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Would it wrong to take a nap with your boyfriend or girlfriend? on the sofa or something?
I dont know, for some reason, I dont think my mom would agree. I'm just wondering too, I'm curious, what most parents would think of this? (link)
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Coming from a young person (18 years old), I see nothing wrong with taking a nap on the sofa with your boy/girlfriend. It's really not that big of a deal as long as it's JUST a nap and not anything more sexual than that. I was raised in a fairly strict household where things like that weren't allowed, so I think that your mom would probably get mad about it. She probably thinks that napping together on the couch will lead to more sexual behavior.
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im in a secret santa thing for x-mas and i got a guy who i really dont know or get along with mind you but w/e...what should i get him...budget is 10$ btw... (link)
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I would reccomend buying a card (or making one on your computer) and getting a gift card for this guy. If you don't know him, then chances are you don't have any clue about his likes and dislikes. I would reccomend a mall gift card or one to the local video store, but any kind of gift card would be appropriate.
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I've had a really bad cold for the past couple of days, with a runny nose. Now my nose is all red and sore and the skin is all dry and gross!
I have to be at a formal this weekend, so if anyone can give me any tips on how to reduce the redness and help it heal faster, I'd appreciate it. I'd really prefer to not have to wear foundation or coverup though, because it bothers my skin. (link)
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What you need to do is get a small jar of vaseline. Apply it thickly on the reddened area before going to bed every night. It will help reduce the redness and dry skin that goes along with it. Put moisturizing lotion on that area every day. I would reccomend using an unscented variety to avoid further irritation to the spot.
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I've beening hearing around from other people that my boyfriend has herpes.
Should I ask him if he does?
I don't want to offend him.
How would I ask him?
HELP PLEASE! (link)
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You do need to ask him because herpes is a serious thing. There is no cure for herpes and it is contagious.
Just tell him that you've been hearing some rumors about him and want to know if they're true or not. Remind him that it's safe for him to be honest with you about these things because you care about him.
It is possible that he will get offended by this question, but remind him that you want to remain healthy and unaffected by a disease like herpes.
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Last year a friend and I got into a huge arguement and were really mad at each other. This year she is trying to be my friend again. I do not want to be her friend, I just pretended I was on IM. We have not seen each other face to face since our arguement. I lied to her and said I have a super hot boyfriend and the my faux boyfriend has a super hot brother and that I would try to hook them up. I told her other various lies about myself and my faux boyfriend and his brother but now this little game is getting really old, plus she wants to meet the faux guy I said I would set her up with. What should I do? I never see this girl because we go to two different schools.I am 14/f if that helps. Thanks. (link)
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You should stop all the lying immediatly. You're only going to be hurting yourself when she finds out that you made up the whole story about the "boyfriend and the cute brother". If you don't want to be friends with her anymore, just tell her that. Don't play games or anything, just stop talking to her.
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im 14/f
im overweight but im very athletic. im not like fatty fat fat but i have a gut ,and huge thighs,well there in shape but i wear like a size 13 so basically they look fat. my stomach is fit and everything but its not like skinny and i would like to loose inches off my waiste. nothing is working,mainly because i have a bit of an eating disorder,when i get sad or deppressed i eat,sometime i dont even realize that i am what do i do? (link)
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To avoid eating when you are sad or depressed, you need to get out of the house and do something that you enjoy. Go to the gym if you feel bored and want to eat. Spend time with friends. Whatever it takes to stop eating when you don't need to. Try walking or jogging. Both are good ways to tone stomach muscles and lose weight from the middle.
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Are there any places I can get Nintendo 64 games besides ebay? I still have mine and want to find more games. If you know any places at ALL, please let me know. =)
Thanks! (link)
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If you can't order things off the internet, you could try looking at pawn shops, yard sales, or at places that sell used items such as games, movies, and CD's.
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Okay, I am a junior in highschool and i have two bestfriends one is a boy and one is a girl. Lately they have been hanging out alot, and that doesnt bother me but they both are doing drugs. They are both a year younger than me but i love them too death. They make stupid decisions all the time, and i feel like i always have to be there, and i always want to be there but lately i dont know what to do. I am really stressed out and depressed and they make me cry all the time. And i know most who will respond to this will say dont be friends with them, or talk to someone, but not being friends with them is not an option. I just dont know what to do anymore, i told her mom because i dont want her to mess up her life more than it already is. I just get so angry with them i want to fight them. I want to hurt them so bad. please help me.. this is out of control.
sincerely. (link)
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I know exactly where you're coming from because a lot of my friends also do drugs. I don't do drugs because if I do, it could cost me my job. I let my friends know that what they do in their own personal time is not my business, but I do let them know how I feel about drug use around me. I don't choose to be around that sort of thing and they respect that because they're my friends. Tell your friends the same thing. Don't fight, don't hurt anyone, don't do anything that you might regret. Let them know that you are still their friend and will be there for them if they ever need you, but you won't be around their drug habit.
