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I'm really honest and sometimes thats good, sometimes its bad. But I love to help, and I'm really friendly.

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Me and my guy are trying to "dirty up" our relationship. Any advice?

FYI: we aren't having sex yet so nothing liek new positions or anything. Also, he really loves my ass and we've already explored his face sitting fetish.

16/f here, he's 19/m

well.. have you tried oral stuff? if not then do it:) if you have then try whipped cream and chocolate. that makes everything funner :) and after that theres nothing more really but the big one!
=) samantha

I hate the word: diet. Whenever I try to go on one, I always am thinking more and more about the food I CANT eat and then I want it even more. I want to lose 10-15 pounds and keep it off. I started running a mile every morning and eating more fruits and veggies. If there is any more tips that anyone could help me with... that be great!
-xxkissmexx

SAME HERE girl.. =( well.. just dont buy the junk food and keep doing that mile.. and maybe ask a friend to start working out with you and going on the diet with you too? because then you could both help eachother..
=) samantha

er... well. here goes.

theres a guy I like. He goes to my school. Is in my grade, two of my classes, ect. ect.

I talk to him on AIM, we kinda talk at school, and best of all, he doesn't think I'm fat. (long story. Let's just say I wasn't eating anything and my friends are odd)

But, he knows I like him, and doesn't like me back. He's told me multiple times. (again, my friends are odd) But lately, he's been acting like I'm okay. Usually he acts like he hates me. He even IMed me first on AIM (I know its odd, but hey, I guess I blend in with my friends) which is like, a first. Ever. We've been able to talk more, and we're getting along pretty well.

The bad side is, well, I've liked him for so long, now that he's finally maybe liking me, I don't feel exactly the same. I'm in this odd stage where, I do and don't like him. I mean, he's hurt me so much, but I feel like I love him. I can't control my feelings.

So what I want to know is:
Do you think he likes me?
What should I do if he asks me out?
and
Should I take action?(ME asking him out)

I have NO idea what to do.
(13/f)

well.. it seems like he might like you..
if he asks you out.. say yes if you like him! :)
well.. try to see if he drops more hints of him liking you then try it

i have a car and someone keyed it... also, they egged it and put ketchup and sweet n sour sauce on it! ugh! i cant believe someone would do such a thing! also, they put a used pad on it. it had blood on it and everything. SO GROSS! Also, they put a used tampon on top of it. My windows are broken and everything. What should i do?

call the police try to figure out who did it.. that is really nasty though, i'm so sorry!
=) samantha

Ok well I think I have a yeast infection..ok so what do I do should I like go to the family health council? or will it just go away in a matter of time?

Thanks

you need to get help from a doctor or a parent.

My mother has been getting on my nerves since i was 7 years old. She judges me, yells at me, swears at me, makes fun of me, and flat out makes me sick. I even started to cut myself because of her, but i eventually stopped after 1 year because my friends helped me out. But i cannot take it anymore. My dad & I are bestfriends, i tell him everything, but i dont tell him about my mother. Just because i dont want them to split up or anything. What can i do to make my mom shutup? Plus, i have many brothers, she loves them, talks to them, hugs them, and compliments them. Its just plain sick. Im sick of her act shes pulling agaisnt her ONLY DAUGHTER. Sometimes i do NOTHING and she says, oh god i wish i had another son. I havent told anyone about this, but all my friends know how she is, and i have always hated her. I see all my close friends spending time with thier moms and having close relationships. I run to my friends house to get away sometimes or just sit outside. Even this past mother's day i bought her a card & flowers, she threw the flowers away. What should i do?

Sincerely, Tired Of This. 13/F

i think you should definantly tell your dad, he'll help you get through this.. other than that.. i feel for you my mother is dandy either.. =\ but its ok.. if you EVER need to talk i'm here for you ; brunette x5o is my aim sn ..

Hey guys. Well.. tonight I went to a club for the first time, and met this really great guy. He asked to dance with me, and we did for a while, and attempted to talk a bit (but the music was so loud, so we went and sat down) He introduced me to some of his friends too. Anyway, I had to leave early.. and out of nowhere I asked for his number. This is TOTALLY out of character for me. I'm usually shy around guys, but hey. He gave it to me and then I gave him mine, and then he walked me to the door. I may be being paranoid, but was this coming across a little too eager or forward? I had a feeling he wanted to ask, but I could be wrong. Also, should I contact him first or let him contact me? I'm just totally new to this kinda thing and lost.

Thank you!

