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Q: So, yesterday I was in the worst pain of my life. I was rushed to the ER in an ambulance. And they told me I had a cyst on my ovary and it had popped. Does this mean I won't be able to have babies?

I don't know exactly what happened but I have a few friends in which the same thing happened to them and they are now infertile. They cannot have babies when they're older unless they take the medication starting now. Don't just take my opinion on it though, ask your doctor. Hope I helped :]

Q: Yeahh, I got my hair razored and I was hoping to add some umph with a new bottle of hairspray and some backcombing.
But like can anyone recommend some brands of hairspray that dont smell or at least smell good, and not strong at all? A lot of times the ones marked unscented still smell reallly bad, like my moms White Rain or something xD
Also, would you recommend using a pump or continuous spray? My mom doesnt like me using the continuous because she says its easier to inhale and it can be dangerous to my health. Is that true? Just by everyday use? Im not gonna go like huffing it or something.

I use Dove Hairspray Extra Hold and I lovee it. It actually smells so good that I can't stop smelling my hair after I use it haha. It is just a regular hairspray and it doesn't make your hair really stiff or sticky. You should definetely give it a try. Hope I helped :]

Q: I got a Facebook like three or four months ago just to look at other ppl's profiles, but I did put my full name in. I don't have a picture or anything on it and I haven't added any friends, however.

I just learned that on Facebook, it is announced to everyone in your school's network that you have joined. But as of right now, I have only one friend request! And it's from my best friend! I mean, I haven't tried to add anyone, and I haven't even added my BFF but that's because I don't want a Facebook anyway, but... I'm feeling kind of bad because nobody has even bothered to add me on Facebook even though they knew I had joined the network like 3 months ago. Should I feel bad? Other people I know have Facebooks and I would assume that they would want to add me...?

Sorry if that was poorly described.

Ohhh I was the same way when I got a facebook last year. I was going to be a freshman in highschool and really didn't know anyone so I didn't request people that I didn't know. But I SHOULD HAVE because this whole past year I only requested a few people because I thought that if I requested them that they would think like, "Oh who is this little freshman?" haha but that is not the case. Don't be afraid because it's a good way to meet new people. I would suggest getting some pictures though because people will want to know who you are by how you look if they don't already know you. Request as many people as you want! Who cares what anyone else thinks? Hope I helped :]

Q: has anyone ever used that "sun in" stuff or whatever its called you spray it on your hair and it supposively makes it lighter if you go and lay out in the sun, i was wondering if it works or not? cause i've heard it makes your hair look orangey, just wondering if anyones had any luck with it because i wanna try it.

THANKS :)

Please don't listen to the people below me. I myself have dark brown hair and have used Sun In a few times and I LOVE it! Everyone compliments me on how great my hair looks. Iit made my natural light brown/gold highligts really stand out. I wouldn't use it too much though because after you use it a few times, it naturally does its work in the sun without applying it so only a few times and use it sparingly! As far as it drying out your hair goes, honestly I haven't noticed a difference in my own hair but I suppose everyone's hair is different. Hope I helped :]

Q: 15/f
Okay, well i met this guy that i didn't know at a party and he told my friend he thought i was cute. So we exchanged numbers through our friends and we texted eachother as friends for about 2 weeks. Then eventually started "talking." We talked for about a week and then he asked me if we could just be friends because he has to get a job and he said he had a lot going on right now. Why would he want to start "talking" to me for just a week and then go back to being friends? Also, do you think he still likes me even though he just wants to be friends right now? I don't really know his situation but he said that he has to get a job and it sounded like he had some stuff going on. I don't really know what this means. I don't know if he likes me or not. Now, we just text eachother as friends but not like the flirty messages we sometimes send. Thanks!

That's basically his way of saying "I don't want a girlfriend or any kind of commitment whatsoever" Don't let it bother you though. He may call you or text you in a few weeks though asking to "hang out" but he really just wants a makeout session. Go out and meet other guys! Don't let this guy get in the way of your happiness this summer. Hope I helped :]

Q: i have cut down sodas and junk.
i have been doing crinches for 1 months everyday and night.
i have been eating less than before.
actully i dont even eat a lot anymore

HOW COME IM NOT LOOOOSING WEIGHT!

