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I'm 18 and I'm in my freshman year of college right now at Arizona State University.
Gender: Female
Location: Arizona
Age: 18
Member Since: October 2, 2005
Answers: 46
Last Update: October 15, 2005
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My friends and I want to do stuff but we dont have cars or anything like that and our mom drives us places....what other things can we do besides go to the mall, movies, get our nails done....? (link)
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Do any of your families have video cameras? Borrow your parent's video camera, and make a movie with them. You could make a fake talk show and make it funny, or try to make an actual movie. My friends and I used to make these 10 minute long "horror" movies. They were so funny! I'm so glad we did, because I have some good stuff to look back on. We actually thought we were good actors, too...haha. Maybe even make a funny music video of you guys dancing or something.
Maybe you guys could rent movies. Or try to pick up some hobby. Are you guys artistic? I know soon, I'm going to learn how to oil paint. That sounds like a fun thing to do.
You could play video games. They can be fun sometimes. I'm not really sure, but I know there's got to be lots of things to do out there in the world! even if you don't have a car. Good luck finding things :)
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What does "eating a girl out" mean? Sry if stupid question..... (link)
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It's the term for oral sex performed on a girl.
Oral sex for a guy= Blow job
Oral sex for a girl= Eating out
It's licking, sucking, ect of the girl's vagina to make her feel good.
Its not exactly a stupid question, I mean, you have to learn somewhere!
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i was thinking of kinda having a party/get together for my birthday and i was thinking we'd play cards (great idea w/my kinda friends) eat, watch a movie, and then play man hunt (game outside when it's dark) now i have a guy friend and he has a girlfriend. she has a hate list of people she obviously hates... and i'm not sure if i'm on there, but i don't really want to invite her to my house... do you think she'd get mad if i had him over (with a bunch of people) and not her? (link)
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I don't know her personally, so I'm not sure. But most people in relationships like to go everywhere together. You invite your friend, she brings along her boyfriend. It's like they're unseperable. A lot of people are like that.
If your guyfriend and his girlfriend are this way too, then she may be offended when she wants to come along, and he tells her she isn't invited. So yeah, if she's retarded and doesn't understand that he can go out on his own WITHOUT HER, then she'll get mad. Surprisingly a lot of people get pissed off when their bf/gf wanna go hang out with friends. So I wouldn't be surprised.
Good luck either way! Have a fun party.
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I write poems about a lot of thoughts that go on in my head. I want to share them with my friends, but I know if they don't appreciate them I will feel horrible. Once my friend found my journal filled with poems and she was just like, "Hmm. Do these all mean something to you?" and she just gave the idea of my poems were crap, which I know they aren't. I guess what I am asking is what should I say to my friends to make them understand how important these are to me? (link)
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Just explain to them that they mean something to you. That maybe they aren't Emily Dickinson or anything amazing like that, but they're something you really cherish. Don't let your friends get in the way of your writing. And if they still don't understand, then don't show them. Find a website online where people post poems and give each other feedback. I've done that with all of my poems. It's nice to hear what strangers have to say about my poems, without actually knowing who they're written about. Or if I say something depressing in a poem, the people online won't worry "OMG are you okay?". I'm sure there are plenty of communities out there like that, where you can get feedback on your work.
I don't show any one my poems, unless they're online people I'll never meet. Just because it's personal stuff, and I don't want people reading my thoughts :)
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how do i find good friends (who are not boring) in college if i'm shy and maybe slightly weird?
i'm female, 17 (link)
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I'm in my first semester of college right now. If you see some one sitting around doing nothing on campus, go up and start a conversation with them. If they're wearing a shirt of a band that you like, start conversation that way. Or talk about school, that's one thing every one has in common there. Ask them what they're majoring in or what classes they're taking.
If you think you're 'weird', then whatever you do is weird, don't do it. At least, not right away. First impressions are everything. If you walked up to some one and used "I wish a hurricane was named after me! It'd be called Hurricane _____" as a conversation starter, than yeah, that is weird. Just hold back any weird phrases you would usually say, and act normal. The reason I said the hurricane thing was, me and my best friend were joking about that earlier today. We like being stupid sometimes around each other. But when you meet new people, you need to get comfortable around them first, and not do the weird things you'd normally do right away.
