Gender: Male
Age: 35
Member Since: October 25, 2015
Answers: 36
Last Update: December 8, 2015
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I have 2 1/2 months before I go off to a big college.
I'm bored out of my mind while I take classes at my current private college and work part-time.
I already got accepted into one college, but I'm waiting on a response from the other two which could take up until mid December. One of them is a Uni that I REALLY want to get into, but we'll see. I also can't wait to rush for a sorority. I know I might not get in, but I really hope to, I spend a ton of time researching sorority life.
I can barely tolerate my current life though and I find myself aggravated everyday because I have nothing to do in my small hometown. All of my friends have already moved off to college so I have nobody to hang out with and I don't want to date when I'll be moving soon too. I feel like all I do is hang around with my mom who's a paranoid hypochondriac and drives me crazy with all her fake ailments and stories. She doesn't understand why I want to move and doesn't approve of it, but I just cannot tolerate living with her for much longer and college life sounds like a dream compared to my current life.
Even when I'm trying to occupy myself with hobbies or activities all I can think of in the back of my head is dorming, sororities and just the overall college experience.
Help! The days are going by so slow because I can't keep my mind off of it and how far away it seems.
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I agree with adviceman
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so i realy really believe in you can manifest your hearts desire with the universe like a lot of other ppl. i have this one thing that i used to have all the emotion in the world for but for the last few months its gotten a bit hard to stay with. but i did this meditation to manifest a "replacement". and i feel so much more emotion towards this than the original one. does this mean i should move on from that one thing????
and also does reading and watching more about manifestation bring mroe enegry to your desire???? and what are some other ways to bring more enegry????
plz no negative comments.....
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An excellent question. In case of love a woman's heart is like a Muslim who follows only one God and the heart of a guy is like a Hindu who follows many idols. So its natural for men to deviate from the thing they loved earlier and find a new conquest. In short men always look for a change.
Your case seems similar to that. you are the commander of your emotions and only you can tailor them. Your emotions for your option 1 is reducing and increasing for option 2 but my question to you is for how long these emotions will remain for your option 2. Soon you might go out for another conquest.
I would suggest that you let your emotions change naturally without any external support or efforts because if you train yourself in this regard, it won't take you long to shift on to option 3 and subsequently 4 n 5 and so on.
The thing you need to work upon is controlling your emotions from changing. To achieve that only remind yourself about the good things of your option 1. This will help you in sustaining your love for the option 1 but if you have already decided to leave option 1 then focus on option 2 in the same way so that you don't end up looking for option 3.
If you ask me I would put my energies in making things right with my option 1 because I cannot guarenttee that my option 2 will end up better than my option 1.
Hope I was able to explain a little and my answer will help you in taking the right decision. Good luck.
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Hi guys. I'm 21 and my boyfriend is 23. We've been dating for about five months now and we had sex for the first time a week from yesterday. I wouldn't say I have anxiety but when I do something that could bring about major consequences, I tend to overthink a lot until I go moderately insane. I'm not on the pill, long story short-my mom is crazy and wants to know when I want to go on it and told me numerous times that the guy I have sex with, she hopes I choose to marry one day and blah blah blah so I just chose thus far to not to talk to her about me contemplating going on it yet even though I know I should soon. He definitely used a condom, though, but yet I still have that anxious feeling. The kind he has was thin and I even went to the crazy extreme (don't judge me) of looking at the condom afterwards to make sure it didn't break or anything and there wasn't a tear or a hole and even if there was, I heard that condoms have spermicide on the outside so if some does seep out it doesn't get too far. My period is scheduled to be in four days and I'm trying to not psyche myself out too much so the stress doesn't push it back.
I guess I just need some reassurance that even though I wasn't on the pill and the condom stayed intact that everything is going to be fine and that I'm not going to be pregnant. I talked to my boyfriend about my anxiousness and he told me that it is very unlikely for that to happen when it went the way it did with the condom still being okay and staying on the entire time, etc. I know I sound crazy, being 21 and still being nervous about these kinds of things but I just need outside sources to help me out and calm my nerves.
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First of all you are safe ( no chance of pregnancy) depending upon the description you gave. Secondly, respect your mom and follow her instructions. No one can be more caring than your own mother and honestly I can give you a million examples to prove my point.
Lastly, control your anxiety. How? You have to find a way.
Good luck to you.
