heyehy i'm ashlee
most people call me ashlee but i personally like ash. i'm 14 and i live in connecticut, i have the most amazing friends ever. i'm not perfect one bit, i have many things about me people don't know, i have anxiety&&depression i was diagnosed with my anxiety when i was about 7 but i had it since 5. my depression was last year and it was so scary, i love to help people with any type of problem they may have. back in 1st grade my best friend and i actually had a fix fight club, when two people were fighting we would help them sort it out haha
E-mail: omgitsashlee3@hotmail.com
Gender: Female
Location: connecticut
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Age: 14
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okay just three days ago I started using Vasaline healthy summer glow moisterizer. Its done a really nice job on my legs but its turned a hickey orange as well as a couple bruises on my arms. Also there's orangy spots right before my armpits, and my feet and face and the bax of my hands refuse to tan. Im stopping the whole thing tommorow morning but I was wondering if there's any quick fixes for the orange stains and such? Im off from school for a week so should that help if i wanna lose some of the color?
Thank you:) (link)
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i used the victoria secret tanning stuff and it did the same to me. there isnt anything that willtake it off completly but it was all over my hands so i pu them in a bowl of nail polish remover and scrubbed them really hard then i took a really long shower im not sure if it helped but then i useeed peroxide and scrubbed the area with it and the color faded a lot. ive heard lemons work too but i didnt try
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So its my best friends 17th birthday in about 2 weeks, and we usually do something cute for each other. this year she wrote on my car windows with that paint stuff and tied balloons to it. and last year i sent her a teddy bear with a balloon tied to it in her locker (she goes to another school). so i was wondering if anyone has any cute, more original ideas? thanks :] (link)
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have her wake up to flowers next to her bed with a nice letter from you in it telling her how you feel about your friendship with her or something like that.
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Ok...I think I am depressed...and if I am...what is the way to go about it? I don't know how to tell people, my mom will make me go to therapy, and take medicine...and I don't want to! She has severe depression...because of an inbalance in her brain of seritonin (sp)....I just don't know how to tell my mom...or my friends...or a social worker I have befriended, and I trust her very muchh...and I don't want to tell her because if I do, then she will call my parents...and I want to tell them...so any suggestions?
All advice is welcomed (link)
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okay well i have anxiety which goes hand in hand with depression. last winter i was depressed. i had thoughts of killing myself but like i didnt want to i just was thinking about it. it was weird, i knew it wasnt like me to think like that and finally i snapped and i had to tell someone. i told my mom (i dont tell her much of my personal life, just basic stuff so it was hard to tell her) then the next day she called my doctor and we went in and he gave me a perscription for my anxiety pills (i had stopped taking them) and i went to a phychtheripist. i know i was like i dont wanna be there this is stupid... i went every week for about a month then when she saw i was getting better she lowered it to like twice a month then once a month and now i dont go anymore. i really didnt like going but i missed school which wwas good and i made a joke about it with my friends, i called her "the shrink" and when id come back to school my friend and i would make fun of her, one time i actually recorded a few minutes of our session and we laughed about that. so you need to tell your mom or the social worker, she may tell your mom but that might be easier than you having to tell her yourself. depression is not fun at all and can affect you physically. you probably will not need medication unless it gets bad, i wouldnt tell to many of your friends. just when you go to the shrink laugh about it its mean but its fun and makes you feel better about going. if you need anything else
email me -xoashhx33@hotmail.coom
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ok this is really weird...im a 13 y.o. female and started my period (not 4 th first time) ON January 5th and it ended the 11th and now it's Feb. 15 and it still hasnt came this month whats wrong...P.S. im still a virgin and i dont want to talk to my mom or doc about it....PLEASE HELP!!!
Thanks :) (link)
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its totally fine and normal. im 14 and mine didnt come for 2 months and then it started again, my friends gone 3 months. just give it time. it normally takes about 2 years for it to get normal and on a pattern
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Ok here it is:
Everyday I go on the computer to watch videos, chat with friends and just surf the net.
Heres my problem though
I have like a schedule but like . . . ok for example I say I want to do my hw at 6pm but then I watch something so interesting I want to watch the next episode then its like already 6 and then I say I'll do my hw at 6:30
etc etc then its already 11 and I just completely forgoted about my hw
What should I do?