Every one in college is in the same situation as you. Wanting more friends, and some one to talk to if they're just sitting there with nothing to do. No one likes to be alone. Just get some confidence. People can tell if you have confidence or not. Get confidence and walk up to some one new every day.
So basically, Just talk to new people. Start small conversations, which could turn into something bigger. And if one person doesn't work out, and they think you're 'weird', or you have nothing in common with them, then that's fine! Try again! There's soo many people out there on campus, and no one will remember you. You're practically anonymous in college. I rarely ever see the same person twice. So if some one were to come up to me and talk to me for a little bit, and we didn't hit it off, I'd probably never see them again. And if I did, it'd be like once every few weeks. I don't know how big your college campus is, but mine is pretty big..
And don't be worried. I've talked to a few people, and they both said that they started making friends their second semester of college, not their first. I Don't know what's different about them, but I am taking their word for it!
Good luck.
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Ok well I have a boyfriend but the thing is thatI like this one other dude too...Im not realli sure if this other dude likes me tho my friends say he does the case is dat this dude wants me to go sumplace with him and his friends and sum of my friends...I want to go b/c i just want to see if i actually have a a chance with him but im afraid i might end up cheatin on my boyfriend but i also dont want to break up with my boyfrind till im actually sure dat the other dude likes me...and wut i want
So pls help me im so confused right now
WHAT SHOULD I DO???? (link)
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Cheating is very bad. It's better to break up with him than to cheat on him. It still hurts to be dumped for some other guy, but in my opinion, it's better than being cheated on.
I guess just decide which one you like better, and go from there. If you're not satisfied with the boyfriend you have now, then obviously something was wrong to begin with. You're going to hurt him either way, but that is the way life works.
Good luck with whatever happens.
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okay well lately ive really had the urge to have a baby. im 16 and ive been watching kids and playing with my niece ( 2 1/2) and it really makes me want to have one. i dont want one for the sex or anything i just want it for the whole thing pregancy, birth baby everything and going around kids makes me want one more and more. what should i do? i dont live it a kind of neighbor hood where that is really acepted and my parents would kill me if i had a child but i want one so bad like you have no idea what do i do? its not like i can even control these urges they are there (link)
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Simply don't have a kid. WAIT.
You have your entire life to be an adult. Just be a kid now, live your life. Live your teenage years and live it up when you turn 21. Give yourself more years of freedom before you put that kind of responsibility on you. Only have one when you're 100% ready. I sometimes think that a kid is cute, and I would love to have a little girl call me "Mommy" and look up to me. But not when I'm 18 (or 16 in your case). Just think of all the fun you're going to have from the years 16 and up. Then when you're halfway through your 20s, or so, THEN have one. When you can financially and emotionally take care of one. You're really not ready yet.
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Okay this is directed to Republicans/those who support President Bush (Don't take this as my attempt to bash anybody or any political group, I'm merely curious...also dont take this as me generalizing, I'm not saying EVERY SINGLE REPUBLICAN believes all these)
1. Do you honestly, truly believe that in the short term the Iraq War's main purpose is to liberate Iraquis, or to preserve a stable oil supply from the Middle East?
2. How can you say that it is completely and utterly unethical to allow a woman to have control over her body and have an abortion, while at the same time supporting that the state does away with prisoners with the Death Penalty?
3. Do you think homosexuals were born inferior to heterosexuals and do not deserve the same rights as them simply because of whom they choose to love?
4. Why do you believe that responding to terrorism by reducing the freedom of Americans is anything other than giving the terrorists exactly what they want?
5. Why are antiwar protesters deemed unpatriotic, but pro-war people praised?
Again, my goal is not to offend anybody. I just want honest opinions.
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I'm not a republican so I can't answer this, BUT. That person's point below:
A brother and a sister are part of the same family. Two men marrying each other aren't from the same family. It's 100% different.
"A man is in love with a gorilla" HELLO. That is an ANIMAL! Gay people are not animals. They are human beings and I wish people would see that. People jump straight to the whole "Well should I be allowed to marry a sheep, then?" It's a completely ignorant answer. Gay people are human beings.
Just thought I'd put in my 2 cents about that.
