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What does he really want from me?
I am female that just turned 18 the other day. There is this guy that I am interested in and I just started admiting my true feelings recently. We've only known each other for a few months but it feels like we've known each other a lot longer.
I've known for a while now that he likes me but I kept second guessing my feelings for him. At first I was overwhelmed by the attention that he was showing towards me. It was something I wasn't use to receiving very often (seeing as at the time I was 17 & never had a boyfriend). The more time we spent together the more affectionate and agressive he became.
Even though we aren't "officially" together he constantly tells me he loves me and calls me little pet names. Over time I have grown some strong feelings for him. In fact I think I'm falling in love with him. Still I hadn't mustered up the courage to let him know exactly how I felt. It was because of his bad boy mentality and the close relationship he has with my sister that I was being so hesitant.
Around the same time I decided to put everyhing on the table and possibly start a relationship with him things got complicated. Me and him had sex and it was the first time I had sex. I wasn't forced into it but I still wasn't anticipating it. It happened faster than my brain could grasp what was going on. Afterwards I didn't know how to act around him. We had sex before I could even let him know how I felt.
We didn't get an opportunity to really talk about what happened. I was really confused and disappointed in myself. I came to terms with it and we we finally became halfway normal again. Even though we still weren't a couple.
I recently moved in with my sister and he spent the night and we had sex again (a month after the first time we did it)... This time I was aware of what was going on and I wanted it. He spent the night again the next night and woke me up and told me to follow him and when I walked in the room he said,"Let's do it!" Some way or another he ended up covincing me to do it even though I didn't really want to. Then afterwards he just said goodnight and that was it... The next day was my birthday and instead of him getting me something (which I didn't mind because he's not entitled to get me anything and he doesn't have money like that right now) he asked me for money and I gave it to him. Is he using me?
He really confused me because one day he asked me why I act like I don't love him and I asked him to explain what he was talking about and he wouldn't. Then the later in the same day he asks me if I want to be his "sis" as in play sister! I told him no and he asked why not. I then asked him what would I get out of that, he replied that he wouldn't mess me like that any more! That completely threw me for a loop (mind you this is my birthday). Then he refers to me as his sis to someone else. Later in the same night he started flirting with me again and acting the way he always does!
What does he want from me?!?!? It feels like he's just using me sometimes but because I know him I don't think that's it. Also I wondered if he even wants a relationship. This is driving me crazy!!
Please help me!
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welll something similar happened to me, there was this guy that i met and we arent going out but we were talking in way like boyfriend and girlfriend. it was really confusing how he did move the relationship farther well i fell in love with him and im guessing you did to. or relationships turned physical at the end well i wish we didnt turn that way bc then i foud out how he flirted with this other girl and he was all "playing'' with her. well it totally seems like your guy is just messing with you. my guy left to another county bc of his dad's work and after he left he ignored me and got a girlfriend. you shouldnt waste your time on him and find someone that will make you happier. if you did fall in love with him then i know how hard it will be to get over him. well point is he doesnt want to be in a relationship and he isnt thinking with his right head and wants basically just a phyiscal relationship bc a guy can say why don't you act or tell me i love you, but he needs to say it to get his sex.
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take the advice that the first girl gave you she even gave me some advice on what i should do, my BF is sorta the same way he gets aggressive towards me and is way way to protctive of me and he always wants to do things with me when i dont want to then he gets mad because i dont want to so it seems you are getting used if u guys do things when you dont want to and he asks you for money think of it this way your paying him to do things with you when you dont even want to so i think you are getting used im sorry and if hes your first that youve done things with then its going to be really hard to break away from him but over time you will see that hes not the right guy for you. your way better than him watch the movie Twilight that movie made me change how i feel about my BF because the guy in that movie is so sweet to the girl but watch that movie see if it changes how you feel it made me change how i feel and now im not even with my BF. hope my advice helps some.
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Hi. Sweetie, you are waaaay too good for this loser. He is a classic example of a guy using a girl. Oldest tricks in the book for using someone for sex! He is using you for sex, to stroke his ego, now for money, and it is only going to get worse. The more you allow, the more he is going to ask from you, or simply just take from you. The best thing for you to do, if you don't feel you can stay away from him if you are in the same area of town as he is, is to find a relative or friend in a different area to stay with until you can break your addiction to him, which is what it is becoming. This is a very, very important time in your life. How you feel about yourself and your sexuality now imprints on your soul for the rest of your life. You need to reset and break away from this guy. He may not let you go without a fight now that he has you where he wants you. Don't mistake his attention for real feelings. The attention you get from him feels good, especially since you haven't really gotten it from others in the past, but you need to look for someone that is an equal partner. You need to see yourself as better than this creep. Would you want a child with this guy? Would you want to be tied to him for the next eighteen years if you got pregnant? Would he ever really step up and take care of you the way you deserve? Please do know that if you see yourself as special and deserving of a great friend and eventually husband, he will come. It took me until I was 22 to find someone that I admired and that admired me in return. We've been married twenty years. Step away from this, even if you can't leave town. Turn yourself into someone you can always be proud of! Hang out in a library or coffee shop, someplace where a different sort of guy hangs out. Seem happy and confident and no matter what you look like (or think you look like) you will naturally be attractive to nice guys. Stay safe and please love yourself enough to be strong!
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