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Q: Lets say my BFs name is Blake.Well blake ....i dont think hes into me no more.He always talks about other girls,he always treats my like crap when his friends are around and, he just doesnt seem to care about me when im sad. I DONT want to break up with him ..I love him half to death but what should I tell him.

I think that he might be trying to impress his friends and treat you like crap around them because he doesnt want to act like a mush and a around them because they would pry make fun of him later guys do that alot, and if your his first realationship that hes been in then that might be another explanation to why hes treating you that way but you should explain to him that if he really likes you he shouldnt care what his friends think about you or him, a real boyfriend would treat you right and respect you, i have been in a relationshp with my BF for about 3 years and when we first started dating he wouldnt barley talk to me it was like he was shy or embarressed to have a GF because all his friends would say "oooo you got a GF" and put him on the spot but after a while he became so nice and treated me perfect and bought me things and he didnt even care about what his friends would say so maybe he needs time although i dont know how long you guys have been dating. but i hope my advice helps good luck

Q: I am 13 and female, and Im a little lost here... So there are these three boys, let's call them boy X, boy Y and boy Z. (Bky X may sound familiar to a few of you who have read my previous questions.)

Here it goes. See, I have had a crush on X for a looooong time (like 2 years!) and I am really close to him. I like him a lot and he understands me and, gosh, he is just perfect. However, even though he though he likes me too, he cannot date until he is 16 (as I said, I am 13, but he is 14 and thats like ANOTHER 2 years). Now, I just think I can wait that long, nor does he expect me to but I REALLY like him!!

Okay some of you have told me to just forget about X (yeah right, like I haven't tried and failed at THAT already..). But there IS this one boy, Y. Y is probably the most adorable and wonderful boys and I do, I honestly do really like him, and I want so badly for me to like him more than X, but I don't. I really want to like him because I know he would be a great guy for me and has shown an interest, but X is just... I don't know, X is just too perfect, even though our relationship won't go anywhere... And frankly, you can't control who you like... But if any of you know how you can, please, enlighten me!

Then there is Z. Z is very sweet (and kind of has a crush on me) and he knows how much I like X and also kinds of hates him because X can't date me. But I mean, X can't do anything about that, its his religion... Buy Z is always telling me how I can't wait around for X, but sometimes I wonder if Z just says that because he likes me... And Z says that if I was dating him that he would appreciate me and so on but, and i feel horrible saying this because Z really is a sweet boy, but I just don't like Z like that...

Ugh, I know, I know, this is all messed up. I don't know what to do! I really like X and I want things to work so much, because I know we would be perfect for eachother, but our relationship can't go anywhere, and thats not X's fault right?? But on the other side I feel horrible because I feel like I am leading Y on, and then there is the Z situation, and ugh. I just want to cry. Please help!!

well it sound to me you have your heart set on X and you should wait for him if you really like him but yet while your waiting on him i dont see that theres a problem with dating while your waiting, enless you dont want to date because you have strong feelings for X, but yet i dont think that it would be a bad thing to wait either if you wait good things could come from it and you will pry be happier. but you cant control your feelings on people. so i think that if you were to wait and just be frends with X till he can actually date you, you guys would become closer to each other and no that you guys were meant for each other, but just hang with X and just test you guyses relationship with eachother first. and when he turns 16 you would know weather or not you guys will be together, but if you think waiting that long without dating and all that waiting wasent worth it then i wouldnt wait i dont personally know X so i couldnt really tell you weather or not waiting would be a good thing but hope some of my advice helps a little. sorry i couldnt have fully helped you. good luck. :)

Q: A couple weeks ago, I experienced a very strange period. It wasnt dark cherry red at all, it was brownish. And even stranger, the flow was not heavy. I didnt have to change pads. Usually my flow gets very heavy for a couple days and lasts 4 or 5 days in total.
For the second month in a row, I used the Plan B pill. Could this have something to do with it? This past month I used the pill as a precaution. My bf didnt actually fully cum in me. And in Feb. I had a normal period.
Has anyone who has taken Plan B experienced abnormal periods? Or am I most likely pregnant?
I know I need to take a pregnancy test, I would just like to know if anyone has had weird periods after taking Plan B. Or weird periods in general and wound up not pregnant...Im so scared :/

