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my half year anniversary
my boyfriend and i are having our half year anniversary august the 19th. he told me that we would spend the day together and he would take me out to dinner, also to the movies.
but that same day he is supposed to go to a concert with his best friend *girl*
and he would be gone all day
its my choice whether he goes so:
should i let him go and spend the money on the concert ticket *wont see him*
OR
should i tell him its our nite to share and that he should be there
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While a 1/2 year anniversary may seem really, really important, remember that it's just a day. Ya'll should celebrate how close you are every day -- No need to focus on one specific day. If you guys hung out the next day, would it really be so horrible..?
I'm sure he'd understand if you told him that you'd rather him not go to the concert, but think about it. Would he really be happy? I mean, I'm sure being with you would make him really happy, but I mean about missing the concert. Letting him do this would make him see just how patient and reasonable you are, and I'm sure you'll make him really, really happy. Aren't you celebrating how happy you make each other, anyway?
I'd say to let him go, if it wouldn't KILL you, hah, because it'd make him really happy and see even more how great you are! Then, just plan something even bigger/better for a raincheck kind of thing. Just celebrate a day or two later, no big deal.
Tradition's good and all, but ou can really do dinner and the movies and say "Happy Anniversary" any other day. It'll really be a small sacrifice if you look back at it.
Maybe if it's possible you could see if you could get tickets to this show? If not, just let him know you hope he has fun, and you guys can hang out later, and blah blah blah. Hah.
If it REALLY bothers you though, and for some reason you'd feel really upset if he went, ask him to make the decision. Let him know you wouldn't want to be selfish, and allow him to figure out what to do, and don't get angry at what he chooses! Think about if you were in this situation.
I hope you have a great anniversary, even if it's not on the exact day. :P
XOXO
KAT.
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Well, as important as this half year anniversary may be to you, if he already made an agreement to go to the concert with his friend before he told you he'd spend the day with you, then tell him to go to the concert.
However, if he made the promise to you first and is now invited to the concert, then tell him that you want him to spend the day with you.
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hmm this is a hard one. I see your problem.
If i were you, i would probably feel cheated out of a nightout if he went to this concert. On the otherh and i would probably feel guilty making him stay.
However. If he said to you that he would spend it with you, then i think he should keep his promise and take you to dinner.
On the other hand, you could try and get a concert ticket and tag along with them. That way you get to spend it together and he gets to go the the concert.
6months isn't really a HUGE thing, but i can understand that you'd want to spend it with him. Have you actually asked him what he would rather do? It's alright making you choose, but it's not really fair on you. So ask him outright.
hope this helped
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