HEY! im a 18 year old female from Canada. I love helping people and giving advice. It truly makes me happy when i help someone and i plan to make a career outta this.Im planning on being a youth/child worker. Helping people is in my blood. Im a very down to earth girl, shy, outgoing and has a bit of a attitude at times. Making peoples lives better and happier is my alltimate goal in life! If you have any questions for me, id be more then happy to answer them. V
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15/m
I'm a freshmen this year at a new school. There is this girl in my English class i noticed today. This was the second day of school, and after lunch i noticed her while i was walking. I don't know her name or anything about her and i wanna get to know her, i wanna try being friends with her and see where that takes me. I have some friends that are girls i text them alot but in person i'm shy i've hung out with girls a couple times but i'm not really talkative with girls... im shy. So i was wondering if you guys have any ideas what i can do to help me out with this new girl and future girls and people.
Any help would be good!
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Hey man! well i suggest getting to know her friends, start talking to them, or since your shy, find em on facebook and send em a message. Once you slowly get to know her friends then you can make a move to her, and her friends will put a good word in for you cause you have talked to them before, then your already approved by her friends! which is importand in any relationship you wanna get into, gettting along with thier friends. Well if this isnt the way you wanna go, you could always kinda creep her on fb, find out wat she is into, learn stuff about her before you start talking to her, see if you too have anything in common, maybe even start talking to her on fb. Or you could kinda stalk her lol just pay attention to where you see her, and find out were her other classes are other then english. Then you can soo happen be there too and maybe start conversation when you get the confidence to, maybe say, "oh hey, arent you in my english class?" then introduce your self and talk to her. Now just lettin ya know, your probably going to be nervous and may studder or blsuh while talking to her. this is perfectly normal, this just means that you really like her. And any girl is going to feel appreicated if she sees you trying to make a effort to keep the conversation going. Girls love a guy who can keep the covo going. Just do your homework on her find things out, ask your friends even if they know her. MAIN THING: be yourself, dont act like a guy YOU THINK SHELL LIKE and end up acting like a totally differnt person. Youll do perfeclty fine! dont worry. Everyone is different and girls like shy guys! Just treat her right and pay attention to what she is saying and respond back and youll do fine!
Hope this helped ya out! If you have anymore questions, feel free to ask em, id be glad to help ya out man!
Just make an effort, try and seem interested when you talk to girls. SInce you said you arent talkitive, dont worry, the girls arnt just gonna let you do all the talking, if they do, then maybe they arent really intereted in you. Just ask questions or topics that you both like,not just her, then you can connect.
Hope this helps! Youll get her...i can tell lol
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My boyfriend and I(both 18) met about 4 months ago and we hit it off right away. From the very first night we met we both knew we were right for each other and our relationship and friendship is very strong. We lived one hour away from each other and only got to see each other about every weekend. After two months of dating he left back to Brasil(He is Brasilian). He has been gone now for a month and a half and we have had our fair share of arguments and happy times. I plan on going there in December and will stay for 6 months then he is coming back to the US with me to go to college. I was just wondering what we can do to stop the fights and to build our relationship stronger while we are apart and how to make it through these next 4 months without each other. (link)
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well to stop fights, just really talk to eachother about everything. see his point of veiw and him see yours. Just if you ever have a slight concern about anything, talk to him about it and tell him to do the same for you. it will really bring you both close and you learn more about eachother as well.
Now that you are having a long distance relatioship there are many things you can do to get you through the months. I know cause iv been doing a long distance relationship for almost 7 months now. Well i think you should invest in some webcams and get msn or skype. Talk everyday, set a time everyday that suits both of you and talk on there. it really helps, seeing and hearing the other person, talk about your day and how you missed eachother and about anything really. In LDR's its always good to say your feelings to eachother because since your far away its hard to show it to the other person by affection and such. send little love notes to eachother, either in the mail or on fb or msn or email.
when you are talking 2 eachother, send little notes so when they come bk they can read it and see how you really care for them. and if you really wanted to , you could have some "fun" with the cams if you get where im going with that lol. It will bring you closer as well as showing your love for one another.