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I have these sort of bumps "down there". I'm really scared and I don't know what to do. Everyday more & more appear. They sorta look like pimples. Do you have any ideas how to make them go thanks.
ps- I don't shave down there either.
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The bumps could be from ingrown hairs. You should go to your doctor or gynecologist and get them checked out in case it is something a lot more serious.
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Okay, I need to decide if I should get a Playstation 3 or Nintendo Wii by tomorrow afternoon. I have the money for either, but I don't know which to pick. The only Wii launch
game I like is Zelda and I like franchises on
Playstation more. But the Wii is cheaper and
has some great games like Mario, Zelda, etc.
which should I buy? (link)
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Buy whichever game system that you will use more, otherwise it will be a waste of money if you only use it to play one or two games. The Playstation sounds like a better option for you. Enjoy!
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Hey.
I'm 16 & my boyfriend is 24.
I've been dating him now for 4 months. We've been having sex & we decided to tell my parents, because we can't keep lying to them. So, I told them on Sunday, and then on Tuesday they told me I couldn't even see him anymore until I'm 17. Which I thought was OKAY, I mean I wasn't happy with that decision, but atleast I could still talk to him. And then last night my SISTER who doesn't live with us called my boyfriend and told him that he couldn't even talk to me on the phone anymore. :(
I'm soo sad, because I don't know what to do! & I'm in love with my boyfriend and I just feel sad all the time, and I'm not usually a sad person.
What can I do!?!
I understand that it's illegal by the way, it's just I asked my mom if I could still see him on friend-to-friend basis without having sex because he's grown to be one of my absolute best friends that I can talk to him about ANYTHING.
Please help. :( (link)
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I agree with your parents on this one, girl. I'm sorry to say, but the age difference is a HUGE thing while you're still concidered a minor. Just wait till you're 17 to begin dating him again. I'm glad that you decided not to lie to your parents anymore because it'll make it a lot easier when you are able to see him again. If you really love him and want to be with him, one measely year won't come between you. Your sister had no business interfering with your parent's decision. If they allow you to talk to him on the phone, by all means do so. You can always email him and talk to him via instant messenger.
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no guy has ever really seen my boobs, even though many have asked. i'm afraid guys will think 'ew that girl has ugly boobs' or something. i dont know-i'm very self concious. like is therea a certain way boobs should look? thanks. (link)
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Boobs are boobs. Most girls don't have issues with them being mis-shapen or having one that's conciderably larger than the other, but there are a few that do. All boobs look very similar, so there's really nothing to worry about there. If you don't feel comfortable letting guys see you topless, DON'T. It's your choice and you shouldn't do it just to make them happy. It's your body, be proud of it.
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okay well im 15 and a couple of days ago my and my friend(a girl,she was walking in front)and i wanted 2 find this pin i had in my pocket so i fiddled around in there looking down ov coarse and when my friend turned around, she said can you walk in front please, i didnt get what she meant but after a little while it clicked, she thought i was lookin at her butt(which iwasnt) now i dunno what to do, i mean what is she tnks im a pervrt? plz gimmie some adviceo what 2 do next. (link)
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You should just talk to her about it. She might not even remember, but it's really no big thing. Just explain to her that you think she might have gotten the wrong idea when you were looking for the pen in your pocket. Tell her you're sorry if she thought you were looking at her but and assure her that you weren't. If she doesn't believe it, oh well. There are worse things in life than being accused of looking at a butt. (like she's never looked at one before...)
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I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and i want to have sex with him but then i dont because i feel like i'll be betraying my mother and disrespecting her house i know im only 17 soon to be 18 in just 11 months.but i really love him and we want to but im scared i don't know what to do. So could someone out there please help me? (link)
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When it comes to having sex, you should do it if it feels like the right decision to you. Don't jump into anything that you are not feeling ready for. Even though you've been with your current boyfriend for quite awhile now, that won't necessarily make it an easy decision.
If you aren't wanting to do it because it feels like betraying your mother, you probably aren't ready to "take the plunge".
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Im almost sixteen, female.
