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I have a heart for this stuff. My love and greatest desire is helping people, thus the reason for majoring in Psychology. I hope to someday soon be a board-certified Clinical Psychologist. Until then, I'm going to give my opinions and hopefully help some people out in the process.On another note, I love learning, singing, dancing, and God. I'm heavily into acting, singing, dancing, and trying to get and stay in shape. I don't like drama and if I give advice to anyone, it is in hopes of drama-free results, but never guaranteed. I believe in standing up for yourself, regardless of who's against you. You've got to take a stand or you'll fall for anything.
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I need help telling my mom that sometimes i am abused by my father for the stupidest reasons when she is at work. I feel very shy to tell her and i dont know if i tell her that the effect of me telling her will hurt my families future. i am the 2nd oldest of 4 kids and i am the one that gets hit by my dad the most. the other sumblings rarely are touched. my dad has very vast mood swings and once he ill be very nive nad a few minutes later he is going crazy.
i dont know what to tell my mom about this.
please help me.
the question is what kind of abuse are you talking about? Does he 'spank' you or hit, punch, or hit you with things, like baseball bats?
There's a line between abuse and discipline. Keep in mind if you feel it is abuse, you need to talk to someone. Preferably not your mother. Someone at children services or something. If you tell your mother, chances are things are going to get a lot worse before they get better. Better yet, talk to a school counselor.
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 4 months, and i am 16 and he's 19. But it's alot different because we've known eachother for like all of our lives we have grown up in church together and he's a really good clean christian guy. And i am a really good clean christian girl and he's everything ive been looking for. And i know he's the one for me and i know without a doubt that i love him with all of my heart. But he used to smoke ciggarettes and he quit like 2 years before we started dating but he still does it like once every two weeks and i didnt know that...so he's basically been lying to me for like 4 months??? And i had to find out he was doing this from his brother...he had no intention in telling me! But i know or at least i feel 100% sure he hasnt lied to me about anything else but i just cant believe he would do that. And we got into a HUGE argument yesterday but we kinda made up, but things arent the way that they used to be you know? I just dont know what to do? I never thought he would keep something from me?? What do i do?
The way I see it, he smoked and quit 2 years ago. He probably doesn't feel that smoking is that big of deal. He's only doing it every once in a while.
I'm putting myself in his position. I'm a Christian girl also and I smoke every once in a while. It takes the stress off. I never told any of my boyfriends about it because smoking is something completely different from things such as getting high. Keep in mind that we all have our vices and a cigarette every once in a while is ok. But if you're having a really hard time trusting him - you need to talk to him about it.
Remember: some things we may not consider as big of a deal as others do. We all look at things differently.
Why do many non-Christians celebrate Christmas? Christmas is a celebration of the birth of Jesus, so I just don't understand how anyone who doesn't believe in Jesus could celebrate his birth just for presents. And why do nonreligious people have to celebrate Christmas? Why not Hannukah or Kwanza?
Also, why do people who only celebrate Christmas and Easter consider themselves Christian? (people who don't pray or go to church, but still celebrate Christian holidays)
I'm not really sure how to answer all of this question because I am a Christian that celebrates Christmas. No one really knows the exact date that Christ was born or the exact date of his resurrection. Christmas is about celebrating the birth of Jesus Christ. But I believe it's just become a ritualistic thing is why non-Christians celebrate Christmas.
Being a Christian doesn't have any concern with attendance or celebration of Easter or Christmas. I believe even some Christians have lost the true meaning of Christmas. I know of a family that only gives one gift a piece to their 2 kids every Christmas so they don't all caught up in the commercilization of it. We don't know who are Christians and who aren't. Only God does. Many, many people pray and we are unaware of it. Just remember that God knows each and every person's heart. We cannot judge anyone based on the days they attend church or judge them for any matter. That's between them and God. =) Also, I've wondered that before too.
How do you effectively clean a mirror without it leaving streaks or "fuzzies" from the washcloth?
Windex & Newspaper. It's brilliant!
this summer will be my "senior" year at a summer camp I go to. it's a theater camp and its full of talent and "stars" i want to make a mix cd for each of my friends, who are seniors, but I dont know many songs to put, and I also want to make some sort of t-shirt that says seniors oh sev or something... I'll be making the c.d and the shirt. IDEAS!!
The camp is called On Center Stage
Maybe make a cd composed of songs throughout your years at the camp? Like a flashback cd.
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Only you know the songs ya'll have listend to over the years. I'm older than you, so the songs that I would choose would have no meaning with you and your friends.
