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Q: hi.
im 14 and my penis is 4.5" is this correct for my age?
thx
thats perfect for your agee =]

Q: okay this is long and whatever but i'm completely freaking out right now.. here's the story :

okay i take Yaz birth control pretty reguarly around the same time every day i havent missed a pill in like 2 months. but 3 weeks ago me & my boyfriend had sex, he used a condom and we use the pull out method just so we don't risk anything, you know? so as we were finishing as he was pulling out i heard the condom pop. He didn't cum until he was completely outside of me. I know because we talked about & he knew for a fact he didnt and becuase the cum splashed all over my inner thighs, butt, that genreal area. Now as soon as that happened of course i freaked out like okayy. it's not IN me but it's close enough and what if i couple of drops landed right on the opening?! so i peed asap and washed everything off down there.. that was 3 weeks ago though and i stopped worrying about until this past wensday when i started getting the brown discharge and the week progressed it got heavier and heavier to the point where on saturday it was almost like a light period. When this first happened i freaked out that i was having implation bleeding, but i remember that the month before i skipped my non-hormal pills ( the white "sugar pills") becuase it was spring break and i didn't want to get my period. but i still never skipped a pill, i just started a new pack of pills the day my white ones started. soo, now im like oh okay this is just break through bleeding from my last period. I'm due for my period tuesday and i'm absolutly freaking out. How big of a chance do you think there is that i'm pregnant?
one time i kept freaking out about not getting my period so much, that i think the stressed caused it to come 2 weeks later then the normal time it was suppose to come. the brown stuff happend to me too.
just wait and if you dont get it after awhile go get a preg test at shop right.
best of luck

Q: my boyriend cheat on me , is it possible for a cheater (who wont admit that he did) to not do it again or do you think h will keep cheating
i cheated on my boyfriend once, i never cheated on him again, to this day we've been together for a year & 9 months.
and since he didn't admit it idk about him
after all, guys are very good liars.

Q: ok so i had sex for the first time the other night. i know i was ready so please don't tell me any of that. but we didn't use a condem, yes, i know i'm stupid. i know he didn't come in me. i know i have a big chance of getting pregnant, buuut - i had stopped my period that morning. after i stop my periods i usually just spot bleed for about 2 or 3 days after, & i have been doing that after i had sex, so does this mean i'm for sure not pregnant ? pleaseee help me.
like she said below, you have to wait until your next period.
but honestly i have unprotected before and i doubt that you got pregnant. hopefully everything will be alright

Q: I have pretty big boobs. i have Ds and they are growing. im not really heavy im pretty average. so this is pretty noticable.. but my left boob is more like a C or almsot a D but with my right one a D almsot a DD.. you can really tell the differnce. I want to know if GUYS think that different sized boobs are gross or if it turns them off or if its not that big of a deal or what... so good or bad i just want your opinion. thank you
chances are he wont tell and either way hed brather you have big boobs so yeah haha

Q: Well v-day is coming up soon. && I have nooo idea what to get my boyfriend, we have been together for a year and a half now. I already got him a ring and a necklace, so I have no idea what to get him. Ideas?
&& his birthday is in march. Ideas??
you could get him a dog tag and have it say "property of *your name" lol (: i think thats a cute ideaaaaa.

Q: 14/f
me & my boyfriend are REALLY REALLY serious and i dont know what to get him for christmas.

i was going to get personalized dog tags but i found out he wouldnt really like that.
well now since i know that im going to get him a joke gift of a dog tag that says michelles property 9-21-06 (name& date we started dating.)

now i know i at least am going to try to get a chain for him...i know hell like it for a fact... but thats all i know to get him.

(other things ive given him before:
-personalized chocolate from hersheys
-100$
-a watch
-pj pants
-favorite deserts
and thats all)

i cant think of to give him.
(remember i cant drive and dont have any one to be able to drive us anywhere for a dinner or anything like that.)

Thanks MAJOR in advance!!
:] awe im 14 and my boyfriend and i are really serious too :D

i bought my boyfriend custom shoes, well personalized with his nick name on it.
you might want to try that.
the dog tag is also a cute idea.
make sure you make him a card by hand
and maybe one with music would be good :]
goodd luckkkkk

Q: does any female care to tell me what makes a wife cheat and is there help out there for this?????
a wife may cheat because the husband is not satisfying enough in bed, or just sick of there husand, or possibly just not like them at all (anymore) Help i suppose is keeping the relationship and or marriage exciting and always intresting and not the same thing everytime there together.

