Hi! I live in Chino Hills, California and I came to this site to see if I can help anyone who needs it. I am 15 years old and am known in my group of friends as the "voice of reason" :)
I want to try to help as many people as I possibly can. I hope someone can find my advice helpful, although I know some will disagree--and that's totally fine.
I always tell people that I give advice to that I'm just a person who makes mistakes so before they consider my advice they should make sure they agree with it. They should also make sure it's the best thing for them to do.
I hope to help you with what I can with the information given!
*hope I can help*
P.S. When you rate my advice, PLEASE don't be kind. What I mean is give me as much constructive criticism as you can! I want to be able to improve in my advice giving! Thanks!
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Me and my father aren't close he says mean things about me and makes me cry basically feel like crap i feel like i'm always the main target he intimidates me and i hate when he's home i try to avoid him i hardly ever talk to him because i feel like he's going to say another mean thing
and there's no point
Here's some things he's said about me
He called me a hermit,Called me useless,Told
me to go away,Told me to get a life made comments about my hygiene
My questions are:
Is what he's saying to me considered child abuse? Also what would be the best thing for me to do?
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Yes. It is a form of verbal abuse, which is verbal child abuse. You could visit some abuse sites or call an abuse hotline.
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I am 13 female and i want a boyfriend... Or atleast a kiss. Is it bad that i JUST want a kiss and maybe not a relationship YET? But i have no one to kiss. I don't want it to be anyone at school though. And where can i go that's DECENT. I have never been kissed and have never had a boyfriend. Is 13 too young to be kissed? thanx! (link)
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Its not bad that you just want a kiss without a relationship--its common. If you're asking if you're too young to kiss, then you probably are. It's not really an age thing, just when you're ready. I haven't kissed anyone either and im 15. Im glad that im waiting for that special moment. Your first kiss should be a memorable moment, no matter how long you have to wait. I understand what you are going through, though. I have a want to kiss someone aswell and the guys at my school just dont understand why i wont kiss THEM. I think you should wait until the moment is perfect. You should think about joining clubs or sport teams to meet guys. You'll find the right guy soon so dont put too much pressure on yourself to kiss right away. And dont let anyone pressure you, they're your lips right? :)
Hope I helped!!!!
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I'm 14F and I know I'm still growing and stuff but my right boob is bigger than my left boob. Why is this? Is this normal? It's really freaking me out. (link)
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Its perfectly normal! Most (if not every) girl goes through this. Don't worry, its just your body developing. The other will catch up it wont be perminent!
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Not to be gross or anything, but I only poop every couple days and my friend said that was unhealthy. she really freaked out when I told her that when I am trips and stuff I will hold it for 5-7 days.
She says that is why I always feel wore out all the time.
So how many times a day should you poop? (link)
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Most people poop once or twice a day. But, it depends on your circulatory system. Everyones bodies are different, so it may just be you have a slow system. For instance, someone may poop twice a day and that would be normal but for another normal would be everyother day or every three days. It just depends on your body type. Just to be sure, you should still see a doctor. Constipation can be serious if not taken lightly. I understand the trips and stuff, i feel the same way... ha ha.
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ok so im 16 and a female, and my period is supposed to come today, but it didnt. so me and my boyfriend had protected sex for the first time in like four months, and i know im not pregnant. could sex delay my period even longer since i haven't had it in so long and since im not used to it? (link)
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It might dely it, or actually it could even skip it. This happened to a close friend and we both were freaking out -- thinking she was pregnant since she missed her period. It turned out having sex the day she missed postponed it from, arriving. This might not be your case, though. Condoms do break and birthcontrol doesnt work 100% of the time. Take a pregnancy test in a week or so, even if you are positive you aren't pregnant, just to be safe.
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{A little lengthy but not a novel}
Okay so I have this friend who is a real pain in the butt! I know that has got to sound horrible but its the truth and I just don't know how to deal with it!
I am a sophmore and we have been friends since the begging of eighth grade.
She doesn't come from the best home life, parents were drop outs who got knocked up. She is a bit over weight.
She is nice, to me, and she is one of friends, we share locker together and everything.
What gets me though is she loves to make fun of others, especially people who are "bigger" then she is or who have disabilities. I hate that she feels so insecure and self consouse about herself she has to pick on others, but what should i say?
In first block she will even talk bad about someone who is siting next to me and I know they hear, and they think i am stuck up.
She also makes up stuff all the time to try to get attention. For example she'll say she didn't eat for 2 days and lost 20 lbs, and yet two seconds later she claims she went to McDonalds those same days! HELp
how do i deal with this without ditching her? She is my friend and i feel sorry for her, but i don't want to be pictured as the stuck up girl who talks about others with her. ANd I can't go one more day venting to my dog about all her lies.
WHEN WILL IT END. (link)
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First of all BREATHE!!!! I too am a sophmore and had a similar problem. Instead i did the wrong thing, a bad thing. One day she was talking to me about this really nice girl but she was saying she was a stupid dork and wouldnt stop ragging on her. I just broke and started screaming in her face and.... to make my point.... i wished i had done something sooner. She hates me now because of it, as do other girls. They *ALL talk about me (*all being my former friends) and they call me a bitch because of it. But from this, i can see what i did wrong. I SHOULD have confronted her about her lying in a private place and told her what was bothering me. I think that is what you should do for your friend. Just tell her that her lying and constant gossip has got you pulling your hair out (and torturing your dog =)). Tell her that its bugging you, maybe she will understand. Its just my opionion so think it over and do what you feel is right.
