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17/f I like my best friend, and i have for awhile. My girl best friend just told me last night, that she was questioning his best friend about me and him, since she knows he tells his best guy friend things, and he told his best friend that he didnt want to date me because my life was too fucked up. Like my family and stuff.. I cried for a really long time because you would think that's when a person would want to be there for you more, i dont see how thats any reason not to be with someone, and i dont know what to think..expecially since hes like my best friend. (link)
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boys are really easily scared away and tend to judge quickly based on really stupid things if they are asked to judge. so they key here would be to not put him in that position where he has to decide if he wants to be with you until something is already going on. once something more than friendly starts between you guys he wont care about your family and your life being an issue, hel see past that if he likes you. so work on getting him to like you or if your brave, telling him you like him or whatever and the family stuff will go away.
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Well i like this guy and like last week he was treating me all nice nd flirtin with me and stuff and he found out i liked him nd now this week he is treatin me like he never was flirting with more or anything what does thiis mean? (link)
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sometimes boys can be like that. you didnt describe very much but i think you need to find out whether hes in to you or not. if you really like him its worth it to make yourself a little vulnerable to find out. trust me, if you dont, youll regret it. just send him the right signals and see if he returns the signals.
goodluck.
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okay..so a long time ago you answered a question of mine (http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=571372)..so this is rediculous. i know. it's been so long and i still have a problem...i still have feelings for this kid. why? i always ask myself why? what's so special about him? were still not close anymore. but whenever we talk it's magic at how happy and excited i feel. it's strange. i can never forget about him. it aggrivating though. i think i have an imprint on him. everytime i see him...everything changes. i just feel so dismantled. like i feel fine and i can have a normal life. like other boys, enjoy time with friends. but when i see him. everything just dissapears. anything that he does. movement of a arm, smile, slouch, walk. i admire everything. we don't talk like we used to still. i haven't really pushed it because i just gave up. but sometimes i find myself on his facebook looking at his pictures. thoughts in my mind "i remeber that smile...i remember that face, he looks so calm...his cute nose. that's the first thing i noticed about him" i find myself crying next. he just has this affect on me. he even haunts me..in my dreams. he's always there. helping me..In my dreams, whenever i need help, he's always there to help. it's terrible. i want to move on..but i still find myself secretly hoping that magically we'll be good friends again. am i in love? people tell me that i just want him cuz i cant' have him...but is that true? i don't think something like this can go on for this long. what do you think? (link)
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sorry this is such a late response, havent been on in a while. first of all i know exactly what you are going thru, ive had the same problem before and unfortunatly i think i am still in it too. i think so for at least i know that what would help is to just admit to yourself that you really really like this person, but since u feel its never going to happen, move on. im fairly confident tha tonce you find someone else you will at least start to be slightly less obsessed with this one.
and if you dont like that idea may i suggest that you try again with this guy? you seem to really like him and you said you dont try anymore because you gave up, just relaize that if he hasnt made an effort, it doent mean he doesnt like you, sometimes boys just dont know how to approach thier feelings. so at least give it a try and if it doesnt help, try getting over him.
hope i helped :)
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i broke up with my boyfriend of a couple months because i couldn't feel that "spark" that i had with my ex. he's soo hot and fun to hang out with and good at hooking up haha but i just can't see myself in a relationship with him. like some things he does just aren't ok with me and i don't want to fight about things i want to enjoy summer and not have to worry. we still hook up so i guess were more of the friends with benefits deal. he really wants to get back together. he is a good kid but we fight alot and he smokes alot, doesn't have a car (so i have to do all the driving), and he's the "bros before hoes" deal. i don't want him blowing off his friends to see me but its the complete opposite, like he would blow me off to hang out with his friends.
do you think i'm doing the right thing or just leading him on? (link)
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it seems like you really shouldnt be with this guy and like you dont want to, so i think you did the right thing.
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I texted this guy the other day for the purpose of my friends wanting to know something about him. That's it. But then I realized the next day in school that he is kinda cute. I told him my name and that my friends wanted to know something but they were to nervous to ask him, so I did. Then at then end, my friends texted him and said "my friends were totally right. You are cute" he said "ha. thanks." Then the next few days at school, I feel like his friends who have never spoken to me before are looking at me a lot. Plus, we had eye sex, when we were both late to class one day, he came around the corner and we both looked into each others eyes for a long time, it was great (; now, my problem is, summer is over and we haven't talked face to face, all i have is his number. how do i just randomly text him and not sound like an idiot? We haven't ever talked face to face, i'm not sure he even knows my name to match it to my face. what do i do? I'm having a bonfire this summer and Idk if I should invite him or not, or what? Helpppp! Thanks! (link)
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i think your over thinking it. do nor invite him or text him.
maybe have ur friend who knows him mention it to him without saying you mentioned him
or try randomly running in to him.