You can also do sleepovers, with the cams, put them on and sleep while you can both watch eachother an talk all night. You can do date night, both rent a movie and watch it at the sametime on cams, get dressed up and have a very formal date and eat dinner like you are really there.
Hope this helped, and good luck! if you have anymore questions, id b glad to help ya out there!
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Okay so I been with this guy for a year and 8 months this summer we broke up because he said he can not focus in school , but I don't know why that's a reason to break up. We could have just spoke less if he really loved me , so any ways I been doing my own thing having fun chilling with my best friends and I guess he. Been reading my facebook status and he see that I been having fun so he said he wanted me back and I took him back. But not even two days went by and we broke up , he wants me to wait and he tells me a real women waits but I feel that u should make someone wait , and I seen he been commenting females picture say they sexy and all that mess and it hurts . How you tell me to wait but you talking to other girls , and when I talk to him about it he says its just a joke , he thinks I'm talking to other boys cuz I be hanging out late but I'm really not , and me and him go to the same school so I'm going to be seeing him everyday, I don't know if I should just leave him alone.he was my first and from my understanding your first is the hardest to let go , I just wanna be happy , I'm just confused (link)
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ya this is my advice, you can take it or leave it. Id leave him alone. From wat you are talking about it seems that hes just not ready for a commitment and you fall for it everytime. Just leave him alone cause evertime this happens its going to hurt more and more. I agree that breaking up with you first because he needed to focus on school, well im sorry but if he really loved you, he would do anything and everything to be with you, no matter how hard it is. The truth hurts, but you have to look at wat has all happended and see how each time it either changed something and how it made you feel. Trust is a big issue in relationships as well, so when you too were together, you would both have to trust eachother into not cheating. Just ask nice to him when you see him at school. Move on, it will be hard but there are lots of others out there that would treat you with more respect. If you wanted you could confront him, talk to him and ask him how he feels about you, if he loves you and such and see where he sees you two. If you guys arent on the same page after you talk, then move on. Just figure out wat hes thinking, you may be surprised. I say move on, find a new relationship. But congrads on the 8 months cause that is a really long time. because it was so long, your gonna hate wat im gonna say, but some guys SOME get bored with the same girl all the time and then they break up and find "fresh meat". after they do that, they havent found someone like you then they come crying bk to you. IN ur situation he saw how much fun you were having and wanted to get into it. He seems like he dosent want to be with you for you. Just leave him alone and be single. im sure a nice girl like you will find another guy that is 10 times better and loyal to you. Good luck! Hope this helped! If you have any more questions feel free to ask, id be glad to help!
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So I was sleeping. It was like a deep sleep. I'm M/15, and I ate well that day. I awoke to a hit to the face, I felt the stun in my two front teeth, my head jerked back, and my whole area of vision turned white, it was as if a camera flashed in my face.It happened very very fast. I sleep with my mouth slightly open. As I looked around my room, I was alone, dark and quiet, zero movement. I suddenly got the chills and rushed to my parents room. (I was tearing during and after the thing happened)I did not fall asleep until dawn. I did not recall ANY dreaming when it happened. What could it have been? It has never happened before. I was sleeping on my side to the right looking toward my wall. Was something trying to get inside me? It was a painless hit. But I really felt it. And what explains the bright flash of white? I couldn't go back to sleep. Was the white light protecting me? I think I was not meant to see it or feel it, but I did. Maybe I was astral projecting and something tried to enter my body right when I entered. ???? Any one know? Any Ideas? (link)
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wow ya that is werid, well the onything i can think about is either you were dreamin this or, maybe it was a spirit or something. may sounds werid but iv read and seen on tv that spirits can do that. then either before or after the person feels very cold, thats cause the spirit is there. I dont know how else you could explain that. But maybe you should do some reasearch and see if anything happened in your house in the past. Could have something to do with the unknown, some things happen that people just cant prove why. Do some reasearch, and just be aware of what happens in ur house and especially in your room. Dont be scared. nothing really bad can happen to you. And i suggest you tell your parents so they can be on the lookout too. Hope this helps and hope you figure it out! anymore questions and id be glad to help ya out!!