No thats perfectly normal.. I think since you made the first move for the phone number he expects you to call first so do it girl

I went to a friend's camp this last weekend. She told me that there was this guys a few years olded then us but he was annoying, stupid, and ugly.Then we went out onto the lake and he came along. He had this really big tube and we were all just chillin on it and pushing each other off. then one time it was just me and him and i justed to like him but kept myself from liking him because of what my friend said. i know it doens't matter because i probably won't see him again but should i of let what my friend say keep me from liking this guy?? please help!

hmm well if you arent going to see him again then just forget about him though, but if you dont find him annoying stupid or ugly and you have the chance to see him again or talk to him, go for it girl

i have a big forhead, and i have a collick that makes any kind of bangs i get look weird, how can i wear my hair that wont make my forehead look quite so big?

use a lot of gel i guess :)
=) samantha

I recently broke up with my boyfriend who is 16(I'm 14), because he didn't want a relationship and I did. All he wants is friends with bennefits. I told him I wasn't going to do that with him, and he said that was ok. He asked if we could hang out today, just hang out. so I said yeah, and I told myself that I wasn't going to do anything with him and then he came over, and the next thing I know, im straddling him (fully clothed) and making out with him. It got carried away and I ended up giving him a hand job. He thinks it was just friends with bennefits and I'm a piece of ass. I don't want that, and I want to know if I should just cut off all relations with him and stop talking to him, I dont need him as a friend. or a boyfriend. what do I do!?

well no offence but he seems like a jackass.. so like you said you DONT need him.. so just leave him dont talk to him anymore.. and make sure he doesnt start spreading stuff about you being his friend with benefits.. hope i helped! IM me at brunettex5o

=) samantha

heyy i have mild acne and im allergic to alot of antiobitiotics so my doctor gave me this whole pamphlet on a pill called ACCUTANE, it supposed tot stop your oil glands or something, does anybody take it? how well does it work clearing up your acne? what side effects do you experience, because it is supposed to be very dangerous! any indo would be great - im undecided if i should take it or not! thanks =]

well i use it..and it works SO WONDERFULLY the only bad part is that. you have some moodswings more than the ones that just come with being a teenage girls.. but if you're allergic to it then it might be worse.
=) samantha

Ok, there is this one guy that I know likes me. But I don't like him. We are really really good friends. How can I tell him I don't like him without hurting him?

well.. this is a tough spot, i know because i've been here before. Well if you and this guy are really really good friends then you probably know him pretty well so, set up a day to hang out.. do a lotta stuff he likes with him maybe watch his favorite movie with him then at the end of the day just tell him how happy you are to be FRIENDS with him and if he doesnt get the point he'll still like you but at least you told him so he cant blame you later for never telling you and he wont hurt him. but if he bluntly asks you if you like him break it to him kindly and tell him you hope your friendship doesnt go haywire over this one instance .. hope i've helped.. IM me after you try my advice if you do! AIM - brunette x5o .. im usually always on!

=) samantha

Hey! I really wanna give my BF a BJ but i've never given one and i'm soo afraid i'm gonna hit it with my teeth! Does anyone have any tips on how NOT to hit it with your teeth and such? thanx!

Hmm well just roll your lips over your teeth to sort of cover them..and if you do scratch him a bit, he'll be in no postion to complain. And make sure you're ready for this and that he hasn't pressured you. Hope I've helped!

=) samantha

A friend of mine came to me for help.. and I honestly don't know how to respond.. so maybe someone on her can help?

Well Marc, my friend, is going out with this girl Elena.. they're relationship is great and everything, but he is still obsessesed with his x-girlfriend, Joee..well he's trying to break up with Elena, but she's suicidal and all..so the first time he mentioned it being just friends to her, she overreacted and threatened to kill herself..Marc NEEDS to break up with her, but doesn't want her to kill or hurt herself...
(Elena has attempted suicide once before, so she's not afraid to)

ANY help at all would be awesome.. thanksss.

well this is really serious.. i think that your friend should be asking an adult and maybe Marc should tell Elena's parents or a guidance consuler to be with him when he tells Elena just so they can control her emotions. Or tell her parents so they can keep a close eye on her just in case. Well no one can really tell what will happen but, i hope i helped!

=) samantha

Well my family is a family with 5 kids. We are running sort of low on money. How couild I help them out. I mean my mom could nopt even buy shampoo the other day!

ok well.. i dont know how old you are but if you are over 14 then you could try to get a job :) but if you are younger then there isnt much you can do. Maybe help around the house? and don't ask for everything you want, especially if it is expensive. You could probably watch your little siblings when your mom needs it and if you're just turning into a teenage, you're bound to start having mood swings but try to control them and don't pressure your parents or give them anything else to have to worry about. Other than that, just cope with your problems and if you ever need someone to talk to IM me on AIM or AOL at brunette x5o ; hope i helped!

=) samantha

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