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Alright... here's the deal. I am an 18 year old girl who just had her last day of high school. I am going to college in the fall. I have a major issue...a problem with myself i guess you could say.
My mother is so completely outgoing and talkative while my father is very quiet and often too nice. Being their daughter I am a little like both, but I am much more like my father. And I hate it.
I have moments, mostly when I am out of school on the street or at random parties where I am very outgoing and talk to people and make great first impressions. Certain people at school that know me think I am so outgoing and open and out there. So I know I have that in me, I just don't know why it hides more than it comes out.
I cannot for the life of me be outgoing/fun/crazy or whatever in large groups of people. I am always the one that is quiet or reserved. I hate it! It causes me to not make as many friends in school and I am worried that this will affect my career life in the future, because being social and being able to talk to people is so important. I dont know what to do. I've read a lot of tips on how to be outgoing and they all say you need to have confidence but the odd thing is, I DO have confidence. I have enough confidence to know that I am very beautiful and smart and I can be very funny but for some reason those traits dont always come out. In large groups I just get lost and dont really know what to say... When a lot of people are talking I always find it hard to interrupt and enter the conversation. And sometimes when a lot of people talk to me at once I get very nervous...like when attention is all on me...and I say random things. But thats also weird, because I like attention on me I have modeled on runways and modeled and done a lot of things of that fashion. But when it comes to public speaking I just cant! How can I improve in that? I am going to college next year and I want to make a lot of friends and be outgoing and finally break this odd shell i find myself in... i have a lot to offer the world! (link)
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wow i feel like we are the same person.
not really sure what to tell you because if i did then i wouldnt be having this problem myself.
i can definatly tell you that since your going to college, getting drunk is always a way to break out of your shell.
but if your not in to that (as i am not either) i cant also suggest that in college youl be with all new people. poeple who dont know that yuor shy and quiet. so use this oportunity to be a whole new person. forget about the shy quiet girl, and just start over.
goodluck, hope i helped
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I went out with this guy last night, and I thought things really went great. He kept putting his arms around me, kissing me, holding my hand, etc. We had a really good time, and toward the end of the night he asked me if I wanted to hang out the next night (which would be tonight). So when we were leaving he walked me to my car and kissed me good bye and said he'd text me. So I went home, didn't hear from him all night which I figured would happen because he went out with his friends. I woke up early this morning, and around 12 I still hadn't heard from him, so I texted and asked if he still wanted to get together. He didn't respond. So when I got home around 2, I called, and he'd been sleeping. Alright, no big deal. So I asked if he wanted to get together and said I wanted to see him and he said "I really want to see you as well but I'm pretty busy tonight." Then when I called him around 9, he was just dog-sitting. I don't know what to think. What does this mean? Did he cancel on me or did he just get busy? (link)
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you should relax a little. i think you should borrow my rule. once you try once (like call him or whatever) if he doesnt respond you dont do anything more until he contancts you. u dont wanna seem needy. im sure since durring the date he seemed like he liked you and he asked to hang out with you the next that that he actually ment that and something probably just came up. give him some time and im sure hel explain.
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tonight me and my bf where talking. i am 22 he is 30, i asked if he was happy he said yeah. then we started talking about karma, got onto the topic of how bad this year has been and i say "as long as we have each othere we are ok" he tells me thats not enough. should i take the personily he said he ment love wont keep our heads above water, it really hurt me should i let it go or talk to him about it? (link)
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i totally understand why that seemed like something you should take personally. but just realize that in a boys mind he probably didnt even notice he offended you. its true. no matter how much you like a person, just having them is not enough if everything else is your life sucks. so be happy that you can get him thru his touh time but dont be upset, of course you make him happy, but he is still allowed to be sad abotu things.
