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hey, i'm jessie and i like long walks on the beach and bubble baths!

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Theres this guy ive talked to for about a year now. Well recently he saw me for the first time..now hes always sayin like you shuld move up here. he'd be like how old are you again and id tell him hed be like damn id say why and he`d take awhile and be like uh i dunno..whats he thinkin?does he like me or is he jus curious? I am 16 hes 18 we both live in california different parts though. THANX A BUNCH!

He's probably pissed because an 18 year old is not aloud to be "sexually active" with a 16 year old. And to me, its pretty obvious that he likes you if hes pissed and he told you to move up there.... xoxo, i hope this helps!
Jessie

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ohk i want to know what i should do. i had gym on thursday and i have it before i go home so i have to change and i left my bookbag in the locker room cause our lockers arent very big so i left it sitting out like everyone else does and inside i had my purse which had my ipod and digital camara inside and someone stole it. poor fucker. but what should i do? i already talked to the school with my dad and the police got involved but what can i do on my own?

If I were you I wouldn't go talking about it and asking people because the person who has your stuff may freak and lash out at you or something. But if you see someone with your iPod or camera or something that didn't have one earlier tell the police and your dad so they can investigate farther!

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So, basically I have these problem areas that I've been working on for atleast the past year. I guess you could call them "love handles", my abs, and my inner thighs. I do curl ups (like 100 a night), these one leg things like 25 a night, and i dont know what to do about myl ove handles. Oh, sometimes I run about a mile.

I don't know what to do anymore.
Nothing helps.
Pleaseeee help. =)

Everyone has some kind of love handles. Even if their not noticeable! I have really big ones! Everything you're doing should be working. I'm sure its working and just because you look at yourself everynight you can't see it. You know? But you should try to work with them instead of against them. You don't have to stop wearing tight jeans, just try not to wear ones that are tight around your waist/wherever you wear them. It makes them look like their pouring over your sides. But if you are wearing jeans like that and for some reason you HAVE TO wear them, wear a shorter shirt because longer shirts show the odd curve lines where the love handles are! But sometimes, you really can't do anything about love handles. Its the way your body is shaped. xoxoxo, hope this helps!
Jessie

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ok me and this girl liked each other for a while and she just broke up with her boyfriend and we liked each other while they were going out and now were prettty happy and ready to move on with eachother as a couple and today i found out that we might be 5th or 6th cousins, were not like some rednecks on jerry springer it was completley unexcpected and unwelcomed i wanted to know is 5th cousins to close for comfort?
should we just be cousins/friends or what..

It's not terrible to be in a relationship it just may be awkward if a situation comes up where you talk about it.... But from what you were saying it doesn't even sound like your completely sure you are cousins! fifth and sixth cousins is really distant though! I don't think you should worry about it. I only know 3 of my second cousins.... xoxoxo, i hope this helps!
Jessie

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I'm on my period right now and I have extremely bad cramps so bad. Like, on a scale 1-10, it's worse than 10! What can I do??!

omg! this happened to me at school yesterday and right now I'm wearing a ThermaCare Heating pad sticker thingy for "Menstural Cramping Relief". You don't have to warm them up or anything! once you open the package it starts to heat up and for me, its been lasting all day! It's REALLY been helping! (IB prophen is good to!)xoxoxo, I hope this helps!
Jessie
PS, the medicine Midol works REALLY well to!

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Are their any clothing styles that make your breasts look bigger? Like bras and t-shirts and stuff. I heard V necks make an illusion of bigger boobs but i don't know. Please help me.

First of all, V necks don't make you look bigger! It's obvious when people are wearing them to look bigger and looks really ridiculous. You should try Victoria's Secret cup bras. They have ones that are very padded but not to the point where you look like your wearing a push up. Black shirts make you look smaller by the way! But overall, you should try to be happy with the way you are now! If your trying to get a guy like that, the guy your gonna get isn't the right one! xoxoxo, I hope this helps!
Jessie

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Ok here we go. Ok im 16 and ive made a commitment to myself that i would never have sex until i am married. Im not saying now but in the future..can i still do stuff that wouldnt be considered having sex. and is that all guys want...i mean i had a bf for 2 and 1/2 weeks (not long) and he told his friends that he was going to have sex soon. I dont know y he thought that b/c i was uncomfortable even kissing him..(he was 2 yrs older) and im just worried that in the future ill find this amazing guy and all he'll want is sex and i wont give it to him (unless we get married) is that so hard for guys to handle...will he end up cheating on me and have sex w/ someone who will give it to him? so is there pleasureable stuff that we can still do ...thats not sex?

