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so on facebook all my friends have the compare people app.
but i dont, so since i dont have it i cant really be compared right, which means i dont appear in the whole app right???
or do i automaticly appear just cause i'm friends with em?

You automatically appear just because you're friends with them. In other words, you're being rated by them, but since you don't have the application you can't rate others and can't see your own rating (unless it shows up on someone else's page if you're highly rated as something).

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I had an orthodontist appointment today.
And, now I have a throbbing pain in my one front tooth. During the oppointment she kept pressing really hard on my front tooth and after that whenever she touched it, it hurt. It's pretty normal to have pain , buut, not pain like this.
Anyways, I go to look in the mirror to check if maybe there's a wire coming from it, annd, I look and my front tooth is pushed way back. It was never like this, I always had straight front teeth it was just the back teeth that were bad. So, Im quite upset about this, I don't want braces for any longer, I have taken proper care of them, I mean it's not the end of the world, If it was easily pushed back it can be pushed forward right?
So, has anyone else ever had this happen? What should I do? Should I wait for my next check up in a month or go sooner?

Call and ask to speak to your orthodontist and ask her why your tooth is pushed back and tell her that it really hurts. If she has an explanation that makes sense to you, I'd relax. I remember when I had braces that the orthodontist would do things I couldn't see the point of and I ended up with really good teeth. If this seems like a mistake on her part, I can't really help you there...maybe go to a new orthodontist?

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-realationships that aren't working
-your bf/gf love someone else when your together

Almost Lover-A Fine Frenzy
Better That We Break-Maroon 5
City Traffic Puzzle-The Hush Sound
Doin' Time-Sublime
Dreaming With a Broken Heart-John Mayer
The Garden-Mirah
Hourglass-The Hush Sound
Love You Much Better-The Hush Sound
Lying Is The Most Fun A Girl Can Have Without Taking Her Clothes Off-Panic! At the Disco
Mr. Brightside-The Killers
Nothing Lasts Forever-Maroon 5
Sitting, Waiting, Wishing-Jack Johnson
Smile-Lily Allen
Sweet Tangerine-The Hush Sound
Take a Bow-Rihanna
Through With You-Maroon 5

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Me & my boyfriend had sex.
I've been on my Birth Control for about 2 years now. I put a spermicide in me, the contraceptive films, and he got off in me.

I'm having to take antibiotics because I have a really bad infection, and antibiotics, suposidly kills birth control.

I just started taking it, a day after the sex though.

I took my pill to start my period sunday night.


So basically what my questions are...


Where the antibiotics kills birth control, will it also stop me from starting my period?

When your pregnant, will you ALWAYS miss your first period.


Thanks.

They won't stop you from starting your period. Your period is a natural thing and you'd have it with or without the pill. I get that you've taken the pill to have your period on a specific date, but even if they weren't working you'd still go through your cycle--you just wouldn't be protected.
No, you won't always miss your first period. Many women spot throughout their pregnancy.

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i met a guy at a training class and he seemed like he liked me.
the last day of training came and he kept giving me hugs and when i was in the store with him before we were about to leave and both head home he came up behind me and wrapped his arms around me and gave me a big hug and it felt so perfect.
he was really flirty and often asked me when i was gonna come visit him since he lives an hour away. we exchanged numbers and its been 3 weeks since i saw him. we dont talk much but the other day we were textng and i felt like he still liked me cause he was like yea i miss those cute eyes blah blah so the next day i was like... "hey i like you" and he didnt say he liked me back!!! he was like no you dont you dont know me. im soooooo confused i thought he liked me. and now i feel like an idiot and yesterday (following day) he texted me and i was like dang seems like you dont want to talk to me anymore and he was like no. and today he didnt even text me or anything. i feel so confused. was he just a big flirt???? or maybe did i scare him??? please help!

It seems like he's just a big flirt and doesn't like you as more than a friend or someone to flirt with. Find someone new who isn't so flirty if that's not what you're into. That doesn't mean that you can't still be friends, but this guy doesn't seem like he's worth your time if he thinks it's fine to flirt with you but doesn't realize that this may affect your feelings for him.

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i'm 17/m
she's 15/f
tomorrow is my first date ever, which is pathetic in itself because i'm 17 and i'm gonna be a senior. i just got off the phone with this girl and set up the date and now i'm getting really nervous and i'm just downright buggin. we're gonna see 1408 at 4:15. i had to pick an early movie time cause my license doesn't let me drive past 9. we both really dig each other but when we're around each other its weird cause we both have the plague, shyness, really badly. i think we're perfect for each other cause we both love heavy metal and we have divorced parents and we both for the mostpart hate life. i just don't know what do do. my friends are no help cause everyone tells me to just bang her, even my dad but i don't wanna bang her. i have no desire to do that with her because i know that if both connect with each other verbally, it will be more fulfilling than any sexual act. to be honest, i just really want to hold her hand. the most i would wanna do is kiss her, not make out though, like a real like cute kinda kiss. i sound gay, i know. i could be bi but thats a question for another day. the movie will end around 6ish and i dont know what we should do after. i'm just completely lost and i'm freakin out man. i need tips, please no jackass tips that tell me to bang her. its times like this when i wish i did drugs cause i need a big fat blunt.