Well i have that to and im on the depo shot i get brownish blood in my underwear sometimes to so i dont think its a big deal and ive been with my BF for about 3 years and have had unprotected sex to and im not pregnant but he hasent cummed in me so i dont know how accurate your birth control is but i have the brownish blood to i cant say for sure what it is because i never ask but im sure its normal i think that whenever you get this brownish blood its just that its the time of your period and the blood cant really get out because of your birth control i dont worry bout it because nuthing is hurting me inside so im sure its nothing seriouse but if your too worried about it then you should go see your doctor. And if you think your pregnant you should take a pregnancy test right away not wait. because if you are you need to know if your pregnant so you dont do anything to hurt the fetus. hope i helped good luck.

Q: Heres the deal,
my girlfriend and I have been dating for a little over 2 months now. Shes 20 and treats me wonderful but there is one problem, she never trusts anyone im with and is really sensitive. She says she trusts me but not them, but I feel thats equivalent to not trusting me. She always needs reassurance! How much do you need for being an adult? Also she always asks if im breaking up with her, and it drives me to the point where im about to say yes. Shes on prozac for her emotions but I dont think it always works. Don't get me wrong, I love her, and I know she loves me, but I constantly tell her she needs to stop and we have in depth conversations about it. I feel like ive gotten no where. I need help :(

i am a girl and i have the same problem i always need to be reminded of how much my BF loves me and he gets tired of it sometimes but because he loves me he reminds me of how much he loves me but im just to dumb to believe it and its because he loves me that he reminds me every couple of weeks so i think that you GF has probably been hurt in the past by a jerk or she is really self-consiouse about her self try telling her that shes beautifull and make her feel good about her self instead of getting frusterated keep calm and explain to her your feelings for her and that you would never do anything to hurt her take her out and buy her something to make her feel special she would love that. i hope my advice helps and i hope everything works out for you guys.

Q: So this week is spirit week @ my school, & tomorrow is green & white day. What is something I could wear and look cute @ the same time? Like I seriously have nothing in mind that I could wear, I just really need some advice on this.

Anything is greattt ! (:

well you could wear a green long sock and a white long sock with capris, a white shirt and paint 1 side of your cheek green with face paint and the other cheek white with green mardi gra beeded necklesses and i dont mean your whole side of your face put lines on each cheek like football players do except dont paint them black paint 1 side green and the other white you'll be styaling for sure. hope i gave you some ideas.

Q: is there any prep out there who talks to mexicans or gangsters and by mexicans i dont mean people who say oh my dad or mom or uncle... are mexican tht makes me mexican, which it does not, i talknig about full blooded mexicans who berly came from mexico and stuff

I do i have a BF thats mexican and a ganster why are you asking?

Q: I am 15/f. Big boned and 5 11'. Every since i can remember my breast have grown in to be saggy.My nipples are about 8cm in Diameter.I never wear lowcut shirts because my breast are so unnatractive.They are about 7cm apart from the other and my cleavege is nott nice. I am a size b cup or inbetween b and c cup depending on the bra. I have never owned a bra that has actually lifted my breast-ive never had a bra that has actually fit properly.What the hell happened. i don't know anyone who is like this.The last thing i would like to worry about is covering up my clevage. I'm effing 15 years old, i'm supposed to be showing off perky tits, not hiding away embarrassing saggy ones. My sister has a d cupp and hers are not saggy at all. why does this happen to me? Does this mean i'm going to have to go out of my way and do special excercises for my breasts?There is no way in hell that i am going to wear an old lady bra that probly won't do anything or fit me properly anyway. I am so jealous of women with breasts that they can actually show off and not be worried about pulling up a boob in their bra every minute. i even think that sounds disgusting! Just...how does one expect me to cope with this..its so irritating. I am ashamed of how I look even though i don't let others know about it.I know i should be happy with what i have and i know that everyone is different but even though i have so many good friends and a family that loves me....i just hate how i look.I have extremely broud shoulders, i'm bigger and taller than soo many guys at school....i have lived with it all my life..but now i just want to scream.i hate it. i can deal with sensitive skin, my pimples, my strech marks, but there are so many things on me that just get me. All my friends have to deal with is maybe having to have petite or tall sizes or not liking how something like their nose or cothing looks them when in reality they are beautiful and any guy would go for them because she is just the right size. I have to deal with pimples, my breasts, my shoes,my pants, shirts. My feet are extremely wide and a size 11(Canadian) so i usually have to buy mens shoes. Pants are either too short for me or too long and haveing a pair that fits my right is near impossible.I hate t shirts because my figure is shot. I am just not happy with how i look. I know that is wrong, i tell people all the time that self image is one of the most important things. right now i can't beleive ho hypacrytical i am. soo...yea...this was definatly not supposed to be this long cuz personally i hate reading questions this long, but it all just came out of me. I don't really have a question i guess, but anything said is greatly appreciated. Thanx.

