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Q: I have been to 3 holloween stores in my town and have tried on numerous oostumes.. but they just don't fit me. I'm looking for someone original, cute, sexy, but not too sexy, and body flattering.

I'm a female, 17, about 5'4, and about 107lbs. I have a tiny body, not really much of a butt, but I do have some boobs :).

I'm looking for something for holloween. Maybe even a "do-it-yourself" holloween costume.

HELP! IDEAS! Anything helps :)
Thanks,
Costumeless.

1. Cheerleader
2. Lifeguard
3. Volleyball Player
4. Hot Scarecrow
5. Bunny- get bunny ears and dress up in a pink tank top and grey shorts..?

Good luck :)

Q: anyone have any idea how audrina from the hills does her make up? like what kind of eye liner and like how so?

and also, does anyone know how you get like paper thin straight hair? what are some good methods, products and straighteners? i have like kinda of think wavy hair if that helps?

any tips would be great =D

* FACE: Audrina is young, so her skin doesn't need much coverage. Start by smoothing concealer over any dark circles and red spots and then dust a loose mineral foundation all over your face extending just below your jaw.
* CHEEKS: You'll want a little bit of a shimmery, tan glow, so I recommend applying a little bronzing powder such as Laura Mercier Mineral Powder SPF 15 in Warm Bronze to your temples, cheekbones, nose (and a dab on your chin). Then use a creamy blush. I suggest something like Nars Cream Blush in Lokoum and dot it on your cheeks blending upwards and outwards. This combination will create a healthy, flushed glow.
* EYES: Begin by sweeping a champagne shadow all over you lids. Then apply a gold shadow such as Too Faced Shimmer Veils in Angel Hair to the inner half of your lids and a darker, black shadow in the outer half. Blend well. Next, line your eyes with a creamy black pencil and extend the upper portion a little bit. Apply false lashes and top with two coats of black mascara. Then, line the inner rims of your lower lids with a white pencil (as a brightening effect). Lastly, take a little bit of your gold shadow and smudge it just below your black liner on the bottom.
* LIPS: Use a nude lip liner such as MAC Spice and fill in your lips. Then apply a generous amount of shiny pale to neutral lip gloss like The Balm Shelter Lip Gloss in Dream Girl. Keep reapplying all night long for a camera-ready, bright smile.

good luck :)

Q: so i have this boyfriend but everybody knoes him ngirls just come to him and flirt and he does it beck what do i do? I want to get pay back bt don't know how to he mess up evrytime and i don't like this girl that got him introuble and he gave her a hug when i was not in front of him and i told him to stay away what do i do

well i know a girl in your position and shes a total bitch. just bc he has a rep for flirting does not mean he flirts with every girl he talks to. dont be a jealous bitch and be rude. some girls are friends more with boys (not bc they are whores) but bc girls are annoying and obsessive. just bc he gave a girl a hug doesnt mean they are in love. dang. and if they are his ex then they might just be good friends and might not approve of you so back the hell up!

well if your dating tg and you go to wo then i know what youre talking about and you dont even know part of the story cause i hear all kinds of stuff you never will!

Q: im moving in to my boyfriend's apartment and its deffinately a bachelor pad. his parents own the building so we can do whatever we want to it but let me describe the current condition. white walls, old furniture, stained industrial carpet. the bathroom has a hole in the wall from when he punched it after getting mad at his ex. it has a bedroom but its tiny. his bed is actually two twin beds pushed together and with the beds and the dresser in the room we have about 2 feet on one side to get into bed. he used to sleep on the couch because his brother lived with him too but now he just moved out.

basically, the place needs help and i dont know where to start. he trusts my decorating ideas because he knows i wouldn't paint the walls pink and put up pictures of flowers. i actually like masculine designs.

