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Q: Would doing pilates for 20 minutes a day in the core area help trim fat and inches off of my waistline, belly, and, hips?
yepp

Q: ok so i am into snowboarding and theres a certain mountain i have been looking at in france, it is called Chamonix (i think the full name is Chamonix Mont Blanc) i know what the last 2 words mean "mountain White" but what is Chamonix? and how do i say it? or do i say it exatcly as it looks? Char-mon-ix?
actually not to be rude.. but the person under me is incorrect

in french you NEVER pronouce your "H"'s

so it is sar - mo - nee

and it doesn't mean anything... it is a place, it doesn't have a meaning

Q: I started cutting when I was 14 and im now 17, and it has been getting worst, now after cutting I would take alot of pain killers, which makes me throw up alot, i now i need help, but im too scared to get it
you really have to stop cutting

its not going to help you
your parents
and your friends

as your conselor person thing
please stop

Q: Its looks like a flat TV screen, but all it does is display digital photos. Its like a slide show on a mini TV. Do you know what its called? And the price range? Thank you and happy holidays!
what you are describing sounds like a digital picture frame. (that whats it called)

the price range is somewhere between (60-100$$)
they are pretty expensive but i love them

i have them at my house

gee.. i hope this helps

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Q: is it wrong to hang out with my best friends boy friend when she is not there even though we were friends before they started going out...
if you are just friends i see nothing wrong with it.
but yet maybe your friend thinks something might happen between you 2... then you should set her down and tell her that you dont care for him like that... you are just friends....
any real friend would understand that!

i hope this helps
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Q: what are some new trends now? i really want to be the most fashionable in my grade. what are some new styles? i need to know.
sequins
~ not just a shirt that has a little sequin on it but the whole shirt is made of sequins
~ cute sequin dress and leggings

babydoll shirts
~ shirts that are tighter and then flair out. very cute
~ tighter shirt with poofy sleeves, but not to poofy

uggs
or if you want to go a little cheaper then look for boots that look like gort uggs... not high

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from,
onlyinyourdream
F/13

Q: I have been dating a man for a little over 2 years. I invited my him to my house for Christmas Dinner which he accepted, but because his back was hurting he did not come. After dinner with my kids and my Mom I took a plate over to him. Once I arrived at his house he wanted to go to visit some of his friends and his brother. While at his friends house he had to make sure that I took pictures of him with his friend and her family. That of course was after he shovled their sidewalks for them. Then at his brother's house I had to take a picture of him and his cousin by marriage whos husband passed away several years ago. He has always told me that she has had a big crush on him. She started flirting with him the moment that we arrived. She made it very clear that she was currently single. This annoyed me. When we got back to his house he made the comment of "Well I at least got pictures of who I wanted" I felt a little hurt because out of the 2 years that we have been together we have had one picture taken of us together. Hard to believe, but true. Yet, he did not ask anyone to take our picture together. Heck he didn't even take one of me alone. After all of this I really felt like me and my family were not worth much to him. Am I being over sensitive?
everybody gets a little jelious every once in a while... so i dont think that you are being over sensitive.
you just have to understand that he just wants his family to feel loved for the holidays. . . but that is No reason for him to leave his girlfriend left in the cold. maybe you should tell him that you are glad that him and his family are close, but you believe that holidays are also for people to feel the romance and love between each other.

i hope this helps

from
onlyinyourdream

F/ 13

Q: My iPOD won't play any of my songs...it was for a while and then all of a sudden it just skipped from song to song and won't play. It's happened before and my friend did something to fix it..but it's break and he's not around so I don't know how to fix it...does anyone know what to do?
wow

thats a toughy

you should get a new one if your ipod is doing this

hope this helps

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Q: Where can I play games that is free online?