If you made a commitment to yourself, you can make the rules. It's not a written law. It's good that you commited yourself to something like that. If that guy said that you should ask him why. IN PRIVATE***. If you meet a great guy he won't pressure you and if he cheats.... he's not a great a guy. Why don't you ask your friends what they do with their boy/girlfriends. And if that guy your going out with tries to make a move like that don't slap him or anything, just tell him you don't want to and that if that's a problem with him, he doesn't have to go out with you. xoxoxo, i hope this helps!
Jessie

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HAHAHHAHA! I LOVE YOU JOE M.! I'm excited to!!! I know, I am the coolest person in the world, jk! much love! xoxoxo!
Jessie

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okay so like my best friend brandon is very emotionaly depressed because of another one of my best freinds,im always ther for him and everything and like i care so much about him and like he thinks about killing himself and everything adn he cuts sometimes when he doesnt feel like he wants to live..nad i tell him not to cause i use to cut and it sucks it is hard to stop and everything but he has it tough..I talk to him about everything and im always there for him but like whenever the tables are turned and there is something rong with me he doesnt do anything..he is one of those people who wont like fight or stick up for someone he suposivly cares about..and i dont kno what to do..my other best friend who is like a sister to me tells me not to be his best friend anymore cause he isnt treating me right but i kno if i dothat then ill break him more and ill push him to the edge cause he told me if i ever gave up on us he'de probally kill himself and i dont want him to die..please someone help me!!

If your upset about him not being there for you, think of the way he feels:
there is obviously something emotionally wrong with the way his brain is functioning right now. and if he thought there was one single person that cared as much as you did, he wouldn't be doing this to himself. so he doesn't see you the way you say you are to him, which i'm sure you are. If you push him away when you are obviously the closest one to him, anything could happen! if you really care about him, don't abandon him!!! Tell your friend that you love her and all its just that she can't tell you who to be friends with and that just because she has a problem with him doesn't mean you have to to. and if she doesn't understand shes not that great of a friend. xoxoxo, i hope this helped you with your EXTREMELY difficult situation!
Jessie
PS, don't harp on the fact that he doesn't return your sympathy. and also, don't talk to him about feeling better and stopping. Talk to him like hes normal otherwise he'll feel like theres something wrong with him and want to kill himself more.*****

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What is the best music program that is free and doesnt cause any problems...oh and is legal???
I also want it to have many songs.
Thanx

I am a music FREAK! and i used to have kazaa until it was out lawed and i found something thats really great AND legal. Its called Bearshare. its a software and you can update it and pay, which it always gives you the option to do but i always push run the free version. You just need to pay to buy the actual software. Not like monthly fees or anything! its really great! i have like 2,000 songs on my iPod and haven't paid for them LEGALLY! xoxoxo, i hope this helps
jessie

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Ok i know it sounds totally weird because im so young (15 very soon) but my boyfriend wants to propose to me for my bday. Hes 17 and i know wont be able to get married for ages and so does he. I think hes still going to propose though. What should I do? We've been going out for 10 months. thanks xx
(Im female by the way...)

wow.... i just keep noticing that you wrote about how long you've been dating, but you never say how much you like him.... marriage is HUGE! At 15 and 17, your still going through the high school social stuff. Do you really want to make a commitment when anything could happen at your age?? If you love him and he loves you and theres a way for him to support you and you know you'll be happy forever go for what ever makes your heart soar! But don't say something for fear of hurting him, because in the end you'll just be hurting yourself! xoxox, i hope this helps!

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Hey you just anwserd one of my questions, it was great for one day. I am an columnist as well i am :dory16 my real name is katie. i'll add you to my favorite colmnists. do you have an e-mail address?

hey! yeah, my names jessie! my usernames jco. My e-mails: jgc647@yahoo.com

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I like this guy but i am not allowed to date till i am 18 and i am 13 now. all my friends are dating and this is the most i've felt for a guy. what should i do or say?

My parents are, from what I hear, the same exact as yours! Now... I'm not telling you to sneak out so don't take it the wrong way but:
You should let the guy know that you like him and if he asks you out tell him your situation. If he's as great as you say he is, he'll laugh it off and understand. go to the movies with your "girlfriends" and you'll "accidentally" meet him there.... all happened by chance of course. And! if you have a friend who has really cool parents who wouldn't tell if a boy came to their house while you were there, you could do that to! I hope this helps you! xoxoxo

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Ok here it goes..
I really like this guy, I'm 13 and in 8th grade and i really like him. the problem is, he's in 7th. but i see him beause our yougner brothers are on a basketball team together. I don't know if he likes me, but i like him and i want him to notice me. We have a dance coming up on Feb 9th or 10th, so how couldi get him to notice me. like...
What are some tips to get him to notice me and stuff?
.:rate 5's:.
thanks
Kate

Have you talked to your friends? Ask what they think! If your worried people will think your weird because your going out with a younger guy, ask them really cassually, "do you think it's weird to go out with like a seventh grader or somthing?" and see what they say. But in my opinion, you only live once and if you want something you should go for it because you'll never know how it might turn out. As for getting him to notice you:
- I garuntee if he finds out somehow that you like him, he'll go for you. (he'd be so cool if he went out with an eigth grader!)
- Don't tag along with him everywhere you go. Act all chill and cool.
- look EXTRA hot when you know you'll see him and let word spread that your QUITE the babe in the class of 2010!!!!

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