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I Need Extra Cash &&& I Was Thinking About Babysitting. Where Do I Start Or Is Thier Any Websites For Babysitters. Help Me. Any Ideas ! (link)
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well when i started babysitting wat i did was with my friend we made like buisness cards, with our name, number, and that we took a babysitting course. then we walked around our neigbourhood and handed them out to people. That worked really good, we got calls with in a few days, and its a really good way for the parents to meet you first hand and see how you act and such before hiring you. It seems like hard work, but parents will relaize at how you really want a babysitting job cause you put effort into making a buisness card and walking around. Just be yourself and act like a babysitter lol. Hope this helps! If you have anymore questions feel free to ask, id be gald to help ya! Hope you get some jobs babysitting!
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17/f
This guy and I have been really good friends for a very long time, and its always been obvious that we have feelings for eachother. We went to school together until last January when I moved to a different school an hour and a half away. But we've kept in touch a LOT and we still talk every day. Well this year he graduated and is going to college, and I'll be a senior in highschool. His college is almost 5 hours away, and even when he comes home, his house is still and hour and a half away from mine.
Lately, we've been talking about getting together finally, but we don't know if its a good idea to start a long distance relationship with some one who is just about to go to college. That's the only thing keeping us from going out. I trust him, but I dont know how well he would be around other girls while we were so far apart. We really want to be together, but we're a little hesitant because it seems like it would be super hard to do. What do you think? Thanks a ton for your help!
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Well all i can say is, if you really like him or even love him for that matter and he feels the same way about you, then you should go for it. If its love, then there should be nothing stoping you, if you guys really love eachother then nothing will stop the 2 of you from seeing eachother and making this work. You will have to trust him alot as he will have to trust you as well when you guys are apart. Its part of a long distance relationship. I am going to admit, its going to be the hardest thing youll ever do in your life. Its very diffucilt and only some people get through them, for others its just too much. But if you 2 have extremly high feelings for one another then it should work out just fine. WHen he goes to colledge its gonna be hard and more difficult to talk to him everyday, but youll just have to organize your times better and dates. I know wat it feels like cause iv been having a long distance relationship now for 6 months. And your lucky cause my man lives in a differnt country, im in canada and hes in the Usa. best luck to you, if it was ment to b it will work out! Good luck, hope this helps you out a bit! If you have anymore questions, id be glad to help you!
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What do I do if a guy is about to kiss me for the first time??? (link)
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well if hes about to kiss you for the first time. Relax, stay calm and be into it. hell lean in and tilt his head, you do the same so your noses dont bump into eachother. then when you kiss him or he kisses you first, either your top lip or bottom lip will be sandwhiched inbetween his lips. so that means hes top or bottom will be inbeteen yours. So, then you put alittle bit of pressure on his lips gently, and pull back alittle bit while slightly parting your lips. then you go back to his lip and do the samething. this kiss isnt going to be really long, it will be between 3 and 10 seconds, depending. Hope this help, if you have anymore questions feel free to ask me, id be glad to help! good luck, it will come naturly dont over think it, youll do fine!
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Hey! :) So I have to say.. love your advice! And i'm hoping you'll be able to help me out. This may be a bit long but I will appreciate if you can help.
So i'm 20F. Currently don't have a boyfriend. Ok, please don't judge what I want to do I am just asking you to please suggest what I should do to make this happen!
