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Q: okay i know this has been one of the questions on here but i was wondering what kind of hair gel do you girls use to scrunch your hair up to make it look curly/wavy cuz i have tried alot of stuff and my hair doesn't stay like it for awhile or it dries up a lil bit..i hate high

ok i no what ure trying to say because you have tried using different products in my hair but what ive found is that my hair is very thick so it pulls the curls and waves out and wont stay the same. now i dont no you or what ur hairs like but mabey uve got the same problem as me.

moose is probably ure best bet of getting nice loose curls
cya l8r

Q: I got choosen to be an extra in a FEATURE FILM! I was so excited about it, because I live in Connecticut, so I don't really have the oppurtunity to participate in real movies, until now. However I don't know what to do because the day I am called for to be an extra is this upcoming Saturday. On Sunday I am going to New Jersey for the day, for a family party. The Thursday of the next week finals in my school start, as well. No that I have all of this going on, my parents are telling me that they do not think it is a good idea for me to do this movie. The movie location is an hour drive from my house, and it films from 8 in the morning until around dinner time. I just don't know what to do, because my parents say that ultimatley it is my deceision, but they don't think it's right with finals coming up, & me not being home all weekend (plus i have drivers ed all this week). I really want to do this though, because I have never had the experience before, and I don't know if an opputunity like it will ever come again! WHAT SHOULD I DO??

listen parents do that to make you go with their choice but this is like a 1s and a lifetime op so i would go to it and explain to your parent how much this would mean to you and how grateful you would be

good luck if you go for it

Q: how do I get chuncks of black eyeliner out my BRAND NEW beige carpet? its like smeared in my carpet... in 3 spots, and ive already made it worse! help

use eye make up remover and really scrub it

Q: ok, well my friend got raped by her dad and is abused. I dont know if he does it alot, or if he did it just once, but still, my friend is in deep shit if she dosent tell anyone. Fortunatly she told me cause we're really close, but she didnt tell the social worker *she was adopted* cause she said she dosent want her world to turn upside down and change. She told me to keep it as a secret and when she told me i was half asleep *i'm awake now* so i promised i wouldnt tell anyone that could arrest him or anything. Should i tell my parents and make her suffer but have her world the way it is and how she wants it to be? or should i break my promise to my friend and tell my parents? Please help, it's a big problem! i'll rate high!

ok what i would do is tell your mum but tell her that you want help but that you promised your friend hat you wouldt say anything. dont let her go through with the pain of having her rape her again. just now i wouldnt tell like he police because children tend to over exagurate things mabey its not as bad a s it seems but for just now talk to YOUR mum she'll help you and her throug this

Q: I really like this guy but i dont know how to tell him that i like him. He kinda likes me too.. but i dont know how to tell him...I rate high!!!

love,
how to deal

i see your problem. but if he likes you i think you should go for it. you should flirt a little but still act like a mate to him. dont be 1 of these oh i ubsessed with you people. Mabey even ask him out if your shy get a friend to do it.

Q: Hey me and my best friend have been friends for about 4 years nearly 5. But now its all changed and i miss her so much i just want things to go back to normal but my other friend is very jelious if we do anything together help!!

will rate hight!!

ok, i have the same problem but what i'm going to do is send a letter to my old friend saying we need to catch up some time and that im sorry i havent called. as for my other friend (whoz jealous) im going to tell her thats shes not my only friend and that she cant have me all to herself cause thats kinda weird lol.

hope i helped
kristel

Q: WHat are some good ways to lose weight.

ok this might sound strange but you could go skating in ure local park. it does wonders for your thighs,bum and stomach. you would also lose a good bit of weight. as always EAT HEALTHILY.

Q: I currently attend a small private school and am going to a huge public school for high school. I'm really shy, and worried that I won't make any friends. Does anyone have any specific tips for friend-making without being annoyingly outgoing? Thanks!

honestly its a breeze when i first moved into my highschool i was put in classes with none of my freinds and my worst enemy but if you get nice teachers they might assign someone to show you about. it will be hard theres no doubt about it but once uve settled in its great. basicly JUST BE URESELF

Q: What do you do if you find yourself more and more each day, liking a guy who does not believe in God? I am a christian and I have my morals, standards and beliefs and he doesn't meet my number one standard which is believeing in God and having a relationship with him but, on the other hand, I am so drawn to him I can't help it.He's a really great guy but should we just stay friends and nothing more?

ok, being a christian has nothing to do with ure luv life. i am 1 but i dont really show it. but is it really fair on him and you if u give up on this great gut just because he doesnt beleive in god its not like he wouldn't support you. hey my mums a christian and my dads nothing he doesnt believe in any religion he makes up his own lolz. all am saying is religion is just a small part of life love is not

Q: How can a get a tighter butt, stronger stomach, stronger arms, and stronger legs.

I'm not fat, I'd just like to be stronger.

what ever you do dont resort to push ups they are gd for you but i would do crunch's. they are far easier and far better and mabey even do some skating.

Q: i was wondering does any1 know any fitness exersises to get abs?im a girl and want to have abs. also a butt workout!! I really need to lose weight and how can i get motivated to lose weight? i am 130 pounds at 5'2 female.
Thank you in advance

ok,

1st, it may sound strange but if u want to work on ure butt then do some skating or even ice skating if theres a rink near you. it not only works or ure butt but also on ure thighs, ive found it a great help. u'll also loose weight.

2nd, you should do crunches NOT SIT_UPS heres how to do crunches
Lie down

Put your hands behind your neck (don't pull too hard on the neck)

Pull your knees in just above the hips with your feet flat on the floor

Lift your shoulders no more than 30 degrees above the ground
Hold for 3 full seconds

Then slowly return the shoulders to a resting position.

Repeat until you are ripped

Q: my boyfriend and i have been together for a very long time, we've talked about it, and we're ready to have sex. the thing is, we both think its disrespectful to do it at eachother's houses (especially because we always have people home) so where is a nice, romantic, PRIVATE, place to go... where we won't get caught? i honestly cant think of anything. be serious. and thanks.

thats a hard question to answer to be honest i would do it somewhere you both feel comfertable you dont want to be worrying about someone coming in. but really i couldnt tell you where to have sex its really up to you.

Q: okay here's the deal : i'm from a girls sch , about 50 of us have been selected for this programme where we will combine with this all guys school and learn together and stuff . We will be going over to their school . the thing is , there are about 150 students in that boys school under this programme at my level .Even though we won't be going there until next year , this thought still freaks me out cos it's like there are going to be so many guys there , and they're all going to think i'm weird and stuff cos i wear glasses and am going to get braces soon . i heard these guys are pretty mean and they tease girls who aren't gorgeous and make fun of them. I am not that bad looking despite my glasses and stuff and am slim and long-legged .okay so the question is : how to fit in ? how to look better with glasses and braces ? just don't tell me something about being myself and not caring what others think cos everyone knows that thats pure bullshit .

ok. i see what you mean but if you get that the chance to be with a whole load of boys go for it. i go to a skl with boys and girls and i love it. yes you will prob the the odd pain in the course but the boys will probably just be as mean as any1 else if u put them in there place it should be no bother. if your worried about getting ure braces and because u av glasses mabey getting contacts wouldn't be a bad idea.