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if you havn't had your period yet and you have sex can you still get preganat? (link)
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Do you mean that you've never had your period before in your life? Then you are WAY too young to have sex. You guys start way too young these days. Just wait.
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My boyfriend just came over and I gave him head and he cumed and a little later I lost my virginity to him but he didn't use a condom. I'm scared I could be pregnate. Is there any chance I could be? (link)
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Yes there's a chance. Yes, there's still a chance you're pregnant even if he pulled out and didn't cum inside of you. Precum can contain sperm too. I've known people that got pregnant by using the "pulling out" method. It happens. Don't be stupid. Know what you're doing, use protection, and be ready for the consequences if you don't.
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well my frend told me she smokes andim not sure if i should try caus she brings trhem to skool sometimes and i dont know if i should try !!!!!!!! (link)
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No. Don't try them. If you say "No, it's not my thing" and she tries to pressure you more, then she is not a real friend. Don't worry about what she thinks. And if she IS a friend, then she won't care.
Smoking is gross, it costs a lot of money, gives you bad teeth, and it kills you. It makes you look unattractive, and it makes you smell like cigarette smoke all the time (gross).
Don't start. It can get so bad that you can't even sit through a movie at the movie theatre without leaving to go for a smoke. It's a complete waste if you ask me.
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I learn about sex through sex education websites, such as sites for teenagers, and I'm consintly sharing such information with friends so that they will not do something wrong when they get infected or something. I taught everyone how to put on condoms, take them off correctly, and although my friend recieved the information gratefully, she thinks that I would only know this because I watch porn. Naturally, there are pictures but they are of infections and such. What do I do to convince them that I DO NOT watch porn (even though it is a healthy thing, I still don't), and that I don't have such access to it? (link)
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Is the fact that they think you watch porn becoming a problem? Because if they just mentioned it once, and never again, then it's no big deal and probably doesn't need to be brought up again. But if she continuously is mentioning "you watching porn", then yeah. Set her straight. Ask her to stop accusing you of it, and tell her there are other ways to learn how to do this stuff than watch porn. (Yeah, plus porn either 1)half the time doesn't even HAVE a condom or 2)doesn't even show them putting it on, it's just magically there).
Tell her that you care about you and your friend's health, so sometimes you read up on sex education when you're bored, so that when you have sex, you'll be ready and prepared. Show them the websites. They're really immature if they don't understand that after that, you DONT watch porn. I think it's stupid in the beginning for her to be accusing you of it anyway.
Anyway, good luck!
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ok my boyfriend told me that alot of times when guys have sleepovers they dare each other to give each other blow jobs and so like he told me he gave two of his friends bj's and his friend gave him one. A while after he told me that i gave him one but we werent protected and now im freaking out cuz im scared i might have gotten one. but could some one blowing him give him an std, if they didnt have one? we are both virgins also.. so is it possible that i might or he might have one? AND... can a virgin having sex with another virgin give one virgin herpies or somthing? (link)
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First off, don't listen to the people that are calling your boyfriend a 'fag'. That is completely disrespectful and uncalled for. He could be bisexual too, and even then, who cares?? Just about EVERY ONE on this planet has had feelings towards some one of the same sex, or has been curious about it. Yes, even the people calling your boyfriend a 'fag'.
Anyway. To the question. It IS possible to transfer STDs through oral sex. If one of the guys he gave a blowjob to had some sort of genital herpes, your boyfriend would then have oral herpes on his mouth. And it could be transferred to you through kissing or him going down on you. ...Or, if some one who had oral herpes gave your BF a blowjob, then your boyfriend's penis would then have the herpes...
If you're really worried about it, talk to your boyfriend. Ask him how sexually active his friends are, or if they have anything, or if he saw anything unsual on them. If you're even more worried, go get tested together. I'm sure you're fine.
I'm proud of you for not getting mad at him, or calling him gay like every one else! The boys in the group probably just have a curiousity. It's completely normal.