I'm so addicted to be on my computer I just don't have the time for my hw?!?! T___T
Thank you if you've gave me advice I galdly appreciate it thanks :D
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i have the sameeeeeeeeeee problem.
either record the shows or plan ahead. if you know a show will be on at 4 and that you will probably watch it till dinner do it before the show. tell yourself not to turn on the tv till you get lets say 3 subjects done, use computer or tv as a reward for getting something done. or do it during commercials
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i wanna lose weight, so i go on the elliptical.
but i hear the treadmill is better.
the thing is, i have really bad stamina, i can't run for long periods of time without running out of breath, and i need to improve this a lot, and quickly.
any ideas on how to improve my stamina a lot, and quick, and also just how to lose weight.
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just run for as much as you can then go to a walk but keep motivated, like say okay when i startt walking it will be for lets say 20 seconds then when the 20 seconds is done get back to running dont procrastinate, your stamina will get better the more you run
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What do I talk about when I'm I'm 14 femalewith my boyfriend(this is my first boyfriend) (link)
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okay well im 14/f also and i just got out of my 1st relationship too. we talked on the phone and for the first few nights (because it was a sunday so we couldnt hang out during the week) it was really akward and my best friend just kinda laughed and said it will get better the more you talk to him and the more you relax and say what your thinking. so i did. if there was a dead silence i would say something like so whats your favorite movie? im watching mean girls, i love that movie... and then that could spark a convo. in public do the same thing. try to get questions that will spark a conversation but also so you can learn about him (this will come in handy when its his birthday or a holiday and you have to buy gifts) if your watching tv together and you see a commercial for a new movie or tv show just say wow that looks realy good or stupid what do you think? (convo right there and keep it going) just do that anywhere the more you say whats on your mind the easier talking to him will be!
i would be more help but its kinda hard to be specific when i dont really know where your goign with him.
(if you want to message me and let me know i will help a ton more.)
email-xoashhx33@hotmail
aim- xoashhx33
or message me on here
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how can i make my hair thinner without using thinning shears thanks in advance (link)
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you can try straightning your hair, if its super super thick it may not work
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17/f. I have had an awful year. And I thought the worst was over at the end of the year. (I don't feel like explaining it; it doesn't really have anything to do with this...well sort of but I don't have to explain.) Anyway...I cut myself. And I haven't for say about a week, but I really have been wanting to lately. It drives me crazy; I sit there and my entire mind is focused on that. It drives me crazy when I force myself not to cut. Just like right now. I really want to and it is really hard to just not give in. And I know I should probably talk to someone, but I have a really hard time opening up to people, especially those I don't know. However, there is this teacher that I have talked to before. So, if I told him, then maybe it would be easier to talk to a counselor, or he could help me or convince me to talk to someone or something. I know I can't do it on my own. I don't know what to do anymore. What should I do? And if I do end up talking to a counselor, they don't have to tell my parents, do they? It'll stay confidential? (link)
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okay well at least you know you need to talk to someone, most people dont and then the while suicide thing. which is sooooooo not good. let me just tell you about my story, in a way similar to you. i have anxiety, ive had it since i was 5 and when i was 8 i was put on lexapro. i stopped taking it around age 11 and started middle school fine and i was suprised. then 8th grade, last year my anxiet came back. but this time with what ended up being depression! so every weekend my family would go to vermont friday night and come home late saturday and with my anxiety my mind wanders like crazy and its kinda scary what i was coming up with (like suicide and stuff like that) and one morning in the hotel i was up before my family and my mind wanders off and it scared me and finally i woke my mom up and told her she kinda freaked out but said she was gonna call the doctor the next day. well she did and i went to a psycositheripist. she decided that i was depressed and i went to her a few times and got put on some medicine and im fine now!!!! my point being that you need to tell someone, anyone before it gets any worse because it probably will. tell your mom, tell your teacher (if you decide not to tell your parents for a certin reason, then you shouldnt talk to the counselor because they may call your rents because it involves you possibly needing help. but honestly, tell your teacher but leave your parents open to help. dont be afraid to go to a shrink or anything, (i didnt want to go but i had fun,i recorded our conversations on my phone in my pocket and my friend and i laughed listening to them. then the shrink was REALLY weird so my friends and i would laugh and make fun of her )
if you need any help
message me
my email is xoashhx33@hotmail.com
or my aim is xoashhx33
dont worry about messageing me!!!
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well im going to be graduating this year from grade 8 and theres this like grad dance ... lots of people are wearing like thes big long dresses and i dont want that ... i want something short and cute ... something that will impress the guy that im going with
anyy suggestions?? (link)
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try deb no doubt. the clothes there are so cuteee. and the prices are great i think, there are always sales and stuff. i know the deb in my mall has half of the store all for dresses. otherwise you can try windsor,ill try to think of more.
