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hey i am a normal person like you and every other i go through day to day issues and well i feel like i can dish out some decent advice if needed and would like to help others a wont be harsh il tell you exactly what you need to here but in the way a would myself deal with the problem if i was in the same situation and hopefully this advice may help you i am new to this so just getting into the swing of things and well i hope to recieve your feedback and ratings on my advice and i hope resolve your issues with the advice you recieve on here .

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16 f.
i have a best friend, who ive been close with for about 3 years now. i love her too death and we have been soo close for soo long, but latley shes become extrememly conceited. shes always thought she was very good looking, and that never really bothered me that much. but now she has full out turned into a snobby girl. she thinks shes better then everyone else, and shes not the same person i was best friends with. i know her soo well, but she has changed! im a really laid back girl and i dont really get into drama just because i dont like it. so im not going to call her out and make a big deal over it, but i dont really know what to do about it,
should i stop being friends with her? or should i talk to her about it?
idk...what would you do in my situation?

thanks in advance!

well if it was me i would tell my freind the gods honest true how she has changed and grew to become a person i barely knew and that just isnt the way she should be because i feel like shes someone else and i would also point out that you know shes good looking and stuff but other people may find her a tad arrogant aka big headed and it wont go doown well with others and if she cant accept the critisim of you being an honest freind and go's of in one leave her because she should realise shes the one at fault and if all else fails maybe your better of without her because no one need s someone selfish and stuck up in there life .

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Title pretty much says it all. I want to get my nose pierced and I want to know how much it costs and if it is worth it or should I get a friend to do it for me?

I am really scared of infection since I had an ear get infected and it was really bad.

Thank you please?

hey depending on where you from it may vary but it s not much a would say round about a tenner or less depends where you going and a wouldnt worry bout infection the nose peircing is so easy to keep clean and look after just use salvon or hot lupe warm water and salt and that should do the trick i have many peircings and use that and ive been just fine so dont worry my freind and hope this peice of advice does the trick .

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I always thought a best friend was someone you tell everything too, someone you trust, someone you can be yourself with and goof around with and a lot more. Was I wrong for thinking that? Is that what everyone else thinks best friends are for? I'm asking because my "best friend" doesnt tell me everything. She gets mad at me and says that I don't even know her. She always talks about how she can really talk to whatever new guy she's talking to about everything even stuff she cant tell me. She gets mad at me so easily and calls me a b**ch quite frequently. I've tried to talk to her about it, cause I don't understand why we are "best friends" if she can't even tell me everything, and gets mad at me all the time and calls me a b**ch. Thank you in advance. Any advice is really appreciated.

this one has a few answers yet only you will know which the right one is im afraid . you werent wrong for thinking a freind is someone you can share things and have fun with a lot more than other people and sometimes people are just how would you say private not because they dislike you knowing things just because the things they may not tell you may make them scared to tell you there could be so many reasons and well your freind shouldnt be making you feel second best to any guy the saying sisters before misters is true you cant pick a guy over a girl because at the end of the day the guy will leave and the girl will always be there to pick up the peices and she shouldnt bad mouth you shes meant to be your freind and freinds dont do that and sure i can see why u dont know why youre best freinds cause thats not the way people should be treated if they were your best freind and she should really have more respect for you .

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I am a slut. There is no denying it really. I am 18 years old and I have slept with five guys! The subject came up at a friend's party and out of 17 girls I had slept with the most guys. I just burst into tears and cried!

I used to believe the "everybody is doing it" thing but now I found out that all the girls around me were SAYING they did things to seem cool and I went and did them so I didn't feel left out or like I was missing out on something good. So now I am a slut to everyone I know. I so wish I hadn't been the first one to answer how many I had slept with.

So now I feel like no guy will ever want me again. No good guy that is. I mean I would never date a guy who slept with more women than anyone else he knew so why should a guy look past what I have done?

Has anyone else 18 or yournger actually had sex with 5 or more guys? Am I the only one? :'(

Help!

hey my advice to you is dont beat yourself up how were you suppost to know they were just saying that to big them selfs up but also remember not to just follow the crowd from now on remember your an idividual and i know lots of people at this age who has slept with more people than you so dont go thinking your the only one to make mistakes or be fooled the only way you'd get a name about yourself is if you let people call you that and just dont do it because you feel like you need to fit in i know younger girls and older girls who have ended up fallin pregnant due to occasions like this and it cost them there freedom and well you can still avoid this and your not a slut just mislead by a group of people
making them selfs seem something there not .

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Well he is actually my ex boyfriend. I wasn't aware that I was immature. But he says that I behave like I am 10 years old sometimes (not always). That's not why he left me. He just sees me as a friend now. I am 16 years old and have never been called immature :(. Any ideas?

well i wouldnt take it to heart because sometimes people say things to hurt you and you take it to heart if your 16 you still have a lot to learn this doesnt make you immature your just going through teenage stages and maturity comes with experience and well i know me at the age of 16 i had a good head on my shoulders so i doubt he s telling the truth and if you yourself think that then best thing to do is not change but just look at things a little bit diffrently than which you normally would hope my advice works .