For exapmle, when im at school they block a lot of the websites for games and then i get bored so yeah help me out please! thanks! :D
are school goes to

games1.com
and
teagames.com

Q: 14.5/f

the upper half of my teeth are straight, and basically perfect, but i have an overbite and my four bottom teeth are a little crooked. my tooth chipped when i was 8, and i got a crown for it. somehow the crown isn't there.. because i can still feel the spot where it chipped and its sensitive at times. will invisalign help correct my bottom teeth and my overbite?
that is so cool.... not your teeth but that i am getting invisalign.... i get them in a bout 2 weeks (they are being shipped to me)
anyway
yes, invisalign will straighten your teeth

its kinda a pain because i have to have my invisalign changed every 2 weeks... so you have to go to the orthadonists alot but i love them...

peace out

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Q: This is going to be a very odd question, hard to answer, and it technically has nothing to with "Spirituality" other than that I would appreciate some answers from a christian point of view. What excatly am I being taught here? All advice is welcome, though.

Well, I've always been low in confidence, but it's the past week that it's gotten extreme, I've literatly spent hours crying for beauty, praying for it, and envying those who have it. All my diary entries have been about it - and how life is without it. Today I woke up, and while looking at my reflection said "Please, make me feel beautyful today".

I went out on the town and was introduced to a french guy (a friend of a friend) who paused in the middle of a conversation at dinner, looked me in the eyes and randomly said "It's a blessing" it was weird, and I didnt know what he was talking about,, until he said "..you're eyes, you look like a princess" I said "thank you!that's so sweet" and that was it.

On my way home from the dinner.. Literally 30 seconds after I said bye to them, and stepped out of the restaurant.. an old-ish man comes up to me and said "please, miss, wait".. I thought he would ask for directions or something so I stopped. And he said "you have amazing eyes, so sweet, so pretty, where are you from?" (I've been dying for attention, to feel beautiful again.. to get stopped in the street like I did a few years ago.. so I was happy, and not creeped out at all) I said "aww thanks!" and gave a friendly smile. He asked me if I wanted to go get a drink somewhere, and that's when I got scared - "no thank you, I'm just 17 years old.." he pressured me a bit, so I started walking and he said "No, dont be scared, I promise I'm a good man, do you have pierced ears?" then he brought out earrings and almost forced me to accept them as a gift (they're still in my jacket) we talked for about 5 more minutes until I got really creeped out and made an excuse and ran. 2 minutes later I recieve a voicemail (I did not give this man my phone number!) BUT yet, it was from him. It had to had been. It was the conversation we had just had RECORDED somehow and sent to my phone, I ran as I cried, and now I got home just 20 minutes ago.

It was scary, might not sound like it, but I'm really really scared. I can not tell my parents, jut this morning they told me not to go out, and I said "you're so freaking scared of everything, how can you live life like that??" I will never be allowed out again. I already have to be home at 6 pm, and cant go out unless they've talked to the firned, know her parents and are assured there wont be any guys, if I tell them.. my very vague definiteion of a social life will be over.

So what is this? Someone's trying to tell me that its good that I'm not beautiful cause when I am creepy men come up to me? That I should appreciate not being pretty cause it might lead to rape someday? That I should never go out ever (this is the first time I've been out in forever, it was in broad day-light for gosh sakes!) why me? howcome others can be pretty and go out, and the once I do it.. this happens?

I DONT UNDERSTAND ANYTHING, can you please help me understand what's going on here? Is it all just coincedences??
i used to not feel confident either...untill this amazing guy told me that he likes me no matter what.
but i relized that i had to feel good about myself because if i say to myself that i think that i am ugly... then how do you think that God feels about that? He made all of us, so is that like saying that his artwork is no good?
once i heard that then i started believe that God loves me no matter what,

That was a very smart move of you saying no.
your parednts are just trying to protect you... just tell them that they can trust you.. that they have raised you so well that you can make smart desicions because of them teaching that to you.

i really hope that this helps

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from, only in your dream

gender: f
age: 13

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Q: I have a ton of clothes, but I never feel like I have anything to wear. What are some cute fashion ideas for this winter?
uggs, layers layers and more layers

cute patterns

Q: my bff and i are really tight but there is one problem..
i never know what to get her for christmas!! i want to get her something personal, but not home-made. or maybe more than one thing.
please give all suggestions. i have about 35 dollars to spend if that helps.
well i have teo things in mind

you could go and have pictures done together (if to expensive then grab a camerea and take pictures yourself)
then you can frame that!!!!


and two

you could make a sweet basket, like chocaltate covered stuff!!

