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I'm writing a story and I cant think of any good names that I can use. It is an adventure story with a boy and a girl and they're both really powerful beings in the story. They both own dragons if that helps. I already have the dragon names, but now I need something for the main characters. Is there anything that you would recommend? (link)
i would reccommend having the names be symbolistic.

go to babynames.com and type in the meaning "power" and see what comes up.

it would be amazing if the names matched the characters personality.

babynames.com


13/F
I care about my best friend more than anyone else. This will probally be long but please read. My best friend is in a lot of pain right now. She misses her boyfriend deeply (who she dumped) and cries about him alot. Its hard for her to face him. She always tells me how she loves him and how she misses him. They have been apart for over a month now. He wont take her back anymore. He likes one of our best friends which is also upsetting her. She is having problems with her leg as well. I try to encourage her and make her feel better and be there for her but its not working. I learned she cries every night and she told me she hated herself. She has guys over her sooo much at school but she never pays any attention to them. Shes very depressed. I want to help her but I dont know how. Any advice? (link)
all i can say is just to be there for her.
call her before she goes to bed to cheer her up.
leave notes/candy in her locker.
slip pictures [of you and her] into her binders and text books where she'll find them.
prove to her that you are better than her ex. =]]

friends will always be there for you when guys wont. prove that to her.

good luck.


I am a 17 y/o male. My "love" is not talking to me because she wants someone taller and heavier than herself. I am 5'10", 130 lbs, and she is 5'9", 130 lbs. She feels that i must be heavier, not just the same weight. Since my weight is distributed throughout muscle, she is insecure. I have trouble gaining weight, so what should i do? (link)
you shouldnt have to change for someone who "loves" you. if she really loves you, then she will take you as you are.

if she fails to realize this, then its not true love and you are wasting your time.

sorry. but its the truth.


i have the worst jealous problem ever and my boyfriend knows it. i think it's starting to affect our relationship. are arguments are only about that, and i'm the one that starts them because i ask stupid questions. then after the fight we are all better. but i need to know what i can do that will help me get over this, because he has no idea what to do anymore to prove to me that nothing is going to happen between me and him, and i'm scared that if things don't get fixed soon i'll lose him...what can i do so get me self over this jealous problem i have?? (link)
just accept the fact that he loves you and hes obviously picked you over all the other girls.

has he done something to make you believe that he's cheating? If so, then forgive him and move on.

its all in your mind. convince yourself that he loves you because he does. spend time with him so you can see this.


i have itunes right now.. but i dont like buying all my songs becuase i want so many but it gets expensive.. so does anyone know where i can download songs for free.. and it wont put a virus on my computer??

Thanks! (link)
limewire.

it has tons of songs!!

i use it.


Whats some good songs for a break up? like missing someone after they've been gone for a while.. thats rock or acoustic or whatever.. (link)
hmm.. i have tons of them.

*here without you- 3 doors down
*i dont wanna miss a thing- aerosmith
tried so hard- Linkin Park
breaking the habit- linkin park
icebox- omarion
*so sick- neyo
summer love- justin timberlake
through glass- stonesour
too little too late- jojo
unfaithful- rihanna
irreplaceable- beyonce

ones with *'s are missing you
ones without are just breakup


hello sorry this may be long...
so i'm 15/f i'm usually very happy, hyper, lound, random, funny, and just a crazy child espically arouhnd my good friends. but recently i'm finding that a lot of people find me annoying? i don't understand why. i mean i'm not a jerk or anything i'm myself 100% but i'm starting to think being myself 100% isn't doing me anygood. and i want to try and be more quite a more personal person. my my usual everyone knows i'm in the room have to tell everyone everything and how i feel all the time. does anyone have any suggestions on adivce on what i should do. should i contine to be 100% myself lound,crazy, random and kinda stupid, or only 70% me more laid back, quite personal person.

and i'm starting to think that being 100% is turning guys away cause i tend to say stupid things because i just say what i think and not think and i dk what to do.

any help would be greatt. (link)
i think that there is a time and a place for everything. sometimes, its okay to be yourself. sometimes its better to be laid back. just learn to realize when being laid back is more appropriate. Sometimes it does get annoying always being hyper.

be a little more laid back.



