Well I'm a very real down to earth advice giver.I'm not going to sugar coat anything.ill give you the best advice and it may come off kind of mean but I guarntee you by time your done reading you'll feel better and you will understand where I'm coming from...well in case your interested in knowing alittle bit about myself Ill tell you.I'm a female and I've experienced a lot at my young age.I'm a certified genius who skiped highskool and went straight to college which iam still currently in...I know a lot about life and people...so I can pretty much give you advice on any topic...even sex ;) and relationships...so pretty much that's about as much as ill tell you about myself...hope you like no love my advice...thanks for reading about me....you advicer jamie :)
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of one of my best friends is thinking about commiting suicide i love her so much as a sister and i never want her to do anything like that can you please give me advice on how to stop her i dont want to put her therough counseling it will only make it worse (link)
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Well your friend is going through some rough times and could use a good caring person like yourself to be there for her every step of the way....now speaking from experience I advice you to never ever tell her things like "your crazy","you need help","I'm gonna tell your mother",or "if you keep talking like that I'm not gonna talk to you know more".....those words do nothing but make situations worse....the best thing you can do is tell her you love her and tell her she can talk to you....always no matter what....and tell her you don't look at her no differently because she feels how she does....your roll in this should be to listen and that's it....don't ever intervene just listen....here her out because if she's talking about suicide abviously she feels like no one cares and that she's all alone in this world and you being a good friend can tell her your there for her and always will be.....now I'm gonna give you some further info. That might help....get ur pen and paper out....
Here's some numbers you can call and get advice or she can call and tell them how she's feeling.....on and its completely anonynmous....so you guys are safe....
1-800-suicide......1-800-999-9999(covent house nine line)and here's a web site you might want to tell her to vist...or you can just google this....."suicide : read this first"
That is the info. That helped me...now maybe it will help someone else....thanks for reaching out and seeking help...ill pray for you and your friend....and you keep praying to the lord too....keep asking and you shall receive.....oooh and tell your friend its ok she's not crazy....she's not the only one who has had thoughts of suicide...get what I'm saying so just take my advice...please...thank you for reading my advice god bless you and your friend....I may not know you but I love you and her very much and I'm very concerned,because I've been there before....trust what I say she needs you...I wish you and your friend better days to come...godbless and goodluck.....your friend/advicer......jamie :)
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HEPL! im a plan looking girl with naturally dark red hair, glasses no butt what so ever, DD's, im about 5ft 5", and i only weigh 120lbs, i sound like a pretty chic dont i? all my friends say im pretty, heck even my guy friends say im pretty. but even when i meet some guy for the first tim e he wont do any thing i mean he'll talk to me and stare at my boobs but he'll say he'd rather be my friend instead of my boyfriend. i dont want to be the girl guys only want to be friends with i want to be the girl everyon wants. is there any way
for me to make myself more desireable in the guys
eyes ? (link)
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Well hello,first I just want to say yes you do sound like your a beatiful female...and I also want to say just be yourself no matter what...no guy wants a fony female...believe me there's enough of those running around here...be yourself and the right guy will come in time...I promise....stay beautiful on the inside and out...and take care of yourself....good luck from your friend/advicer......jamie
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i know i should have a condom whenever i have sex to prevent STD's and other things, but is it okay to have sex in the shower? (link)
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Well you know what to tell you the truth you must use a condom at all times...no matter what the case...you could never be to careful especially when there's all types of diseases going around out there....so do us all a favor and strap up because hiv/aids is spreading way to quick...and this world does not need another infected person who already knows the risk like you....be smart please and stay safe....god bless you...your friend/advicer.......jamie
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This is going to be a little bit confusing to explain, but I will try.
I have been reading a book on drug addictions, and it got me to thinking about regular addictions, such as caffeine, cutting, or even dancing. It's possible to become addicted to anything right?
Well I lost my boyfriend about 8 months ago. He & I had been together for 2 years & we were happy, but he randomly broke up with me in the worse possible way. After the first month of our breakup, we ran into eachother & had sex. I've always wanted him back & I still want him back, so everytime he wants to have sex, I've allowed it. & Not just allowed, but I've wanted it too.
I've tried moving on from him, dating other guys, having sex with other guys, but I always seem to want him. No matter what. He's always in the back of my mind.
So is it possible, that I could be addicted to a person, or to their sex? And if it is possible, how do you break the addiction, even though I don't think I want to break the addiction, because I like having that closeness with him.