Hi, i think your perfectly fine nobodys perfect ok i think im to fat and i weigh 120 ponds and im 5''1, so every1 finds somethings wrong with them now and then dont they? and your not a hipocrit if you tell YOURSELF, and your friends that self image is one of the most important things just believe in that and if your boobs sage then go to a victoria secret they have perfect bras i had problems finding bras for me because mine are to small boy would i give anything to have your big boobs..lol.., so just look in the mirror and find all the pretty things you see in yourself dont look for the bad things ok just look in the mirror and look at the things that make you beautiful and focus on those things and you'll be fine and another thing dont look for people to compare yourself to that is the most important thing of all. i hope my advice helps let me know how everything works out for you.

Q: I am female that just turned 18 the other day. There is this guy that I am interested in and I just started admiting my true feelings recently. We've only known each other for a few months but it feels like we've known each other a lot longer.

I've known for a while now that he likes me but I kept second guessing my feelings for him. At first I was overwhelmed by the attention that he was showing towards me. It was something I wasn't use to receiving very often (seeing as at the time I was 17 & never had a boyfriend). The more time we spent together the more affectionate and agressive he became.

Even though we aren't "officially" together he constantly tells me he loves me and calls me little pet names. Over time I have grown some strong feelings for him. In fact I think I'm falling in love with him. Still I hadn't mustered up the courage to let him know exactly how I felt. It was because of his bad boy mentality and the close relationship he has with my sister that I was being so hesitant.

Around the same time I decided to put everyhing on the table and possibly start a relationship with him things got complicated. Me and him had sex and it was the first time I had sex. I wasn't forced into it but I still wasn't anticipating it. It happened faster than my brain could grasp what was going on. Afterwards I didn't know how to act around him. We had sex before I could even let him know how I felt.

We didn't get an opportunity to really talk about what happened. I was really confused and disappointed in myself. I came to terms with it and we we finally became halfway normal again. Even though we still weren't a couple.

I recently moved in with my sister and he spent the night and we had sex again (a month after the first time we did it)... This time I was aware of what was going on and I wanted it. He spent the night again the next night and woke me up and told me to follow him and when I walked in the room he said,"Let's do it!" Some way or another he ended up covincing me to do it even though I didn't really want to. Then afterwards he just said goodnight and that was it... The next day was my birthday and instead of him getting me something (which I didn't mind because he's not entitled to get me anything and he doesn't have money like that right now) he asked me for money and I gave it to him. Is he using me?

He really confused me because one day he asked me why I act like I don't love him and I asked him to explain what he was talking about and he wouldn't. Then the later in the same day he asks me if I want to be his "sis" as in play sister! I told him no and he asked why not. I then asked him what would I get out of that, he replied that he wouldn't mess me like that any more! That completely threw me for a loop (mind you this is my birthday). Then he refers to me as his sis to someone else. Later in the same night he started flirting with me again and acting the way he always does!

What does he want from me?!?!? It feels like he's just using me sometimes but because I know him I don't think that's it. Also I wondered if he even wants a relationship. This is driving me crazy!!

Please help me!

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take the advice that the first girl gave you she even gave me some advice on what i should do, my BF is sorta the same way he gets aggressive towards me and is way way to protctive of me and he always wants to do things with me when i dont want to then he gets mad because i dont want to so it seems you are getting used if u guys do things when you dont want to and he asks you for money think of it this way your paying him to do things with you when you dont even want to so i think you are getting used im sorry and if hes your first that youve done things with then its going to be really hard to break away from him but over time you will see that hes not the right guy for you. your way better than him watch the movie Twilight that movie made me change how i feel about my BF because the guy in that movie is so sweet to the girl but watch that movie see if it changes how you feel it made me change how i feel and now im not even with my BF. hope my advice helps some.