hope this helps
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Q: i know this guy adam and hes absolutly gorgeous! but hes a jock, and im just one of those people that is like bff's with everyone you know? but hes the kind of jock that will only like girls who are blond, and i have pitch black hair! and he likes cheerleaders and he talkes to me sometimes, but thats only if i go and talk to someone who is near him you know? and he just talks to me about random stuff like " whats on your phone" i know he dosent like me cause hes always flirting with this other girl. but today, i saw him looking at my a couple times, but he may have just been looking at something behind me or something else close to me.

i dont even know what im asking lol. im so sorry. i just dont know what to do about this, cause i really like him. but i need to know how to get him to notice me more, and how to get him to like me a little bit.
wow.... my friend clarity has black hair and like sa guy named adam... i am sure she feels the same way

well... my advice it to NEVER change yourself for a guy... show him how fun you really can be,



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Q: my bf broke up with me. for nothing pretty much.
and i am sooooo sooo in love with him.
and it seems like he just doesn't even care
and its so easy for him to just let me go.
=[
i'm hurt real bad.
does anyone know any songs about some break
up like this??? a list would be greatly greatly
appreciated.. thank you =/
whenever i experience a break up i blast:
"When your'e gone"
avril lavigne

"Behind these hazel eyes"
kelly clarkson

ect.ect

hope these help


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Q: 14/f -- i'm not prude, but i don't hook up with people alot. the last time i did was in october, and before that in may. i don't know if i'm a bad kisser, but one of the guys i hooked up w. told his friends i was but he changed the story. so i don't know -- but getting to the point, is there anything i can do with my tongue that people generally like to improve my kissing? or my hands, or basically anything that will make the experience for more pleasureable for both of us. i know that everyone likes different things, but just from your experiences or what you've heard, i guess.
put your hands on the back of his neck and toy with his hair a little bit, that way he can tell your interested.
also for practice... this sounds stupid but if you can unwrap a starburst wrapper with your tongue then you are a good kisser. (usually)

Q: Well I wanna hear from people their opinions on teen series' that I haven't read, I've read most of the popular ones but I want some more.

I've read:
Gossip Girl
The It Girl
The A-List
The Clique
The Insiders
Inside Girl
Private
Pretty Little Liars

so can anyone reccomend some more for me?
deffinatly try the TTYL, TTFN, L8R G8TR. they are all by lauren myracle (one of my fav. authors)

they are really good

they are about these 3 high school girls
what is so cool about this book is that all of them are listed as IM

like

snowgirl:OMG, I cant believe what Jenna did
tracy09: i know, what a weirdo

kinda like that

it is sweet and dont worry it has juicy drama in it for ya!!! what teen books dont... lol

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Q: what does it mean when a boy says he loves you as a friend? yet he still want to be with you forver
that is kinda hard


but for the most part it means that he loves you like a sister/friend... and he needs you in his life but not as a relationship.. but it sounds like where he is goin that it could turn into one.

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Q: Okay, well i have this boyfriend and he wants to finger me and i know, hes tried, but i wanted to shave my vagina so i did, but the next day almost all of it was back and i had red bumps. How fast does the hair grow back??? And how do i get rid of the red bumps?
the red bumps are completly normal
try using some type of oil or smooth body wash when you shave


the hair will grow back pretty quickly


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Q: sorry im askin alot of music ?z but im really tryin to learn new bands cuz the ones i listen to are gettin old. here are some lyrics from the first song ".....i try so hard cant seem to get away from misery. i try so hard im already a victim of misery. i try so hard aint my fault cauz trouble seems to follow me. i try so hard hhopin one day you'll rescue me....."
AND
here are some lyrics to another song
".....if your body matched what your eyes can do you probably would move right through on my way to you. im not paralized, i want to make you move cauz your standing still......"

does anyone reconized these lyrics?!?
i forget that the 1 st one but for the 2nd one it is called paralyer by Finger Eleven. so i see that you that kind of music... me too. check out 103.9! its my favorite music

you might like Seether, 3 days grace, MCR, greenday, finger eleven.. ect.


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I am 13 and am in 8th grade! I love giving advice. I also love it when people rate and comment me! I am 110% dedicated to the Lord! I am a christian!!! I am also in love with someone right now!! *You know who you are*

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