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Anyone have any good experience with pen pals or with chatting? I can't seem to find someone to talk to... Where to look/etc would be helpful. Thank you in advance! :) (link)
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okay i found this great website, its free i you want or you can pay money for more things on it,, the free one is fine. its http://www.penpalworld.com/ and its great. if you need help on the site just message me back
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Okay, my fingernails take these random spells and they come completely off. and I'm afraid their not going to grow back. This is the second time its happened, and they grew back the first time, but what if they dont this time?
And what are some foods with some high protein in them? (link)
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dont worry, they will grow back,
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I am not a cutter but I have cut myself. Only a few times im not addicted. i have self-injured myself as well. My one best friend knows because she used to and i felt very comfortable telling her. my other best friend used to as well and im going to tell her too. she goes to my school though shes older but she will be able to help me even more. im kind of preppy and usually outgoing and happy. dont think im like an 'emo' or w/e. i want to know why i should stop because I know it isnt good but it helps me and just because its different doesnt neccasarily mean its bad-does it?
i know hurting myself isnt the right way too but i never cut deep or a lot and i don't self injury myself any more than mildly. its how i deal with stress and being upset. sumtimes i write but other times i dont have time to sit there and write i need immediate relief. thats what i think of it as-relief. quick, easy, relief. and it helps. i want to stop but in another way actually i dont.
im afraid to tell my bf because i dont want him to think something is wrong with me even tho he works at a teen youth center helping kids with addictions. he still might not want to date me-just be friends.
i have a lot im dealing with and thats just the way i do. my parents dont know either and they would freak if they knew. it isnt on my arms i have a couple on my stomach and a couple on my leg. 2 on my arm but you cant tell they were intentional cuts. i like seeing them and knowing that they represent what im dealing with. it comforts me. any suggestions or advice? i want to know why its bad and what else to do thats quick and easy. it feels like it isnt bad and doesnt really hurt me. it doesnt endanger me so why worry? i guess thats what i think. i at first (i just started last week anyway) i thought of myself as a 'cutter' but now im almost ok with it and just think of myself as a girl dealing with her emotion and problems in her own way.
Thanks so much!
f/14 (link)
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okay welll at least you know what your doing can really hurt some people. its still not good to take your stress and cut yourself, you need to try and find other ways to deall with it. like for me i like hate needles and stuff like that so i could never cut myself but i thnk for the most part people try it a few times in their life. try downloading some music like ocean waves, birds chirping, etc relaxing music and when you are going to cut yourself just try and listen to that and take deep breaths maybe try yoga, you can find it on the internet, just anything that wont hurt yourself.
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I'm a 15/f and I hate talking on the phone. I get really stressed out when I have to arrange a tutoring date with my tutor (who's an old man) I just CANNOT talk on the phone with ANYONE. I like it better on the computer where I can't see their face nor hear their voice. I get stressed out in social situations such as sleepovers, parties (especially PARTIES...I start to FREAK out) I just dislike them. I get extremely scared. I don't know WHY though. And whenever I have to talk to a teacher about my grade, I'd just rather not and I'd rather just fail a test or something. I CANNOT get over this. I always have a feeling that I'm being watched and that people are making fun of me.
What can I do?? D: GAH!! (link)
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well i cant say i totally relate but in a way i can. i have had anxiety since i was 5 and my neighbor who was my principal at the time said that my mom should take me to the doctor because i would cry every morning going to school which was about 30 seconds away from my house! i didnt want to leave my mom at all! i would actually throw up on the way there. so i went to the doctor(just my regular one) and ge said that i should see a psycologist(or whatever does not give medicine) i just went there and talked to her and we played board games. my problem at the time was going to the movies(no idea why) sleepovers,school,parties, going on the school bus. so one day i was going on a field trip and my mom was going to come chaperone it about an hour after we left (she had to get my bro and sis to pre school) and she never showed up! my teacher called me out of the bui;ding we were in and told me she wasnt coming and my mom said my sister was sick! well i get home and come to find out, my shrink said she shouldnt go and let me get through it! well it worked, i got over all of that except for sleepovers which i am on and off of now still to this day!! but eventually i got put on medicine, lexapro and it has worked very well, i had to try a few new meds before i found one that worked. (i am telling you my story so you know you are not alone and dont feel weird to go to the pychologist! they work so well) i think you should talk to your mom and tell her that you want to go to the psycologist, you can talk to them and maybe you guys can find out why you dont like the phone or parties or anything like that (my reason was because i had been sick in the movies, the bus, a party) now i am fine, so you should really get some help because you cant live your life like this.