Me and this guy have a great connection. He's sooo cute, and I know he absolutely thinks me and my body are hot haha which is good to know. Well I met him awhile ago and he knew my friend..kinda..and so he told my friend to have me text him because he thought i was just the hottest thing, and had a good feeling about me so i texted him saying hey :) and we talked for a little but he was drinking. well then i find out he forgot to save my number because he was drinking. so anyway this past week or two he was texting my friend and was always asking if she was going to be with me. so last friday, i saw him. long story kinda short :we were in the hot tub, things got steamy we ended up making out and he fingered me. i didn't do anything to him, because i wanted to go back and join the party i think he was kind of mad. later that night i offered to take out the whipped cream even to have fun and he didn't want to!
well he can't text me because he doesn't have my number so I havent really talked to him since that night. it's killing me..i keep thinking about what we did and how he turned me on and i want to do it again!! my parents are leaving in two weeks and i think it'd be fun to have him over but i don't really know how to come about asking him. i don't even know what he thinks about me now?? did he even enjoy the night as much as i did? what if he thinks i'm not willing to please him because i didn't that night? i just think he keeps thinking bad things about me..but thats just me because i'm an insecure person.
don't tell me not to just have a friends with benefits, please. i just don't know what to do?? and i feel weird texting him since he doesn't have my number now! what would i say? i want him to know i want to do more with him and willing, and want him to come over when my parents are gone. Any suggestions?? (link)
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Alrighty! well...if you want to find out wat he thought about that night and also about you, ask your friend to get his number, or look him up on facebook and add him as a friend and talk to him there about the whole thing. He could have been mad cause you didnt do anything in return to him that night, but im kinda glad you didnt, cause thats one thing guys all want. they will "finger" you or do things to you, JUST SO THAT AFTER YOULL DO THE SAMETHING TO THEM AND PLEASE THEM. well since you didnt, which isnt bad, he now knows that you arent an EASY ONE! and hell have to work alot harder. You are also keeping him interested! if say you gave him something in return, he might move on to the next girl cause he got wat he wanted from you.
The fact that he didnt want to do anything afterward, well, that could be a number of factors. he could have been tired,felt sick or just maybe he wasnt in the mood. youll never know till YOU ASK HIM. Do all you can to get contact with him and ask him how he thought about the night and tell him wat you told me here how you enjoyed yourself, then hell be interested cause HE made you have a good time.
Now, you can do wat you want, if you want to have friends with benifets, go ahead, if you want to have a relationship, but just have some FUN along the way, thats fine to, its all in wat you are confortable with along with him. SO somehow find his number, go to fb, then simply be blunt and say, hey, so um, i was wondering, how did you feel about that whole thing we did the other night? depending on his answer will determine what happens next. if he says he really enjoyed himself and such, mention something to him along the lines of, "well im gonna be home alone in a few days, i think that if you came we could have some fun", maybe tell him that your willing to do stuff and the will perk him up.
SO, this is all depening on wat he says when you ask him, and plus, this is either over text or computer, so if he says well im not that interested then its no bigger. Move one, find another guy, there are plenty of stars in the sky. Just be calm and yourself when you ask him. IM gonna guess hell come to your house, but thats my idea lol. Well hopefully this helps you. Let me know what happens!! If you have any more questions let me know and id be glad to help ya! Good luck!
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how can you tell if i guy is not into you
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If a guy is not into you, hell most likely, try to ignore you, when you look at him he will look away, if he sees you hell walk in a differnt direction, when you try to talk to him, hell say sorry, but i have to go. basically, if he does anything that prevents you from seeing him, talking to him or anything. that shows he doesnt like you and he doesnt want to be around you.
If a guy is into you: if he is into you, hell try to show up places where you are, so look around, if you see him alot, its not a coinsedents!. If he touches you or finds an excuse to touch you, touching your shoulder or something, then he likes you. If he is always around you, if he always trys to move closer to you with a group of friends. If he does anything that gets your attention, he likes you!. hope this helps! if you have any questions, feel free to ask me, id be glad to help ya out!