Q: I was wondering if there was someway to tell if a person is sleeping...like if there was a way to maybe count their breaths they take per minute or something? I've been looking it up on google but no such luck.
thanks!
if they blink, see if there blinking, people dont blink in there sleep :]

Q: I don't know if this is a question, but just let me tell you the story first.

When I was 12-13 (I'm 14 now) I got a whole bunch of compliments about being so pretty, and I loved that, it made me so happy. (not trying to sound concieded(sp?) I was just happy, cause I never felt pretty at all.

I mean me and my mom was in the car and we were at a stoplight, and this random maybe around 30 yr old guy rolled down his window and said "is that your daughter?" and my mom said "yes?" and he said "she's very gorgeous." and my mom said thankyou. that made me so happy! and I mean I always got stares from older men not young ones. maybe a few but it was always older ones. and no I didn't like that at all, I mean, I felt pretty, but not enough. I wanted the young ones to look at me, not the old ones. Now, I feel like I'm ugly or something. I don't get compliments anymore, but alot of OLDER men stare, not young ones. I feel ugly and I just wish I could get all the compliments like I use too, i mean I get a few but I feel ugly. like I've gotten fatter or something.

Should I change myself up a bit?I want to but I don't know what I could do.
help me please.
If people you dont know tell you you're gorgeous, you probably are pretty lol =) Maybe you should get your nails done; by different clothes that maybe are more you. You could also get your hair done and you should try different things with it. You know scrunching, straighting exc. Try focusing on your good parts other then things you dont like about yourself. Well good luck =)

Q: ok . this summer i cheated on my boyfriend . & i toLd him Like a month ago . he took me back and its been gooddd , weLL [ aLmost ] its been a whiLe now & he toLd me he wiLl never be able to trust me and again and beLeive me . weLL hes been keeping tight tabs onme and everything . he says he's tired of us arguing and tired of worring about who im taLkin to and wat im doni . does this mean he wants to break up ?

its been 7 months . i Love this boy with my heart

but its Like we just cant move on because he KN0WS i wouLd [ never ] hurt him again but he just doesnt wanna Let him seLf beLieve it & i mean its kiLLing me . i dont wanna Lose him ; but its Like were stuck on that same day i toLd him ,with just a day never ending ?

ugh

i dont wanna Lose him .
I know where your coming from, I've cheated too. It took like 3 months to gain trust back, but i love him so much and its worth it. If you dont want to lose him it might be best to just try and be friends . If you two think you can work it out, go for it. Love conquers all. If you two cant work this out maybe you two weren't meant to be; and everything happens for a reason. well good luck and let me know how everything goes ;)

Q: How do you know if youre hymen has been broke
And does sex hurt less if your hymen has been broke
I guess theres not alot of ways to tell if your hymen is broke, but if you really need to know i suppose you can go to your doctor and ask. Sex is most likely going to hurt at first, if you are a girl. [im suspecting you are] It also is going to hurt the first few times, but after awhile you'll get use to it and be more comfortable.
good luck && always use protection :)

Q: I want to get my belly pierced but i'm scared that it'll hurt =[,does it hurt ?
Honestly it doesn't even hurt that much at all. It hurts just a little more then a regular ear piercing. It may also hurt when you go to sleep with it for the first day or so, but other then that there shouldn't be a big problem with it. well good luck ;)

Q: There is this guy that i think im in love with..we're not together anymore but i think about him alooooot..i want to be with him a little and i still like him a little. but he has a habit of flirting alot and talking(trying to get with) other girls..sometimes it makes me sad but i dont say nothing to him about it. He was trying to get back wit me a while ago but he also was wanting to hook up with other girls to..but i havent asked him why he did that. on his birthday i kissed him n he pretended he wanted me back but i dont know...and he asked me to type a paper cause he doenst have a computer i did it and then he wanted to make out but didnt talk to me a couple days after...i dont noe wat to do i want to move on but im lonely and miss him being my boyfriend..but he hurts me soo bad
This boy honestly doesn't care for you, he just wants your lips and every other girls in the worlds he can grab. Stop thinking about him, its going to be hard, i Know this guys type. If you want keep in contact with him but talk to alot of guys also, see if he gets a little jealous and wants to hang out with you alot more. Maybe if you join a club or sport afterschool you could meet someone new for your life. Well good luck ;)