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I have a good friend(very good) Ive had a crush on him since I met in way back in sixth grade or something like that. just a really long time about. And he said something to me today. "I love you and dont forget it" then kissed my forehead. He has a girlfriend. But they are going through rocky times. I dislike his girlfriend because shes been mean to him. But Im confused about with I should do. (link)
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thats sort of a weird thing for him to do. especially if he has a girlfriend. the forehead kiss might have just been a friendly gerture. but i think its worth going for it. just do something equally confusing to him like randomly sayying "i love you" but in a playfull way, and then kissing his cheek and walking away. use the girlfirend troubles to your advantage. now is the time to make your move. but not fully. just give him someting that lets him know your interested. then the balls in his court.
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I have a friend that is nice,good listener, be there for you when you need her,caring and good at keeping secrets, but the thing is she gossips and talks about people she doesnt like. Do you think i can trust her? I'am confused. (link)
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i am very much like your friend. she only gossips and talks about people becuase she feels close to you. i only tell poeple things when either im not friends with the person who it is aobut or dont feel that it is a big deal. if shes your friend she will know that your secret is worth keeping .just make sure u make it clear that your are trustting her and that the secret is something your only telling her because you think she can handle it. the gossipers ae usually not the ones who end up stabbing you in the back. if anything it means she is true about who she is and i think its definatly possible to trust her.
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I really messed up and had a one night stand with a guy who got me pregnant. We didn't talk at all after we had sex until I realized I was pregnant. When I told him, his first reaction was "we can't do this I'll pay for an abortion". Well, no way I was getting an abortion. So now, things are so annoying with him. His girlfriend messaged me on facebook and was freaking out on me which I don't feel like dealing with, he freaks out on me for everything I do, like if I go on a date he'll freak out, if I say I'm going to a different state for vacation or like to stay for a little while he freaks out. He's getting on my nerves so much I'm ready to just tell him the baby isn't his so he'll leave me alone! What do I do? (link)
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just tell him that you are mature and can handle it on your own. tell him that you aprecaite his concern but are capable of handling your own life.
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i LOVE my best friend. and he knows i like him and i know he likes me. we aren't together....yet....but i wont to be. i just have 1 question. my mom says that dating your neighbor is bad and that i cant date him. so IF we ever get together......how do i hide it from her???? i hope you can help. thank you in advance. (link)
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just dont tell her or anyone anything. if your going to hide it from your mom you have to hide it from everyone. things get around especially if hes your neighbor. so just tell a few close friends and make sure he does too. when u go on dates either say you two are going but only because your friends, or say another friend is going with you. delete your texts with him. if you see him when your mom is there act normal and friendly, and dont act like your trying too hard to look good when you see him. goodluck!
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ok im 15/F
i might be in love with my best friend!!!
i mean ive been straight for a while but it just came to me that i love her. I had a dream bout her one night went to school saw her and fell in love with her. Its wierd. What should i do. Should i say something or i dont know!!! (link)
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no offense but i dont know how well she will take it and theres a chance you could lose her completely. trry subtly asking how she would react if one of her friends was gay. but remember kepp it subtle and casual.
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Hey my friend is spending the night in a couple days and i was wondering what is some fun stuff we can do so we won't get bored fast??any movies or games u would reccomend?????help plz i rate!!! (link)
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watch the movie "sleepover"
and "john tucker must die"
read magazines
try and decide who thew hottest guy/ prettiest girl is in ur school
truth or dare
find out if she likes any one and make a whole plan to get them together...thats always fun
or find someone who u both hate and make a revenge plan...even more fun
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there is a girl at school named bethan,beautiful,intelligent and funny.I really think we could go far into a deep relationship....the thing is im not sure if she likes me to well,i mean we flirt alot all day but doesnt every girl do that.If there is anyway you guys could tell me how to tell if a girl likes you or not that'd be GREAT (link)
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lend her your jacket,
when u get it back if it smells like her perfume she like you.
it means she sprayed it on purpose you you will smell it and think of her.
but if it doesnt, that doesnt mean she doesnt like you, it could just mean she doesnt know that trick.
try that one and let me know how it goes, i have a ton more ideas let me know if uneed them
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Im fifteen year old male and she is twelve.Well me and my girl friend have been dating for two days we started out at a school dance and we have already made out and and she has told me that she will not go any farther no matter what but i want to change that not soon but in the future maybe in a few months maybe in a few weeks but we really like each other and i want to atleast get a handjob (link)
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ok u need to be patient.
shes 12.
