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Im 13 and me and my bf have been goin out for about 4 months now. I really love him with all my heart and he's like my soul-mate. He cares 4 me and loves me a lot to! (also 13).
I've been in a past relationship where the guy took kissing and making out for advantage.. and I still haven't really healed from it. My bf wants to make out and says he respects me not being ready. He asks me when I will be ready or if I ever will. It seems like all he wants is to make out.. Wut do I do?
u should ask him, u need to tell him that uve been taken for advantage a few times n u dont deserve to be treated like that.. so be like if ur just w me to make out n get some then tell me now bc i deserve to know n i dont want to be leaded on anymore.. let it out! :D
hi
i went out with guy like 2 months ago who i really really liked but then he dumped me and i found out that he had been 2 timing me but he just said he didnt and even if he did it wasnt like we were married or anything but iw as really hurt. then we became rfiends and he said he wanted to be really good friends but whenever i see him he just ignores me but i still really like him and i think he sought of still likes me but is trying not to show it. I would love it someone gave me some advice as this is really very important to me!
love stef
x x x
forget about him!! TRUST is what u need in a relationship n he didnt show that very well.. go find sum1 else who wont two time u and who will b a loyal and caring bc he isnt any of those at ALL
i have a bad self esteem issue and i want to fix it. how do i convince myself that i am not fat and ugly? i really think i am, and i dont ever say anything about it, but my friends always call me pretty and stuff, i want to be confident in myslef.
its just something u need to try to convince urself as.. ALWAYS think positive and be the happy person u r to ur friends even when they rnt there. if ur friends call u pretty, u know they rnt gunna lie to u, so just belive them! bc i bet u r really pretty n skinny =)
Ok its CREEPY thers this guy that i hung out with ONCE at a party who goes to a totally different school then me. he ends up calling me (even though i never gave him my number??) and we talk alittle but i really dont like him. then he calls me right before i left yesterday (ON MY HOUSE PHONE?!?) and i told him i couldnt talk and he said "why not" and i said "im about to go to the movies with my friends" and then i went there and guess who was there! yupp that guy!! and he decided to see the same movie at the same time! weird huh! how do i get rid of him??
can u say stalker! wow.. u just need to tell him like it is.. be like hey ur creeping me out getting my # and following me everywhere, so just stop! kick him to the curb!!! =) have fun!
There is this guy that I'm really interested in and I think he's into me too. we have only one class together at school and we never hang out when we aren't at school and he doesnt have my s/n email or number...should I give it to him? or should i wait til he asks for it (he is kinda shy)
is he the guy for me?
please help !
wow.. that totally sounds like me with the guy i like, xcept hes taken haha! but yess totally give him your number!! if hes shy then u need to be like hey wanna go to the movies or something this weekend, n if he says yeah then u know he must be interested! and then u can give him ur # then! good luck babe!
ok, so i dont think im ugly, but i know im definitely not gorgeous, and when i get compliments on my body or anything else from guys, i don't know how to respond. I've had self-esteem issues and when i hear these compliments, im glad someone thinks of me that way, but i dont wanna sound like "OMG! Im hot shit.." How do i respond to these compliments without sounding like im hot shit or end up rejecting them?
just be like aw thnks ... it doesnt have to be anything extreme
ok recently i posted a message about "tyler" rite....
well today i had a dream about him... i went up and asked him if he liked "rachel" he said no...... i like u... so i stood there like an idiot and just said o.... ummm.... so im not sure if i like him or not!! !! so heres the 411....
~hes in my language arts class and math class
~we sit across from each other in class
~he says bless u and smiles at me everytime i sneeze but only to me and he never says it to ne1 else
~if i drop my pen like behind me or sumthin he will GET UP and get it even if some1 else cud!
~the other day i was like "omg my poem sux soo bad" he said "thats really good" so i was just like "ok....."
do i like him or what or does he like me im just so confused!! bc i mean i want him to like me but im not sure i want a relationship!
im SOO SORRY its long but i really need some help!!! plz!!!
*i RATE high!
~boy crazy~
yeah i think u do like him, but ur playing hard to get and thats good! he seems interested in you, if u want a relationship u need to flirt alot n ask him if he wants to hang out this weekend!