Q: My boyfriend and I have been thinking about having sex. I told him I was going to find out any possible thing that could happen first. I was wondering how long sex generally hurts girls after. If you have any answers that would be great. Thanks.
I'm not going to lie it hurt me alot the first two times. One reason was because i wasn't wet, and the second reason was because i was always "tight" when he tried to go inside. But like once he takes it out it shouldn't hurt but it's different for all girls I suggest google as well :p good luck :)

Q: Hi, I've been with my boyfriend for over a year now and he's very good to me. The only problem is...a little while before we met he hooked up with this girl that I really dislike. They had a friends with benefits arrangement going on for a while and worked together, but fortunately no longer speak. One of the first times I hung out with him before we started dating they were cuddling, and I think this may have impacted my impression of him. She was still calling even after we started dating. She's gone now, but I can't stop thinking about the things they did together and it disgusts me because I'm very morally opposed to that kind of thing. I really want to just put it behind me and move on but it seems I can't, any advice would be greatly appreciated.
I KNOW EXACTLY WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH.
i've been with my boy atleast a year and a half and he had many hookups before me. he even had two girls kiss eachother for him. that bothers me CRAZILY. anyways you just kinda have to look past it its going to take alot of time and always bother you but hes with you because you mean something to him, not that other trampy whore. it might help to share your feelings with him, about how you feel. try not to ask about his past anymore and just focus on the future of you too, good luck :]

Q: my ex and i split 12 months ago he is a 25 year old male im a 29 year old female,he was sent to prison for something he did before we got together,we were together for 5 years we have a daughter,basically he didnt treat me right,he lied wouldnt work and had no respect for me,things wernt all bad though,we were good together. we have been apart for 12 months,he was in jail for 6 and in this tme ive met someone else,hes a lovely man and i do love him we both feel the same about eachother,we have both been hurt in the past the thing is though the more i see my ex the more i want to try again,he has told me he wants to try again too...what do i do?? i need advice as i have no one to talk to. do i try again with the man i have shared 5 years with and who i have a child with or do i see what happens with my new man who is the complete opposite of my ex??
honestly not to offend you, your ex seems to be not a good boyfriend. if he didn't work then lied to you, and even went to prison. what makes you think hes changed?

then again you either go back to your old ways with your ex, or expierence something new. it doesn't hurt to just see how the relationship would work, if it doesn't work then you have no problem.

just try and decide for yourself and see what happens; good luck :)

Q: Last night, I was with this guy and he started to finger me. My period wasn't supposed to come for two more days; but I think it started while he was fingering me. I had a tiny bit of blood in my undies after, but I'm so embarressed! What if its on his finger!? He's a close friend, I'm not sure what to say to him if he brings it up.
Is it possible he popped your cherry? I doubt he saw any blood or if he didn he probably wont bring it up. If it still bothers you and you want to say something, Just be like I kinda saw the blood afterword, i guess mahh period came earlyy, lucky you! try to make a joke of it or something.. that happened to me except i was having sex when i found out i had my period.. ahaha Well good luck ;)

Q: today my boyfriend and i tried having sex the problem is that he is really umm gifted and it wouldnt go in and when it did it slipped out right away and yes he fingered be before but nothing seemed to work please help me out
okay, so the exact same thing happend to me. basically you just kinda have to keep trying and your legs have to be REALLY WIDE OPEN. ahah. eventually it will get in, dont worry about it.

Q: I want to ask you all, (it doesn’t matter if you are straight or gay whatever) please share with me.

I want to know have you been or right now in a relationship with your best friend? How long have you been in the relationship or when did you break up? Were they your first (sex)? Were you nervous and/or giggling when you to shared the first kiss? If you broke up are you still friends? Please share with me because right now I MIGHT be in a relationship with a friend.
14/f straight
We started out just talking, soon we were best friends. He was my first kiss, my first love. Basically, he asked me out like three times, but i kept saying no because i wouldn't want to ruin our friendship, but i'm glad i finally said yes. I've been in a relationship with him for over a year now, and we both lost our virginity to eachother. We broke up once, because I was jealous of him hanging out with other girls and guys, cause hes kinda popular. But we got back together within two days, because he missed me way too much :) Haha, we talk about getting married and everything, some people will read this and think wtf shes not in love, but it doesn't matter, i'm in love and even if we ever break up, i'll always love him.

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HI :) Well welcome to my page, I like giving advice && getting advice when I have a chance to come on here. Basically i'm just a teenager who knows alot of things for my agee ;)

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