I guess I just need some feedback. (link)
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Well I suggest that for now if sex with him makes you feel better fine but you're just makin it harder and harder to pull away from him by having sex with him when ever....even tho this might sound sleezy,maybe you should try having sex with a close friend very very often....maybe that will get your mind off of him...and try geting some one on one counseling that might help too....and most important pray to the father and the son...because jesus heals all pain and he loves you more than you believe....call out for him mind,heart,and spirit and he shall respond....I promise...I hope my advice helps you on your path to breaking the addiction....god loves you,jesus loves you,and even tho I don't kno you....I love you and really want to see you make it thru this tough time in your life....godbless you.....your new friend/advicer......jamie
P.s.....if you need a friend to vent your problems to just search for my yahoo on my page....godbless and I wish you the best of luck......jamie :)
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I cut myself.
I need help.
I can't tell my parents.
Where can I get help? (link)
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Listen I understand your pain and everything your going thru and I just want to say everything will be ok...believe me I know if your cutting yourself you must be in a great deal of pain...and when you cut yourself it balances out the pain to where you just numb all together and can't feel anything....that's why cutting is so addictive it numbs the pain for a little while,but the problem with cutting is that the pain keeps coming back....this is what I want you to know about yourself.....listen closely...you are not crazy nor are you mentally disturbed....you are just in a lot of pain a lot of the time...your heart is hurting and it needs healing....I suggest you read the holy bible,pray to the father and son...and take deep breaths....get a ruber band and put it around your rist..when ever you feel like cutting yourself just snap the wrist band...there's is just a temperary fix...until you decide whether or not you want to tell any body what's goin on.....keep praying and don't stop...the lord anwsers all prays...and don't worry you won't go to hell because your a cutter,but you will go if you don't pray to jesus and seek help in him.....ill pray for you,and I also will offer you my friendship....if you need a friend you can hit me up on yahoo...or on here.......with love your new friend/advicer jamie.....godbless you,and you'll be in my prays...
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Sometimes I feel sad, and think life is not worth living. But I know killing myself won't be solving anything. My question is, is there anything (medicine wise) that can help me? (link)
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Listen you don't need medicine all you need is someone to talk too...all you need is a friend who cares about you...you could just use a little guidance that's all...life is tough kid-o but things will get better...believe me I promise...so here's what ill do for you...if you ever feel lonley or need someone to talk to...you can just hit me up on yahoo or on here...ill talk to you and help put your mind right....I advice you to get a holy bible and read it....because jesus loves you more than you can believe and if you just put your faith into him he will take all your pain away....I guarntee you you'll never feel lonley,depressed,or hurt by anything agan....I know this for a fact because not to long ago I was just like you....but now I feel terrific I actually feel better than ever...believe in jesus because he believes in you...now with that being said do me a favor kid and cheer up....life is not that sucky...lol u will realize that as you get older...oh and please don't kill yourself....your soul will torcher for a very very long time because of that...so don't do it...please don't...and if you don't here there's often ill tell you now....I may not know you and you may not know me,but I love you and I trully hope the best for you...if you need a friend ever please feel free to hit me up on yahoo or on here....even if you just want to vent and tell me how bad your day was its ok because...I promise ill listen......keep your head up and don't be sad because god loves you jesus loves you I love you and I'm pretty sure a lot of other people love you too...have better days and I will pray for you to feel better....and your not crazy and you don't need medicine or anything else.....all you need is a caring person and the good lord by your side....I hoped I made you feel better.......with love your new friend/advicer.....jamie
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Just as the title says. I'm sexually frustrated. Not in that I simply don't get enough sex. I just can't have an orgasm from having sex. I have had sex enough to where I should be pleasured enough to have an orgasm, but I haven't. I really only can have an orgasm if I touch myself, or if oral sex is being given. I'm frustrated because I can't seem to figure out why I can't have an orgasm during sex. I've had to fake it every time. Is this something I need to talk to an Gynecologist about? I would like some advice and input. Help! (link)
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Well first off there's nothing wrong with you you're completely normal....not all females come off sex....maybe you're just not that into him...maybe you need a sexual maniac to please you in many different ways maybe who ever your wit is just to plain for you....maybe your a nympho who needs a nympho....maybe you need to do it in different positions and maybe he's not long enough for you....maybe your just to sexually mature for him...these are all possibiltys of what the problem maybe...or then agan maybe your just not that aroused by him....who knows but think about it...and I hornestly think seeing a gyn. Should be your last resort...thanks for reading my advice...I hoped I helped....jamie