I'm going to set the scene here by first giving some background information:
My brother, Dustin: 23 years old; senior in college; has a two year old son; unmarried and single; lives on his own.
I, Natalie: 16 years old; high school junior; unemployed (my parents told me not to work so I can concentrate on school); live with both of my parents.
Story:
My brother was over at my parents' house (where I live) last night. He was drinking and trying to show off to impress a girl his age that was also at my house. He was complaining about EVERYTHING. He said, "I'm a grown man, 23, and I can take care of myself".
However, my parents pay half of his rent, help him take care of his child, pay his college tuition, and supply him with a part time job (he works for my parents, who own their own business). The comment he made was very disrespectful to my parents.
When he gets to see his child every other weekend, my mom drives about thirty minutes away to pick up my brother and his son to bring them out to my house. My brother practically pushes the parental responsibilities that are needed to take care of a two year old on to my mother. She ALWAYS changes his diaper, feeds him, and plays with him while my brother sits on the couch. My brother gets frustrated when his own child is barely whining.
I think his actions as an “adult” are completely wrong. I know I can’t tell my brother how to live or act, but how could I effectively express my opinion of him?
Firstly, I can partially side with your brother and partially side with you. I'm your brother's age and I have a sister your age who constantly makes accusations similar to yours. The difference? I appear to be a lot more responsible than your brother. I'm 23 years old, I work full-time at a job that I acquired on my own, attend college full-time (that I pay for or my job pays for), and I pay for all of my bills. I still live at home, so I pay no rent and my parents do help me out occassionally - but only when I'm in dire need of asking for assistance. I'm single, with no children. I feel your parents are partially to blame. They allow him to work only part-time and still supply him with things. They take care of his child. Do you see where I'm going with this? Yes, your brother should be responsible and take care of his own things - but if he's not being forced to take on the responsibility that he should and he's not being called out on his irresponsibilities, he's not going to step up to the plate. Unless he has to. I feel you should talk to your brother about it. Maybe bring into view that he is an adult, but he's getting drunk instead of taking that money to pay on his rent? His priorities are completely out of wack. Keep in mind - it's not all his fault. It appears he's been 'babied'.
Is it bad to just hook up with someone even though you're not with them? It makes me feel like I'm doing something wrong. I just need reassurance that it's okay. Please let me know! Thank you. ♥
If you feel like you're doing something wrong, that's your conscious. I personally don't believe in hook-ups (anything sexual). There are hundreds of diseases out there. Condoms aren't 100% protection. What if you were to contract HIV from one hook-up? Weigh your options. The stakes are too high in my opinion.
I did something a couple of months ago that at the time I thought I did the right thing but now I'm regretting it. Well basically what happened is the man I was in love with who I thought loved me back dumped me very cruelly. I told him that I wouldn't have an affair; or get invovled sexually with him as long as he was married. Instead of respecting my decision he told me he wanted nothing to do with me. The reason I thought he did want to be with me is because he kept asking me if I wanted children and that I'd be a great mom and he had never had kids. I also knew he was really unhappy with his wife. I thought he loved me and he obviously was leading me on and just telling me what I wanted to hear so eventually I would sleep with him. I guess I just need someone to tell me that I did the right thing because I've been feeling so down about this.
You did the right thing. It sounds to me like all he wanted to do was to get into your pants. Like grandma said - if he really cared about you, he'd still be there.
I have a really hard time making friends. But when i do make a friend they only use me. I've lost a lot of confidence because of all of the friends that I've made that used me and because I moved across the country. I have like no friends and people don't like me and everyone seems to think that i'm really wierd adn try to avoid me. What can I do??
I can honestly say that I can relate. I'm not sure how old you are, but middle and high school was always the worst for me. Lately though, I've realized to make good friends, you just have to be yourself. I know that sounds like a cheesy line out of a teen magazine - but it's true. Being yourself will help you make friends who honestly like you for you. The worst thing you could ever do is to try and 'fit' in or be friends with people who are completely different from you. Also, you have to reach out to others. You have to be a friend to have a friend. You can't just sit around and expect to have everyone come to you, you need to reach out. Clubs (not necessarily bars) are good ways to meet new people that you have things in common with. Hope I helped!
Are there any weight loss pills that actually work ? everyone says they are a waste of money but there has to be something.
Adipex is wonderful. You have to have a prescription though. It's a little expensive (around $80 for a 30 day supply). But it works. It suppresses your appetite, increases your metabolism, and lifts your mood.
