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Q: one of my friends does pot, smokes cigarettes, and uses prescription drugs. her mom kicked her out of the house and her sister totally shut her out of her life right now.. so she really wants to get help. she cant do any kind of rehab, shes just looking for meetings to go to like AA, but for teen drug users and she wants me to go with her because she doesn't want to do it alone. where would we go about finding group meetings for this? thank you!
I believe if you go to a hospital and ask you could get that sort of information.

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Q: I had an affair for a few weeks and we did have sex 1 time. It blew up horribly when my spouse found things. She does not know we were intimate and I really do not want her to know. She is a wreck and so am I. I am afraid that this will kill her - she is a little unstable right now. Why does she even need to know these details? I can carry this secret to my grave. If this were known, I believe we will end up in a divorce and our home w/kids will be destroyed, and I do not want that to happen! It seems like I remember Dr. Laura mentioned once that a one-time affair (not a long lasting one) didn't need to be disclosed. Why burden your spouse with this. Why dump these rocks on them. Its your burden to carry. Help.
In my honest opinion, she has every right to know. You broke her trust and the vows you made when you got married to begin with. You owe it to her and yourself to come clean with everything. If you two really love each other, you'll probably be able to pull through this. She should know, she deserves to know. What she'll do with the information once you tell her is her prerogative, but in the long run it'll be better on the both of you to have the whole, blunt, and awful truth out in the open.

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Q: alright well i have sex about once a day accept for when i'm sick or on my periode but like i still dont really kow if i've had an orgasm....like every time i've felt a rush and my body twichted i thought i had it but i really never know when i cum......is that normal?
Chances are you probably did orgasm; some women don't cum much at all.

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Q: whats masterbation for girls? and how do you do it?? i know this is a really weird question, but i just have to know
Masturbation for a girl can happen a number of ways. The most common would be fingering; where you stick your fingers into the vaginal opening and either massage or you can thrust as if it were a penis. Some women enjoy that same feeling only in their butt. And finally, you can massage your clit (the top part of your vagina) to get feelings of sexual pleasure.
Those are just some of the more common ways of doing it. It's all a matter of experimenting and figuring out what you like and what you don't.

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Q: why do sickos out there feel the need to defile other people's faces.. consider the category this question is in. it doesnt make any sense at all! okay if you are stuck it has something to do with bodily fluids and the like.
It's a matter of opinion and preference. You, personally, don't find it appealing, but others do. That doesn't make them sick, it means they have a different opinion than you.

Q: me and my boyfriend had sex and we did do it protected and then we used 3 condoms and then the last time we didnt fully have sex he stuck it in to see what it would feel like and even pulled it out and kept checking for precum.... am i safe ughh i know that was really stupid but shouild i worry? he was really careful and kept checking and even pulled out before he got any hard that time.. im still worrying
Any time you have unprotected sex (protected as well but not as much), or you let a man put his penis in you without using a condom, you're at risk. Even though he kept checking, chances are he could have missed the first bit. If you're really worried about it, you could invest in a pregnancy test.
Just remember next time, use a condom if he's going to put his penis in you.

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Q: my boyfriend and i are having our half year anniversary august the 19th. he told me that we would spend the day together and he would take me out to dinner, also to the movies.
but that same day he is supposed to go to a concert with his best friend *girl*
and he would be gone all day
its my choice whether he goes so:
should i let him go and spend the money on the concert ticket *wont see him*
OR
should i tell him its our nite to share and that he should be there
Well, as important as this half year anniversary may be to you, if he already made an agreement to go to the concert with his friend before he told you he'd spend the day with you, then tell him to go to the concert.
However, if he made the promise to you first and is now invited to the concert, then tell him that you want him to spend the day with you.

Q: im 16 and am a male, and about a week and a half ago i fingered my girlfriend. once i finished i moved my shorts and got a smidge of pre cum on my finger. i helped her pull her pants up and touched her clitoris ( the top bit of her vagina) for about 2 seconds. i didnt go near the opening at all.Also i had'nt ejaculated for about 2 days an had urinated plenty. what are the chances of her getting pregant
To my knowledge it's pretty unlikely that she'll get pregnant. Although, it is possible. I wouldn't worry too much about it, just make sure you're always careful when preforming sexual acts with each other.

I hope that's helpful.

Q: 17/male
well, i've always been the kinda of guy, who's plays football, and ya, i play football. but i never really knew if i like girls or boys, but now i think im gay. well a couple months back, after our last football game , one of the players on our team asked me out, and it was a guy, so we wne to the movies, and it was really fun, but he said that his parents weren't home for the weekend, and we could go over and do *stuff* well i said yes, and we went, when we got there he said do you shave your armpits and hair *down there* and i said yes, because i just like it. and so he asked if i was comfertable having sex with him, i said a little, so we started kissing, and then he took my shirt off and started kissing me, and then all of the sudden we were both naked, it was AMAZING! we sucked each other penis's, and ya it was MUCH better than a girl. so my questin is am i gay? is it wrong that i am? and can i still play football if i am?
Only you can tell if you're gay, but to me it sounds like you are. Although, you could just be curious and experimenting. Take some time to sit down and think on it. If you find that you really believe you're gay, it is completely okay. There will be people who tell you that being gay is wrong and unnatural, etc. There will be people who tease you about it and make you feel terrible about it. But remember, you can't control who you love and who you're attracted to. It's okay. And you should still be able to play football, there's no law against it and if you couldn't then that would be discrimination.