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OKay. Here is my situation. My best friend, let's call her Rose, likes my boyfriend(let's call him Albert). But aparently, she liked him before he and I were together. Albert and I have been together for 2 and half months. I love him with all my heart and he loves me too. But I have known my friend for 9 years! And she only told me two days ago that she liked him. I hate seeing her in all this pain. Why should my happiness have to cause her pain?! It's just not fair. Not to mention Albert and Rose were good friends in middle school, but then sort of had a falling out. Now all three of us are going into our senior year of high school, and they have finally fixed whatever miscommunication they had in eighth grade. So at first I thought maybe she was just jealous that I had a boyfriend finally, and especially since she knew him before I knew him, she felt that she had some sort of claim on him. But I fell for him;I became friends with him on my own terms in math class this past year, and she had nothing to do with it. However, she tells me that she never stopped liking him from eighth grade, and that he has always been in the back of her mind. Well, I am her best friend, so how come these past four years of high school she hasn't told me?! the three of us have discussed it for hours last night and came to no conclusion. please. anyone tell me what i should do? break up with him? drop her as a friend? any way to keep them both? (link)
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Well first off your friend regardless of what she says is extremely jealous of you and your boyfriend...not only is she jealous but she's envious and regretful...she regrets that she didn't hook up with him and she's envious because even tho he is your boyfriend and she knows this she still wants him...now let me warn you even tho you might not believe it she has a high potential of stabing you in the back...because first off if she was any kind of friend she would be happy for you and just shut up about it instead of trying to make you feel bad for being happy...and now she's trying to make a big issue about it...it shouldn't even had went that far...and I really think she might try and make a move on him....so you watch her closely and listen to what she says because she seems more concerned about herself than your happiness....and tell him that she might try and make a move on him just so he can be prepared and kno what to do....she seems desperated and you should continue to be her friend but make much distance from her because she will stab you in the back the first chance she gets a lone with him or maybe even when you two eventually get into a big argument...he'll be vulnerable and she'll be ready to make her move.....don't sleep on that girl because believe me she's not sleeping on you....she knows exactly what to do to get you to feeling bad and questioning your relationship....she's very munipulative and devious.....watch your back and front around her because I hornestly don't believe she's that much of a good friend....
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Hi i was wondering im a guy and i tried anal sex before and used a dildo.(and i used alot of lube) but it still kinda hurt and felt uncomfortable.how come it dont feel good for guys but all girls seem to like it? (link)
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Well it seems like,well you know what I just want to ask you....did you dildo yourself in the anal or did someone else do it for you...this is very important because if someone else did it maybe you were uncomfortable with this person or you could of been feeling alittle shy...maybe if you did it with someone you were very attracted to or liked a lot you would feel differently...or maybe it was your first time and you were feeling alittle tense...if you were tense doing something like that well of course its gonna hurt like hell...but if you try it agan next time relax and take deep breaths....or if you were doing it yourself try to be more comfortable and confident in what you are doing....
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is there a different feeling between anal sex and regular sex for a girl? (like does it feel diffrent for the girl). and if it does which one seems to feel better and what one do more girls like? (link)
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Well I would advice you to try it and find out for yourself...because to tell you the truth everybodys response is going to be different.some will say it was great some will say it was to much pain and others will say that's only an exit...stuff comes out but nothing goes in...you seem to be very curious about how it feels so I advice you to give it a try at least once then if you totally hate it...don't do it agan...
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I'm curious.
About birth control. If you have finished the peach /placebo pill week and start a new packet on a sunday. Can you have sex that day? I always use a condom but would the pill protect me and how long does it take?
I've been taking the pill for 6 months so I know it takes at least a month to regulate. But how long does a single pill take.. to.. take effect? Hours.. or a whole week? Would it be wise to take the pill and have sex when you're supposedly on your period? Will the pill stop it?
I know.. too many questions
I really want to be protected. (link)
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I would advice you to stay fully protected because as they say "its better to be safe than sorry" ok.so use the pill and use a condom and don't let him convince you of taking the condom off because you may think you kno him well but you never really know because your not side by side someone every single day...so be smart don't get caught out there and play it safe.there are way to many teens and adults ketching std's and hiv/aids we don't need any more adding to that list...play it safe and be smart...
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Whenever I am around people in my school or at concerts...I don't really talk. People say I don't talk that much. But I never know what to say! What do I say to people?!?! I am just quiet and I never really noticed it! I want to be more random and everything but I don't want to scare people haha. What do I do??? (link)
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Hey mr. I have a problem with talking.I want to tell you that you don't have a problem with talking.its the people around you who have a problem with you not talking.if not speaking because you dnt kno wat to say makes you feel comfortable then dnt speak, because what may happen is you will try to do what everyone around you wants you to do and you may say the wrong things that may get you in trouble or laughed at.sooo with that being said I advice you to speak when your comfortable not when others are comfortable....
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