First off, the only people I know who've had sex at 15 or 17 have been in long-lasting relationships or are sluts.

The good thing about a movie is that you don't have to talk during it! But make sure you talk on the way home.

If you want, put your arm around her during the movie or hold her hand. Girls like that. =] If she seems to be having fun then I don't see why giving her a cute little kiss good night would be a bad thing, considering that she already likes you. But if you don't want to kiss her that's fine, too. Just make sure you set up another date soon!

Hope you have a good first date. =]

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I'm kind of a non-talkative person. How can i be outgoing and be social to give people a great impression on the first day of school?

There's no way to become outgoing, but if you want to appear more confident, try striking up conversation with people you meet. For instance, if a girl you don't know is sitting next to you in math class, tell her you like her shirt and start striking up conversation--ask her her name and tell her about you and stuff. Ask people about how their summer went, too.

If people start talking to you, try to not give one-word answers. I know that when I ask people, "How was your summer?" I like hearing about what they did rather than "fun".

I hope that that helps! But remember--the only way to become outgoing and social and give a good impression is to be comfortable with yourself. You can't be comfortable with other people without being comfortable with yourself.

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I am not in 1st grade thats when we first met!
i moved to that town and went to that school
the instant i saw him i was in love with him aha
i know thats first grade love! but i have had feelings
for him for 8years i know pathetic we kinda lost
touch in middle school bc we went to differrent
schools and now i see him every once in a while
should i tell him how i feel or should i just wait
and see what happens in the future?
i am afraid though that he will reject me which he
probally will.

should i tell him and risk being rejected?
please i need advice!

First start talking to him and try to become friends. After talking for a bit tell him that you had a huge crush on him in elementary school. Ask if he's ever liked you. Then ask him how he feels about you now. If his answer is something possitive (he likes you as more than a friend, he's not sure how he feels but he likes you at least as a friend, etc.) tell him that you still like him or like him again.

I hope that works!

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1) does putting lemon juice in your hair actually lighten it?
2) how is that possible/how does that happen
3) how many lemons would you need to buy
4) how do you apply it
5) how long in the sun
thaaaanks

1. Yes.
2. I'm not sure how it happens...I think maybe the citric acid? I don't know. But it works!
3. I just get a bottle of lemon juice.
4. You can put it in a spray bottle and spray it in, but I usually pour some in my hands and rub it in my hands and then just run it through my hair, or just particular strands so it's like hilights.
5. I don't really time it...a few hours, definately. I just do it however long I'm outside--like if I'm at the beach or something.

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Well I had an interview at Sears last Tuesday. I thought it went pretty well for my first interview. Well the woman said I probably wouldn't hear back from then until about a week of the day I applied because the lady who would hire me was on vacation at the moment and the woman that interviewed me was about to go on vacation. Well i still haven't heard anything from them, so what should I do? I really want this job, should I call them?

I'd call back and ask to speak to the manager (or whoever else you're supposed to speak to). Tell them that you recently had an interview and were told that you'd hear back from them by now. Say that you're just following up and wanted to know how it went and if there were any possitions available. Make sure to be polite and good luck!

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does anyone know if princeton review is good

and

how do i raise my math score? it is so low.

please only answer if you actually know and not just randomly suggest books

I've used the Princeton Review. It's really good. It helped me a lot. I wouldn't say it was fun to read, but it did help me--mostly with math!

You can use a book like that to help, or look up SAT math problems online. You can also enroll in a tutoring class.

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omg, so last night was the 8th grade dance, and this not really RANDOM but like, he's friends with one of my guyfriends, he started like grindinggg me and my hand accidentally brushed up on his pants and omg he was so hard... and like last night i couldn't stop thinking about him and i was wondering... should i continue like talking to him? he is in none of my classes & never was, so he was pretty random. like i knew who he was though, always... so, should i smile at him on monday? cause the last day for school for us is wednesday. should i just ignore him? i don't think i have a full-blown crush on him.

I'd totally talk to him. Something might come from it, you never know! At least smile and say hi.

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what are some jobs for a 13 year old? *PLEASE* dont say anything like babysitting, walking dogs, cutting grass, watering plants, helping around the house, bake sale, lemonade stand, or stuff like that. kind of like real jobs. thanks

Depending on where you live, those are probably the only jobs for a thirteen-year-old. However, I had a job at thirteen--it was under the table (meaning I made below minimum wage and it wasn't exactly legal because I wasn't of the legal age to work). I worked at my church rectory, answering phones and the door and cooking. If you attend a church, synogouge, etc. you might be able to find a job working there.

Some places are more leniant with laws, too. I worked at a hoagie shop when I was fourteen, even though I wasn't legally supposed to.