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Okay I am a freshman and I hate being "fat" I am the girl who is nice to people, easy to get along with or talk to, but you wouldn't sit by me at a lunch table if i was alone. The one your kind of ashamed to stick up for, yet kinda feel sorry for because you know they're a good person at heart.
Well I hate being that girl. I want to go on a diet, but nothing life altering. I want excerise that is easy to stick with and not ubber time consuming.
I want a breakfest that full fills me from 5 till 11.
So please if you have anthing that will help me reply. But don't give me any excerises like { run a mile on the tredmill a day becuase I have tried that, time consuming and hard to keep up with every day }
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Hi. I had the EXACT same problem freshman year. I'm in 10th grade now (okay, so not much older than you :) ) and, though it wasnt much, ive lost weight and am pleased with my weight and the way i look, and, sadly, people treat me tons better. It's easy once you get in the motion of it. All i did was the little things. Cut off of junk food, trying to eat healthier more filling foods like granola bars, fruits, and stuff like that. I also tried to stand more then sit. Standing stil actually burns calories, not much but more then sitting. I tried walking places as much as i could instead of being driven. And every night, before i go to bed, i do some kind of work out. Nothing tough just like ten sit ups or a few leg pumps, changing it up every week so it feels new and like your not just getting into rutine. Some people would go to extremes, starving themselves, doing exhausting work outs etc... but the smallest things make the biggest difference ;)
Hope I helped!!
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I am getting a new puppy in aprox. 6 weeks. Which will seam like forever to me. But in the mean time I am trying to get everything ready for her! FOr example we are building out own dog house, and painting it and everything. Also I want to learn how to teach her tricks like sit and roll over and jump, and beg, those sorts of things!
How do you teach a dog all the manner type behaviors like sit, come here, beg, etc. Do you know any tips or websites!
Also do you have any ideas on how to teach a dog to play sports like catch, frisby and my favorite soccer? (link)
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Well first you have to show it love and let it feel comfortable ;D . Then be patient with it and reward it with a treat or praise him every time he does something you want it to do. If you want more help you should go to walmart or some where and buy a puppy obidience book. There are different kinds for different breads. I used this for my german shepherd and it helped me A LOT!
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I'm taking the birth control pill, and saturday was the last day before i was supposed to get my period (and begin taking the last row of pills). He wore a condom, and I took the pills for yesterday and the day before but I still haven't gotten my period. Here are some factors though:
1. I have become recently sexually active in the past month, and this is my first cycle with the pill. I have been taking it at the same time every day though
2. My long term boyfriend and I broke up a week and a half ago, and I haven't been eating or sleeping properly
3. I have current stress about my boyfriend, beginning my first year of college in two days, and now this
Can any of those affect a girl's period, EVEN if she's on birth control? I also heard that having sex the day before your period has only a small chance of pregnancy, and that sex can throw your period off a couple of days but I'm not sure if either of those are true. Has this ever happened to anyone else, where you take the period pills but don't get your period right away? I'm really scared and have no one to talk to about this (link)
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Actually when i girl is overly stressed near their monthly cycle it can throw off her period. Also, some birth control pills also irregulate your periods aswell so it could be a combontion of the two. But if you still feel odd you should take a test just to be sure.
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I want to know is it possible to NOT get symptoms if your pregnant like, if I was pregnant for the first 2-8 weeks I don't get nausea etc.. stuff like that.. Is it possible to not get symptoms, or I need to get at least one symptom.. I'm really anxious... please help! Thanks so much! (link)
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It's actually VERY possible to have no symptoms and be pregnant. Every womens bodies are different and every ones pregnancies are experienced differently, some women actually dont even know they are pregnant until they have the baby. I suggest a pregnancy test.
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Ok, so basically I've been talking this kid for a little over a year. Never dated, and we were really close last summer and then I went off to school and we didn't talk much then. But everytime I would come home we would talk again, and this summer I think it got even more serious. We talk everyday, and practically see each other at least once a week, (but its with a group of people), and we have hung out alone on several occasions.
And I think I'm really starting to fall for this kid, and I'm actually considering turning it into something more. But here's the thing, we've never done anything more than kissed, which we only did once. Yes ONE TIME! and that consisted of me practically attacking him when I was a little under the influence, but either way it was pretty great. And we do do cute things like cuddle or hold hands sometimes but thats it.
But anyway, we both really really into each other, but I was wondering is it really possible to like someone that much when nothing physical has been done? I mean, I've never really known a relationship I've had where its been otherwise. It's always been mostly physical. So I was just wondering your opinion on how exactly the physical stuff is in starting a relationship? (link)
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in my opinion, physical stuff isn't really THAT important in a relationship. If you two truly care about eachother you wouldnt need to get physical at all, unless of course you wanted to :] In the beginning of a relationship things should be more simple and less physical. Remember, you don't want to move to fast and mess things up. But as the relationship grows and you two become closer then you will most likely get more phyiscal.