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I'm a 19 year old female. So I was talking to this guy for about a month and I was honestly falling head over heels for him. He made me open up about things I never talk to anyone about. I hadn't felt this comfortable with a guy since forever ago. We got really close and one thing lead to another and we hooked up. Days later things were normal he'd still talk to me everyday but I would get kind of impatient about hanging out again because when you like someone that much and hit it off like that you just want to be with that person as often as possible. I think it kind of scared him off cause out of no where he just stopped talking to me and replying to me. So then I finally asked him once and for all what was going on with us and he told me we rushed things and he wasn't ready for all the expectations I had. My only expectations were that I wouldnt be just a booty call and maybe after dating for a while and getting to know each other we could put a label on it. Now a couple weeks later he pretty much told me he's willing to try things out only as friends with benefits, did I get played? (link)
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I am simply shocked and surprised by reading the answer given to you by Razhie. I am thinking if he would give same advice to his daughter. My dear, think about it yourself, you hooked up with a guy and when you wanted to get close to him (quite normal) he stops talking to you suddenly and then after some time come up with a solution of becoming friends with benifits........
Actually, he had sex with you and he certainly enjoyed it but when he felt that you have started to build up hopes for a future together he escaped by giving you the most pathetic reason possible (I was not ready for it) . Later on when he felt the urge of having sex again he came up with this brilliant plan of becoming 'friend with benefits'. So my dear with this status you are going to give him a lisence to leave you whenever he feels like. You will be in no position to ask him the reason for escaping this time as you will be only a friend with benefits and nothing else.
So my dear kick him out of your life and walk away with dignity thats what I would have done if I was you and definitly the final decision is yours.
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I feel like I am 100% straight in "real life". Women don't turn me on and I never have fantasies about them.
But whenever I watch porn, women turn me on more than men do. It really depends on my mood, sometimes I like watching a guy masturbate but whenever I watch porn with a Women in it, I get way more turned on by her.
Is this normal? I wouldn't call myself bisexual because other than in porn, I am not interested in Women at all, and even when I fantasize without watching anything, I only think about men.
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You are totally fine, no need to worry.
Turn on's are mostly different for different people and at times people get turned on by really sick things. Your case is quite common in which when you see women it turns you on more as compared to seeing a guy.
This happens when you see those women having sex or simply masturbating, you unknowingly in your sub conciuos, start to compare yourself with them and imagine your ownself in them. It all happens in the sub conscious so you might be seeing those women and thinking that they turned you on but at the back of your head your brain makes you see your own self in that woman. So basically, you are turned on by your ownself. Its the same when guy watches porn in which there is both genders it turn him more cuz he thinks he himself is performing the act rather than simply watching a gal maturbating.
Hard to explain it but your brain is playing smart here. Next time try to monitor closely if possible if not just enjoy the moment. Nothing alarming here.
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One of my best friends has metastatic breast cancer. It's starting to progress pretty quickly at this point, although she still has some really good days. So, here's my question to you all...
We've always been attracted to each other. However, because her gf (who is actually an ex at this point...its complicated) and I are good friends and we're adults, we've never, ever acted on it. Talked about it, but never done anything. If we'd met before she met my friend, we'd be together, for sure. But she and the gf don't have sex, ever, and haven't for a very, very long time. She says the gf is a really, really bad lover. But she does want to have one night of great, passionate sex before the cancer takes away her ability to enjoy it. We haven't talked about this at all, but I can give that to her, and I'd LIKE to give that to her. I just don't know if its appropriate to make the offer. I was thinking it would only be a one-time thing, and kept completely confidential forever and ever. Is this a really bad idea? (link)
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I hope you still haven't had sex with her if not then I suggest that its not advisable to have sex with her. Death is inevitable and one day everyone has to taste it. However if you decide to have sex with her she might be leaving in a short while but you still have a life to live. The moments you share with her will be printed all over your mind for times to come. It will become tough for you to live your normal life. By the way you should pray for the dying soul to enter heaven instead of involving her in an act which is going to last for few hours and not recognized by religion even. Hope you ll understand and let her leave this world peacefully and let yourself live a normal life.
Tell her to find peace in religion in her last moments. Play surah Yaseen audio for her, someone told me it brings peace to the listener and help easing the last moments of life. Try it just try it once and let me know if she feels a change. Ask her to close her eyes and listen to it. Please.
http://hamariweb.com/islam/Surat_Yaseen_with_English_Translation_oqt36.aspx
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How do you tell a boy likes you? (link)
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Its real easy to tell when a boy likes you but the point you need to worry about is 'why' he likes you.
There could be one or multiple reasons for a boy to like a girl, Lemme know if you are interested in knowing them. Additionally, I ll teach you how to find out the exact reason behind someone's liking.
Thanks for showing intrest, I would tell you the most common reasons possible however there could be several others which can only be discussed when I have more details about you and that guy.....
A. Time pass. The liking may be just for time pass without any emotions. It won't matter much to him if you are there or not. To find out ignore him and see how he reacts.