ok so this is what we need.
-style
-space saving
-storage
-durability (we're party people)

in the bedroom you can get plastic things from bed bath&beyond and you put them under the legs of the bed and it highers it. and there are storage totes at roos or tj max for like 3 bucks and you can easily slide them under the bed with the lift things. also there are like woven baskets you can store thing in, like maybe in the bathroom and its cute but still masculine at the same time. i would reccomend putting the bed in the corner and try to position the rest of the furniture in corners or along walls so you can have some space to walk around in your room. umm at wal mart or even freds you can buy neutral colored couch, loveseat, and chair covers if you dont like the color they are. also at tj max there are these matress pillow things you can put across both of the twin matresses so it seems more like just one bed. and if you dont have a comferter that you both agree on, tj max and ross also have duvets for like 30 bucks. you can put a picture over the hole in the bathroom, you could make a theme in the bathroom that you both like, for example sailor stuff..fun for you to decorate and its still masculine. you can also get cheap rugs for the carpet to cover up stains, and it would probably be best to paint the walls a neutral color like beige, cause it matches best with most things. curtains would look nice too if you have windows to cover up. but like you said you party so dont buy something expensive that is easily broken. tj maxx and ross have cheap cute stuff so look there first. hope i helped :)

Q: I have a dress and it is mainly red and a bit of black, (http://www.simplydresses.com/body_types/detail.cfm?key=283826&v=PD&cat=slender) - the white bit is actually bright bold red. and i just want some makeup to work with it, i just don't know what! any ideas will really help.. i have looked through some sites and they don't really help me, thanks!

you dont need to really match your makeup with your dress, mainly match it with your eyes. do something that will make your eyes look amazing. do a black eyeliner kinda thick but not overly done and a silver color for eyeshaddow. make it go on top of your eyelid and around the corner of your eye a little bit and barely a line going out towards your hair! hope i helped :)

Q: 16/f
hi. okay so my parents won't let me get my belly button pierced so i really wanna do it myself. i know it can get infected and everything but i'm willing to take that risk and i'll clean it and stuff. but i wanna do it a safe way so i want to get a belly button piercing kit but i'm not sure where to get one except for online but if i got it shipped to my house my parents would see it so does anyone know of any stores where i can buy one?

thanks

make up a slide show of how to clean it and how its not bad and get a lot of information and show it to your parents..when they are in a good mood lol but dont ask them everyday cause they will get irritated. drop it for a while, while you do your research and tell them that you really want it and give good reasons for wanting it! :)

Q: i need a program or work out that is going to make my butt bigger not smaller. something that u know has worked 4 someone, please point me in the right direction!

a lot of people have said i have a big butt and they say its probably if i eat a lot of cornbread..which i do haha

Q: has the best real all four seasons?

or at least fall and winter

texas..

winter is cold around 30's and 40's..no snow so its a perfect winter

fall is warm/cold. just plain out good weather

summer is hot hot..basically the perfect summer

spring is moslty warm little winds and its sprinkles some

:)

Q: Hello Everyone! I need a little advice. Right now my boyfriend and I are currently attending different colleges but I may be transferring to his college in January. I don't know what is going to happen or what to expect, can someone give me on some insight to what to expect. THanks

if you try hard you can but dont try to get all the money out of your parents cause they probably already have a lot of stuff to pay for. just work really hard to pay for it cause if its an increase of money then they probably will be against it.

make sure you find a good school program where you are going though cause if yall do break up you dont want to be stuck in a school thats not doing you any good.

Q: (17 female)
I'm short, I'm skinny, I'm clumsy, I wear baggy jeans and a band shirt and old sneakers everyday and have for just about my entire life. My hair is barely shoulder-length and layered a lot and about 4 different shades of brown because of messy dye-jobs. my eyes are green, i have a ton of freckles across my nose, and 8 piercings in each ear.

i'm not exactly a prom person... i'm actually a little bit of a mess. but this year i want to be different, instead of just looking like the grungey, messy, sardonic girl i always am.

forget turning heads, i want to break necks.

prom is rapidly approaching: i have two weeks to not make an absolute retard out of myself.

i have no expierience buying dresses or shoes or doing hair or make-up.