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17 female
i am never good enough for myself. it doesnt matter what i do, ill always hate my body.
ive struggled with bulimia because i have always hated my body. my entire life has consisted of me never being happy no matter what weight i am. recently i lost about 15 pounds by exercise but i still hate my body. i look in the mirror and just see the things i hate, like my belly. i feel like the same person as before. like i said before, i struggle with bulimia, but i work hard at it. what i want to know is do you think im anorexic? i must say though im not skinny. and i feel like only skinny people can be anorexic and bulimic, so thats one of the main reasons ive never told anybody about it. i feel like if i told someone then they would think like "wow, you would think that she would be skinnier if she were bulimic."
idk, i know most women hate their bodies so maybe its sorta normal. like i said, ive never told anyone about this or any of my weight issues. everyone knows me as the funny, laid back, no drama chick. i also have a really hard time opening up to people about stuff because i hate feeling vunerable.
i just want to look in the mirror and be happy with myself no matter what i look like. can anyone help? (link)
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i get wat you mean, im the same way. personally, women everywhere critize about their bodies, and its in our nature to do so. Everyone had at least one thing they dont like about them selves. But to other people that one thing may be beautiful. I dont think your anorexic by any means. Loosing 15 pounds by exercising, thats awesome! just b carful and be consious about your weight and not to go over board. and its not all about your weigh, its has alot to do with your hieght as well. You could be very tall and still be heathly still having some weight on. You can be short and be very skinny and still be healthy, its how you see yourself. And i think you should talk to someone about your feeling on your weight, it helps alot trust me. If you ever want someone to talk to, im always here. Everyone is beautiful in there own way. Theres gonna be people fatter than you and theres gonna be people skinnier then you. You have to be the one to decide what is a heathly weight for you and works best for you. DONT WORRY ABOUT WAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK! trust me it will get you no where, just make you feel worse about yourself. Hope this help! If you have any more questions, im here and glad to help. Good luck!
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What do i do my boyfriend an di have dated for 2 months and we are intimit(not sex) but intimit. He makes my feel good but i dont know what to do to make him feel good i keep thinking im doing something wrong. what should i do ?? (link)
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hey, well if you want to make him feel good about himself, give him compliments, but just dont say them to say them, mean them. Show how you really feel about him by giving him a present that you really put your heart into, it will really show your feelings towards him and hell really appreciate it. You could make him a love note, picks songs that make you think of him and burn them to a CD, or just take him somewhere he and you really like and make a suprise outta it and make the whole day about him. Just make him feel special, and that hes the only one you see, if you guys have phones or fb, send him cute texts on how you feel about him, write on his wall, show to everyone that you want to show off and show how much you care for him. Hope this helps! if you have any more questions, feel free to ask me! Good luck! V
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my boyfriend said that he wanted me to kiss him tomarow its not that i dont want to i just havent ever kissed a boy before and i want to know how could u help (link)
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well first. You want to tilt your head slighly so your noses dont hit and then you lean in, he'll lean in too. Then touch your lips with his. either yours or his one lip will be in the middle of the other persons lip. then lighly put a little pressure on his lip and pull a little bit back, then go back again and do the same. you could do it to both lips, or just one lip. then if you want to french kiss, thats another story lol. Dont worry, be confident and if you do it bad hes not going to think differntly of you, hell teach you, and that will be fun lol. hope this help, and good luck!
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Ok if you havnt already guess it im a bi 14 male and i want to know how i can find the perfect man or women can you guys help me out? (link)
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WEll man, id say to go on websites, such as omegle, or chatroulette. Just be very carefull cause there are some creeps. But omegle is where i found my boyfriend. you meet lots of differnt people and may actually find that right girl, or man for yourself. then after you talk 2 them, add them on facebook or msn and keep in contact. Look in your community, school or places you like to go and you might find someone who has the same interests as you do. Good luck, hope this helps you out!
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