I hope I've helped.

Q: is it possible to concieve and get your period the next day? is it possible to concieve while you have youur period?
I'm not too sure on the first one, but it is possible to get pregnant while on your period. It's highly unlikely because at that time the unfertilized eggs are leaving your body, but it can happen.

Q: I want to befriend a fellow actress in theater, but I've been to shy to do so. Do you think they will think it weird to ask to go out to dinner, and I would tell them "did you know I have social anxiety?". I think maybe if I tell someone that, it would help become friends and explain why I haven't really been friendly during 4 weeks rehearsals. Please let me know if it's okay to use this approach.
It is perfectly okay to use that approach. In my experience, most theater people are very friendly and very kind people; you've just got to make the effort. I encourage trying it and letting her know that you'd like to become friends, but it's difficult for you because of your anxiety. Good luck, I hope it works for you. (:

Q: i found this question somewhere and i was wondering what would be the answer for it. i kind of have the sameproblem just a little though.


"i am WAY to shy! I am starting highschool this year, in 2 weeks and I REALLY want to make some new friends. I mean, I guess I have a lot of friends but I'm finding it more and more difficult to act like myself around them. Even my best friend in the world can't entertain me. I can't hold up a conversation at ALL so I usually find myself complaining about something as a sort of "default conversation topic", which I KNOW people find complaining annoying but it's better to be talking about something than not be talking at all right?? I just don't know how to do this. I'd like to have a little group of best friends that all like each other and then a larger group of friends to hang with and stuff. Most of my friends don't really like each other, unfortunately :( there's also this little group of friends I know that are really cool and we have a lot in common but i'm not sure how I would approach them...I just don't know. PLEASE help me!!!"
First off, high school isn't nearly as bad as people make it seem. It's really not.
Secondly before I even start to talk about your friends, I'll just say, be yourself. No matter what, always be yourself. If they're truly friends they'll still stick around. Never change yourself to please anyone else.
As for your friends, talk to your best friend and let her know you feel as if your drifting apart. Chances are she could be feeling the same way. It's hard to have all your friends get along, and I know mine sure don't. My boyfriend whom I absolutely adore doesn't like any of my friends which makes it difficult, but that just means you have to see them separately. I know that you say you want a small group of best friends and a larger group of friends to hang out with, but sometimes that's not possible. Be grateful and appreciative of the friends you do have, but don't be afraid to branch out and make more. It's okay for you to make new friends, but don't forget the old ones. Try hanging out with your different friends individually and when you're hanging out really get to know them personally. Really pay attention to what they enjoy and what they don't, then find something you two really enjoy doing together and your friendship should begin to be salvaged.
Meanwhile, this other group of friends you've found just start talking to them. Don't be afraid to talk to them. If you want to befriend them, do it. Walk up to them and start conversation about anything. But stay true to yourself, if they don't like you for you, then they aren't worth it.

I hope I helped some. (:

Q: I have been rehearsing with 40+ other people for 4 weeks, and most of the people I will say hello in passing, but when it comes to holding a conversation, I don't.

I have always been terribly shy. I really feel I would like to speak to 1-2 of the people I perform with, and maybe tell them of my problem. I feel bad that I haven't been talking to them.

I need to know how to ask for help from them. I thought maybe I would tell them I originally got into theater to help with my shyness. I would like to get together with 1-2 of them on an individual basis and apologize and ask for their help, to see if they would.

What do you think??? The show will end in 6 days, and I would like to make friends before this time.

I know exactly how you feel, believe it or not. However, I've never been too terribly shy, but in my first two years of high school I have participated in the drama club and speech team. While I've seen everyone else bond together, I've shut myself away from them.
What I would suggest is to calmly walk up to one of the people you think you'd get along with best and who seems like a friendly and open person. From there, start a conversation with them and perhaps invite them and a couple of their friends out to lunch or dinner. A group setting will make it easier to feel less shy and open up more. While you're there just be yourself, be comfortable, and relax. Just let yourself go. Don't worry about them liking you and saying the right thing. Act how you'd normally act around your friends. Chances are you'll have a great time and it'll be easier to talk to them later on.
Another suggestion if you're just wanting to ask for help in particular, again, walk up to someone you find friendly and inviting. Then pull them aside and simply tell them that you'd really like to be friends and you'd like to make friends with some others too, but you're too shy to do it and you were hoping they could help.

Those suggestions may sound difficult, seeing as you're shy. However, the only way for you to overcome being shy is to just go for it. If you sit back and don't take the risk of asking, then it'll never happen and you'll regret it later on.

I hope I helped.

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