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First I want to apologize if this is in the wrong section!!
17/m
On sunday, March 17th I had sex with my girlfriend, who is 15.
We did use a condom. While having sex I came in the condom still in her and continued to thrust a bit.. I pulled out and the condom was like 1/3 off my penis. She had white stuff around her vagina. I immediately took off the condom and checked for a break and even filled it with water to see (I'll always fill it with water to make sure there is no breaks) and I was scared because this was our first time together. We both have had other partners. She said she didn't know if she orgasmed or not. The next day on the 18th I gave her a morning after pill to just be cautious. She said she was not ovulating.
I looked up when she was suppose to be ovulating and it was the 13th to the 15th or something like that. It was up till the 15th I just don't remember the start date. Tomorrow (Wednesday March 26th) she is suppose to get her period. Today she said her boobs have hurt really bad and has been craving water. I am very worried about this because I can't have a child. I just got a new car and make payments on that and I go to college in a year. Our parents would be very upset with us. Plus I don't want any charges filed on me.
I am really scared and nervous. What are the odds she is pregnant? She is starting to get nervous and stuff too.
I need help and advice. (link)
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The plan B pill can cause her to ahve cravings and for her breasts to hurt as well. If none of your semen got inside of her, there is no chance that she was even pregnant to start. The white stuff may have been her natural lube, or even the lube/latex of the condom. Sex always has a risk involved, so I can't tell you any answer 100%, however it is highly unlikely, expecially since she took the plan B pill. For future reference the sooner she takes that pill the more effective it is though. I think everything is fine. Have he go to planned parenthood or her doctor and get on birth control to avoid these scares in the future. If you have a planned parenthood around you, they also give out free condoms and exams, and the birth control is free with insurance. Good Luck with everything. Remind her that is she stresses out about this is may cause her period to come late. for some reason stress does that to girls' mentral cycles.
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So i am 17 and a Junior in high school. I never really have had an official boyfriend because i am so picky. I have known this guy for 4 years and he is a really close friend, just this year I started to develop feelings for him he says he has had a "crush" on me since freshman year. He is very physical, he is always wanting to do more and more but i always say no because we aren't dating, but he lacks emotion BECAUSE he is also talking to this freshman in college which he is obsessed with but she pretty much plays him. Just yesterday i was getting to just end whatever we have but he started being really sweet and i told him he needs to choose, he said he didn't know who he would choose then he was like "you know i love you right and it wasn't for her i would be dating you" and i just rolled my eyes and he said "i swear to god i do." I just don't know why he is doing this to me and i don't know what is going on through his head. Help me understand?? Thank you. (link)
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Sounds like he is caught in the middle. There must be something about each of you that he really likes and isn't sure which one of you is better for him. It is good that you aren't letting things go farter until you are together. Usually when people start having sex before they are dating it just complicates things, because then you aren't sure if he likes you for you, or for the sex, so A+ for that girl! I think what you need to do is spell it out for him. Tell him that you have feelings for him but you're having a hard time, knowing he likes this other girl as well. Remind him how you think she is just playing him and how you wouldn't do that. Explain to him what it is that is special about him. Let him know that you've never dated anyone, and he's the first one you've really wanted to be with. That should make him feel important to you. Tell him to have the same talk with the other girl, and find out what he needs to know about each of you to make his decision. Make sure he knows you just want him to do what will make him happy. Give him a time limit though or he may string you along for a very long time (people seem to like to do that.) Tell him you want to know if you are going to pursue a relationship with him, or if you should just move on, and that you want to do so in a specified amount of time, so he has until then to figure things out. If he chooses her, as much as it may hurt, you'll have to move on. You can stay friends with him, but maybe take a little break from eachother to let the feelings disappear. Or maybe he will choose he and realize he made the wrong decision and oome running back to you, which is then up to you if you want to take him back. If he chooses her, then you know he isn't the one for you. If he really does "love" you he wont string you along for much longer. Hope I helped some :)
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I want him to stop we are the same age and live together and he likes to touch mme and i think he is trying to get me to feel him im curious please help me becuse i dont know if i should tell him to stop or just let him do it and then i do kinda wanna feel it but im afraid help (link)
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He should not be touching you like that. It is natural for you both to be curious about the other persons' anatomy, but do not let anyone touch you in any way that you are uncomfortable with, ever. If you need to, tell your/his parents, or at least threaten to, and I think he will stop. It is inappropriate most definitely.