Can someone give me some advice on what I should do to my hair?
I can't even comb my hands through my hair! If you watch the search for the next pussy cat doll, my hair is like that girl's thats really poofy.
Anyone know any shampoo that doesn't give volume? I really love Pantene but it gives your hair volume (link)
i would try tresemme. i use it and absolutely love it. they make different "kinds" for breakage and such. so try that, if it doesnt work, let me know.


theres this girl that i reeeaally like a hell of a load. she recently broke up with her bf who i am ferinds with they both know that i love her and i kept thinkin i was part of the reason that they broke up although they said it wasnt me, anyways she loves me ...she thinks... but she also still loves her ex bf who will take her back and shes going back to him althoguh it hurts its still her choice so i am okish with it lol and she thinks that she souldnt get back with him because of all the arguments so i asked her this simple question "what do you wan from me a best freind or a new hope of love?" and she said both... so i was a little pissed seeing as i would be jelous as hell about them both getting back and once again...leaveing me with nothing i love her to shit so much but as my question stand do i try? or say goodbye as in do i try to make her mine or do i try to just get over her even tho she was hurt when i sed i might as well stuff this then if your gonna keep going back to "mr argument machine" (ex bf lol) so please help i could do with it (link)
i think you should wait.
if shes going back to her ex and its as bad as you say it is, then she'll end up seeing that sooner or later. just be her friend for now until she realizes how much you care about her. dont intentionally break them up because then they might get mad at you. just be there for her and she'll eventually come around.

its happened to me. and i finally realized after 3 1/2 months that my best friend is the one that i wanted to be with.

best of luck.

p.s. love is overrated


I hate my life nothing is going smooth I mean whenever something good happen it doesn't last. My family is all messed up my dad gets away with anything but doesn't like when me or my brother does. He is the kind of guy who likes to make people feel bad about themselves by constantly putting us down in one way or another. Mom doesn't do anything about it she just says to ignore him but it isn't easy because it does whenever he can. My brother dooesn't pull his weight around the house but still gets away with anything because he does good in school and is always doing things with his friends and he says the only thing I'm good for is buying things for us. Then there is me I do my share of things I have a job and on my days off do things around the house like I'm suppose to but whenever I want to keep something that means alot to me they try to make me feel like I don't deserve it even though I do everything for everyone else even when it doesn't make any cents because I always care about everybody no matter what they do to me what should I do because this has been going on for years and my family refuses to get professional help. What should I do? One other thing I have friends but they all moved except for a few. (link)
my situation is similar. parents, brother, boyfriend, friendships, school, my sports team...

it wears me out and im tired of things going wrong.

i dont really know what to tell you, cause i dont really know what to do about it myself.

just find someone you can confide in. thats what im trying to do. and try not to make your parents upset. just take things one at a time. find someone you can talk to at anytime who will be there for you. you can always talk to me, but i dont really know you, so im not sure how much help i can be. i understand tho.

good luck.


ok so im using zapzyt for my acne. and i love it! its actually better then everything ive ever used before. but the bad thing about it is that it peels my face/skin alot. so i put lotion is that bad?. if it is bad then what can i do to stop the peeling?
thanks in advance (link)
i use cetaphil. it works perfect. and my dermatologist recommended it! get it at walmart or target.


so i get up at 6:30 and go 2 bed at about 10
soooo i read that if i sleep 2 long it's gonna be harder 2 wake up , cause another person postet a question like this. but i am always so tired in the morning it's really hard 2 get up although i get enough sleep? and i tried 2 sleep more , i went 2 bed at about 8:30 and i got like 11 hours of sleep and i felt SO much better in the morning and it wasn't hard 2 get up at all. so i don't really get it , isn't that way 2 much sleep?
and i don't wanna go 2 bed that early every day. what can i do 2 be less tired cause i am SOOO tired all the time. i'm 14/f by the way (link)
try taking a nap when you get home from school. thats what i do. and then i get up and do my hw and i when i go to bed, i sleep good and when i wake up, im refreshed.