Q: how can i stop eating so much?? i used to have belimia and its always on my mind.. i keep eating LOTS every second i want food and its driving me crazy. if i dont do somethin about it now im gunna turn belimic again and i dont want to!!! plz help me! IM SCARED ILL GET BELIMIA AGAIN =[

Hi, i have a similar problem i feel fat and people tell me im not but when i look in the mirrior i cant stand looking at myself i always want to eat and its because im bored and ive tried all kinds of weight products from the pink patch to weight loss loly pops to tea, and nothings working for me so every morning i go and run around our park it keeps me occupied and keeps me away from any fridge because there are no fridges at parks that i know of or at a track so just try keeping yourself bussy all the time go on the computer and play som fun and exciting puzzle games i know computers arent the greatest but it keeps me bussy try going outside and water trees or walk your dog, ask a friend to go walk around and get some fresh air. hope all is well and i really hope my advice helps let me know if it does and good luck keep strong everything will be fine.

Q: For about 4 years now, my vagina has had a very foul smell to the point where my boyfriend does not even want to go down there. right when i take my underwear off, i smell it. i have been to the doctors many times for this and noone can find anything wrong. no infections, nothing. i just need that miracle thing to fix this and i dont know what to do.

Hi, i had this problem along time ago when i was first starting puberty try taking showers everyday or everynight and wash down there with a very good and strong body wash, and drinking lemon juice lemons help flush out bad things in your body and if those dont work there are always deodorant for down there i think you can buy tit at like walmart i dont think that its over the counter perscriptions, or just use your regular deoderant. Hope my advice helps some.

Q: i have a new friend saly i met her 3-4 months ago and we got along a lot she tells me some of her secrets, but i havent told her any because i dont know if i could trust her yet and im waiting till i hang out with her, but to start out i told her about the some guys that are cute and yesterday, me and our new friend named ashley was walking to class and we saw the guy i think is cute and she says

saly:hey its james
me:i know
ashley:whos that?
saly:thats the guy she thinks he's cute, hes name is james
saly:haha remember what you told me about him? (i told her personal stuff about him)
me:oh haha yeah
saly:i cant tell you unless she tells you ashley

i know this is not a big deal but do you think she can be trusted after all? she told the other friend that i think the guy is cute and i know i dont like the guy or anything but good thing she didnt say the personal stuff i told saly to ashley because if she did i would not trust her after that what do you think about this? sorry if it sound immature im really cautious about those things i just think this might give me a clue if i could trust her with the secrets or not. thank you so much

Hi, my name is Lyrissa and im 17 and have those same problems and im just as cousious because i live in a town full of fakes and back stabbers so i know how these kinda things work but it sounds to me i wouldnt trust her at all it starts out as you telling her that you think that guy is cute and you told saly that he was cute and saly told ashley, saly pry new that ashley liked him, and will probably try and get with him before you do. So saly will pry tell people everythng you say especially if its a important or very private secret so i wouldnt trust her at all people arent alwasy as they seem they may seem trustfull but there really not you have to becarful who you choose to be your friend that old saying keep your enemies close but your friends closer keep that in mind. good luck. hope my advice helps.

Q: i cheated on my bf. he forgave me and it has been 5 months since the cheating. he is having a hard time trusting me but is doing his best. i dont want to rush him with it. but i do want him to let me hang out with my guy/girl friends, without worrying. i dont want him to let me go to parties and trust me because thats silly. how can i help him or make it easier.

I think you could help him by spending a lot more time with him and show him you really care for him i have this same problem with my BF except i cant learn to ever trust him so i dont let him go to parties and hang out with his friends either and i know its wrong every1 should be able to hang out with there friends, i dont trust him, so because he dont trust me i try and spend time with him and have him come and hang out with my friends with me so that he knows what i do and who my friends are and i try not to party and do anythng that would make him think that im doing something that he wouldnt want me to b doing and now hes trusting me a little more now and im glad so maybe this advice would help you hope it does and it it doesnt let me know so i can work on my advice more. this is my first time giving advice.

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Well I am a 17year old/F and Im an outgoing person I get along with mostly any1 who comes along, I have brown hair dark brown eyes, and I like giving advice so im glad I found this page..lol..Ill try my best to answer anyones questions I dont judge people so dont be affraid to ask me. :P