For most jobs, though, again, depending on where you live, you probably won't be able to work until you're sixteen, at the youngest.

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ok i want a myspace, im 14 and i think im old enough to know what is out there. my mom has been thinking about it for like 3 days and still picks out all the negative things about it, there are more positive. what should i do to help my mom know im old enough to have one?

Tell her:
1. You don't friend/accept friend requests from anyone you don't know in real life.
2. Your picture is not provocative--it's just of your face.
3. You don't message or otherwise talk to anyone you don't know in real life.
4. You have your profile set to private so that only your friends can see it.

Then, make sure to follow all of those rules.

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there's diz boy i really like
i don't know i to get his attention can someone help me or give me tips thankz

Just try to talk to him. Be nice and flirt. If you're too nervous to do so yourself, don't go up to him with a bunch of girls. That might intimidate him. So if you see him, just smile and say hi and strike up a conversation.

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today was last day of school and the last time im gonna see my close friend cause she is moving to korea tommorow. But ive been avoiding her for a while because i was upset that she was moving and now shes doing the same too so we dont really talk anymore.And then when the class ended i tried to hold my tears but i burst up crying but she didnt see it yet so she asked me to take a picture with her and she saw me crying and she was trying to cheer me up by saying "its okay" and "dont cry" but i told her "its not okay your leaving" and she got quite and keep *sigh* or saying UGH and she stayed there for like 5 minutes try to cheer me up because i was still crying but next thing you know she said 'im going now dont cry okay?" and she turned back and turned around and looked at me last time and went somewhere. why did she leave? and what do you think about this situation?

She might have had to leave, or maybe was unsure about how to calm you down and didn't want to deal with it. Also, she might have just walked away because you guys hadn't been talking for a while, and she might have found it awkward to talk to you againAlso, she might have just walked away because you guys hadn't been talking for a while, and she might have found it awkward to talk to you again. Make sure she knows that you just avoided her because you were so upset that she's moving. I'm sure she'll understand!

I actually have a friend who lives in Korea. We write letters, talk on the phone, e-mail, and talk on MSN. You might not see each other in person, but it will be easy to keep in touch!

If you feel bad about how things ended and want to see her one last time, try calling her up. Try and remain cheery...just tell her you're going to miss her. It's really hard when a friend moves, but there's really nothing you can do. Make sure you still talk to her once she's moved! Talking online is the cheapest way, although a bit impersonal. Maybe send her a surprise package on her birthday. You guys might have had a falling out, but you obviously still care about her, and she needs to know that.

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what does tool mean when someone calls you a tool. cos people always comment me on myspace and they're like you're such a tool and im like uhh yeaa ... haha

It's basically an insult, but if they're your friends they might just be kidding around like saying, "Hey loser!" or something like that.

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I love my dogs alot, but i want more. My best friend is selling a couple and i asked for her to save one for me. Well, my mom says no, we need money. I'm trying to raise money, but it's too hard with summer school. My dad says the only way we're getting another dog is if we kill our current dogs. I got scared and said no. All I want is just one mroe tiny puppy. One of my current dogs is 7 half way through his life. My other one is only 4. She's not too nice, but anyway, I really want this puppy, but don't know how to get my mom to say yes! HELP!

Dogs cost a lot, so it might be hard to get your parents to say yes. If you continue trying to raise money and show that you're responsible, they might let you. However, dogs cost more than just to buy them, as I'm sure you know. Your parents are going to have to pay for shots, food, and all sorts of things that dogs require or like.

Although it doesn't hurt to keep trying to get this dog, if you really want it, do realize that it's not always going to be a tiny puppy, and then it will become even more costly. Also, focus on the two dogs you already have--even if the one isn't too nice, you love them both. And just because the one is halfway through its life doesn't mean anything. If you only have two dogs, that means you can spend more time caring for the older one in the correct way, and then he might live even longer.

Well, good luck!

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13|f
My sister and my mom are always whining. A couple of mintues ago my mom was saying, Guys you have to throw paper plates in the burn bag not the garbage!
My sister was saying, Sissy, come play with me again! Im bored! get off the computer!
WHY?!?!?!? They never stop whining! I never whine that much. Its just so annoying. somebody give me advice to stop their whining!!!!!

Don't confront them, especially your mom. It might annoy you, but take some time every now and then to do something with your sister. You might enjoy it, and it will shut her up.

As for your mom, obviously moms can be annoying from time to time. But just listen to her--it's easy, it's right, and it will get her to be quiet.

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i recently had a sleep over and i asked my friend b4 bed if she was gunna take her bra off and she said no, she wears it to bed, and its bad not too. then my other friend said you shouldnt wear one to bed cuz its bad for you or something. should you? will it change anything if you dont?
thanks xx

It's just a personal choice. I think it's a bit uncomfy, so I usually don't. If someone is sleeping over/I'm sleeping over somewhere, I sometimes do, though. Wearing one or not wearing one to bed won't really do anything.

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