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Oh my goodness. Our (my roommate and I )friend is very nice, but not really to other people. she's pretty, too, but she smells! Before we go out, she will take a shower, but she still stinks! We thought it was just us, but we met these nice boys and one liked her. Well, we became good friends with them and the boy told us that he stopped talking to her because she didn't smell good. How do we tell her? We don't want to embarass her or let her go through this without knowing again. AND she is kind of defensive in a way......

Thanks!

well really depends what kinda smell were on about the main thing to is say to your freind in the kindest way that she smells and your only telling her because everyone else is noticing and if they tell her it would hurt her a lot worse sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind and sure she will be defensive no one likes to be told they stink but sometimes people have to realise some people just tell you things like that cause they care so you dont get teased or taunted by others so just say i know you wash and stuff but you have a little bit of a smell comin from you and well i thought i should let you know because a guy liked you and stopped talking to you through it and we dont want that to happen to you cause your pretty and deserve to be treat much better .

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for the most part, i'm thin. and i have long legs. i know i'm fortunate to have that, but once you hear this, you won't think the same. i have not developed breasts yet whatsoever (literally, i'm not exaggerating) and i'm 15, yes FIFTEEN years old. i've started puberty otherwise. for example, my upper thighs are really chubby and my hips are really wide. and then my chest is just.. not a chest? as in it looks like a ten year old boy's? it's repulsive. i'm developing normally otherwise, have a normal weight, etc.
what is wrong with me?!?!?!
i'm thinking of getting surgery when i'm older because i've been waiting to get them for six years now (most of my friends developed as early as age 9.)
do i want to run out and have sex? no.
but do i want to be able to be like every single other girl i've met and be able to look good in a bathing suit and not hate my body? yes. :(

you should be happy with what you are and others growth periods are diffrent sometimes it takes a long spell to develop a chest doesnt mean your not gonna have one just means your a late developer and some things just take time to grow as you said your only 15 youve got till your at least eighteen to grow so i wouldnt panic and just be yourself and be happy with who you are because being skinny and long legged is a quality some other girls lack and well you just need to have patience because everyones bodies are diffrent and im sure your beautiful just the way you are .

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So, I'm fifteen & female. for the first time last weekend, my boyfriend and i had oral sex both ways. LIke he gave me oral & i have him oral. After it though, i felt like reeeeeal dirty. I mean, is that slutty or anything? I'm only fifteen and it just doesn't even feel right. Or is that normal the first time haha...I don't know, let me know, thank youu.

first of all .. everyones diffrent and well yeah some girls may feel dirty its probably because youve lost your virginity and you know you will never be able to claim that back and well your in a relationship so it wouldnt make you slutty or anything everyones diffrent and ready at diffrent times and just remember you have all your life to have sex and make sure your doing it with someone you love and care for and most of all that your ready cause if you having doubts about it you havent reached that emotional stage in life and you shouldnt rush into things even if it is with someone your in a relationship with well hope my advice helps .

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Ok so i have a crush on a guy i know from work. im pretty sure he likes me too. We talk all the time, and i feel so comforable aroung him. how do i drop hints that i like him without being totally obvious?

also- i would love to hear some opinions- there is a significant age difference. hes 17 and im a 21/f. i dont think it is illegal because of the 4 year difference, but i lways though the guy wsas supposed to be the oldest. i would love to see some opinions. thanks so much.

well first of all you speak to him like you would as normal but also treat him a little diffrent but try not to rush things cause you may scare him away but if he likes you like you think i wouldnt worry to much about it and just ask him if he d like to go out sometime to the movies or something and socialise trade numbers and stuff and take it from there and 17 years of age makes him legal so no its not illegal as long as that person is willing to have a relationship with a person of your age and it doesnt really matter whos older cause liking someone doesnt always work out that way and well i hope my advice helps you .

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im not a virgin and jus recently had sex but hadent for about a year, i had already had my "cherry popped" , and i bled again ? now instead of the normal way pee smells my pee smells almost sour sort to speak maybe its just my body doing sonething but i wanted to kno if they were connected bcus its really weird having to take a shower 3 times a day bcus u feel u might smell, also why did i bleed again ? All help will be appriciated !

hey the skin you break when you " break your cherry " in so to speak heals over like anything else in the human body which will explain why your bleeding as the skin has been rebroken and well im not a doctor but i would say you either have a urine infection or your sexual partner is carrying some sort of std that ive heard may cause that well i hope my advice helps you and your problem is resolved best thing to is see your gp and get something to help .

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Well, I've heard and also researched that usually, the "first time" hurts. It does because the woman's hymen is "broken". Or in understandable terms, "Her cherry is popped". I do not want my first time to hurt, so I'm wondering if the first time ALWAYS hurts...like..for everyone. And is there any way to prevent it from hurting/ bleeding?

that is a tricky question there is no right or wrong answer yes it may hurt and yes it may bleed and i havent heard of anything to avoid it to be honest its a natural part of life and the only way to avoid it is not doing it until your ready and think you as a person can handle that type of thing as the skin will always heal back over and it will always have to break so the problem cant be avoided .

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So there is this kid i go to skool with that i have known forever and really like and idk what to do.

well you should consider telling them but do it carefully because some people arent understanding
as much especially when it comes to liking people
but you definetly need to get if off your chest it may not work out the way you planned but the
acomplishment itself with telling them will make
you feel better and stronger as a person and sure it may hurt a little if you dont get the right
answer or result but just remember trying takes a lot of guts and i hope my advice works .

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