B. Money. Being rich can also be one of the main reason of liking. To find out if liking is based on your wealth, tell him somehow that your parents won't give you any money or will give it away in charity. Observe how he reacts.
C. Status. Your status counts a lot. E.g you are good in academics, might be the centre of attraction, chair leader etc. In this case its OK if he likes you for such reasons which include your personal qualities and achievements.
D. Sex. A very common reason in most cases. At times it could be the only reason which is most dangrous and has very negative effects on gals if the relation was simply based on sex. Find out by telling him that you are not going to have it till you get married.observe his reaction.
E. A challenge. At times guys challenge each other. So you could just be challenge for him but in such cases its possible to end up loving each other. So you can keep it tough for him to complete his challenge. The longer he take to complete the better chances of falling in love.
F. Finally, there could be a guy who likes you for no reason what so ever (hard to find), if that's the case you are the most luckiest gal. No matter whatever you do or say he ll still like u.
Good luck and feel free to ask me in future as well. Your situation is quite fluid and could be changing everyday.
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I hung out with this guy a few times and we made out and I started having feelings for him. It's breaking my heart because I haven't seen him in a week and don't think he's interested anymore. Then the other night he invited me out to the bar and I declined the invite because I've just gone through way too much emotionally over him to be invited out to the bar. Is there a chance he's at all into me? (link)
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Chance, it appears positive that he came back to ask you out but the thing that worries me is why he gave a gap earlier. I like your approach of not letting yourself fall in the same trap again but no one can be sure of what actually he had in mind while he asked you out. Its like tossing a coin and waiting for the result. It could be either heads or tail but if you end up losing the toss, its gonna be tough to recover.
If I put myself in this situation I LL disregard him.
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I have invited another woman to have sex with my husband while I watch. She and I have meet and I like her, she is just the type I wanted for this experience.
She and my husband have not meet and won't until the night of the event. She is coming to our home where we will enjoy drinks and conversation first.
I'm looking for ideas on how to make the transition between conversation and sexy time smooth and less awkward. She and I have talked about bondage and restraint being part of the evening.
Ideas? Suggestions?
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It wud be better if you don't do it however if you still going to do it then let it happen naturally don't rush towards it.
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Okay, so I know it was stupid for me to even be talking to this guy on Kik. I know it's dangerous to talk to people you don't know but here is my situation.
I was talking with this guy on kik for awhile (maybe close to a year)I was 18 when I started talking to him and now I'm 19.
I never sent him any picutes or anything like that. Actually I even gave him a complete fake name and I also lied about what my race was because when I started talking to him I thought I'd rather be safe and not give my real information out this guy.
I didn't want to talk to him anymore because I just kind of had enough. I came to realize he has anger issues and would get angry over stupid stuff and just seemed controlling. We did have conversations that were not the most appropriate but I never sent him anything myself. All he ever got were texts on kik.
Well I started to not respond much and he got annoyed and said "just block me" and whatever so I did...then he messaged me with a new account telling me to unblock him because he wanted to talk to me. I didn't say I would or not I just responded back with "well you are the one that told me to block you" and he said "just do what I tell you" well I didn't. I just ignored it.
Then he messages me more saying he is going to track me down and that he is going to track my IP address and that he has all the information he needs to find me and that he won't give up. Said he is looking for me and will find me and he's angry.
He is 29 and lives in a different country.
I want to know if he can actually track me down. He knows what city I live in but I lied about my name and race and never sent him any pictures. I have described to him what I look like though and my username for kik isn't something I use for anything else
I just want to know if it's possible for him to find me and how likely it is that he could find me because I'm a little worried about it. (link)
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Scare tactics, and it worked. Got you scared. Honey you should just chill and relax in order to get your address he needs to work in kik. Hard to believe you spent one year with such a guy. However, relax he cannot trace you unless you have sent him an email from your personal email I'd. As far as kik is concerned you are safe.
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Note: I will not tell you my steam username but I will tell you this. I got haters on steam and they manage to have 2 hate groups and sometimes i will haters coming by posting a mean comment. One day they had the guts to hack into my account and reveal my real name. What should I do? I'm a 15 year old boy and I desperately need an advice. (link)
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Believe it or not haters will make you famous. Don't let them and their comments worry you. Continue with your steam and enjoy your time. If you are going to change your steam some other hater group will pop up. My dear I personally feel that when ever you are doing something good you LL find resistance so hold in there. Good luck.
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Im seeing my ex boyfriend for the last time tomorrow and i want to give hIm the best sex of his life,the best his ever had in his whole entire life..i want him to daydream,fantazise bout me nd the sex and have him come back begging for more..any tips,ideas,anything? (link)
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I think am late in giving you a reply you might already have slept with him. But am sure he LL not come begging. Next time if you end up in such situation ask me pre hand.