Don't worry, I'm stuggling with the same problem. The sad thing is that you have to do more than just cruches. You have to exercise your WHOLE body. Buy a workout dvd for strength and cardio. I have Denise Austin's video and I really like it. Don't just cut back, cut ALL of it ENTIRELY out of your life. Never ever drink soda and trust me you can live without the junk food too. Have fruit and/or organic cereal with soy milk in the morning. For lunch have a salad with some grilled chicken and a glass of water as always for every meal. For dinner, there are many healthy options that you can look up on the internet. I know its difficult but it just takes time. You may not see results for a month or so. Instead of going for cookies, grab grapes or other fruit. Good luck!! Hope I helped :]

Q: My hair's blonde, thin, frizzy, and damages too easily. =( I dont know what to do with it, it's too hard to manage. Do you know any good products?? If you have any tips, that'd be really helpful too. Thanks so much =D

♥&Hearts;♥♥

If you blow dry, straighten, or curl your hair, you should ALWAYS apply a heat protective spray before doing so. Try John Frieda's heat tamer spray. I just bought it a few days ago and I love it! Hope I helped :]

Q: Ok so like im not skinny at all but im not completly fat either. Ive tried exercising and all that stuff but nothing works. Ive thought about becoming anorexic because everytime i eat im afraid that im just gonna keep getting bigger and bigger. I need help what should I do

Read the book "Skinny Bitch". It'll help you out so much and tell you all the right foods to be eating. It's worked for me and will work for you as well! I've been in the same position but though twice about it and realized I needed to change my eating habits and exercise regularly. Anorexia is more of a mental disease if you're not already aware so don't deprive yourself like that sweetie :] You deserve better, I have faith in you. You can do this & good luck!

Q: i'm 13 and i took the classes for being a babysitter and i still don't have a job beacuse i don't avertise but i want to be safe...well how do i please help thank you

-davina-

Sittercafe.com You can find a job there. Hope I helped

Q: okay, so im on my period. and when i go to sleep i sleep on my side, because if i sleep on my back the blood from my period leaks onto the back of my pants. but when i stand up in the mornings, i feel this HUGE clot like drop from my vagina.
is this normal?

Yeah it's totally normal, you have absolutely nothing to worry about. It happens to all of us. Hope I helped :]

Q: Okay I'm 14 years old and this summer has been like the crazziest summer. Okay these are the things I did just in 2 weeks

1.Gave a blow job in a public restroom
2.Had sex in a public restroom
3.Flashed a lot a guys at a public pool
4.Sent nude Photo's to atleast 7 different guys
5.Had a 3some (2 other guys)
6.madeout with a way older guy
7.Did a lot of ohter "things" in public places

This is really sad because you're doing all these things for attention and by you posting this question on here is for even MORE attention. OBVIOUSLY you're a slut. I don't mean to be so blunt but this aggravates me to the max. Just because it's summer doesn't mean you have to do everything. Especially when it's sexual things like these. Seriously think about this...do you have any respect for yourself? By you doing these things it just proves to all the people that know you that you don't deserve any respect whatsoever, and that's exactly how they'll treat you. Get your act together and stop all this b.s.

Q: I had a great teacher in my old school, I still live in the same town, but I changed schools.
I hadn't seen the teacher for a year, until last week I went to pick up some stuff that I ordered, and stopped at Starbucks. There he was (I'll name him Simon to make things easier) and I was happy to see him, he turned around and he was all happy and smiling and said ''Hey, name, I haven't seen you for over a year!'' and yes we hugged.
I'm almost 16, and he's a young teacher, I think about 24. We sat in Starbucks for about 6 hours, drinking and talking, and I found out that he's not with his girlfriend anymore and I don't know...I just like him so much.
He's always been relaxed. Like when I was going through shit times, I started smoking (I quit, and I'm proud :) ) and once I was sitting in the park near our school smoking and tears running down my face. He sits next to me, I tell him about all the shit that happened, and he helped me sort everything out.
I basically have no secrets from him, and since that day at Starbucks, I've seen him again twice.
We kiss each other on the cheek to say hello and bye, but practically no other physical contact.
I have fun with him, and I care for him..and I know so much about him but if any of my friends knew..well they'd be jealous cause he's pretty good looking, but I'm not sure what they'd think.
He is an ex teacher, but my friends still have him as a teacher.
I've only told my best friend from my new school, and she thinks it's cool, but she said that if he was one of her teacher, and knew that he was kissing me, she'd feel really uncomfortable.

And is it illegal...that's my main concern?
He taught me for a year, and now I go to a different school. I'm almost 16.

So confused and lost..

