyway!

hope i helped

Q: Ok, this weekend was the homecoming game & dance. A good guy friend of mine, let’s call him “Bob”, ok, now me and “Bob” have a history together, and recently, things have happened (mostly he stood me up for a dance) and I know that he is not that great of a person (he’s a stoner) and yet I still love him, but, he has messed up so many times in the past, but I know things will turn out ok, because we both really care about one another. And I know this for a fact, but his mom died about 3 yrs ago, and eh was really close to his mom, and her death made him hate relationships, and hate love. Is there anyway that I can convince him the\at not all relationships are bad and that love can be a great thing? And to let him know htat I am here for him always. I tell him that I am always here, and I tell him a lot, but I think he is afraid to lose me like he did his mom…what can I do to help him?

Well "Bob" has been through alot, And i think its his time to get into a serious relationship... If you like him.. like that then i think you should totally open up to him and prove to him that its okay to be afraid but.. if you only wanna be good friends..then talk to him as a friend and explain to him that you know how he feels and u think he should give it a try

h0pe i helped..

Q: one of my best guy friends, lets just say named steve, just told me today that he tried cutting his wrist tha other night..i saw the cut, it was TINY but still it was a cut..i dunno if he is trying to get attention or if he is serious..because the cut looked like it was from a longggg time ago and he said he just recently had done it..i dunno what to say to him because no matter what, real or not, i have to support him, etc...he is like the happiest pesron i know,but i guess i dont know anymore...help

Well Cutting is a serious thing... and some people do it for attention but others think that it really helps... obviously your friend is going through alot... you should really have a deep conversation with him and see whats bothering him... alot of my friends and i have had cutting problems.. (we got through it luckily) but.. your friend is going through alot right now the best you can do is be there and listen... he needs you the most right now.. Hope i helped

Q: how often should u dye ur roots if u dye ur hair like blonde and ur hair is naturally black:?

About ever month or so.. or untill your roots are really bothering you or noticable.. about 1 inch or a half long... Hope i helped

Q: Okay, I wanna get put on birth control. But, my mom doesn't know i have sex. I told her that it was to regulate my period. But see, im scared that if I go she'll find out i have sex. My friend said that they can't tell your parents if you have unless you have a disease. but shes never had sex. So my question is, If your under 18 can they tell your parents if you've had sex or not? please answer..Thanx!

Hi.. Im 15 and expiriencing with sex aswell, My mom know's though... But i know for a fact that if you go to the doctors you can check a box that says your parents dont know.. and u dont want them to.. or something like that. Thanksz