...i really want to have one of those cinderella moments where everyone turns around and goes "whoa, oh my god!"

my date is really tall and wearing a white suit, do we have to match?

what's a corsage?

...i'm fully aware that i fail at life >.

wow. i just helped one of my friends with a problem like this. you should wear a bright color like hot pink or lime green or even just an orange color. dont wear a poofy dress, find one that will fit your body! and with a bright color you make still bring in some of your own style. like you could wear new black converse or something. i know it might sound ridiculous but its really cute i promise. you should probably die your hair the darkest color of all the different ones you have in your hair now. and get it done in an up-do like a bun. dont worry about a corsage bc your date will buy you one. you do though need to buy him a boutenir (idk how to spell that lol) and try to order it so that it matches your dress.

Q: i had sex in mid february and my period came around march 6.. which was quite normal.. but then i missed last months(april) period and im supposed to be getting my period for this month but its only one day late.. so what are the possibilities of being pregnant even though i got my period after sex?

its not very possible. if you are younger than hmm 21 then its just your period skipping around. its doesnt start a real pattern until you get older. you might skip a month or two but i def wouldnt say you are pregnant bc you had you period since then

Q: 15/F

I found out today that guys dont like talkative girls. The radio had a disucussion on it, and my class had a discussion on it too. Guys find that "unattrcative" in some cases. I talk alot, im known for that. I dont want to change the person i am to impress guys, but im hearing that guys really dont like that. I have heared it before and im still hearing it. I dont know what to do, i dont like being quiet, i have the larger then life personality. What should I do? Thanks :)

actuallly all the guys ive dated really like talkative girls bc they dont have to start all the conversations and its easier for them to be theirselves around you. just stay yourself and if guys dont like that you talk a lot then forget about them and move on to something better! good luck :)

Q: 15/f

K this guy i know his name's jake and we've been friends for about 2 years but we weren't that close until this semester. I think he likes me cuz everytime we see eachother/say goodbye we hug and he'll always kinda glance at me from across the room.and like the other day he was in mid sentence then just wrap his arms around me out of no where and we hugged. i'm the only girl on his top 12 friends and his friends say that i'm actually the only girl he hugs that much. we flirt alot and i love his personality cuz he was the shoulder i leaned on when i heard my ex cheated on me. We have alot in common too!
i just don't know how to tell him i like him. i'm kinda scared that he might not like me but i'm kinda sure he does by the way he acts.

so how do i tell him and does it seem like he likes me?

thank you =]

make little hints about it and one day just ask him who he likes and if he says he wont tell you or something or kind smiles just hint around that you like him!

Q: ok so me and my boyfriend are both 16.. my last ex lived with me.. so im use to life like that and obviously having him in my bed and everything and spending all my time with him.. well we broke up and now im going out with this new guy its been 2 months and i really like him.. but the thing is his mom is a control freak and wont let me and him be alone together.. my parents dont have a problem with it.. but like we never hang out, outside school we only have like 2 times.. and we were with other people so were never alone and he gets his license in june.. and i want him to spend the night and so does he but.. how can we convince his mom to let him stay? what are some things we could say to her? .. we have even thought about sneaking around behind her back.. like telling her he was staying at a friends and then really having him come to my house but i live like 35mins from him and so thats not the easiest thing to do but my second question is how can we pull that off? what should we do??

thanks any advice is appreciated.

well dont you think its kinda obserd for 16 year olds to stay the night with each other. it seems that if a parent let you do that it is irresponsible on their part and any good parent wouldnt let their kid do that! seriously if i was this kids parent i probably wouldnt let you be alone with him either bc you are obviously way to experienced and influencing on him!