Yes, unfortunately it is illegal. You should really just cut all ties with him and I know that it is extremely hard but its the right thing to do. Although you two just exchange pecks on the cheek, it may lead to more and then you will be in a big rut. I'm sorry because it seems like you like him a lot but you have to stop talking to him or else it's only going to get worse. Hope I helped :]

Q: I feel stupid. All the time. Embarrassed, unworthy. You name it. I have such low self esteem. And all my friends are just so perfect. They have perfect hair, perfect bodies, perfect social life, perfect boyfriends. In fact, I don't even know why they are friends with me at all. And I'm not jealous of them. That's so not a part of any of this. This has to do with me. I'm just saying that being surrounded by them just seems to make my life seem even worse.
I can't seem to do anything right. I mess up every friendship I have. My parents told me it's because I always drop everything if there's a friend in need. I support my friends to the extreme. They always take priority. This is because I don't want them to think I'm not a very good friend because I don't want them dumping me again and again and again. But, they never reciprocate the level of support that I give them. I just, can't seem to...do anything. I'm so stupid for even having friends. So so stupid. I shouldn't have any, because I'm selfish for expecting them to show their support for anything that I do. I feel as though I don't deserve their support, but I have to keep giving mine to them because I feel like they deserve it. I don't deserve it. I don't know why I would. They've made it pretty clear that I don't deserve anything from them.
Sorry if this is confusing. It's late, and I'm tired. But this all made sense in my head. It's just harder to get it out on paper...well, computer screen. Whatever.

I can understand how you're feeling right now. I, myself, had low self esteem this whole past year. My parents were separated and we had financial trouble. It affected my social life unfortunately. I just didn't have the high energy I used to and I felt like I had become this somber, mellow person. Now that summer is here and my parents are back together, it's like a miracle. I'm also struggling with weight now that I have to wear a bikini too so you're not alone. I'm not even fat! But I sure feel like it standing next to some of my friends. But the point is, is that no matter what's causing you pain and suffering in life, it's important to ALWAYS think positive. I know it's so hard when all you want to do is give up because everything is falling apart. But you're not going to look or feel any better if you keep telling yourself that you're stupid. Like others below me said, I don't know you, but you seem a lot like the old me and if I could change, you can too. As far as your friends go they may seem perfect but we all have our issues and our complications in life whether we show it or not. Try to start branching out and gaining other friends. Be friendly and kind and be yourself because you seem like a pretty great person to me. Keep your chin up and you'll do just fine. Hope I helped :]

Q: I was wondering if your high school was at all like its portrayed in the show the Secret life of an American Teenager? I'm a sophomore, and sure kids are having sex at my school but its not nearly dramatic and a big deal as it is in the show.

My mom happened to see the show so now she's got the wrong idea about my friends and my school. Sure I'm somewhat sexually active but its not like its all everyone talks about and everyone doesn't just sleep around.

I'm curious how your high schools are in comparison to the show. Thanks!

God, that is one of the cheesiest shows on tv right now. Seriously, its not as big of a deal as they make it seem. A lot of it depends on where you live and the general type of people you go to school with. But trust me, its just television. The usual over the top, dramatic, trite episodes. My school is not like that at all but I live in a pretty small town but bigger towns nearby aren't even like that. Tell your mom its JUST tv and nothing more. Hope I helped :]

Q: yea i have a lot of it it sucks
how do i get ride of it should i shave it or get it waxed?
(srry if it in the wrong subject)

I use veet on my stomach and it's pretty good. It lasts for about a 1-2 weeks.

Q:

i love ALL of her books.
and i also love ALL of meg cabot's books.
can you name some more good authors like these two?
or just some good books.

& yes. i've read the twilight series.
and the gossip girl series.

Zoey Dean, author of the A-List series. Amazing books, sort of like the It Girl/Gossip Girl.

Q: 14 Female
It's not that I don't shower because I DO! but I donno my "ness" smells.. and it itches and I saw this thing on a comercial for like Vagisil--- but I dont think I can just like go ot Walmart and buy it thats akward. I hoped it would go away on its own but its not its getting worse. And next quarter ill be taking Gym where you have to change and I dont want people noticing. I went from showering every other day to once maybe twice.
Also it doesnt look like pee but this stuff comes out and I think thats the smell...

Hey, I answered a question just like this. Look on my page and I'm sure you'll know exactly what to do once you've looked at the question and my answer :]

Q: Would a floor-length gown like this be too much: http://www.serendipityprom.com/PF20408.htm at a prom?

Not at all, that is a gorgeousss dress. I'm sure you'll look great :]

Q: i see girls with like chanel rings and earrigs and necklaces, where do you get them?

They are sold at most jewelery kiosks in the mall. I had a chanel ring (obviously fake) and it broke because i dropped it on the floor. I was really mad haha, it was so nice but they really aren't made that good since they are fake. It was $25 not bad, but it broke. I hope I helped :]

Q: I want to talk to guys my age (14) and be like dirty talk, because i cant get a bf and i get horney sometimes, but i dont want to show my pic. Any websites or things? Thanks.

just go into the chat rooms on aim, i'm sure you'll find someone there. hope i helped :]

bio

Heyy I'm Jenn. I love helping other people, I'm a great listener too. I welcome everyone and I'm open to basically any question you may have. I promise to answer your question the best possible way I can. I've always been told that I give great advice, so that's how I stumbled upon Advicenators. Don't hold back, ask me anything! :]

Love,
Jenn