Ok so lately I've been having this impending feeling that life is temporary and I might lose someone I love or die and never see them again -ever- and the thought is really depressing me.
I used to believe in god but I grew away from that a while ago and I've tried to go back to my ignorance but it's failed because I simply can't convince myself or have anyone convince me. Especially since I wrote it all off as false and now reading about the religions faults makes it worse.
Existentialism keeps coming up and it's seems like the accepted logical way in the scientific community and it's driving me insane because I am getting anxious and at the same time I really don't want to get used to the anxiety and accept the fact that I might never see my mom or dad or boyfriend again if they died today.
So is there any other theory out there that hasn't been put down yet and seems pretty reasonable? I'm just wondering at all if there's any room for the afterlife in the modern scientific world? Could you please give me a few theories.
I would appreciate if you could refrain by trying to convert me to your religion and keep your answers as factual as possible. Thank you so much.
You said you grew away from believing in God? No one has all of the answers. It's like air, we don't see it - but we believe and know it's there, right? If you pick up a Bible and begin reading, you will find so many prophecies that have been fulfilled and there are still some to come. Death does exist and there is a chance that you will never see loved ones again. For those who aren't saved will spend forever eternity in the lake of fire. I know it's hard to grasp, but once you take hold of the truth, instead of these scientific studies - you'll know. A person asked me once before how I KNOW that what I believe is right. To prove it. The bible. Christianity isn't a head thing - it's a heart thing. You feel it in your heart, not your head. We have doubts - but that's Satan. I urge you to come and know Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior. It is the most important decision anyone can ever make in their life. I don't know you - but I'm going to be praying for you.
AWESOME GRADES FROM SO-SO SCHOOL OR SO-SO GRADES FROM AWESOME SCHOOL?
what's the best? see i was thinking if i choose a school like UCLA (good repuation right?) but since everyone's so smart there i'd get so-so grades, or is it better to choose a so-so school where i'd get the best grades?? like lets say i want to becom a doctor, what would be best? do they look at your grades, or where you got your degree, or both? does anyone know??
I've transferred a lot and I'm still in college. Colleges do look at your GPA. If you'd like to bring your GPA up, I'd recommend going to a community or 2-year college a year or two first to bring your GPA up and then transferring. Your college of choice should not be based on what other people think of the college - name for instance? UCLA? If you want to become a doctor, I'd do some research on some of the better colleges and universities with Pre-Med programs. UCLA may have a good reputation, but USC may have a better Pre-Med program? So, you would get a better education there. Trust me, you want to do your researcher or you will end up stuck where everyone else would like for you to be, rather than where you want to be.
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There's nothing wrong with attending community colleges first. I have friends who are now lawyers who done that first so they could adjust to the changes and bring their GPAs up to an acceptable average to be accepted into different programs at universities. Universities don't punish you for attending a community collge first. You would major in a for instance Pre-Med transfer. You would transfer without a degree and finish completing your degree at the university. Hope I helped =)
The bar scene is beginning to make me sick.
I really wanted to try the whole "interweb dating" thing, so I did! I met someone from MySpace and he completely hated me. You might say "Oh Erica, you're clearly exaggerating."
No. If this guy had a machete, I wouldn't have a head.
I want to date. Any advice, oh hell, just any response whatsoever, would make me happy.
I'm in the same position as you. I've given up the bar scene for something drastically different...church. I've placed my full faith in God and I'm now confident that I'm going to meet the right person on His timing not mine. It's fulfilled most of my desires and...it weeds out a lot of losers. When you say, I love God...the bad ones run. Trust me.
For the past 4 months I've been chronically sick. Stomach, head, and breathing problems. Due to other reasons though, but for the past 3 nights my head has felt like its been hit with a 50lb brick multiple times. The pain occurs randomely. It's in the lower part of my head, but above my neck. If I tilt my head side to side my vision becomes blurred, and it hurts even more. The times on how long it stays varies, but its usually around an hour or so. I've tried medication, laying down, rubbing my head, but it just doesnt work. I've had a migraine before and I know that this isnt it. I was wondering if anyone knew of what this might be, and if I should go to the ER, like I was planning on doing. I did have a slight concussion about a month and a half ago, which might have something to do with it. Or maybe it ties in with me chronically being sick for 4 months. If anyones had this happen to them, or knows of any websites, please let me know.
You need to get to a doctor soon! Don't hesistate. It may be something more serious than anticipating! It's best to go now than to wait. If there is something wrong, they can do something about it sooner!