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Okay my family isnt your average family... I have parents, and two brothers both like decades older then my. Scotts 19 turing 20 like 2 days after christmas and Jasons 17. I know this might sound mean but Jasons my favorite because I was like 5 when Scott was like 11 were complete oppisites. So when Scott got to old to wake up like 2 hours before opening gifts to go through stockings Jason took over waking me up. Well now Jasons 17.. and I have a feeling this is the last actual Christmas I have with Jason.. like old times. But I donno if he's even planing on getting up and I might just make him! =D But that and like we watch the marathon of A Christmas Story. We watch that movie atleast 15 times a Christmas and it hasnt gotten old.
But I donno Im like crying right now so humor me. We have traditions. And it wont be any fun without Jason. He's like a Dad now (his gf had a baby NOT HIS) but Jason acts like he is =D I love Miya.
But.. I donno he got rid of the extra bed in his room so I dont know where ill sleep. He has a huge bed I can sleep in it with him which i did when I was like 10 in a single lol fun times. But im not 1 anymore and jasons an adult now, practicly.. Feb 21 and he'll be 18! And ill be younger extremely younger. (same Bday.) This is the last christmas that will be like the rest. I want it to be awsome.. but im only a kid.
Should i talk to jason about this ask whats gunna happen?? Iwant this to be a memorable Christmas. How? (link)
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okay well when you guys are alone just be like jason i wanna talk to you. and then just say what you wrote here. tell him you love him a lot and that you love the time you spend together. if he decides to go off to college maybe the weekend before christmas you, just you could go to his college if its not far away and do christmas shopping, watch the marathon and so on. things wont be the same and you need to realize that but you will learn to get used to this new way. ask him what he thinks and maybe you could come up with ideas together to make this a more memorable christmas. maybe get funny gifts for eachother and just joke around a lot, maybe play some pranks on your family together. anything that will help you remember christmas
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What are some shampoo and conditioners that leave your hair smelling good, even if you shower at night for the next day, cause my hair always smells good when i shower but once it dries it smells kinda not good. Personal experiance please! Thanks! (link)
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for me i like pantene. but if that doesnt work add a good smelling moose to your hair after it dries a little
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Hi I would be greatful if anyone can help with any ideas on how to deal with nerves and shyness. I currently have alot of things in my life where i need to keep control of my nerves.
I am soon taking my driving test, A levels and a new job as a waitress but I am finding my nerves are getting in the way, I start shaking, going bright red and I carnt speak properly. A few times I have failed a few exams because my nerves got the better of me.
I would be greatful for any help. Thank you. (link)
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okay well i have delt with diagnosed anxiety since i was 5 and i can relate to how you feel. its taken me until now to figure out what i needed to do. everyone has something to calm their nerves but they just need to find out what it is, my friend downloaded music and bought a cd of soothing sounds like rain and birds etc... and she listens to that. for me, i need to think of something else, for example, if i am thinking about a big test or something and i hear myself saying oh your gonna fail and do really bad and you will fail the term blah blah blah, i need to like repeat what is being said around me, if im in school and the teachger is talking, i will say whatever she is sayign in my head, i find it helpful for myself. if none of that works try going to a psycologist, i had to go and now im on medicine and it helps a lot.
if you need anything else just message me
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I have about 4 pairs of jeans that I wear regularly. I have been wanting to buy another, and I was wondering your thoughts on the quality of certain brands. Does a higher price mean higher quality?
The brands that I have are:
Mudd(these recently ripped right in the crotch, so are becoming a purse.)
Old Navy(these were hand-me-downs from my little sister)
Aeropostale(My most comfortable)
Sevens(These are definitely my best, verifying the Quality is higher with higher prices idea)
I was just wondering if you all had other experiences or advice on what type of Jeans I should get next! (link)
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i have american eagle jeans which are expensive, not gonna lie but right on them they say made to last. they are way more comfortable than aeropostale i found. my aeropostale jeans are faded and really thin compared to my new american eagle ones. i found that the artist jeans are most like aeropostale fitting wise
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Well , I have played hockey for about 8 years now . And I have just decided to take it more serious then I have in the past :P
But , I am stumped . I have been practiceing my shot outside . Is there any drills that you can do at home (Without the rink) ?
Also , I am a girl if it really matters :P (link)
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im sure you can go to like youtube or something in google to find videos or something showing practices that college hockey does
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Alright so last night I discovered on the inside of both cheeks theres a long of like bumps of some sort.I can't exactly identify what it is.It's bothering me now that I discovered it.Can anyone explain or let me know what this is.I'm a little worried.My boyfriend thought it might be from biting my gums at night, But I don't know.Any ideas or input on what it is would be greatly appreciated. (link)
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well if you had braces and have the mouthgard thingy that could be a cause.... also maybe mono.
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