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Q: how we have to have a locker partner i know it sucks but we have to which one?
why don't you ask the girls, or say you'll be partners with one the first half of the year and partners with the other the other half

Q: 20/f/CA.
My good friend Rose just started dating my ex-boyfriend Justin. We had been broken up for quite a while, but I am still confused about how I fell about Justin, although I think I am mostly over him. I am also seeing other people. But why is it when I see them together when I go out, that I get jealous, or more upset?
Thats the worst. It probably hurts even more to see your good friend date him. I know how it is, its happen to me. I guess the best thing to do is talk to one, probably your girlfriend and tell her maybe to be a little more causal and not flaunt themselves in public or around you because it bothers you. The jealousy will wear off once you become truly interested in someone else. Right now you need to forget him and you take your hot date and hit the town!

Q: When my boyfriend and I are sitting down and he puts his arm around me and pulls me into him am I sopposed to put my arm around to or just lay on his chest? What should I do?
aw your too cute :)

Q: ok i have a friend i will call her "Missy" she wants to be my locker partner next year and she is moving in 2 summers from today. But my other friend i will call her "Malina" she wants me to be her locker partner and will be really really really mad at me if i be "Missy's" locker partner because "Malina" hates "Missy". But i don't want to hurt there feelings by being locker partners with one of them. But i don't have anyone else to be my locker parter because eveyone thinks i am fat and ugly and stupid. "Missy" and "Malina" are both my best friends in the whole world. Who should i be locker partners with next year? Thank you whoever answers my questain i really need the help!
Honestly the best way to solve this is not to have a locker partner, because your two friends will be mad if you choose one over the other. I think its best if you have your own locker.

Q: ok look i kno this chick and we've been goin out for about 9 months and she wants to do stuff really bad and dont get me wrong i do too but i am not done with puberity and i am shy about it i dont kno what to do what do i do? what do i say? should i just go for it and see what happens or should i just wait?

P.S. we love each other VERY much!! :)
If you are not ready than don't do it. You don't ahve to do anything you don't want to. Just because everyone else is haveing sex doesn't mean you have to. Going through pubertiy is also a big deal too. Not to give too much detail but you will develop more down there. The peak of a man genital is when thy are 16 -18. So you might have a while til you actaully go through puberty. Then again I think if you guys really love each other and feel comfortable enough to have sex than go for it. Just please use protection...its an absolute must. Let me know what you decide.

Q: Well, I like me best friend's brother. Before he ever knew that I did, he would tell me about all of the things that he would say about me. He would tell me that his brother would call me a dumbass and that I disturbed because of the fact that he was trying to sleep. When he found out, he just asked why I liked his brother. He isn't putting me down or anything and I don't care what he thinks about me liking his brother. I just want to know how I can try to win his brother over or at least try to be my friend first. (His brother also says that he doesn't like who is friends with the first guy that I mentioned.)
It seems like you will now be spending alot more of your time over at your best friends house. To win your best friends brother is quite possible, its been done before. You need to realize that your best friend is going to be jealous of you whether or not he has feeling for you. So he is going to say rude and stupid comments but in the long run hes jsut jealous that you think his brother is better than him. To get on your crushes good side I would dress a little nicer, and maybe try and have flirtatious conversations with him. If his brother is at all interested he will give you a time of day. Good luck..start slow and let me know what happens.

Q: Ok i have been dating my boyfriend for about 2 months now and in the beginning of the realtionship my bestfriend thought we were perfect for eachother... well about 2 weeks ago he fractured his ankle and was really upset about becuz he couldn't play baseball and baseball is his life!! so he got really angry and took it all out on me! well now were both over it and we couldn't be any happier with each other... well the problem is i always told my bestfriend wat was happening and she kept telling me to break up with him and that she doesn't like him... how can i prove to her that my bf and i are perfect for each other and everybody has their fights!?
Forget what your best friend says. If you are happy in the relationship than thats all that matters. She's probably just jealous of how "perfect" you guys are together. You don't ned to prove anything to her. I would tell your best friend that you appreciate her looking out for you but your happy in the relationship and maybe she should mind her own buisness. Thats my opinion. Do whats best for you.

Q: my best friend is mad at me because i wont break up with my boyfriend because moves really slow and weve been going out for a really long time and weve only kissed once and he is the type of guy who gets nervous to do those types of things. i like him alot so im willing to wait for him to be ready to do whatever. she doesnt think he is the right guy for me. he is a great guy and the only bad part about him is that it takes him forever to give one single kiss. do i break up with him if we dont even kiss? or do i just deal with it and stay with him? and ive already talked to him about it a few times and he says hes trying his best.
He's obviously not using you which is great. If you like the guy then stay with him. All great things happen with time. I would give him a chance, because maybe when you guys do have your first kiss it will be amazing and you don't want to regret that.

Q: Just curious, what counts more, width or lenghth.
Sex is not about the length or width, its about the chemistry of two people. Thats what makes good sex.

Q: I know that guys prefer girls to shave it all off most of the time. But girls,what do you think? Should your man go bald,trim,or natural?
As long as the guy is well kept down there, thats all that matters.

Q: im 13/m and just wondering. my goal is to be a virgin until i get married, i want that special moment to be with the women i love, can i get some feedback? anything you want to say. ill rate all answers with a 5
irish
13/m
If you want to stay a virgin until marriage thats up to you. In my opinion you need to be fully intimate before you get married because you need to make sure everything is perfect. Considering you are only 13 my guess is that you will probably change your mind. Anyway, I wish you the best of luck your desicion.

Q: im 18 years old and my boyfriend and i have been together for almost a year and were thinking about having sex.. if we do, do i need to see a gynocologist (sp?). thats what ive heard but i need to know if its really necessary and how i would set it up. and what would happen there if i went?
At the age of 18, and thinking about becoming sexually active it is important to make an appointment with the gynecologist. The first appointment at the gynecologist could either be just an interview with mostly talking or she would do an internal (which would start to be a yearly) examine. Most likely you would have an internal exam because of your age and thoughts of becoming sexually active. The internal exam is painless, yet extremely uncomfortable for someone to be examining your vagina. To make yourself feel more comfortable ask for a female doctor. To go about making an appointment just ask your mother, or you can look up gynecologist in the area and say that you would like to become sexually active and need to make an appointment. Tell them that’s it’s your first time and they will take you through everything step by step. One thing you should know is that there is no need to lie to your gynecologist because they know everything and yes, they can tell whether or not you have already have sex. If you need more advice just drop me a line! Good luck!

Q: i have a boyfriend.. we'll call him R. R and i have been dating for 7 months. The first 5 months were great! He's been starting to hit me, he kicked me, and I fell and I had a bump on my head last week. Last night he tried suffocating me. I've also been told about him flirting with about 5 other girls at school. 2 of them are some of my best friends. Oh, by the way, I'm only a freshman in high school. He's a sophomore. But anyway, I'm so sick of hearing about him doing other stuff with girls. He told me if i ever broke up with him, he'd ruin my life. What am I supposed to do? I am scared of him, but he'll do crap to ruin my life (believe me, he's done it to many.. trashed reps.. everyone hates that person, etc.) but what can i do? please help! i'm scared
What you really need to do is seek out an adult that you feel comfortable confiding in. You then need to decided whether or not you should go to the police and file a restraining order on him. This is serious stuff, and if you don't take care of it now then things are only going to get worse. I know your scared, but keeping this inside is only going to increase the pain. Let it out, you need to tak to someone as soon as possible.

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