Today I got a great suggestion and I want to know what you think (and dont say it is obsessive or a lot of work because it isnt). After a person posts a question(s) on this site and gets the answer(s) they like they should copy and paste into a word document and then print out what was copied and pasted and read it everytime they need reassurance

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yea. thats perfect. especially if the problem is about suicidal thoughts or something like that. good idea.


the bluetooth on my sidekick 3 doesent work
should i go to the Tmobile store and have them look at it?
or what should i do to make it work?
thanx so much!!! (link)
id take it in. cause if its somthing wrong with the bluetooth, they might be able to fix it. anytime i have a problem with my phone, i take it in. they always fix it. =]]


Is there anything I can buy at walmart to soothe my throat? I've heard of something called throat coat but I cant ever find it. I ask because I am an aspiring vocalist and my acid reflux has taken a toll on my throat this week and I need a fix so I can get back to singing with my school choir. Is there any throat spray that I can get at a department store that does what I need? (link)
i dont know about the throat spray, but ive gotten to the point where anytime i eat something that i know will give me acid reflux, i take either tums or rolaids. i went to walgreens and picked up a little package of them that i keep in my bookbag for school.

i usually take tums and drink lots of propel fitness water. that usually helps.


hey.I want you guys to write me down a list of your top 10 favorite songs,they dont have to be in order.I just want to hear some new different songs.THANKS (link)
dear angel-april sixth
pretty girl-sugarcult
through glass-stone sour
borders and shading- inflames
my sweet shadow- inflames
youre beautiful- james blunt
here without you- three doors down
far away- nickelback
numb- linkin park
say goodbye-jagged edge
lose yourself-eminem

not in order.

but an amazing cd is soundtrack to your escape by inflames. they pretty much rock.
and curtain call by eminem is good too.


Im 14/f but im turning 15 in Sep. Im thinking about studying abroad in Costa Rica for the Feb. - July semester. Im really hoping I can go because I need to be fluent in spanish (I already know some). There are some things holding me back though. Here are my questions.

-How can I help raise money for my parents? It costs around 8000 dollars, and I have talked to my dad and asked whether we could afford it or not, and he said it is really expensive, but he never said no. So maybe if I helped raise money I could go?

-Im worried like what if the town I go to stay has a really bad school or something with gangs and all that?

-What if the family has other kids that would not like me?

-Also with AFS {look on google} do you think if they did have bad schools or a bad family would we be able to get a refund and have me come home if i was truly scared?

Please tell me all you know! thanks in advance (link)
if you hook up with a program , then you wont get put in a bad school. my sister is studying in france for a year. i think that if you raised money they would let you go. theres nothing to be scared about because afs will put you in a good school.

good luck


is there any good teeth whiteners? i'd like to know from past use or from a friend telling you. Also if you do know where to get it (link)
crest white strips. go to walmart. they work good.


So its almost my sweet sixteen && i have no idea what i want to do for it. I havent had a bday party kinda thing in over 5 years. I wana do something fun && cool but most of my friends would just wana drink for my bday && stuff like that..

Any ideas on what to do!? (link)
for my sweet 16 im going to the beach.
i love tanning...

you could go see a movie with your friends
go to a resturant.
try to serve sodas instead of alcholic beverages.
getting drunk is not a way to remember such a special time.

rent a hotel
go dancing
hire a dj.



hey thanks if you can help me out, here is a picture of me and hopefully it will help

http://img266.imageshack.us/img266/3431/p3090441jk6.jpg (link)
okay. you have perfect skin, so i dont suggest a foundation unless you really want to. i always wear black eyeliner but its toatally up to you. i think you'd look good with black eyeliner on the bottom and black mascara. (when applying the eyeliner, they say its best to pull the eye into into a straight line but instead, i pull the bottom lid down and apply a thin amount) since your eyes are green i would suggest using neutral tones for eyeshadow and apply to the lid. glittery eyeshadow would look gorgeous.

if you still have questions, feel free to ask me.




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