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What does it mean when a man says I wear my heart on my sleeve (link)
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It means 'when a person openly displays his/her feelings instead of hiding them'
Nothing hidden. No secrets.
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So I am 13 and I have a friend in my class. She tries to be cool by saying things like "bruh" and "dawg" and once she giggled at the way that my tongue was slightly sticking out of my mouth and I was like "So what?" because it was really rude. She judges people just by one look at them. and she is rude to people just for one little thing. She always tries to make excuses for gym. She is so lazy and she doesn't do ANY work in school. I feel like she copies my work and sometimes when we are in groups together, I feel like I'm doing all the work. I also don't want to sit with her sometimes but she sits beside me anyway. I also don't want to be in her group at all because she distracts me and is a really bad educational influence on me. But if I don't be her partner in class, then she won't have anyone at all. Please help? (link)
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A typical @ge 13 issue. First of all I don't agree with Danicus who advised you to confront your friend. It can have negative results.
Once a great scholar was ask where did you get all your knowledge and wisdom. He replied ' I got it from the fools around me, the things those fools used to do I never did'
So its better to have fools around you learn from their mistakes rather than learning it the hard way.
Finally, if you can accept her as a friend with all her problems then go ahead and let her be your friend and i suggest that you should but if you cannot then stop worrying about her she LL find another friend.
And if you decide to keep her as your friend stop complaining to her teach her with your actions. If you are interested I LL tell you further, hope it LL workout. Let there be love between the two of you lil angels.
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Hi :) me and my dad had a huge argument about 18 months ago and we haven't really talked since then. It was pretty serious what he did but I decided to let it go with the urge from my step-dad who said to give him another chance.
We sat down and had a meeting about how I felt and all of that crap but even after I opened up, he was still acting like a high and almighty person who never made mistakes. But still, I'm trucking on.
I don't know what to say to him anymore to start a conversation. It will go something like:
Me: Hi
Him: Hi, how was school?
Me: Good, I didn't learn much.
Him: Oh, that sounds eventful. Work was boring.
And then we say goodbye. Even before our relationship went downhill, that is how it was. And we used to do that nearly everyday. I don't know what to do about it anymore.
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'Parents' the best gift of God. In Islam Allah says that 'the heaven is under your mothers feet'. This means that the only way you can enter heaven is if your mom is happy with you and as far as respect of both mom n dad is concerned it speaks in great detail.
As far as your talk with your dad is concerned it can only change if you make him feel that you love talking to him and you love listening to him. Call him on special occassions, ask him to give you time, ask about his health, ask if he needs something. I don't know your age and gender, email me with your name and gender and I LL go in detail of how to improve your relationship with your father. May God be with you as you are on the right path.
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This probably sound very common to you but I have to accentuate the VERY in this situation because it's true; I can't even choose which colour to paint my fingernails. Currently I'm in a sticky situation in which my music teacher has ordered a viola for me because I wanted to try it out but now I'm having some doubts. Here's the whole story:
1. My friend decided to play the viola and I found it might be fun to try out a new instrument along with a friend. I asked my parents and they were a little hesitant but said yes.
2. We told our music teacher we wanted to play viola and he ordered two since we don't have any violas at our school.
3. My friend decided she had two much on her plate already and decided not to play viola.
4. I started thinking about it and noticed quite a few flaws in my plan: I didn't have a friend to play with which was one of the reasons I had wanted to do this in the first place, I had a very tight schedule as well and had to focus way more on my academics, I did some research onlin and found out that viola wasn't the most agreeable instrument.
5. Now, I am very confused and this is where my indecisive nature comes in and messes everything up even more.
I don't know if I should play viola or not. I know you will tell me to follow what my heart tells me or something along those lines but the thing is, I am completely in the middle right now. I'm not even SLIGHTLY leaning towards one side. Help is greatly appreciated, thanks! (link)
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Decisions are to be made, whether right or wrong is another story. Initially, u might end up taking wrong decisions but eventually u LL learn the art of taking the right decisions spontaneously.
As far as playing viola is concerned do not rely too much on others yes if you think it will hamper your academics inform your teacher right away that you will not be able to do it giving him the same reason.
If the only reason for not doing it is because you don't have a friend to play along, honey go solo and you will rock.
Finally, stop thinking too much about your decisions just act. Start by taking small decisions on spot without thinking much and then analyze your decisions later. Draw out positive lessons and as far as your action and decisions are not there to harm humanbeings or any other creation, God will help you. Best wish to you dear.
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