So I kinda like this guy, and we've been friends since about 4th or 5th grade. Hes not like my best friend, or even my best guy friend, but we've been pretty cool. I dont know if i want to ruin that. Anyways, i kinda like him, and he really likes me, and hes supposedly gonna ask me out soon,like in the next couple of days. On top of that, i just broke up with my boyfriend a little less than a month ago (Sept. 1st) and they r kinda friends, but not that much. And, my ex was really attached to me, so hed be really upset if i started dating him now. (Actually...when he heard we're going to homecoming together, he called me that night, and started yelling and cussing at me! and we'd been broken up 2 weeks then. But maybe he's gotten better since then)Whats a good amount of time to wait? And is dating this guy worth all of this drama?
Thanks. (link)
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First of all, who you date after you've broken up with your ex isn't his business. Don't allow his anger to govern your decision. If you feel like you're ready to date again, then you should. Reguarding to the fact that you've been friends with this guy since elementary school: If you like him and he feels the same way about you, then the friendship is already altered in a way. You might as well just go for it because things won't ever be the same as they were back then.
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16/f
I like to wear skinny jeans. I LOVE them. The way I dress is labeled "scene/punk"...whatever.
My friends (3 of them) want to start wearing skinny jeans because they say I look good in them so they want to try them. I'm a size 5.
First of all..what are y'alls views on skinny jeans? (out of curiousity)
Do y'all think girls who are sizes 5,9, and 11 would look good in skinny jeans?
Oh and...I don't want them to look EXACTLY like me so what other shoes, besides converse or flats, would look good with skinny jeans? (link)
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Personally, I don't like to wear skinny jeans because they make my hips and thighs look HUGE. They look really cute on smaller people, though. sizes 5 and 9 shouldn't have a problem looking good in them. Any type of flats look good with skinny jeans, but you could also try wearing some stiletto heels with them.
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My boyfriend was with a girl for 6 months. Now weve been together for almost two months, but the other day he called me his exs name. What do I do? (link)
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This really has a lot to do with the time and place that he called you your ex's name. If it was during an intimate moment, I would certianly discuss with him why he said it at that particular time. If it was more of a "Hey..... Could you come here" type of thing, that's different. If nothing else, you should mention to him that you don't like it when he calls you his ex's name, even if it is just an accident.
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So here's a question you don't hear often...
I'm 19/F and I'm a large build... I'm only 5'7, but I'm a size 14 or so, 38DD. The problem is finding a style of clothes that fits me well... most clothes are designed for skinny people and then the size is just bumped up, and it's really frustrating! Button up shirts pucker, long sleeve shirts won't fit my arms...
I want to be able to dress my age without looking like I'm stuffed into my clothes.
Anybody have any suggestions for clothing styles that will flatter me? I'm not a plus size, either.
Thank you! (link)
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I would suggest going to a store like Lane Bryant, Fashion Bug, or Torrid. Those stores have cute clothes that will fit people that aren't super skinny. I also suggest wearing a matching camisole under your button up shirts and then just leaving them unbuttoned. It looks just as nice as a button up shirt when buttoned, but it won't look like your chest is bulging out of your shirt.
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im almost 6 months pregnant, and i feel enormous. i had an extremely flat stomach before, and very toned abs. i miss my old tummy so bad, and NONE of my clothes fit anymore. i went shopping today for clothes, but didnt really have enough time to try them on, i bought t hem way bigger than i needed, cuz i figured i could wear them later, but ALREADY- they dont fit~!! i have become so depressed over my size, although friends and family tell me im barely showing. ive gained so much weight in my hips and butt, its a struggle enough to feel comfortable in anything but pajamas. i think my boyfriend might be losing interest in me slowly becuase of my weight as well. someone please help me!!!!!!!!!!i love this child more than anyone on this earth, but this mama's got her baby blues. (link)
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Try to remember that you can lose the weight after you have your baby and get back on your feet. You wouldn't have gained weight if you hadn't been pregnant in the first place. Girl, you should wear what is comfortable to you! What's important is having a healthy baby. You can always diet and excercise after your child is born.
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14/f
I love listening to music, but I can't read it! In my music class at school everyone alreadys knows how because they already learned it. I'm failing because my old school didn't offer courses in music. I hate this. I feel so ignorant and the teacher is so oblivious to the fact that I'm clueless when she talks about treble clefs, keys, beats in a note, creshendos, and all that. What sucks is, I don't even have any friends in my music class to ask for help. So what on earth do I do? My grade is an F! (link)
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The person before me had some great tips for learning the notes and such better. Using mneumonic devices will help you A LOT!
Your teacher is oblivious that you can't read music because you probably haven't told her that you need some help. She might not know that your other school didn't have a music program and probably just figures that you just don't care. If you don't want to admit that you don't know about that stuff in front of your classmates, stay after class and talk to her. It's early enough in the year that you can still bring your grade up with some extra practice before or after school.
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