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ok so there's this boy and i really really like him. we had gone out a few times before but we broke up because he cheated on me, he told me he really liked me and wanted to go out with me again and promised he'd never do anything like that again and i actually beleive him (i dont beleive people who hurt me very often) he lives in a town close to mine but we only see eachother on friday nights and weekends. i went to a football game and he was hitting on one of my friends when i thought he really liked me, she's gorgous but i really want him to get to notice me again, i got mad at him and we were in kind of a fight but i couldnt stay mad at him and i kissed him at the end of the night and i think he may have started to like me again. How can i get him to like me? and is he worth it? i get soo jealous when he's with other girls.
thanks so much. (link)
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Try to get yourself to stop liking him, because he's not worth your time. At all. Just stop talking to him. Find yourself a new crush. Believe me, once you find some one else, this one isn't even going to matter. But definately don't give him the time of day.
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What does "straight edge" mean? (link)
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Straight edge is a stupid term that I don't like. But it means people who don't drink, smoke, do drugs (or anything like that)...and they are waiting until marriage to have sex.
Barely any one is straight edge when they are adults. By the time you're in your 20s, alot of people drink, and a lot of people smoke. A lot of people have sex when they're ready. I think it's a stupid term to label people. Basically, the few people who are straight edge don't like experiencing new things or living their life. I'm not supporting doing drugs and having sex when you're 13 or anything, but when you get older, a casual drink and having sex by the time you're an adult is fine.
Oh, and some people online write it as "sXe" I think.
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What are some songs that are about being sad because of the death of a friend? Thank you. (link)
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Yellowcard- View from Heaven
first song that came to my mind.
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hey! ok to start off, im 14/f. ok im bi, and no its not just a stage im going through. anyway, theres this girl (a.b.) thats gay, and i have basketball with her (it's a class for us).. and shes really nice to me.. me and her are good friends.. but we just met this year.. and one day at softball practice (i play softball also) she was there with her friend (c.h.) whos on the team also and i was about to hit but i was talkin to them first and the people playing in the field hollered next batter get up there.. well c.h. was like dont holler at her shes my friend and a.b. was like yeah shes my friend too.. well today we had a softball game and she was there.. well she was staring at me like the whole game.. when i was warming up she was staring at me.. when i was playing in the field she was staring at me.. when i was sitting in the dugout she was staring at me.. now i dont want to get my hopes up or anything, but do you guys think she likes me? give me your honest opinion, i will rate. (link)
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Most likely she does, otherwise she wouldn't be staring at you. Try talking to her more, becoming better friends. Try to get a few more signals out of her. Or send a few yourself...haha. Does she know you're bi? She'd probably like you more if she knew, too. I'm bi, and if I hear that another girl is bisexual, I notice her more.
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My Brother Is Acting Werd What Do I Do (link)
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You need to be more specific on what he is doing that's weird. Otherwise, we can't help you. There's a million different things that he could be doing that's weirding you out, and if we don't know what it is, then you can't get any feedback from us. Sorry.
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well i want to have sex with my bf. but i want to know if he has std's or anything like that. i want to ask him but i think it would be awkward. can someone give me advice on how to ask? thank you!! (link)
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If you two are comfortable enough with each other to have sex, you should be comfortable enough with each other to ask about STDs.
Talk about your sexual history together. You may not want to give details, because I'm sure you don't want to hear all the details about your boyfriends sexual past...But just ask him if he's ever been checked. Or instead of just attacking him with "Who all have you slept with?" you can start off with your sexual history so he doesn't feel so on-the-spot pressured. I don't know what your sexual history is...but for an example, "I've only had sex with one other guy, and he was a virgin and we used a condom, so I'm pretty sure I Don't have an STD and you have nothing to be worried about..What about you?" Of course, not in those exact words, but seriously, just say whatever comes natural. I don't think it'd be awkward.
And if for some reason he gets offended by the question, then that is his problem, because it's a perfectly normal question with two people about to have sex. You're just being careful, which is a good thing.
Good luck and I hope this helped.
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WHat is "friends with benifits?" (link)
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It's when two people are just friends, but still do sexual things together. Such as makeout, oral sex, or actual sex. It's sex without the relationship. If it works right, you guys can have casual sex without any emotional involved. Meaning, you can hook up with you Friend with Benefits one night, and then go hook up with some one else a few days after, and they don't get jealous or mad like people in a relationship would. But it's usually never that easy. Some one usually always gets emotionally involved. Sure, it starts out as "I'm horny and single, so are you, let's just have sex together. Problem solved"...But it gets more complicated later down the road...
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