and youve been gonig out for TWO DAYSS!
just wait a little and maybe shel change her mind.
but don't be pushy or she will definatly not.
just be sweet about it and make it seem like you are ok with her waiting and she will be much quicker about it./
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just her attitude towards me at some points, like the way she talks to me, its always condescending and makes me feel stupid. and i'm just tired of the way she talks to me and acts towards me. when she's in a bad mood, she won't speak nicely to me and i try to help but she's just a bitch and theres only so much shit i can take from someone until i just want to sucker punch them. when i try to talk to her, she gets all offended and pissy. and today i was fucking sick and couldnt eat anything and she kept saying that i was agitating her for not eating anything and now she's all over facebook saying "ohh, certain people make me want to scream at them to freaking shut up" and it makes me mad. i'm mad. i want her gone, but when we're getting along she's a really good friend. i don't know what to do. (link)
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i have a friend like this also, and what i do is just be her friend when shes nice and when shes anoying i ignore her and be annoying back.,
but the best thing to do would be to either show her that u dont like when she does that or just stop being friendds with her.
i wish i could do that but it didnt work, try it tho.,
at least just like do to her what she does to you and give her a taste of her own medicine, when she starts getting anoyed you say "well thats what you do to me."
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ahhh so there's this guy in my class, but i can't talk to him. he looks kind of older, but im not sure. & im afraid to ask his age. he kind of looks like this guy from degrassi (lucas) mia's baby daddy and skeet ulrich. well a little. but yeah anyways i don't know his name or anything. hah how should i start talking to him, because we usually sit in different seats, & come in at different times, so sometimes he sits far away from me. the first tie we talked, i asked him if he re ad the 1st chapter, and then i said oh did you understand i t? and he was like excuse me? b/c he didn't hear me, and he was loud, and my teacher looked at me, so i got mad & gave him a mean look sort of. hehe. well i need help what should i do? because i can't talk to him after class since i have work right after? & during the class my teacher talks most of the time. help? (link)
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well im not sure why its so important to you that you talk to him but if it is...
1. see if you have any mutual friends that can introduce you without actually making it seem like you asked them to introduce them
2. trying sitting in his seat, hel ask you to move, you say no, you guys get to talking and whatever...it works on tv
3. trying coming to class the same time as him, running into him in the hallway, or sitting closer to him
4. ask for help in the class, pretend (or not, depending on how smart you are) that u are failnig and need his help....think "mean girls"
5. DO NOT try and talk to him at a time when the teacher is going to get mad, thats just gunna make him hate you and get annoyed
6. try joining a team or something that hes on
7. tell him his flies undone or he has booger or something, or ask to borrow a pen....
okayyy hope i helped, goodluck!
please please let me know how it goes.
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I want to ask a guy to the Sadie Hawkins dance, and I want to ask by leaving like you know a trail of clues he has to follow to find out that I want to ask him. Can you give me some ides for fun places to hide things with some good hints about the places things are hidden?
I am romantic but not very creative. ;)
Thank you! (link)
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first of all i recomend making sure this guy wants to go with you before doing all this because if for any reason he says no it might be pretty embarasing. but the idea sounds adorable and im sure he will say yes.
so if its at school, i recomend hiding one on the roof if he can get there, maybe one on the bottom of your car, in the girls bathroom if you wanna make it interesting, in one of the ceiling tiles (find a way to mark which one) hide one at some flower store (a hint for him to buy u some) maybe one at a tux rental, a choclate store,
okayyyy idea!
so dont tell him what its for. slipa note in his locker leading him first to under your car where there is a hint that leads to a flower shop, then to a tux rental, limo rental, nail salon, etc. (dance related stuff) then he start to get the hint, the last clue leads him to you. ( put a picture of an article of clothing that you will be wearing tha day or something) then he finds you, and tada! =)
okay hope i helped....please pleasee pleasee let me know what you end up doing and how it goes!
goodluck!
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Sperm dies when it hits the air, right?
I just really need to know because he came on my panties while they were off but then I put them back on like 20 minutes later. They were soaked with sperm but since it shot through the air and sperm dies when it hits air I am not going to get knocked up, right?
Worried. :-/ (link)
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unless you were ovulating you wont get pregnant. the air has nothing to do with it and does not kill thge sperm. but since the sperm did not actually go in your vagina and it mgiht not be the right time of month so hopefully not. goodluck!!
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