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How can i gain weight fast? I search online but nothing seems to help. Im 5'3 weight about 90 pounds and very skinny. But not annoeractic. Im 13 also. Soo any suggestions (link)
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It isn't healthy to gain weight fast. So if it is really important to you to gain weight, do it in moderation. You don't necessarily need to eat unhealthily to gain weight. You just need to add more carbs into your diet (bread, rice, potatoes.) Don't think that to gain weight you need to eat all sugar and junk food. That will just make you sick, and unhealthy. Maybe its something as simple are yo aren't eating large enough portions, or not enough times a day. Eat three meals a day, and comsume those meals until you are full and then stop. If you get hungry during the day have a small snack. The trick to gaining weight but not becoming obese is learning when you are hungry. It sounds silly because we all think we know, but when your stomach is growling, it is time for you to eat. Don't wait until dinner, have a small snack then, and then maybe eat less for dinner because your stomach wont be as empty. On the other hand, don't just eat when you are bored (which we are all guilty of.) That will just lead to obesity in the future. But don't think there is anything wrong will how you look now. Don't forget you're beautiful/handsome :)
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her mother is going to prison for one year for forgery related charges. I am wondering if I should take me 14 year old daughter to visit her but I am not sure if I want her to be in that kind of environment
it has nothing really to do with the mother. She made some stupid mistakes but it was out of character so I think she just got herself into a bad situation and make some poor decisions, She also never did anything bad at all before this. Also, her mother is showing regret and no defense at what she did and has admitted to being a bad influence to her daughter so that is why I am still willing to stick by her. And I am not defending her or saying she should not serve her punishment or anything either, it is really only the type of environment. I hear also it is a hassle to get in and you don't even get much time to speak. Also, if I take her to visit she might think "mom went to jail, she has no right to tell me what to do anymore" .Which would just be a stressful thing. I even heard her express a kind of joy at her mother being locked up and having to take orders from other people. While that is understandable since she did commit a crime, since her mother has shown remorse for what she did and clearly still cares for her daughter, I think eventually it needs to be put behind us. If I do decide to take her what should I say to her beforehand?
my wife is saying that if she wants to visit let her, but if she doesn't it is fine (link)
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I think it is from the start, her choice. Tell her that you're sure her mother misses her, and would love to see her, but at the same time will understand if she chooses not to visit. If she decides she would like to visit her I think it is important to explain to her ahead of time exactly what you said in your question. That her mother commited a minor crime and is accepting her punishment, and once it is over, she should no longer have it held over her head. Give her an analogy that she'd be able to relate to, such as "remember when you ___ and your mom ___ as a punishment for that? well when your punishment was over, and you apologized and accepted your punishment it was lke it never happened." Then explan how jail is just the adult form of being grounded. Her mother has authority over her, therefore decides her punishment for what she does wrong, while the police are the authority figure over her mother since she is an adult, therefore they get to choose what her moms punishment is. Remind her that what he mother did wasn't that serious and maybe even say her punishment might be too harsh. Again maybe relate it back to her by saying "you know how sometimes when you get punished for something you did wrong, you think your punishmentwas way too extreme for what you really did (or are being accused of doing) well that's how your mother feels now." I think the most important part f making a child understand a situation in a mature way is making it relatable to them. Otherwise they resort to the stereotype in their head to assess the situation. When she said the part about being happy that someone else was telling HER what to do, maybe just tell her "maybe it will remind your mom how it feels when she punishes you. I think if we let this go when she comes home, things might be a little different." Jail is like being grounded...the bars are just there to make sure no one leaves before they are "ungrounded." Hope this helps! :)
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I know this boy for five years.I am 13 and he is 14.He is very shy.I love him soo much.I dont know that he loves me or not.I notice that:
He starres at me alot and when I caught him,he blushed or quickly looks away.
When I am around him,he smiles alot.
He blushes alot.
He always call me by my first name.
I have the feeling that he loves me.
Please tell me that he loves me or not because its "MY FIRST LOVE" (link)
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Love is soemthing only the "lover" can know for sure. Don't let anyone tell you that you don't love him because you are "too young" too love. They only say that because they have never loved and don't understand. As for your situation, what you need to do is just talk with him. If you both have cell phones, trade numbers and sart with texting. If he really does like you he will make an effort to text you all the time and want tohearyour voice on the phone as well. You should find out soon if he really does feel that way though, because if he doesn't, the longer you wait, the more hurt you will feel in the end. Look out for yorself. If he's not the one, then move on. You have your wholel ife ahead of you and you never know what great guy will come along. Keep and open mind, and don't let this bo hurt you. If he loves you like you seem to think he does, then he wont hurt you. If he does, then there is someone else out there that is 100xs better for you. :)
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I recently broke up with this guy, who ignored me and never spent any time with me. we went out for 4 months, we only kissed that's all.
But now his best friend really likes me and I reallylike him, I always did but I thought he hated me.
The problem is, the best friend guy has an older brother, who I kissed 7 months ago at a party, like it was only silly and a joke kinda, but still..
I'm really reluctant coz of this, but would it be super inappropriate if we went out? I just don't want everyone to tease me or hate me if its slutty (link)
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If you really like him, it shouldn't matter what anyone else thinks, you need to do what YOU want. It seems from how you described the previous relationship that it wasn't one in which he deseved your time anyway, so I don't think it would be unacceptable. If you are still friends with him however, it may be viewed as disrespectful towards him. As long as it doesn't bother his friend either I think you should just do what will make you happy :)
And to reply to your title "am I a slut?" absolutly not. My definition of a slut is definitely not anything you have stated above, and is also not even a person who has sex with a lot of people. In my opinion, that is just their life choice. What makes someone a slut/whore in my eyes is when they are a) cheating on their significant other with whomever they are hooking up with or b) engaging in any type of sexual act with someone just for their benefit (such as a girl going to visit a guy to give him a blow job and then leave, with no intention on getting anything in return.)
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