Hey-i was reading through your column and i really liked the advice you were giving so i was wondering if you could help me out with a situation i have:
alrite so beginning of this year (i was still a junior in high school) i met a guy (a senior in high school who's now a freshman in college) through my best friend's boyfriend and one nite after all 4 of us hanging out i ended up hooking up with him. When it started out, neither of us was looking for a relationship, i was just looking to gain experience so i figured it was a great idea. Long story short-i went pretty far with him and got attached-towards the end of the school year we found out we both really liked each other, we went to prom together and were hooking up monogamously for about 4 months but he never asked me out-finally middle of summer he said he didn't wanna lead me on but he really didn't want a gf when he was gonna be leaving for college in a month-i told him i understood but naturally i was heartbroken. So i didn't see him the rest of the summer, i've just heard stories about him hooking up with other girls which killed me...literally but i finally finally got over him (its been a long long road). Anyways he's back for thanksgiving break and i haven't gotten play in awhile-so this friday we are getting together-im really worried cuz when i see him i don't know if i will have the strength to turn down hooking up with him, but i definitely know i don't have the strength to get over him again-at the same time....i desperately need play LOL. What do u think i should do?!?!
thanks
hmm.. lets see- well first of all he was an ass for leading you on all that time, and then not wanting a relationship afterwords, but i can kinda see his point bc u guys wont always be like side by side as much as u would like. if u really want some from him then u should go for it! just make it a one night stand!! but if u think u will get heartbroken and too attached, i think u need to find another guy whu is actually looking for a gf and some play at the same time :) u just need to decide which ones more import. to u. hope i helped!
I lost my cuzin and i tell my friends itz ok i hav to get over it i really don't get over cuz i rele miss her and i love her. Shuld i keep tellin my friends this?
Signed
Lost Cuzin
aw thats horrible! sorry about ur loss- i think u need to tell ur friends how u really feel so they can comfort you when u need them.
ok i kno this is a big generalization... so no one get mad @ me or get all pissy for this ? but y do guys always seem to want what they cant have? it seems like the last 2 or 3 times ive gone out w/some1, there is some1 else flirting w/ me... but when im not going out w/ some1... there isnt!! it sux really bad! lol. will some1 just tell me y... and how can i get guys attention when im NOT going out w/ some1 lol! thanks much!
idn lol i think every1 wants what they cant have.. i always like guys who are taken but when there not taken, im not interested lol its crazy. but i think there is gunna be some1 out there who is perfect for every1 and who isnt gunna be picky. if u want a guys attention u just need to flirt alot n talk to them, dont be shy! hope i helped
i have been feeling bad for a while.. i think i have the disease depression... im almost 16 years old and until recently i havent told anyone except my best friend... i want to tell my mom and go to the doctor to find out for real but im scared... im afraid she wont understand or not take me seriously or get mad... some of my symptoms are: alot of insecurities with myself, feeling empty, trapped, i always wanna stay home and sleep, i hate myself, im sick of my life, and i have alot of regrets.... im not so bad that im thinking of suicide though.. i would NEVER do that.... the thing is i think i have a pretty good life and im lucky for the things i have and that makes me feel really guilty about feeling bad..... i have a good house, im healthy, i have a family who loves me, my parents are together, and i have alot of stuff but i still feel depressed....... i no there are people who have it so much worse than me and all that makes me feel so much worse about how i have been feeling.... my questions are do u think i am really depressed like.. do u think i have the disease or do u think im just a moody teenager? and do u think i should tell my mother? please please time one million answer my questions!!!! i reallyyyyyyy need help!
if ur feeling this way u should defiantly tell ur mom or some1 else, i think every1 feels this way once in there lifetime but i dont think u have a depression disease.. i think ur just not self confident about some things that u really shouldnt be worrying about. just stick with ur most tru friends~ they always know what to do!
ok these TWO guys like me..... well im not sure about one of them but im definite on the other .... the first guy's name is lets say mike well he likes me... but hes kinda a loser.... plus hes a big jerk.... ya this is the guy who likes me and i no that he does. the second kid lets call him tyler.... im not sure if he likes me but all of my friends say that he flirts with me... but i dont even try to flirt with him!!! so the real question is does he like me??
o ya by the way i sorta have a crush on him but i dont wanna tell my friends bc last yere he wassa humongous loser and now hes all hot and sexy lol!!
plz dont delete this i really need advice!!