Q: I have an appt. on Wednesday to see the orthopedic, but I kind of want to know some stuff before I go. On my right knee, there's a knot on the left side of it (Not underneath it, so that crosses Osgood-Schlatter off the list). It's been there for two years & it's never really bothered till now. When I touch it, it hurts. The same happens when I simply walk, bend down, etc. Two years ago, the knot was so small that you barely even knew it was there. But now, it's gotten a lot bigger & it's started to hurt alot. Does anyone know what this could be?

probably you just sprained it or close to beoke and a lot of caluciun built up and made a knot it happened to my dad good luck :)

Q: ok so this is kinda long and confuseing, considering the kid like barely knows my name....

so this kid was in my last years gym class, lets call him k. and i really like him like alotttt but he didnt even know me, but he knew my friend (my only friend in the gym class btw) so they werent like bff or anything but they would talk and i would be just kinda there chiming in once in a while, so he never really said much to me or anything but when he did it was always kind of flirty. like once i said something and he turned to my friend and was like i truly think this girl is the nicest girl on the planet!! and then winked at me. so like i really thiought he liked me, but like hes kind of like a bad boy and im like known as like a real goody toe shoes even though im not really. so like i think he thought i was too good for him or whatever beacuse he used to tell me all the time too that he thought i should be a model. and i would always catch him like looking at me and stuff. but i was really shy so i really wouldnt go like out of my way for him, but i did flirt and stuff. soooo anyway we come back from winter break and he has a girl frienddd. but he would still talk and stuff but i could tell it wasnt the same and what not. and this girlfriend was like fat and i knowwww she put out for him, thats just the kind of girl she is and im not. so this year at school in the hallway he would still like look at me and stuff and like made sure to make eye contact then go kiss his girlfriend soo annoyyingg anyway fast foward to 5 days ago, i heard they broke up, and he hooked up with this differnt girl at this party, shes a slut as well and uglyyy, but they arnt like together or anything. so my point being, do i still even have a chance with this kid, and how do i let him know i like himmmm. i know he thinks that i would never go for someone like him but i have never wanted anyone so bad in my lifeeee... and like we dont have any of the same classes and we havent talked all year or said hi or anything but he will always just look at me please help!!!

i think you just want him because you can't have him. some guys just have that charm that draws you in but i wouldn't get involved if i were you bc it seems like hes a player and just wants some..good luck though

Q: How can u tell if your pregnant if you have an irregular period??

ya if your over 18 also you might spot or have cramps, tender breasts, or you might feel tired. you can look it up on google for more help!

Q: ok me and my boyfriend have had anal sex. it doesnt hurt bc he uses alot of lube im never doing it again though bc it wasnt that enjoyable but i just started my period in the summer and ik there supposed to be irregular when you first start and i havent had mine in forever. Im really scared that i could be pregnant bc i havent had it and my stomach feels really weird but maybe its just because im freaking out. when we do it i wear a tampon just so it wont go in but i cant remember if i took it out before he cummed idk what to do any suggestions?

the chances of you getting pregnant from anal sex are very low but until you turn 18 your periods will be in irregular patterns because your body is still getting used to it

Q: i'm 15/f/nj is it legal to have sex with a 19 year old guy i know 16 is the age of consent but isnt' there something about if it's with in a certin number of years and your like 14 then its ok

you are a minor he isnt so ya it is illegal but nothing will happen to him unless you say rape or your parents find out and go to the cops.

Q: 14/f

she was wearing a pair of like black and white tie up boot type shoes. they were flat, but not quite knee high. she wears them a lot in her show wizards of waverly place, i'm sorry i can't find a picture but if you have any idea where i can get a pair if you know what i'm talking about thanks sooo much!

you should try journeys or dillards

bio

Most people call me K. thats all lol. i grew up very fast as a kid with many challenging problems with family life and friends. i was the advice columnists in our school newspaper and i think i give very good advice. i have a lot of family and have been through many different situations with each of the..boys and girls..i have even helped parents with some of their problems. im very interested in sports, i love them all! I love fashion and dressing up to go have a good time. I have had my own relationship problems as well as helping with family members problems and friends as well. I think i am very qualified to help people with advice and i will do my very best to not only answer your questions to the best of my ability but for what is right. i am a very Christian person and look to god in most things i do. i wish all of you luck in your advice seeking process! Much Love!