Hope i helped :]
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Alright so last night this guy came to give me a hug and I hugged him but he wouldn't let go. And I was like "Dude, I gotta go." And he kept saying "Tap out! Tap out! Tap out!" and laughing. What does "tap out" mean??
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its a term in martial arts meaning to submit or give up. he was just being goofy.
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ok so i am 17 and i have a 19 year old boy friend. We have been together for a year...he wants me to meet his parents. the only problem is he is in amarilo and i am 400 miles away. he comes to see me every month. my mom and grandma dont want to let me go meet his parents...what should i do? (link)
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well since you are 17 you are technically still a minor so you have to stay if you do not have permission from you mother. but if you really want to meet his parents, which i think you should if you want to, wait until you are 18 or 19 or maybe take your parents to meet them too!
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hello good people of advicenators! :)
For quite some time now, i've been wanting to do a summer program at a college; for arts (drawing/painting/learning to draw things- that kind of art). Thing is, i can't find a college program anywhere-and i'm not quite sure what to look for online,or anywhere for that matter.I know i want to take a summer course- but the thing is-i'll be a junior in highschool after this summer. What i'm mainly wondering is-
Can a junior in highschool even take classes at a college?
Also,What is an "Undergraduate" Program? Would this have to do with being in highschol and wanting to take a course?
Lastly- How am I to find a program in the summer for arts to begin with? I really want to do this- if it helps any I live in Massachusetts.For those of you who live here, do you know of any in this state?
So many questions! Well,thank you all for your time. =] (link)
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sure a highschool student CAN take collage classes. try a community collage
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Yeah, so usually I'm good at confronting my friends about this, but this time, it's kind of hard, considering that it's my bestfriend since the first grade.
Well, she's been dating this guy for 6 and half months, but he's been nothing but a jerk ever since they've been dating for about one or two months. To her, he may be really sweet, and I'm happy for her, but for some reason, whenever she's with her friends, he turns all bipolar. He'll accuse her of cheating on him and calling her ugly names when she's done absolutely nothing. One time, after he called her a slut, I told her mom and then leaves a voicemail on her phone saying it's over between them, and that he can thank me for it, which left her in tears for the whole night.
He's 17 and can drive and she's 15, almost getting her learner's. So, he basically shows up wherever she is, and the only real friend that he has is her 16 year old brother.
I've confronted her before about it, but it almost turns into an argument, which we both don't want.
Please, help? (link)
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ok so i really JUST went through the same exact thing.. almost. you see when i read this i was starting to think our mutual bff wrote it because what happened to us is similar to what is happening to you. I tried to helpand mae things better becaus my friend was being hurt emotionlly and i wanted her to stop, but when i did try to help it only made thngs worse! What i figured out is that she needs to make her own decisions. Sometimes its best to let her work it out herself, though it may be hard. She needs to realize this guy is wrong for her on her own terms. everyone fighting her will make her want him even more.
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i dont really know if this question will go through or not..but it's worth a shot..and i dont really know how many people will..but hopefully some.
me and my mom just learned today that here next month..we'll be loosing our house. i know it's kinda weird asking this..but i need as much help as i can..
if anyone is willing to pray for me and my mom..i would greatly appreciate it..just pray that our loan get's accepted.
our family name is walker..we live in a small town in arkansas.
i know it dosent sound like much..but it's really important.
please and thank you. (: (link)
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i will definitely keep you in my prayers
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Like Taylor Swift says "I got tired of waiting, wondering if you were ever coming along...my faith in you was fading"
well anyway my question i guess is how many of you out there still have faith in love... and i guess what are some of your theories on finding it, keeping it, and losing it. feel free to rant and leave long philosophical answers... i wanna hear it (link)
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well, i have really strong faith in love. and in terms of finding it,i always say "dont search for love,let love find you" and if you cant keep the love that you are feeling then it isnt true love
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17/m. me and my girlfriend's one month anniversary is in a weeks time. Alot of websites say "dont get a one month present" or "theres no such thing as a one month anniversary", but she asked me what i wanted. And for some reason, around here, one month anniversary's are a big thing?
She told me that none of her relationships have lasted longer than three weeks (she's only had three boyfriends, me being 4th). I like her ALOT, so what can i get her? Jewelery is probabaly too much yes?
thanks a lot :D (link)
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i think you should be simple and romantic.. like get her a single rose or a card and make her dinner
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I do not want to tell anyone I have started my period. What should I say when asked by someone if I have started? (link)
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you should tell them "i don't feel comfortable talking about that because i am not that advanced in my puberty process yet" or change the subject subtle like "actually i was just talking about that with _________ (insert name here)! oh did you know we are __________ (insert activity here) together?"
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Yo i'm Deebs 13/m really short for my age. But do know any places to go shopping for a guy that girls like and think is hott. Any websites would really help (need websites). I rate high
-Deebs (link)
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go to pacsuns i think guys that shop there look really hot bt they are expensive. you can try jcpenny or ancorblue
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