~*l0sT aNd CoNfUsEd*~
u NEED to flirt back!! ask him if he wants to hang out this weekend, n if he says yeah then hes prolly interested.. if he already flirts with u now then he mite already like u but find out for urself! ask him who he likes n give him some hints that u like him
How do you get rid of freckles?
cover it with make up.. bronzer works good w me!
ok on monday I was dumped and I'm really unnhappy about it but now my ex keeps slagging me off to all my friends one of my friends told me what he'd said when I got to school he was being really nasty to me he kept calling me a ho slag slut and a bitch and said he regrets going out with me and that he never even liked me but when we were going out he text me saying I love you so did he have feelings for me but now he's being really nasty to me and now he's going out with his ex ex and I'm really stressed now what can I do please help me!
aw im sorry! its obvious that u deserve better. go to your friends, they always know what to do when im in a situation like this! and dont worry bc ull find a guy who isnt an ass like your ex
I was always obsessed with a guy and I would always talk about him. And when my friends would talk about him, I would continue and say that i love him and all that. But he already has a girlfriend, so I dont wanna talk about him anymore. I wanna avoid talking about him when my friends are talking about him. It's really hard to change the subject when I don't know what else to talk about. So basically, all I need to know is how do I stop talking and thinking about a guy who I was obsessed with before?
find another guy and ull forget all about this one =)
ok. there's this 7th grader at my school (i'm in 8th) and i like him. my bff's boyfriend is friends with this guy(this guys name is zach). i had a dream about zach and bff(gina) tells her boyfriend(brandon). so after school today, this kid is like all like trying to get gina to bring me over to him. we flirted at the beginning of the year and i like him. what do i say to him and do you think it's wrong for an 8th grader to go out with a 7th grader? thx for the help! oh yeah, i really really like this kid
if u really like him then totally go for it! age is just a number hunny.. flirt alot n be confident, talk about this weekend n ask him if he wants to hang out!!! good luck!
hey, how did ur other advice column get suspended?
some girl from another advice column said that i was posting things to myself, and i wasnt.. my friend got on my comp. n wrote to me and i now she thinks that i ask questions to myself which is total crap.. but whatever its only temporary
why does its always seem that my boyfriend is always going after other chicks and flirting with them even when i am around. i mean i really love him and i dont wnt us to be apart. i love hom to much, every time i talk to him about it he doesnt admit it. but i think that he is seeing some one else. What should i do??
Female 17
every guy flirts, most of the time it has no meaning but some times they may actaully like some1 else, but im sure in this case hes just flirting with other ppl bc its a guy thing. dont worry.. if u want him to stop, then go flirt with some guys in front of him n see what he does =)
Well, my friend Jacob and I are close friends right, and he totally tells me all the time that he likes this girl and she likes his friend (cough cough...me) and he says that he still hangs out with her and stuff. but anyways its waay obvious he likes me (im the girl he's talking about).
And so today we were just passin notes in class (just like FRIENDS do) and this girl Brittany goes "are you guys passing notes?" and i said "yeah" and she goes "aww how cute....you guys should go out" and Jacob goes "why? just cuz we're passing notes?" and she says "no u guys would be so cute together n stuff" and me and Jacob look at each other like what?! and so yeah that was weird.now every1 thinks me n Jacob like each other and i swear i dont like him. I like him a lot as a friend. but JUST as a friend.
so, what do i do? Jacob's thinking of introducing me to his friend I like soon. what if Jacob asks me out? I don't want Jacob to get jealous because i like his best friend who i have NEVER met! well wait...maybe he's already jealous :-(.... i want to say no...but i dont want to hurt his feelings and loose his friendship!
what do i do?
Stuck in a love triangle,
Chloe*
if jacob does ask u out then just be like were really good friends and i know if we go out and break up then we wont be as close as b4, and i dont want that to happen.. i think its just better if we stayed this way. he'll prolly be like yeah ur right. just tell him that u like him but not that way and u would nvr wanna ruin ur friendship with him so going out isnt gunna work out
i have been really good friends with this guy william and finally went out and we never kissed we just cuddled all the time. But know he just wants a peice of ass what do i do???
if u think thats all he wants, and u dont like it then kick him to the curb :) or if u think it could work out, then just tell him.. say like hey im not that kinda girl so lets take it slow